Hello everyone! I have been lurking around these boards for a while, but recently, a development in my life has made me decide to register and start participating.
I recently met a new Dom online, and so far, He has been everything I have been looking for. It is an LDR D/s relationship, and will likely stay that way for a long time. I have been reading the posts in this thread a lot since we met, and I want to thank everyone who has posted their experiences with LDRs, they have been encouraging and enlightening.
thank you all so much!
I look forward to reading more.
When I woke up at 7am local time the first day we thought it was a fluke, but I woke up at 7am every day I was over there except the day I left, and that was because we set the alarm for 6. I didn't have any trouble adjusting to Dublin time, well except that I kept wanting to add 5 hours to the time on the clock instead of subtracting.
I also found it harder to adjust back to my part of the world than I did his. But like I mentioned, I think that had a lot to do with the emotional distress from separation and essentially waking up from my fairytale.
As for me, I'm aproaching my 7 day limit. It's at a critical time too because I'm also towards the end of my neediest week. So I'm freaking out a little bit more than normal about the lack of contact. Well, and he's got me on this damn diet so the lack of junk food is getting to me as well.
All and all I can't really complain though.
Not my normal weekend phone time, but a little IM and some photo exchange. I love taking pics under his direction. *giggles*
I've noticed a pattern in my life, I'm curious if any one else has made this same connection.
I miss him more, no it goes deeper than that, it's like my need for him to be here with me, just to be with me in the flesh grows and becomes almost unbearable when I ovulate.
Addmitedly it's worse since my visit with him, but it was always harder at that time than any other.
Am I alone? or just too aware of my body?
not at all.. I need Sir when I am in that frame... I wish he were here with me now since I am couch ridden for a few days.. ARGGGHhh this year better be better..
On another note.. Sir and I have decided to make this year this year we move in with another.. for those interested.. Going on 3 years together.. I knew this was a perfect match.
First, welcome to Lit and specifically this thread.
To answer your questions--
1) Your situation may be normal...in that there are many scammers out there. But that does not make it acceptable. You are not just being paranoid, you are trusting your instincts and that is very important.
2) On-line relationship all progress differently. I was friends with my Dominant months before he started giving me orders. My advice would be to really get to know someone first. Do not send face pictures until you are really very comfortable, or send a fully clothed normal face picture if you are comfortable about that. As for camming I didn't start that until I had met my Dominant in person.
3) Just because a man says he is your Dominant doesn't make it so. At the beginning there is no D/s relationship, just 2 people getting to know each other. Ask him anything and everything that you want. Ask him his limits, his experiences with other submissives. Ask for details if you would like. My Dominant told some things about his previous relationship (without giving me her name or other personal details) just so I could see what his expectations were in a D/s relationship.
4)YES! Anything you put on the internet can be copied and reposted anywhere. Even if he were to put his cam on and his face was the only thing you could see does not mean that he is the only one in the room. It is perfectly within your right to never cam or send pictures. It is totally up to you. If he doesn't agree...well there are other Dominants out there.
Take your time. Become friends first. Trust your instincts.
