Distance Domination-Support Thread

[minx1]

Thanks Minx. I have a huge amount of respect and awe for you. You took a risk. That takes such courage. I know so many women who sit at home wishing a prince charming would come through the door and change their life. It never happens that way.

You took a chance on love. True, it didn't work out but you have at least lived life, instead of sitting alone waiting for something to come to you.

LDR's are wickedly hard. Some people don't understand them at all. But those of us who love from afar all do.

Please do come back and say hi when you can.

Thankyou hon

 

[KoPilot]

Found out Sunday that being sponsored as a conjugal partner isn't going to work because of two reasons:

1. It has to be absolutely impossible for me to live with him long enough to be considered a common-law partner (total of 1 year out of 3 consecutive years, I believe), and

2. It has to be impossible for us to marry.

The first one is true. I can't live with him for 6 months at a time because I couldn't work, and there's no way that I'd be able to support myself, or him to entirely support the both of us.

The second one technically speaking, isn't impossible. Theoretically, he and I CAN get hitched whenever we want, but... we/I would face some serious and theoretical (but most likely probable) repercussions. The "M" word was something that we'd touched upon briefly before, knowing that it was probably in the cards for us anyways, but thinking that we'd have all the time in the world to get around to it.

Ugh, I can't even believe I'm thinking about eloping. I value my family very much, and I want their support in the roads I choose to go down, but I can't see getting hitched for this reason (expediting the inevitable, really) would make me too popular.

Oy. It hurts. :\

 

[the captians wench]

Found out Sunday that being sponsored as a conjugal partner isn't going to work because of two reasons:

1. It has to be absolutely impossible for me to live with him long enough to be considered a common-law partner (total of 1 year out of 3 consecutive years, I believe), and

2. It has to be impossible for us to marry.

The first one is true. I can't live with him for 6 months at a time because I couldn't work, and there's no way that I'd be able to support myself, or him to entirely support the both of us.

The second one technically speaking, isn't impossible. Theoretically, he and I CAN get hitched whenever we want, but... we/I would face some serious and theoretical (but most likely probable) repercussions. The "M" word was something that we'd touched upon briefly before, knowing that it was probably in the cards for us anyways, but thinking that we'd have all the time in the world to get around to it.

Ugh, I can't even believe I'm thinking about eloping. I value my family very much, and I want their support in the roads I choose to go down, but I can't see getting hitched for this reason (expediting the inevitable, really) would make me too popular.

Oy. It hurts. :\

I'm sorry you're having trouble. I'm in a simular situation, so I feel for you.

More when I have slept....

*huggles*

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Long distance relationships suck.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Long distance relationships suck.

Sometimes, but they are a million times better than no relationship at all. This is especially true when you have found the one person who loves you, who you love, who shares the same BDSM likes, dislikes, overall philosophy, who is drama free and is sane and practical.

But I so understand your frustration.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Sometimes, but they are a million times better than no relationship at all. This is especially true when you have found the one person who loves you, who you love, who shares the same BDSM likes, dislikes, overall philosophy, who is drama free and is sane and practical.

But I so understand your frustration.

Thanks.

The relationship doesn't suck. Just the distance.

 

[wicked woman]

Sometimes, but they are a million times better than no relationship at all. This is especially true when you have found the one person who loves you, who you love, who shares the same BDSM likes, dislikes, overall philosophy, who is drama free and is sane and practical.

But I so understand your frustration.

I so agree with this.

 

[fuckmeat]

Sometimes, but they are a million times better than no relationship at all. This is especially true when you have found the one person who loves you, who you love, who shares the same BDSM likes, dislikes, overall philosophy, who is drama free and is sane and practical.

Amen to that.

I've never posted on this thread before. I've become very close to a couple of people from the SRP forums who I chat to (Leo and Minx, in my sig). They helped me through with Mistress and it meant such a lot to be able to talk on IM with people who understood our dynamic and why losing her was so hard for me. Now things are progressing between the three of us and I can see myself saving for plane tickets myself next year. I used to talk to Mistress about Leo because I wrote SRPs with him a lot and she was always adamant that if she didn't pull through I was to do whatever the hell made me happy. I wasn't expecting to find companionship so soon or via an online dynamic. In truth, before I became close to Leo and then Minx, I never saw the point of online dynamics. They just seemed to be frustrating and with a far greater chance of being played by a total net fraud. But Leo and Minx haven't been like that at all and I'm becoming more attached to both of them with every passing day.

We've set ourselves a challenge, Leo is in the USA and Minx is in Australia so just organising chat when we're all awake is a challenge. I'm not going to rush anything at all. I know I am in no way ready for any kind of committed dynamic and Leo completely understands that. He's not running my life for me, setting tasks or making demands for me to be online all the time. I log in when I'm in the right frame of mind and we just chat. I can spend whole days weeping for my Mistress and Leo knows that I won't generally come online unless I'm in a fairly good mood, though he has sad to put up with me weeping and wailing at him more than once. He also understands that I need the space to grieve and to learn to run my own life, because Mistress always used to do it for me. I never realised how dependent I was on her to organise things and make the important decisions. I'm a follower, not a leader and now I find myself directionless. I know that nothing may come of my attachment to Leo and I'm not placing all my hope on it or anything. But I am confident that he'll still be around when I'm in a position to engage in a proper dynamic with him.

So that's basically where I'm at, thanks for reading.

 

[the captians wench]

I got half of my vacation time moved!

So I won't be able to spend 2 weeks over there, but now I have two chances to spend a week there.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I got half of my vacation time moved!

So I won't be able to spend 2 weeks over there, but now I have two chances to spend a week there.

Woo!

2 visits are better than one, I think.

 

[the captians wench]

Woo!

2 visits are better than one, I think.

I don't know that I'll get two visits, just the chance. Oct still isn't looking good, and if I could have moved both of my weeks I would have. I'm really kind of shocked that I could move the one.

Still, I really like the idea of spending Christmas with him. Trying not to get over excited yet.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Amen to that.

I've never posted on this thread before. I've become very close to a couple of people from the SRP forums who I chat to (Leo and Minx, in my sig). They helped me through with Mistress and it meant such a lot to be able to talk on IM with people who understood our dynamic and why losing her was so hard for me. Now things are progressing between the three of us and I can see myself saving for plane tickets myself next year. I used to talk to Mistress about Leo because I wrote SRPs with him a lot and she was always adamant that if she didn't pull through I was to do whatever the hell made me happy. I wasn't expecting to find companionship so soon or via an online dynamic. In truth, before I became close to Leo and then Minx, I never saw the point of online dynamics. They just seemed to be frustrating and with a far greater chance of being played by a total net fraud. But Leo and Minx haven't been like that at all and I'm becoming more attached to both of them with every passing day.

We've set ourselves a challenge, Leo is in the USA and Minx is in Australia so just organising chat when we're all awake is a challenge. I'm not going to rush anything at all. I know I am in no way ready for any kind of committed dynamic and Leo completely understands that. He's not running my life for me, setting tasks or making demands for me to be online all the time. I log in when I'm in the right frame of mind and we just chat. I can spend whole days weeping for my Mistress and Leo knows that I won't generally come online unless I'm in a fairly good mood, though he has sad to put up with me weeping and wailing at him more than once. He also understands that I need the space to grieve and to learn to run my own life, because Mistress always used to do it for me. I never realised how dependent I was on her to organise things and make the important decisions. I'm a follower, not a leader and now I find myself directionless. I know that nothing may come of my attachment to Leo and I'm not placing all my hope on it or anything. But I am confident that he'll still be around when I'm in a position to engage in a proper dynamic with him.

So that's basically where I'm at, thanks for reading.

Welcome to our corner of Lit

 

[ecstaticsub]

I don't know that I'll get two visits, just the chance. Oct still isn't looking good, and if I could have moved both of my weeks I would have. I'm really kind of shocked that I could move the one.

Still, I really like the idea of spending Christmas with him. Trying not to get over excited yet.

I really hope something works out for you.

 

[the captians wench]

Well that ship sank before leaving port.

 

[scarletnym]

Amen to that.

I've never posted on this thread before. I've become very close to a couple of people from the SRP forums who I chat to (Leo and Minx, in my sig). They helped me through with Mistress and it meant such a lot to be able to talk on IM with people who understood our dynamic and why losing her was so hard for me. Now things are progressing between the three of us and I can see myself saving for plane tickets myself next year. I used to talk to Mistress about Leo because I wrote SRPs with him a lot and she was always adamant that if she didn't pull through I was to do whatever the hell made me happy. I wasn't expecting to find companionship so soon or via an online dynamic. In truth, before I became close to Leo and then Minx, I never saw the point of online dynamics. They just seemed to be frustrating and with a far greater chance of being played by a total net fraud. But Leo and Minx haven't been like that at all and I'm becoming more attached to both of them with every passing day.

We've set ourselves a challenge, Leo is in the USA and Minx is in Australia so just organising chat when we're all awake is a challenge. I'm not going to rush anything at all. I know I am in no way ready for any kind of committed dynamic and Leo completely understands that. He's not running my life for me, setting tasks or making demands for me to be online all the time. I log in when I'm in the right frame of mind and we just chat. I can spend whole days weeping for my Mistress and Leo knows that I won't generally come online unless I'm in a fairly good mood, though he has sad to put up with me weeping and wailing at him more than once. He also understands that I need the space to grieve and to learn to run my own life, because Mistress always used to do it for me. I never realised how dependent I was on her to organise things and make the important decisions. I'm a follower, not a leader and now I find myself directionless. I know that nothing may come of my attachment to Leo and I'm not placing all my hope on it or anything. But I am confident that he'll still be around when I'm in a position to engage in a proper dynamic with him.

So that's basically where I'm at, thanks for reading.

It sounds like you are fairing exceptionally well. I'm so glad that you have found them. I know how important it is to be in charge of your own life, my Master has made it abundantly clear that I do just that. He is there for me but does not want a mindless Pet. I am definitely not a leader and know how hard it can be. I'm very proud of you for taking the time you need. I hope it works out for all of you.

Take care of yourself, FM

 

[fuckmeat]

Well that ship sank before leaving port.

Oh, that's a real shame.

 

[fuckmeat]

It sounds like you are fairing exceptionally well. I'm so glad that you have found them. I know how important it is to be in charge of your own life, my Master has made it abundantly clear that I do just that. He is there for me but does not want a mindless Pet. I am definitely not a leader and know how hard it can be. I'm very proud of you for taking the time you need. I hope it works out for all of you.

Take care of yourself, FM

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

Thanks scarlet, I'm glad I found them too, and that you're still happy with your Master.

 

[CurlyKat]

Even the same state is too far...

 

[the captians wench]

Even the same state is too far...

You're in the same state now? Just remember how much closer you are then when you met. Same state is a hell of a lot closer. Of couse depending on which state that is, that can still be a hella long distance.

*huggles*

 

[HisSexyPet]

Don't know if any of ya'll remember me but thought I would drop by and give you an update on me and Blitzkreiger. He moved down and we have been blissfully living together since Janaury.

This is to give everyone in an LDR hope that dreams do come true. After five years we are finally together every night and wake up together every morning.

I wish ya'll good luck in your relationships and keep your dreams alive.
~pet

 

[CurlyKat]

You're in the same state now? Just remember how much closer you are then when you met. Same state is a hell of a lot closer. Of couse depending on which state that is, that can still be a hella long distance.

*huggles*

Yep, completely opposite sides of Texas, both for grad school. I have other friends from that area who say every time they drive back home it's a nine hour drive, which is still way long. We're both super busy right now and it seems like timing is more scarce and conflicted than before so we don't get to talk very much.

It just sucks because even though this is the closest we've ever been to each other, it almost feels even farther away than before. I miss him, and need time from him, but am not really sure he gets that.

 

[the captians wench]

Yep, completely opposite sides of Texas, both for grad school. I have other friends from that area who say every time they drive back home it's a nine hour drive, which is still way long. We're both super busy right now and it seems like timing is more scarce and conflicted than before so we don't get to talk very much.

It just sucks because even though this is the closest we've ever been to each other, it almost feels even farther away than before. I miss him, and need time from him, but am not really sure he gets that.

Yeah, a 9 hour drive is a bit much, but it is close enough that you can do a long weekend when you have them.

I totally get the bolded part. I'm not sure if it's just a female thing or what, but it always seems like I can't express just how much I need time from him, just something to let me know he's thinking about me even. Jounar has gotten better at it, and he seems to be able to tell when I'm really upset and he needs to spend specail time with me, but some times I don't think he has a clue just how much I need him.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Don't know if any of ya'll remember me but thought I would drop by and give you an update on me and Blitzkreiger. He moved down and we have been blissfully living together since Janaury.

This is to give everyone in an LDR hope that dreams do come true. After five years we are finally together every night and wake up together every morning.

I wish ya'll good luck in your relationships and keep your dreams alive.
~pet

Awesome.

Glad to hear you guys are so happy and doing well.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Don't know if any of ya'll remember me but thought I would drop by and give you an update on me and Blitzkreiger. He moved down and we have been blissfully living together since Janaury.

This is to give everyone in an LDR hope that dreams do come true. After five years we are finally together every night and wake up together every morning.

I wish ya'll good luck in your relationships and keep your dreams alive.
~pet

Thanks for checking in with us and updating us. Congratulations! It is so great to hear of relationships that really work out.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Yep, completely opposite sides of Texas, both for grad school. I have other friends from that area who say every time they drive back home it's a nine hour drive, which is still way long. We're both super busy right now and it seems like timing is more scarce and conflicted than before so we don't get to talk very much.

It just sucks because even though this is the closest we've ever been to each other, it almost feels even farther away than before. I miss him, and need time from him, but am not really sure he gets that.

Daddy and I have lived as far away as opposite coasts and now are only 5 hours away from each other. However, we don't get to see each other any more now than before. Life gets really busy. The biggest difference now is we can be a little more flexible about scheduling.

I also understand the needing more time part. I think I mostly need to hear (often) that he misses me as much as I miss him.