Do we really control our dreams?

[MrMannson]

Woke up this morning after having an intense sexual dream. It was very vivid and pretty explicit.

My question is this; how much control does one have with their dreams, especially sexually? My dream was of a bisexual nature, of which my wife doesn’t know I have feelings like that. I don’t have these often, but now that I woke up 100 percent aroused, what do I do with this? Forget it or tell her?

Maybe my intrusive thoughts are catching up with me. Anyone else have sexual dreams that either mirror how you feel or blindside you with something you hadn’t been aroused by before?

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

I’ve read about in a psychology class I took. It was selective dreaming. I did not buy into it. There are just too many unknowns. But basically it was brainwashing techniques to influence dreams. I never tried it. All this was to help people with nightmares. I do know if you listen to a book and fall asleep for me it guides my dreams.

 

[MrMannson]

I’ve been wondering about books and how much I could research about this.

At the same time, I watch an unhealthy amount of porn, and it’s not a real surprise how much it crosses my brain all day.

That being said, sometimes I dream about stuff I don’t entertain. I had an incest dream about my sister years ago, of whom I never thought that way about her. Where did that come from?

Interesting, thanks for your response!