Distance Domination-Support Thread

[tastychococakes]

Just a bit of reflection...

A friend of mine from another kink-friendly site lost her Daddy today (relationship dissolved). They were also long distance. I’m not sure what events led up to the dissolution, but I know that she has been deeply hurt by what transpired. This got me to thinking about my relationship with Master. I know that we’re not immune to potential hardships; it’s a reality I face every day, and it’s more evident to me at this moment than ever before. She is my friend, and I hurt for her, but things like this make me grateful for every minute of every day that I have with him. I count myself as one of the lucky ones to be fortunate enough to be owned by him, and no matter what, I’ll always cherish what we have.

 

[Killer_Joe]

How much 'fun' can a long distance relationship be? I am currently looking for a female DOM to either chat and/or experiment with LDR.

....any takers?

 

[KoPilot]

How much 'fun' can a long distance relationship be? I am currently looking for a female DOM to either chat and/or experiment with LDR.

....any takers?

I don't think that any of us started these relationships with the intention of them being LD, it's just a product of circumstance. And I think I speak for everyone here by saying that we would rather have them not be LD.

It sounds like what you're looking for is an internet playmate, which is quite different, I think.

 

[the captians wench]

I don't think that any of us started these relationships with the intention of them being LD, it's just a product of circumstance. And I think I speak for everyone here by saying that we would rather have them not be LD.

It sounds like what you're looking for is an internet playmate, which is quite different, I think.

Actually, I'm not sure if we still do, but we have had some participants in this thread who never intend(ed) to meet their PYL/pyl. They still had very significant and simular issues.

But I do believe there is a difference between a playmate and a relationship, be it LD or not.

 

[wicked woman]

My sir and I have been fortunate to be able to see each other more often lately. Trust me I'm not complaining, but I find it strange that even though the period between visits is much shorter that they're more difficult in some ways. Wondering why. Perhaps because the cycle of anticipation of seeing each other, wonderful time together, sadness at leaving each other, and plateau of being apart is much shorter now, so it's more of a roller coaster. I saw him a few weeks ago and now I'm impatient to see him again and I've only got less than 2 weeks, and even that seems too long.


Anyone else notice that difference?

 

[the captians wench]

My sir and I have been fortunate to be able to see each other more often lately. Trust me I'm not complaining, but I find it strange that even though the period between visits is much shorter that they're more difficult in some ways. Wondering why. Perhaps because the cycle of anticipation of seeing each other, wonderful time together, sadness at leaving each other, and plateau of being apart is much shorter now, so it's more of a roller coaster. I saw him a few weeks ago and now I'm impatient to see him again and I've only got less than 2 weeks, and even that seems too long.


Anyone else notice that difference?

I do know my longing for him was stronger just after I visted than any other time. It's the same way the day after I talk to him. We're used to going long periods with out comunication (long periods being 7 days max with not so much as a text or offline message), but for some reason if I chatted with him the day before, but don't the next day, I'm more disapointed that night than I am by night 7.

Not sure why that is.

 

[wicked woman]

I do know my longing for him was stronger just after I visted than any other time. It's the same way the day after I talk to him. We're used to going long periods with out comunication (long periods being 7 days max with not so much as a text or offline message), but for some reason if I chatted with him the day before, but don't the next day, I'm more disapointed that night than I am by night 7.

Not sure why that is.

Yes same idea. Just seems strange to me.

 

[CurlyKat]

I do know my longing for him was stronger just after I visted than any other time. It's the same way the day after I talk to him. We're used to going long periods with out comunication (long periods being 7 days max with not so much as a text or offline message), but for some reason if I chatted with him the day before, but don't the next day, I'm more disapointed that night than I am by night 7.

Not sure why that is.

Yes. Definitely yes. I miss him so much more just after talking to him than I do at other times. I still have a hard time with extended periods of time (as in really just a couple of days, it's kind of sad) without talking to him, though. I need something, even if it's just a text, or a specific timeline saying when we can talk again. While we haven't met in person yet (I can't wait until the time is right for us to be able to!), I am worried about the difficulty in going back to being physically apart. I guess that will just have to work itself out when the time comes.

 

[the captians wench]

Yes. Definitely yes. I miss him so much more just after talking to him than I do at other times. I still have a hard time with extended periods of time (as in really just a couple of days, it's kind of sad) without talking to him, though. I need something, even if it's just a text, or a specific timeline saying when we can talk again. While we haven't met in person yet (I can't wait until the time is right for us to be able to!), I am worried about the difficulty in going back to being physically apart. I guess that will just have to work itself out when the time comes.

I think it might just be what you're used to. With the time difference and our imcompatible work schedules, it's just difficult to get time together. But when we first started out I wasn't used to distance in a relationship and I didn't handle not talking to him every night very well. As I've come accustomed to our lifestyle, I've been able to go longer periods of time, but still the first night is always the hardest.

 

[KoPilot]

Actually, I'm not sure if we still do, but we have had some participants in this thread who never intend(ed) to meet their PYL/pyl. They still had very significant and simular issues.

But I do believe there is a difference between a playmate and a relationship, be it LD or not.

Oop, I stand corrected then!

 

[KoPilot]

My sir and I have been fortunate to be able to see each other more often lately. Trust me I'm not complaining, but I find it strange that even though the period between visits is much shorter that they're more difficult in some ways. Wondering why. Perhaps because the cycle of anticipation of seeing each other, wonderful time together, sadness at leaving each other, and plateau of being apart is much shorter now, so it's more of a roller coaster. I saw him a few weeks ago and now I'm impatient to see him again and I've only got less than 2 weeks, and even that seems too long.


Anyone else notice that difference?

It makes complete sense to me. I've only met him twice, but the withdrawal afterward took several days. All you're doing now is shortening the time between withdrawal and anticipation, not the two of them themselves.

What I would give to be in your shoes, though!

I think it might just be what you're used to. With the time difference and our imcompatible work schedules, it's just difficult to get time together. But when we first started out I wasn't used to distance in a relationship and I didn't handle not talking to him every night very well. As I've come accustomed to our lifestyle, I've been able to go longer periods of time, but still the first night is always the hardest.

Oh dear, I can't go a single day without talking to him. That makes things a bit difficult for me on weekends and such, because I'm 3 hours ahead, and we like to talk before bedtime. What's difficult is as of late I've been getting tired very early, like around 11pm, and asking if I can call him at 8pm his time doesn't make for a very exciting friday or saturday night. And on the nights that he does go out, I'll usually attempt to stay up for him, but this past weekend I ended up falling asleep and waking up 3 hours later for the "nn call".

We didn't start calling every night up until about 9 months ago, and once we started, it was impossible to imagine going about my daily life without hearing his voice. It happened once, though, and going to sleep without him made me feel very sad all through the next day.

 

[wicked woman]

What I would give to be in your shoes, though!

I wish you could all be in my shoes as far as frequency of visits goes...mind you we've paid our dues.

*that wasn't meant to be bragging, but a sincere wish that you all saw your loved ones more frequently*

 

[the captians wench]

It makes complete sense to me. I've only met him twice, but the withdrawal afterward took several days. All you're doing now is shortening the time between withdrawal and anticipation, not the two of them themselves.

What I would give to be in your shoes, though!



Oh dear, I can't go a single day without talking to him. That makes things a bit difficult for me on weekends and such, because I'm 3 hours ahead, and we like to talk before bedtime. What's difficult is as of late I've been getting tired very early, like around 11pm, and asking if I can call him at 8pm his time doesn't make for a very exciting friday or saturday night. And on the nights that he does go out, I'll usually attempt to stay up for him, but this past weekend I ended up falling asleep and waking up 3 hours later for the "nn call".

We didn't start calling every night up until about 9 months ago, and once we started, it was impossible to imagine going about my daily life without hearing his voice. It happened once, though, and going to sleep without him made me feel very sad all through the next day.

Jounar is 5 hours ahead of me, and on top of that I work well what ever they want me to and he's a 9-5er. Add in there that I live 45 mins from work and I work 9-11 hour days and meeting up every night is nearly impossible. We usually get phone time on weekends, but even that isn't a sure thing as he tends to have family obligations.

It can be misserable, but I always know that if I really need him I can always call, even if he's asleep. I try to mind the hour when I ring him, but every once in a while I need him so desperately I can't stand it. I usually text him rather than ring, but there has been a time or two that he's recieved a call after midnight.

We actually have more contact now than we ever did before. When we first met, neither of us could text internationally, now we both can. And ontop of that, thanks to Vontage, he has a phone number that is local to me, so we have the ability to ring each other a lot more. There's nothing like being woken by his voice. Though, he tries not to call me before noon his time.

 

[CurlyKat]

I think it might just be what you're used to. With the time difference and our imcompatible work schedules, it's just difficult to get time together. But when we first started out I wasn't used to distance in a relationship and I didn't handle not talking to him every night very well. As I've come accustomed to our lifestyle, I've been able to go longer periods of time, but still the first night is always the hardest.

Perhaps. When we first started, I was seven hours ahead (I was in Germany at the time) and all communication HAD to be via internet. I worked crazy insane hours, and finding time was difficult. I think part of my issue was that I expected things to get so much better when I moved back here, since now there's only an hour time difference and I'm not busy. Don't get me wrong, things are somewhat better, but now he's super busy and I kind of got hooked on hearing his voice. Somehow I think I did better when there was more distance, but that could also be because we're closer now (in ways other than distance).

 

[the captians wench]

Perhaps. When we first started, I was seven hours ahead (I was in Germany at the time) and all communication HAD to be via internet. I worked crazy insane hours, and finding time was difficult. I think part of my issue was that I expected things to get so much better when I moved back here, since now there's only an hour time difference and I'm not busy. Don't get me wrong, things are somewhat better, but now he's super busy and I kind of got hooked on hearing his voice. Somehow I think I did better when there was more distance, but that could also be because we're closer now (in ways other than distance).

I totally get this.

When I sent the Vontage phone out to Jounar I had this notion that we'd get to talk every day, perhaps several times a day. That really wasn't very realistic. We still have the same obligations, and there's still the 5 hour time difference. It is more possible, and when we do get to chat on the phone we don't have to worry about running out of minutes on the phone card, and he can call me now which he couldn't before, so it is better, but it feels worse.

It feels like he's closer, but at the same time I feel the distance so much more as well.

 

[CurlyKat]

It feels like he's closer, but at the same time I feel the distance so much more as well.

This is the heart of the issue, I think. Frustrating.

 

[the captians wench]

This is the heart of the issue, I think. Frustrating.

Very. *sigh*

It doesn't help that St Patty's day is coming up and every one at work is all a bussle with everything Irish. Apearently that includes me now.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Perhaps. When we first started, I was seven hours ahead (I was in Germany at the time) and all communication HAD to be via internet. I worked crazy insane hours, and finding time was difficult. I think part of my issue was that I expected things to get so much better when I moved back here, since now there's only an hour time difference and I'm not busy. Don't get me wrong, things are somewhat better, but now he's super busy and I kind of got hooked on hearing his voice. Somehow I think I did better when there was more distance, but that could also be because we're closer now (in ways other than distance).

This is us, too. At the beginning we were on opposite coasts of the US. Now we are about a 3 hr train ride. We are still seeing each other about as often. Life is busy and we are adults with so many other responsibilities.

Though if everything goes according to plan I will be seeing Daddy this weekend and again in less than a month. There has never been that short of time between visits.

 

[Hisbeauty]

I need support...I can't talk about the specifics, but there are boulders in the path with Sir right now.

I hurt and He hurts, big time.

Thanks in advance.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I need support...I can't talk about the specifics, but there are boulders in the path with Sir right now.

I hurt and He hurts, big time.

Thanks in advance.

Tons of support and hugs for you both. My pm box is open if you want to talk.

 

[the captians wench]

I need support...I can't talk about the specifics, but there are boulders in the path with Sir right now.

I hurt and He hurts, big time.

Thanks in advance.

Tons of support and hugs for you both. My pm box is open if you want to talk.

Ditto. *hugs*

 

[the captians wench]

Okay, I have to blurt this out there.

This morning I was woken by a phone call from him. It was a wonderful treat, especially since I was a little down that we didn't get the normal time over the weekend that we usually spend on the phone.

I love the sound of his voice, and since being there I can picture his face so clearly when we chat over the phone. The way his whole face lights up as he laughs, the way his mouth turns down ever so slightly in the corners when he's not happy, the way his brow creases when he's thinking about something. I see every inflection.

I love the way he likes to surprize me and how he beams when I feel spoiled.

These little phone calls make me feel so close to him. I just love him so much.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Daddy is coming for a visit tomorrow!!! It's about time lol

 

[Ancilla1968]

Daddy is coming for a visit tomorrow!!! It's about time lol

WOO HOO HOO!!!!! Less than a month until I go on a ONE WAY ticket to my Hilmir. He will then drive us back to Cali and LDR will be HISTORY!!!

 

[Hisbeauty]

i am so happy for all of you.

Things are still a bit rough...and there is less communication due to a situation i know and understand. Just being patient, but it is hard.

Miss my Sir. Big time.