Distance Domination-Support Thread

[KoPilot]

Yes, thank you. (and I still have the ass bruises to prove it )

Unfortunately I am dropping worse than ever before

Oh no! -shares a tub of guilt-free ice cream-

 

[ShyVixen]

Yes, thank you. (and I still have the ass bruises to prove it )

Unfortunately I am dropping worse than ever before

*big hugs*

 

[ecstaticsub]

HUGS!!!!

Thank you

Oh no! -shares a tub of guilt-free ice cream-

Guilt-free ice cream? I'll take 2 tubs

*big hugs*

Thanks, I am feeling much better now. I have discovered this time that the best remedy for sub-drop is to stop being selfish and focused on myself and focus on what Daddy needs. Sub drop always makes me so needy, overly emotional and selfish. I need to not do that. I have to focus on him and help him readjust to everyday life.

Then my emotions take care of themselves.

 

[ShyVixen]

Thank you

Thanks, I am feeling much better now. I have discovered this time that the best remedy for sub-drop is to stop being selfish and focused on myself and focus on what Daddy needs. Sub drop always makes me so needy, overly emotional and selfish. I need to not do that. I have to focus on him and help him readjust to everyday life.

Then my emotions take care of themselves.

Glad to hear you are feeling better! That is a nice focus to have.

I have a tendency to be very selfish, very needy and wallow in self pity. I often don't think how He must be feeling. Something that needs to be worked on

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Afternoon all

Just thought I would poke my head around the door and see if all were well. I see a lot of you have had sub drops recently from returns from Daddys/Sirs....I hope you are all on your way back up again, if not drop me an IM and I'll drop some choklit cake down the hole for you to munch on while you are on your way back up. Choklit cake is always good for what ails you.

I've kinda got myself a new Daddy. I never thought I would have another after the last one, but hes a good man and I am safe with him and dare I say it...content. Its early days yet though.

Hes about 20 mins away which isn't really long distance but at the moment with school hols he might as well be in Timbucktoo!!

Anyway, its good to see everyone...take care all

 

[tastychococakes]

Afternoon all

Just thought I would poke my head around the door and see if all were well. I see a lot of you have had sub drops recently from returns from Daddys/Sirs....I hope you are all on your way back up again, if not drop me an IM and I'll drop some choklit cake down the hole for you to munch on while you are on your way back up. Choklit cake is always good for what ails you.

I've kinda got myself a new Daddy. I never thought I would have another after the last one, but hes a good man and I am safe with him and dare I say it...content. Its early days yet though.

Hes about 20 mins away which isn't really long distance but at the moment with school hols he might as well be in Timbucktoo!!

Anyway, its good to see everyone...take care all

Congrats on your new Daddy!

I'm still biding my time until I see mine. It's been almost 2 years, but it's been good. I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[ShyVixen]

Afternoon all

Just thought I would poke my head around the door and see if all were well. I see a lot of you have had sub drops recently from returns from Daddys/Sirs....I hope you are all on your way back up again, if not drop me an IM and I'll drop some choklit cake down the hole for you to munch on while you are on your way back up. Choklit cake is always good for what ails you.

I've kinda got myself a new Daddy. I never thought I would have another after the last one, but hes a good man and I am safe with him and dare I say it...content. Its early days yet though.

Hes about 20 mins away which isn't really long distance but at the moment with school hols he might as well be in Timbucktoo!!

Anyway, its good to see everyone...take care all

Congratulations, Lady Fiona! That's wonderful news

 

[tastychococakes]

I just sent Master a few kinky e-cards. It's not something that I do often, but I like to surprise him every once in a while. I hope he likes them!

 

[ecstaticsub]

Afternoon all

Just thought I would poke my head around the door and see if all were well. I see a lot of you have had sub drops recently from returns from Daddys/Sirs....I hope you are all on your way back up again, if not drop me an IM and I'll drop some choklit cake down the hole for you to munch on while you are on your way back up. Choklit cake is always good for what ails you.

I've kinda got myself a new Daddy. I never thought I would have another after the last one, but hes a good man and I am safe with him and dare I say it...content. Its early days yet though.

Hes about 20 mins away which isn't really long distance but at the moment with school hols he might as well be in Timbucktoo!!

Anyway, its good to see everyone...take care all

I wish you well in your new relationship. You deserve it.

Congrats on your new Daddy!

I'm still biding my time until I see mine. It's been almost 2 years, but it's been good. I wouldn't have it any other way.

I just sent Master a few kinky e-cards. It's not something that I do often, but I like to surprise him every once in a while. I hope he likes them!

Those kinky e-cards are cute. I've sent them occasionally. Any plans in the making to see your Daddy?

 

[tastychococakes]

Those kinky e-cards are cute. I've sent them occasionally. Any plans in the making to see your Daddy?

We're trying, but it's hard. Time and money doesn't always seem plentiful, but we're optimistic. I'm keeping an eye out for a cheap ticket, and hopefully from there, things will fall into place. I'll keep you updated!

 

[the captians wench]

Maybe it's because this was the first night in months we've really played. Maybe it's because I went to tears quicker than I ever have. Maybe it's because I'm ovulating. Or maybe it's because I want to get hopeful but just don't feel it. But tonight I would give anything to be curled up in his arms.

 

[GoldunAngel]

Thank you



Guilt-free ice cream? I'll take 2 tubs




Thanks, I am feeling much better now. I have discovered this time that the best remedy for sub-drop is to stop being selfish and focused on myself and focus on what Daddy needs. Sub drop always makes me so needy, overly emotional and selfish. I need to not do that. I have to focus on him and help him readjust to everyday life.

Then my emotions take care of themselves.

Hi sweetie. i'm glad you are feeling better. It definitely is how we look at things. It's all in our heads, and once we wrap our heads around it, our outlook changes and we can handle things better. i'm glad you got to spend some time with him though.

*waves* Hi everyone!

 

[the captians wench]

flight prices haven't changed. That's good. But I'm pretty sure I'm not getting the okay to buy them.

Hotel prices are bottoming out. But then I knew they would. They are having a major tourism crisis over there. 4 star hotels are going for half price! The apartment style hotels are holding out tho. But if we can get a super classy hotel for half the price of the apartment one, then eating out every day won't be such a big deal. I wanted one of the apartments so that I could cook at least part of our meals (if nothing else breakfast, since I have to have it and he's not used to eating that meal) to save some money. But with the way hotel prices are falling, that may not be an issue.

Here's hoping prices don't change (unless they get lower!) and everything pans out for Oct. *sigh*

 

[ecstaticsub]

flight prices haven't changed. That's good. But I'm pretty sure I'm not getting the okay to buy them.

Hotel prices are bottoming out. But then I knew they would. They are having a major tourism crisis over there. 4 star hotels are going for half price! The apartment style hotels are holding out tho. But if we can get a super classy hotel for half the price of the apartment one, then eating out every day won't be such a big deal. I wanted one of the apartments so that I could cook at least part of our meals (if nothing else breakfast, since I have to have it and he's not used to eating that meal) to save some money. But with the way hotel prices are falling, that may not be an issue.

Here's hoping prices don't change (unless they get lower!) and everything pans out for Oct. *sigh*

I'll second on that hoping. You need this visit, not just want. I can tell.

If the hotel has a refrigerator and maybe a microwave then you don't need a full-blown kitchen to get by. The advantage of a apartment over a hotel would also be more privacy for those noisy activities but you've gone too long without a visit.

You both can make this work. Daddy and I once had a visit planned and because of one reason or another we ended up cancelling it. Biggest mistake ever.(both our faults) I know we could have worked out the problems we just didn't try hard enough.

I know it is not up to you, but I hope this opportunity doesn't slip by you.

Huggies!

 

[the captians wench]

I'll second on that hoping. You need this visit, not just want. I can tell.

If the hotel has a refrigerator and maybe a microwave then you don't need a full-blown kitchen to get by. The advantage of a apartment over a hotel would also be more privacy for those noisy activities but you've gone too long without a visit.

You both can make this work. Daddy and I once had a visit planned and because of one reason or another we ended up cancelling it. Biggest mistake ever.(both our faults) I know we could have worked out the problems we just didn't try hard enough.

I know it is not up to you, but I hope this opportunity doesn't slip by you.

Huggies!

Desperately. But this time it's not just money issues that might hold things up (which I think he's starting to cave on). I might be working for a film at that time, especially since they haven't started preproduction yet, and that's an opportunity I just can't miss. And then there is a family issue on his end that we're waiting to see what (if anything) happens with.

I don't think the later is going to be an issue like he does, and I'm not sure the first will either (I kind of have this feeling like they got some one more experienced to work it).

We've cancled 4 visits so far, and we only plan 2 a year, so that's huge. I'm getting antsy, angry, moody, full of doubts, and all kinds of yucky things.

It's really hard to find a hotel with a mini-fridge over there! But yeah, if I could get a room with that, it would be enough really. I just need to be able to keep snacks for me and my sugar issues. That was the only problem I found while I was over there last.

 

[the captians wench]

Offical word: "not looking good."



"But you'll be here early next year."

 

[ecstaticsub]

Offical word: "not looking good."



"But you'll be here early next year."

FUCK


I'm so sorry. That just totally sucks. I'll keep my fingers crossed that a chance comes up that you can get over there sooner.

 

[the captians wench]

FUCK


I'm so sorry. That just totally sucks. I'll keep my fingers crossed that a chance comes up that you can get over there sooner.

Yeah.

Right now the disapointment isn't great. I haven't relly allowed myself to get real hopeful about this one.

It might happen, but it's not looking good. *sigh*

 

[wicked woman]

Yeah.

Right now the disapointment isn't great. I haven't relly allowed myself to get real hopeful about this one.

It might happen, but it's not looking good. *sigh*

Hoping you make huge progess on your costume making if you can't get to Ireland this year.

 

[KoPilot]

Yeah.

Right now the disapointment isn't great. I haven't relly allowed myself to get real hopeful about this one.

It might happen, but it's not looking good. *sigh*

-hugshugs-

 

[KoPilot]

So I made myself an official "CANADA OR BUST" facebook page so all my friends (and family that haven't disowned me yet) can get updates on how my immigration status is going now that I plan on starting that soon. It's also there to help motivate me and keep me optimistic as well~

 

[the captians wench]

Hoping you make huge progess on your costume making if you can't get to Ireland this year.

I'm thinking that's where I'll focas if I don't end up over there. I'll get my fed. ID and my vender's licence, and legtimize my company, build up lots of stock, and hope to hear something from the production company.

I'm also going to be apartment hunting. I need a bigger place.

-hugshugs-

Thanks

So I made myself an official "CANADA OR BUST" facebook page so all my friends (and family that haven't disowned me yet) can get updates on how my immigration status is going now that I plan on starting that soon. It's also there to help motivate me and keep me optimistic as well~

This is a really cool idea. I wish you lots of luck.

 

[minx1]

Hi everyone

I've read this thread with interest foa while and it has become a great source of support for me. I am in a long distance D/s relationship with my Master who lives in Perth, Australia. We met after I 'advertised' for a Master on Lit last September. *laugh* I often joke that I did try to find someone futher away...but it was just impossible! Its been an amazing experience, we talk everyday either via MSN, email or phone and as the months pass our bond grows stronger.

What I want to know, if you can help...is how you deal with misunderstandings or the falling out that occurs in any relationship. Normally I would cuddle my partner tell them I loved them and that I'm sorry, but how on earth do you do that with the distance?
Its so easy to walk off in a huff or bad mood during an argument....bad enough when you are both in the same country, but even worse when you are half a world away.

By the way welcome to ahugreycat I hope you enjoy the thread as much as I do.
What I would say though, is that don't be mislead into thinking that long distance D/s is easy. Far from it...if you are serious about it, it takes an awful lot of commitment, time and effort on both sides to keep it working well, particularly when there are huge time differences involved.

Thanks

sçuse the bump. I just had a need to come back to somewhere I spent a lot of time in the early days
Am doing ok, mainly. Keep wondering if I made the right choice...giving an ultimatum and then remaining true to my word. Sometimes it feels like it was the right thing to instigate it...else we would have never ended and I'd have been in it forever, othertimes I'm not sure and I feel regret.

I guess that really I made the only choice there was. Sorry i am a bit morose at the moment lol. When I feel like this I will just remind myself that he loved me and he chose me. That it was something else he couldnt deliver on because he was too scared. The rest although I do understandwhy... self preservation....is still inexcusible.

Anyway, enough of all that! This thread was such a huge source of support to me. I just want to wish you all well in your LDRs and the best of luck with your relationships

I might pop back from time to time and say hi.

Stay strong and I hope you get to see your loved ones sooner than later

 

[ecstaticsub]

sçuse the bump. I just had a need to come back to somewhere I spent a lot of time in the early days
Am doing ok, mainly. Keep wondering if I made the right choice...giving an ultimatum and then remaining true to my word. Sometimes it feels like it was the right thing to instigate it...else we would have never ended and I'd have been in it forever, othertimes I'm not sure and I feel regret.

I guess that really I made the only choice there was. Sorry i am a bit morose at the moment lol. When I feel like this I will just remind myself that he loved me and he chose me. That it was something else he couldnt deliver on because he was too scared. The rest although I do understandwhy... self preservation....is still inexcusible.

Anyway, enough of all that! This thread was such a huge source of support to me. I just want to wish you all well in your LDRs and the best of luck with your relationships

I might pop back from time to time and say hi.

Stay strong and I hope you get to see your loved ones sooner than later

Thanks Minx. I have a huge amount of respect and awe for you. You took a risk. That takes such courage. I know so many women who sit at home wishing a prince charming would come through the door and change their life. It never happens that way.

You took a chance on love. True, it didn't work out but you have at least lived life, instead of sitting alone waiting for something to come to you.

LDR's are wickedly hard. Some people don't understand them at all. But those of us who love from afar all do.

Please do come back and say hi when you can.

 

[the captians wench]

A week ago yesterday I get a text just after midnight my time. I thought for sure he was drunk *giggles*

It turned into a very intence, very powerful, very emotional. . . I don't want to say session. . . maybe just time together.

I don't want to post details here, but I would like to talk about them if any one wants to pm me.

The just of it involved me giving up a little piece of my freedom, what may be the last piece I was holding on to. It was amazing, and draining, and has made me felt that much closer to him.

I still have a bit of a that "snuggled" feeling left. That's really nice.