Distance Domination-Support Thread

[scarletnym]

Haven't been here in a while...I'm happy to see the good news for some...sad for others. I've been missing mine. It's hard sometimes especially when I get so girly...that's the only way to describe it. I try to keep in mind that we will see eachother when we can. I hope that happens more often but...it's amazing so I'll take what I can get. It's always harder right after so I'll be missing again come June

 

[ecstaticsub]

Daddy came to visit me this past week. It was the first time he has stayed at my house instead of me going to visit him. It was so amazing. It felt so good to just cook for him, take baths with him etc and be woken up at 3am and fucked hard before I even slightly wake up.

Now I am having a hard time readjusting.

 

[seela]

I'm all packed up now. The truck arrives in 12 hours and I'll be unpacking my belongings his apartment in about 18 hours. I still feel like I should be more excited than I am, but I'm just having a really hard time leaving my beloved city, friends and job behind. I'm sure my feelings will clear up once I'm actually physically there tomorrow and with him, but saying goodbye to people and places has been difficult.

*hugs* to ES, I hope you'll feel better soon!
I've noticed, that it's always more difficult to be the one who stays behind after a visit than the one, who leaves to go home. There's something soothing about the journey home, at least to me, it's a clear transit. But when you're the one that's been visited, then home just feels empty, when the other person's gone.

And now I'm starting to feel better about the move. No more saying goodbyes!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm all packed up now. The truck arrives in 12 hours and I'll be unpacking my belongings his apartment in about 18 hours. I still feel like I should be more excited than I am, but I'm just having a really hard time leaving my beloved city, friends and job behind. I'm sure my feelings will clear up once I'm actually physically there tomorrow and with him, but saying goodbye to people and places has been difficult.

*hugs* to ES, I hope you'll feel better soon!
I've noticed, that it's always more difficult to be the one who stays behind after a visit than the one, who leaves to go home. There's something soothing about the journey home, at least to me, it's a clear transit. But when you're the one that's been visited, then home just feels empty, when the other person's gone.

And now I'm starting to feel better about the move. No more saying goodbyes!

Best wishes on the move and transition to living together. Be patient with each other as you adjust to the new living arrangement. I'm very excited for you.

For me it has been hard since he left to go home. Especially since I had to work every day since and I haven't had a chance to talk to him until tonight. i feel much better now.

 

[seela]

Best wishes on the move and transition to living together. Be patient with each other as you adjust to the new living arrangement. I'm very excited for you.

Thanks ES!

The move went well and finally, three days in, everything looks good-ish at our place. We've lived together up to 2,5 months at a time before, so this isn't completely new to us, but it still does take some getting used to. My doubts about moving to a new city are pretty much gone, and after I make some friends here, I'm sure I'll be completely overjoyed.

 

[scarletnym]

I hope it becomes easier for you, ecstaticsub. I agree it's hard when youa re the one visited but am glad you are doing better after the talk.

Seela...good luck. I'm glad you are settling in well.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Count down coming soon. Just over a month. Huzzah!!

 

[Steph635]

Thanks to all for sharing. I am learning a great deal about the distance Dom/sub lifestyle

 

[LonelyLittleOne]

Do you ever get so tired of being w/out the other person that you start to wonder if maybe you should walk away?

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Do you ever get so tired of being w/out the other person that you start to wonder if maybe you should walk away?

Only every once in a while. But then I buoy my spirits with how worth it all will be and what's two more years...

 

[wicked woman]

Do you ever get so tired of being w/out the other person that you start to wonder if maybe you should walk away?

Not walk away completely. We're too good of friends for that but yes to the first part, which is why we're readjusting our relationship.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Do you ever get so tired of being w/out the other person that you start to wonder if maybe you should walk away?

Yup.

It's part of the reason that broke us up.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Do you ever get so tired of being w/out the other person that you start to wonder if maybe you should walk away?

Occasionally. But I know I could never replace him. I also know him well enough that either we are a D/s couple or we say good bye forever most likely never to speak again. I couldn't bear that. I love him way too much to not have him in my life.

 

[LonelyLittleOne]

I know that it's worth it, I just have to take a time-out sometimes and remind myself or just see his face again and get my fix - either works....

I really appreciate having this thread.

 

[photoperv]

Just getting into this sort of thing, personally. A friend of mine in Louisiana in currently my mistress. She's as new to this as I am, but finding that she really enjoys it as well. It's been interesting so far; technically, there's nothing to MAKE me obey, but it feels good to do it anyway.

 

[dizzyfeet]

I'd like some insight into what online D/S is all about. I have been IM'ing with a male Dom on an online dating site. He lives far away, and is much too young for me, but I find I'm getting attached/intrigued and super aroused by the idea of being his sub. I don't know much about this at all - only that he knows how to push my buttons. He wants "complete" submission and to "own" me. He's not into pain or BDSM, though, just control. He's sort of pressuring me to just submit on his terms and when I'm aroused, of course I want to say yes, but I'm holding back because I'm in an emotional tailspin. I'm scared (which he says is good), confused, etc. etc. - he says it's all good. Part of me says WTH, just go for it. I'm afraid I'll get emotionally attached to him and obsessed with him. On the other hand, it might be fun to explore this part of my sexuality. I guess I want it on my terms, but that's an oxymoron. I have always been the one in control and that's why HE is intrigued. I'm a challenge, but I know at heart I'm probably submissive.

 

[Veronicababy91]

My Master and I are in an online only relationship with no expectations of meeting in RL right now. I'm new to this as well but I'm enjoying his control of me.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Less than a month now!!! YAY!

And to you three getting into the JOY that is DISTANCE, hang in there, proceed intelligently and have fun

 

[dizzyfeet]

Can someone please give me a few examples of online control, and describe, what IS the joy you get out of it, and how to proceed intelligently? I am so unsure as to what to do. I really feel as though I need someone to talk to first. This seems like a big step.

 

[Veronicababy91]

Less than a month now!!! YAY!

And to you three getting into the JOY that is DISTANCE, hang in there, proceed intelligently and have fun

Thanks a lot! I'm loving it and having the time for my life right now. I'm doing my best to be careful but it's so hard not to jump in with both feet, so to speak.


To answer you dizzyfeet, For me the joy is the surrender to my Master. I get a rush out of performing tasks for him and reporting back the results. We also chat to RP and just talk. I hope this helps you.

 

[CurvAppeal]

I currently am not taken by a Dom at the moment but I have been in one long distance relationship. I had an online relationship with the most amazing man I have ever met, or had sexual experiences with. We were only together a year long, but that was the best year of my life, I met him twice.


The worst part to me was when I was punished. And the punishment resulting in not being able to have any communication with him until he was ready. It was bad enough that we couldn't have anything physical, so when I was punished which was rare, it killed me deeply. The longest he made me go was 3 and a half weeks. I started taking my sadness and anger and loss out on the people whom I cared the most about.

I rarely ever had a bad attitude with him because I cherished too much the moments we spend together, but I am not a perfect sub, I had my bitchy moments.

Curvie ​

 

[ecstaticsub]

I currently am not taken by a Dom at the moment but I have been in one long distance relationship. I had an online relationship with the most amazing man I have ever met, or had sexual experiences with. We were only together a year long, but that was the best year of my life, I met him twice.


The worst part to me was when I was punished. And the punishment resulting in not being able to have any communication with him until he was ready. It was bad enough that we couldn't have anything physical, so when I was punished which was rare, it killed me deeply. The longest he made me go was 3 and a half weeks. I started taking my sadness and anger and loss out on the people whom I cared the most about.

I rarely ever had a bad attitude with him because I cherished too much the moments we spend together, but I am not a perfect sub, I had my bitchy moments.

Curvie ​

Hi. Punishing by with holding communication is unacceptable for me. Unless it is just for a few days and the reason being the PYL needs to calm down or there needs to be a cooling off period on both sides. But anything more then a few days just makes matters worse, IMHO.

 

[the captians wench]

Hi. Punishing by with holding communication is unacceptable for me. Unless it is just for a few days and the reason being the PYL needs to calm down or there needs to be a cooling off period on both sides. But anything more then a few days just makes matters worse, IMHO.

Agreed, but I'm even touchier, I have a hard time dealing with a day or two, and like you said, that's just been because he needs to cool off.

I have a hard time with conor time even. Just those 15 minutes, knowing I could be talking to him kills me.

I'm a very needy thing.

 

[CurvAppeal]

Hi. Punishing by with holding communication is unacceptable for me. Unless it is just for a few days and the reason being the PYL needs to calm down or there needs to be a cooling off period on both sides. But anything more then a few days just makes matters worse, IMHO.

I don't tolerate it anymore actually. That 3 and a half weeks was one of the reasons why our relationship got out of hand. I held a lot of resentment towards him.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

a little over 2 weeks!! huzzah!!