Distance Domination-Support Thread

[the captians wench]

I miss him so insanely badly right now. We're having issues with timing right now, where it just doesn't feel as if there is enough time during the day for all of the other committments to be met and then still have time to talk to each other. It's kind of frustrating.

Also, being taken off of my birth control has really messed with my emotions more than I thought it would, turning me into an absolute mess. It'd be so much easier to deal with it if he were here, so I could feel his reassuring touch when needed, or the sting of his hand. I need both, so much lately, and yet I can't have it. There's got to be a better way.

*hugs* I know exactly what you mean. Lately it seems we're measuring our time together in minutes a week. Sunday we got almost 3 hours all together. It was a great treat but with my brother coming in tonight I doubt we'll get more than a few minutes here and there.

I hope this time passes quickly for you.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm going into serious Daddy withdrawal right now. He is on vacation visiting family for a week. We've had no contact other than an occasional text or off-line.

But it's good,too. My kids are home from school this week so it gives us both time to devout totally to our families.

I am anxious for his return so we can discuss another try at getting together.

 

[CurlyKat]

*hugs* I know exactly what you mean. Lately it seems we're measuring our time together in minutes a week. Sunday we got almost 3 hours all together. It was a great treat but with my brother coming in tonight I doubt we'll get more than a few minutes here and there.

I hope this time passes quickly for you.

Thanks. Three hours sounds amazing! We're kind of in the same boat with just a few minutes a day, and that just plain sucks. I have stuff I'm supposed to send him every day, but that doesn't count as time together since it's one-sided. Hopefully you'll get to sneak in some extra time even though your brother is there.

And ES, I hope that you do get to see your Daddy soon. Enjoy all the family time!

 

[the captians wench]

I'm going into serious Daddy withdrawal right now. He is on vacation visiting family for a week. We've had no contact other than an occasional text or off-line.

But it's good,too. My kids are home from school this week so it gives us both time to devout totally to our families.

I am anxious for his return so we can discuss another try at getting together.

*huggles*

I hope you get to visit soon.

Thanks. Three hours sounds amazing! We're kind of in the same boat with just a few minutes a day, and that just plain sucks. I have stuff I'm supposed to send him every day, but that doesn't count as time together since it's one-sided. Hopefully you'll get to sneak in some extra time even though your brother is there.

And ES, I hope that you do get to see your Daddy soon. Enjoy all the family time!

It really sucks, and we're used to limited contact, but I can tell it's playing on his nerves as much as mine. But it looks like my schedule isn't going to change much. And as it is, I'm coming home when he's in bed, I'm in bed when he's leaving for work, and I'm at work when he's getting home. There just doesn't seem a way to win, at least not since I don't get a break. All I can hope is that it ends soon.

 

[tastychococakes]

I just found out Papa won't be able to go to meet me in Vegas as planned. We've been together for more than a year, and that was to be our first meeting. It's being postponed due to reasons outside his control. I'm disappointed, but not to the point of tears like I thought I would be. I'm more numb than anything else right now, and I don't know what to do to get myself out of it.

 

[the captians wench]

Okay, all that supportive "I'm strong I can handle anything" stuff I said yesterday, well I'm sick of being strong. I don't want to handle it anymore. I want to come home and curl up with him and fall asleep with his skin touching mine. I want to stomp and cry and throw a hissy fit until I'm safely in his arms. And I want it NOW!

 

[CurlyKat]

I just found out Papa won't be able to go to meet me in Vegas as planned. We've been together for more than a year, and that was to be our first meeting. It's being postponed due to reasons outside his control. I'm disappointed, but not to the point of tears like I thought I would be. I'm more numb than anything else right now, and I don't know what to do to get myself out of it.

That sucks! Hopefully y'all can swing a make-up meeting soon. While there's nothing that can really combat that kind of disappointment, the only things I can think of to stop a bad downward spiral are to make sure you have lots of distractions going on during the time when you were supposed to meet him and lots of chocolate!

Okay, all that supportive "I'm strong I can handle anything" stuff I said yesterday, well I'm sick of being strong. I don't want to handle it anymore. I want to come home and curl up with him and fall asleep with his skin touching mine. I want to stomp and cry and throw a hissy fit until I'm safely in his arms. And I want it NOW!

Throw away, this is the perfect place for it. You really can't be strong all the time, although that would be nice. We're all waiting with listening ears if you need them.

*hands out Ghirardelli dark chocolate and raspberry to both of you*

 

[tastychococakes]

That sucks! Hopefully y'all can swing a make-up meeting soon. While there's nothing that can really combat that kind of disappointment, the only things I can think of to stop a bad downward spiral are to make sure you have lots of distractions going on during the time when you were supposed to meet him and lots of chocolate!

*hands out Ghirardelli dark chocolate and raspberry to both of you*

It would be nice to find an alternative...I've been racking my brain all night trying to do just that. But in the meantime, you're right Curly. I have to keep myself extra busy or I'll lose it. Luckily I'm in school full-time, so it shouldn't be too hard. Oh, and I'll definitely be drowning my sorrows with chocolate!!!! *makes a note to pick some up on the way home today*

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

My bag is packed, I'm seeing Sir tomorrow, just for a few hours, but it will be so worth it! 6+hrs travelling for 6 hrs together, sounds fair! wish it was more time, but I'll take anytime I can get!!

 

[the captians wench]

Throw away, this is the perfect place for it. You really can't be strong all the time, although that would be nice. We're all waiting with listening ears if you need them.

*hands out Ghirardelli dark chocolate and raspberry to both of you*

Thanks. I'm just feeling very needy. Work is stressing me again and as my cousins are popping out babies and I'm seeing all my high school friends with kids and I'm just yearning for that settled feeling if ya know what I mean.

It'll pass I know, but right now I just want to wallow a bit.

It would be nice to find an alternative...I've been racking my brain all night trying to do just that. But in the meantime, you're right Curly. I have to keep myself extra busy or I'll lose it. Luckily I'm in school full-time, so it shouldn't be too hard. Oh, and I'll definitely be drowning my sorrows with chocolate!!!! *makes a note to pick some up on the way home today*

It's always hard when plans don't go through like you hope they will. It took 3 years for us to be able to meet for the first time, and my next trip is planned for 2 years after that first meeting. It sucks, but I love him enough to deal with it.

My bag is packed, I'm seeing Sir tomorrow, just for a few hours, but it will be so worth it! 6+hrs travelling for 6 hrs together, sounds fair! wish it was more time, but I'll take anytime I can get!!

Congrats!

I wish I could make short trips. I've sujested maybe just spending a weekend over there and Jounar will have none of it. Of course air fair is the same if I go for a weekend or for a month so it really isn't very economical that way, but I think he's more worried about the travel time it takes. *shrug*

 

[CurlyKat]

Thanks. I'm just feeling very needy. Work is stressing me again and as my cousins are popping out babies and I'm seeing all my high school friends with kids and I'm just yearning for that settled feeling if ya know what I mean.

It'll pass I know, but right now I just want to wallow a bit.

Oh I TOTALLY get that. The urge to settle down and do the "normal" stuff like having your own family and popping out babies of your own can be overwhelming at times. Many of my friends from high school already have kids in the three to five years old range, and my friends from college are all married and pregnant right now. I feel left out of the deal at the moment, but know that it's just not quite yet time for me.

You're right, the feeling will pass, but it's a legitimate feeling that deserves a bit of time to process.

 

[the captians wench]

Oh I TOTALLY get that. The urge to settle down and do the "normal" stuff like having your own family and popping out babies of your own can be overwhelming at times. Many of my friends from high school already have kids in the three to five years old range, and my friends from college are all married and pregnant right now. I feel left out of the deal at the moment, but know that it's just not quite yet time for me.

You're right, the feeling will pass, but it's a legitimate feeling that deserves a bit of time to process.

I'm not even sure I want kids, and really that's not the huge issue so much as just being as you say normal. Hell I'd be happy if we could just go "hey, I have a long weekend why don't you pop over" but we can't even do that much. It's just frusterating some times.

And my PCOS is getting wacky again which just exaserbates these feelings once or twice a month. And seeing my brother and his happy little army family...well, I know it will all pass, but I also know it will all come back again.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Totally gutted, Sir was very sick last night so or meeting today was cancelled
I miss him heaps! damn!
Went and got another tattoo while I should have been with him....found myself in subspace on the table hehehe. seriously tho, I miss him so much and have been looking forwards to today for ages, hate it when things go wrong.

 

[tastychococakes]

It's always hard when plans don't go through like you hope they will. It took 3 years for us to be able to meet for the first time, and my next trip is planned for 2 years after that first meeting. It sucks, but I love him enough to deal with it.

Wow wenchie, that does suck! I admire your dedication and commitment to making it work, especially throughout the time and distance you are apart. I definitely have no reason to complain!
I think I've figured out a way to see Master. It involves him flying out here to CT, and braving the miserable cold instead of us going to Vegas. I ran it by him, and hopefully he'll decide soon if it's doable. I'll keep you up to date on what happens....

 

[tastychococakes]

Totally gutted, Sir was very sick last night so or meeting today was cancelled
I miss him heaps! damn!
Went and got another tattoo while I should have been with him....found myself in subspace on the table hehehe. seriously tho, I miss him so much and have been looking forwards to today for ages, hate it when things go wrong.

*huggles* I'm sorry you didn't get to see your Sir, I can only imagine how hard that was for you. I'm so jealous that you got another tat! What was it? I have two, and I definitely want another, but I don't think M will allow it, at least not right now, but I won't give up all hope yet!

 

[CurlyKat]

I'm not even sure I want kids, and really that's not the huge issue so much as just being as you say normal. Hell I'd be happy if we could just go "hey, I have a long weekend why don't you pop over" but we can't even do that much. It's just frusterating some times.

And my PCOS is getting wacky again which just exaserbates these feelings once or twice a month. And seeing my brother and his happy little army family...well, I know it will all pass, but I also know it will all come back again.

I didn't know you had PCOS, too. If you don't mind my asking, how are you currently treating it? I'm in between treatments right now, since Yasmin was awesome for the cycts (they almost totally went away), but really messed up everything else on me. Yay alternate treatments (not)!

 

[the captians wench]

Wow wenchie, that does suck! I admire your dedication and commitment to making it work, especially throughout the time and distance you are apart. I definitely have no reason to complain!
I think I've figured out a way to see Master. It involves him flying out here to CT, and braving the miserable cold instead of us going to Vegas. I ran it by him, and hopefully he'll decide soon if it's doable. I'll keep you up to date on what happens....

Thanks. I really didn't mean to make any less of your situation. Distance is hard if you're 3 miles or 3k miles, neither one is easy when all you want is to be 3 inches away.

I didn't know you had PCOS, too. If you don't mind my asking, how are you currently treating it? I'm in between treatments right now, since Yasmin was awesome for the cycts (they almost totally went away), but really messed up everything else on me. Yay alternate treatments (not)!

I've been real terrible.

I started out on progesterone. But the mood swings were just too much for me to deal with. So I moved to the Yasmin. I was on it for about a year and a half and then I had some financial issues and I didn't like the obgyn I was seeing and I never went back. Everything balanced out so I didn't worry about it too much, but it's acting up again, and I felt a lump in my abdomen a couple of weeks ago so now I'm trying to find a new doc. Even my general practitionar stopped practicing so I have to start from the begining.

I don't like the bc or the hormones because they change my personality. Mom thinks it's just a matter of finding the right one, All I know is everything we tried turned me into a different person and I didn't like that.

But then, I'm having hormone surges now, so I'm very moody and I don't like that either. So I have an apointment with a new family doc and we'll go from there.

 

[CurlyKat]

I've been real terrible.

I started out on progesterone. But the mood swings were just too much for me to deal with. So I moved to the Yasmin. I was on it for about a year and a half and then I had some financial issues and I didn't like the obgyn I was seeing and I never went back. Everything balanced out so I didn't worry about it too much, but it's acting up again, and I felt a lump in my abdomen a couple of weeks ago so now I'm trying to find a new doc. Even my general practitionar stopped practicing so I have to start from the begining.

I don't like the bc or the hormones because they change my personality. Mom thinks it's just a matter of finding the right one, All I know is everything we tried turned me into a different person and I didn't like that.

But then, I'm having hormone surges now, so I'm very moody and I don't like that either. So I have an apointment with a new family doc and we'll go from there.

Yeah, hormones can be evil, evil things. Yasmin is the first (and only, so far) that I've tried, but all the doctors kept acting like insane mood swings were normal and that I should just suck it up. They didn't listen that it wasn't normal FOR ME, and that something else felt off, too (that would be the super high blood pressure caused by Yasmin). Maybe it is about finding the right combination. Some of the lower dose pills are supposed to be better about it.

Good luck with the new doctor. My new one here turned out to be amazing, so maybe yours will, too. Fingers crossed whatever you felt will go away naturally and quickly with little side effects!

 

[ecstaticsub]

Thanks. I really didn't mean to make any less of your situation. Distance is hard if you're 3 miles or 3k miles, neither one is easy when all you want is to be 3 inches away.

QFT Daddy and i now live closer to each other than ever before. However, yes it is easier to make plans to meet, but unfortunately it is easier to cancel those plans,too when life gets in the way.

I am hopeful we can reschedule our last missed meeting for sometime next month.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Thanks. I really didn't mean to make any less of your situation. Distance is hard if you're 3 miles or 3k miles, neither one is easy when all you want is to be 3 inches away.

Argh!

It's funny that someone has said that now. I often browse this thread, and find myself feeling a lot of the same things, but never feel as if I should pipe up, simply because mine is only an hour away. The things that make me feel the same as you guys is the fact that I don't get to see him as often as I would like, differing schedules and things limit us to (omigoditssoawfulicoulddie! ) one or two times a week, for a couple of hours here and there.

But life circumstances get in the way, and sometimes I wish I could just roll over on my pillow and he'd be there... but no.

 

[tastychococakes]

Update...so, M and I won't be meeting in March after all. I'm beside myself with disappointment, and I don't know what to do from here.

 

[CurlyKat]

Update...so, M and I won't be meeting in March after all. I'm beside myself with disappointment, and I don't know what to do from here.

*hugs*

You may have mentioned this somewhere before, so forgive me if you have. How long have y'all been together? I'm pretty much just nosey and like to know everyone's stories.

 

[tastychococakes]

*hugs*

You may have mentioned this somewhere before, so forgive me if you have. How long have y'all been together? I'm pretty much just nosey and like to know everyone's stories.

Curly, thanks for the hugs. M and I have been together a little over a year. It's been wonderful thus far. I just really need to see him, but I guess he has other plans. I know it's not the end of the world, I'm just being down on myself at the moment.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Curly, thanks for the hugs. M and I have been together a little over a year. It's been wonderful thus far. I just really need to see him, but I guess he has other plans. I know it's not the end of the world, I'm just being down on myself at the moment.

I am so sorry your meeting was canceled. Being on opposite coasts is so hard. For the first 2 years of my relationship Daddy and I were on opposite coasts. It ended up working out ok because I had family in the same state where he lived so I would fit in a visit to him whenever I flew east to see family.

LDRs can be really difficult. The question of who travels or if both travel to a destination in between can bring about conflict, too. For a variety of reasons I have always done the traveling. It seemed easier than trying to coordinate two people flying.

I really hope you can work out something for a meet soon. I also hope that the fact that the plans fell through do not adversely effect your relationship.

 

[tastychococakes]

I am so sorry your meeting was canceled. Being on opposite coasts is so hard. For the first 2 years of my relationship Daddy and I were on opposite coasts. It ended up working out ok because I had family in the same state where he lived so I would fit in a visit to him whenever I flew east to see family.

LDRs can be really difficult. The question of who travels or if both travel to a destination in between can bring about conflict, too. For a variety of reasons I have always done the traveling. It seemed easier than trying to coordinate two people flying.

I really hope you can work out something for a meet soon. I also hope that the fact that the plans fell through do not adversely effect your relationship.

Thanks ES. I'm trying my best to not let it affect me, but it's hard. I'll just have to keep busy until we can make it official. I'm just starting to feel like there's no point in hoping, and once I get to that point, I'm not going to want to discuss it at all if it's really not going to happen. I know this isn't right, and it doesn't help our relationship. So, keep your fingers crossed that M and I come through it ok.