Do all women like to.......

[plesmone]

I don't hate giving a blow job. Actually the thought of it turns me on quite alot. But I do have one problem. I have a very bad gag reflex. If I'm really turned on it seems to go away but if I'm not, even if I want to, I just can't do it. I've never had anyone cum in my mouth for that reason. I'm just afraid of what might happen. Precum doesn't bother me though.

It's also interesting how people see giving or receiving a blow job so differently. 39_Keeper said that the man gives up control when getting a blow job but I always saw it more as a very submissive position to be in for the female. Maybe for that reason also I've always seen it as a more intimate act to perform then actually having intercourse.

CatEyes

Having a guy put his hands on your head is not an act of submission, but control. I agree with CatEtes - going down on a guy can be very submissive.
As far as gag reflex- just take the nice, soft, sensitive end of his cock into your mouth and suck and control things with tongue.
Stimulate the shaft from the sides with the cock out of you mouth and alternate the stimulation with your hand. If he shoots his wad in your mouth, it will not be from up against the back of your throat. The way I look at it - if he want to fuck then thrust it in where it belongs and ram away! Blowjobs are stimulation, not fucking.

Also, when a guy is so quick to cum in his girls mouth, is he just as quick to kiss her cum drenched mounth and lips?

 

[TheCyberPoet]

Receiving a blowjob can be an act of loss of control for a man, depending on the circumstances and his personality. If he's not apt to control her by holding her hair, head or cradling her face, he is in effect leaving his fate in her hands (mouth) -- including whether she teases or pleases, whether she backs off when he gets at the edge, etc.

Alternatively, it can be an act of absolute domination, where the woman is controlled, vocally or physically or both. This places the male in control of his fate, of what he wants and how it is delivered (although no amount of control can alter a lack of skill or willingness).

And naturally, there is a whole range inbetween.

But I do have one problem. I have a very bad gag reflex.

As for your gag reflex, I teach neophytes and submissives to use your hand as a stop; place your hand firmly around his cock at the point that you can comfortably go down on him without gagging -- thus, even if he thrusts up, or pushes you down, your hand will keep him from forcing his cock further into your mouth than you can handle (avoiding it hitting your uvula or whatever trigger you personally have and activating your gag reflex). As you become more adept, you can alter where your hand is placed. Note that the gag-reflex can be also unlearned with time and practice -- since I never ask of my lovers or submissives something I can't do myself, I have learned to deep-throat a banana/hotdog/dildo as a demonstration of technique and that it can be done.

Best Wishes to all who would suck
=-= The CyberPoet

 

[Thin Man]

CyberPoet

I`m with you on the hair color relationship.

 

[bozinka]

LMAO......... Ok that was just too much.....

All of his points are very valid and true.....

Not all women like sucking dick as not all men like eating pussy...It is all about personal preferece. Possibly she reserves that for the man she will marry.....Maybe she just doesn't like it....Maybe she doesn't like the cum in her mouth....Maybe maybe.....

I think the only way you will truly know is to ask her why she doesn't like it...........

Good Luck,
Shescurious

Who says all men like eating pussy - my H hates it. Will do it maybe once a month - if I'm super lucky.

And, as for sucking cock - well, the first reply was right on!!! Said with love and humor!

I used to love it... not so much anymore. But H has, well, let's just say I'm a very smell oriented person, and it is just hard for me to get into it now... LOL....

I love though, the tease factor of it, and the control. I like knowing I can bring a guy to the edge, and then hold him there for ever if I wish.... That's great to me....

 

[The Wolfs Cry]

i dont know about others, but ive no problem kissing and tonguing a freshly cummed pair of lips or mouth. or for that matter, anywhere else on the body

Wolf

 

[jennaflower]

Personally, pleasuring a man orally is one of the aspects of sex that I enjoy most. I have never completely understood how any woman wouldn't enjoy doing so... but.. infact.. there are many and with legitimate reasons. Some were born with a very intense gag reflex that doesn't allow them the ability to enjoy it..

I think 39_keeper touched on a very true point.. in his earlier post he stated that he doesn't see what the whopla is about, he enjoys it but not like many men do. It is about control as he pointed out. I have the same problem when it comes to receiving orally myself. I find that I am more of a giver.. not a receiver.. it is about control.. and trust (for a woman anyway) when it comes to really being able to enjoy it.. (my 2 cents anyway)

 

[plesmone]

i dont know about others, but ive no problem kissing and tonguing a freshly cummed pair of lips or mouth. or for that matter, anywhere else on the body

Wolf

 

[The Wolfs Cry]

thankee plesmone

:::tips his raggety old cowboy hat to the lady:::::

Wolf

 

[TheCyberPoet]

I have no problem kissing a woman who has a mouthful of my cum... When I was younger, more flexible, I might have been able to boast that "I have no problem kissing a woman with a mouthful of my cum"... but that experiment went awry.

=-= The CyberPoet

 

[Imaginegt]

bump

 

[CatEyes]

Note that the gag-reflex can be also unlearned with time and practice -- since I never ask of my lovers or submissives something I can't do myself, I have learned to deep-throat a banana/hotdog/dildo as a demonstration of technique and that it can be done.

Best Wishes to all who would suck
=-= The CyberPoet

How do you unlearn it?

CatEyes

 

[Nace78]

All this talk blowjobs is making me horny. Which of you ladies need eatin out?
Jeremy

 

[TheCyberPoet]

Cateyes
How do you unlearn (the gag reflex)?

Come on down to Florida on spring break, and I'll teach you...

More seriously, start by brushing the very back of your tongue every day with your toothbrush for a good 30 to 60 seconds -- you may want to heave the first week or two (and may a bit), but it will pass (and you'll have increadibly good breath, since most bad breath is centered at the back of the tongue). This will help break the first trigger (the back of the tongue sensation). Keep it up and make brushing your tongue a part of your daily routine for the rest of your life.

Once you've mastered that without difficulty, start with something long and thin (and preferably relatively soft & devoid of sharp edges) which you can control, like a finger (your own will do if necessary). Suck on it, and then keep taking it further and further back until you get to the point that you want to gag. Then tell yourself not to, as there is no reason your own finger, clean, should make you gag, if your toothbrush doesn't. Avoid pushing on your tracheal diaphram if you make it back that far (that will come later). Keep practicing a 5 to 10 minutes a day. You should be able to get quite a bit of your finger into your throat with practice. If you know how to open your throat for a beer bong or similiar cup-at-a-time drink, it's the same technique...

Once you master this part, it's time to move to something a big larger (but not huge yet): a small banana (keep the banana in it's peel, so it doesn't break off and accidentally choke you by blocking your wind pipe; cut the black end-tip off the banana before starting to avoid scratching your throat), or a raw hot dog (preferably with a skin or other covering, again to keep it from breaking accidentally). Practice this every day. Move up to a bigger hot dog/sausage or a larger banana once you've mastered the small one. Soon, you'll be able to pick up any man at any location simply with the weapon of a banana

Best Wishes,
=-= The CyberPoet

 

[CatEyes]

Come on down to Florida on spring break, and I'll teach you...

More seriously, start by brushing the very back of your tongue every day with your toothbrush for a good 30 to 60 seconds -- you may want to heave the first week or two (and may a bit), but it will pass (and you'll have increadibly good breath, since most bad breath is centered at the back of the tongue). This will help break the first trigger (the back of the tongue sensation). Keep it up and make brushing your tongue a part of your daily routine for the rest of your life.

Best Wishes,
=-= The CyberPoet

I already do the tongue brushing thing. I must of heard of the bad breath and tongue connection somewhere a while back. Sometimes it makes me gag, sometimes it doesn't. I'll try the other stuff you suggested too though. Thanks.

CatEyes

 

[The Wolfs Cry]

::::wanders in after a long journey to the center of nowhere::::

how goes lately?

Wolf

 

[manofsteel52]

Just like there is a preferred type of cock a gal likes to suck, is there a preferred type of pussy a guy likes to go down on?

I like 'em hot and wet...

I prefer shaved, or at least closely trimmed. Hair stuck in teeth, or gagging on hair in throat is a turnoff for me. I keep myself shaved, too.

Cleanliness is vital. I love the taste of pussy when clean... dislike the taste of urine.

Whether the issue is women sucking cock or men licking pussy or any combination, I find it difficult to understand why anyone who loves sex wouldn't want to do this for their partner.

I've had herniated discs in my back, and blown out knees(sometimes at the same time), been in a LOT of pain, and never didn't want to lick my partner. Or have any other sexual act with her for that matter. When you're really into it, the pain is secondary, the lust blocks the pain.
and tasting a delicious pussy is exquisite...

 

[The Wolfs Cry]

i ahve to agree steel, been thru numerous back surgeries since '89 and am completely messed from the mid back down (and the upper wants to follow suit). love sex and lust drown out the pain definitely until afterwords, then my body screams at me with a vengence. this latter part makes it hard to find an understanding partner. the above mentioned problems directly caused the loss of 2 fiances and one wife. go figure. heheheh

Wolf