Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Ancilla1968]

*giggles*

I forget we have a lot of new people here who aren't completely bored of hearing my story over and over. I'm a shameless open book.

Jounar and I met here, well in the AM Pic boards actually. He was a regular poster on my thread and we bantered and flirted there. (It seemed like a month or so, but as I look back at that thread it was really only a few days. ) One night while we were carrying on on my thread, we PMed each other at the exact same moment. (gooey awe) And decided to move on to YIM.

It didn't take long before I was rushing home from work looking for him on my IM. I started taking pics from his sugestions, and working up to playdates on cam.

Three months after he first posted on my thread we were chatting and he made a comment about it being weird to be with out a sub. I answered back that I would be if it were possible. A couple of messages later he clairified, "would be, or will be" and that was that I was his, but we wouldn't let this "get int the way of real life". That lasted all of another three months. *giggles*

We still kept playmates up until about 4 months before my first visit to see him. By that time I was totally his, and our face to face just solidified everything we had known over the prior 3 years.

And I'm scheduled to see him almost 2 years to the day after that first visit, and a week to the day after our 5 year anniversery.

YEAAAAAAA great story!!!! I kinda liek that things began so fast for you two .... makes me feel more normal LOL

 

[ecstaticsub]

*giggles* you make me want to share my story on this board yet again.

Do it!!

And about writing the story of your first visit....it took me months to write the story of our first time together--and it was only 24 hrs long It was just so overwhelming emotionally. Plus I was in serious rebellion/sub-frenzy afterwards. Thankfully he has enough past experience to just be patient with me and still keep me in line. But writing it all down was just a confused mix of pictures in my head and emotions in my heart.

I now write reflections and memories of each of our visits almost immediately. A few times ago my plane was seriously delayed so I wrote it all while at the airport waiting to go home. (I always wondered if people could see the smile on my face and my body fidgiting. ) I email him a copy and then put it with any pictures we took in it's own folder. When ever I am really feeling down I love to read them.

 

[ecstaticsub]

*giggles*

I forget we have a lot of new people here who aren't completely bored of hearing my story over and over. I'm a shameless open book.

Jounar and I met here, well in the AM Pic boards actually. He was a regular poster on my thread and we bantered and flirted there. (It seemed like a month or so, but as I look back at that thread it was really only a few days. ) One night while we were carrying on on my thread, we PMed each other at the exact same moment. (gooey awe) And decided to move on to YIM.

It didn't take long before I was rushing home from work looking for him on my IM. I started taking pics from his sugestions, and working up to playdates on cam.

Three months after he first posted on my thread we were chatting and he made a comment about it being weird to be with out a sub. I answered back that I would be if it were possible. A couple of messages later he clairified, "would be, or will be" and that was that I was his, but we wouldn't let this "get int the way of real life". That lasted all of another three months. *giggles*

We still kept playmates up until about 4 months before my first visit to see him. By that time I was totally his, and our face to face just solidified everything we had known over the prior 3 years.

And I'm scheduled to see him almost 2 years to the day after that first visit, and a week to the day after our 5 year anniversery.

Thank you. I more or less knew your story but that step to a committed D/s relationship is what I was interested in.

I've wondered if it is usually the Dominant who asks if a sub would be his or do most submissives offer their submission?

 

[Ancilla1968]

Thank you. I more or less knew your story but that step to a committed D/s relationship is what I was interested in.

I've wondered if it is usually the Dominant who asks if a sub would be his or do most submissives offer their submission?

I know I have never offered to submit. It always happened they asked and I gave. I suppose Master was a little different .. he TOOK me, as it were.

 

[the captians wench]

Do it!!

And about writing the story of your first visit....it took me months to write the story of our first time together--and it was only 24 hrs long It was just so overwhelming emotionally. Plus I was in serious rebellion/sub-frenzy afterwards. Thankfully he has enough past experience to just be patient with me and still keep me in line. But writing it all down was just a confused mix of pictures in my head and emotions in my heart.

I now write reflections and memories of each of our visits almost immediately. A few times ago my plane was seriously delayed so I wrote it all while at the airport waiting to go home. (I always wondered if people could see the smile on my face and my body fidgiting. ) I email him a copy and then put it with any pictures we took in it's own folder. When ever I am really feeling down I love to read them.

I remembered this and you're actually who I was thinking of when I posted about me writing.

I tried to write it right away. I started an the airplane on my itouch in fact. It turned into a letter to him that I never sent. I didn't want him to feel any more pain than he already did. Not after he worked so hard to keep me smiling right up until he could walk me no farther. But something blocked it.

Now as memories are popping up, they have an almost poetry to them that I just *have* to put onto paper. It's all out of place fragments, that I intend to expand once they are all out, or the mood to edit strikes me.

I know I've said many times that the longer I'm away from him the more unreal my time there seems. and the part of me that believes it was all some wonderful dream is winning the debate. But this writing, reliving these key moments, is helping it all to seem real again. Makes it easier to believe I will be there again.

 

[the captians wench]

YEAAAAAAA great story!!!! I kinda liek that things began so fast for you two .... makes me feel more normal LOL

It was fast. Especially given the timing. I Jounar apeared on my thread 4 months after my husband and I split. Though those 4 months, as well as the three that followed seemed remarkably longer.

Being there expanded on that as well. Those 9 days I was there felt more like months, or even years had past. And the fact that it felt more like a home comming than a first visit just exaserbated the matter.

If I had never believed there was a such thing as a "soul mate" before Jounar, I surely would after meeting him.

Thank you. I more or less knew your story but that step to a committed D/s relationship is what I was interested in.

I've wondered if it is usually the Dominant who asks if a sub would be his or do most submissives offer their submission?

I guess we sort of did both. *giggles*

He considers he asked me to be his. I think I offered first. Of course I supose it depends on which part of that conversation to consider the real offer of a relationship.

He never formally "collared" me, even though I have a collar that I associate with him. He sugested I wear it long before (heh, was prolly more like a week or two) I became his. He's not a formal type, and I don't think we'll ever stand on a lot of cerimony. I wrote him an email that night offering myself to him, and he accepted.

That's probably the only bit of formality we have, though even that has faded a bit over the years. From that first email forward, anytime I agreed to something, or offered something, I put it in writing and emailed it to him. A formal contract if you will. Once we decided to start moving past sub and into slave territory, that concent form hasn't been as pressent as before.

I used to see clearly the different levels of submission, they aren't so clear anymore.

 

[Bandit58]

Just curious if you would mind answering...Before you became engaged did you consider yourself his submissive? I know I have read your explanation of how you two met, but I can't remember it now. I'm just wondering at what point into the relationship you agreed to obey him?

I was His sub while we were still online. We decided to combine our engagement with a collar as a bond between the D/s and vanilla worlds we live in

 

[ecstaticsub]

I know I have never offered to submit. It always happened they asked and I gave. I suppose Master was a little different .. he TOOK me, as it were.

Thanks. I can relate to the being taken concept.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I was His sub while we were still online. We decided to combine our engagement with a collar as a bond between the D/s and vanilla worlds we live in

Thanks for answering, you two are another example of a great successful relationship that started online.

 

[ecstaticsub]

It was fast. Especially given the timing. I Jounar apeared on my thread 4 months after my husband and I split. Though those 4 months, as well as the three that followed seemed remarkably longer.

Being there expanded on that as well. Those 9 days I was there felt more like months, or even years had past. And the fact that it felt more like a home comming than a first visit just exaserbated the matter.

If I had never believed there was a such thing as a "soul mate" before Jounar, I surely would after meeting him.



I guess we sort of did both. *giggles*

He considers he asked me to be his. I think I offered first. Of course I supose it depends on which part of that conversation to consider the real offer of a relationship.

He never formally "collared" me, even though I have a collar that I associate with him. He sugested I wear it long before (heh, was prolly more like a week or two) I became his. He's not a formal type, and I don't think we'll ever stand on a lot of cerimony. I wrote him an email that night offering myself to him, and he accepted.

That's probably the only bit of formality we have, though even that has faded a bit over the years. From that first email forward, anytime I agreed to something, or offered something, I put it in writing and emailed it to him. A formal contract if you will. Once we decided to start moving past sub and into slave territory, that concent form hasn't been as pressent as before.

I used to see clearly the different levels of submission, they aren't so clear anymore.

I always appreciate how open you are talking about your relationship. I agree with the levels of submission can't very blurry. We are totally D/s when we are apart--too difficult to be otherwise considering we are both married with families and jobs etc. But when we are together it is M/s --at least in my mind.

 

[Ancilla1968]

Thanks. I can relate to the being taken concept.

*giggles* It's been great. He will not allow me to shoot us in the foot.

 

[the captians wench]

I've noticed a pattern in my life, I'm curious if any one else has made this same connection.

I miss him more, no it goes deeper than that, it's like my need for him to be here with me, just to be with me in the flesh grows and becomes almost unbearable when I ovulate.

Addmitedly it's worse since my visit with him, but it was always harder at that time than any other.

Am I alone? or just too aware of my body?

 

[missy_me]

I've noticed a pattern in my life, I'm curious if any one else has made this same connection.

I miss him more, no it goes deeper than that, it's like my need for him to be here with me, just to be with me in the flesh grows and becomes almost unbearable when I ovulate.

Addmitedly it's worse since my visit with him, but it was always harder at that time than any other.

Am I alone? or just too aware of my body?

Sounds very familiar to me; sometimes I even ended up crying then because I needed to feel him. J always knew when I was ovulating when I started what he called my "egg rant" - I went on and on about how he possibly couldn't understand how much I needed him physically present. How he didn't dump because of the egg rants is beyond me.

Thesedays he knows I'm ovulating because I'm hornier than usual. I rather prefer it this way.

 

[Ancilla1968]

I've noticed a pattern in my life, I'm curious if any one else has made this same connection.

I miss him more, no it goes deeper than that, it's like my need for him to be here with me, just to be with me in the flesh grows and becomes almost unbearable when I ovulate.

Addmitedly it's worse since my visit with him, but it was always harder at that time than any other.

Am I alone? or just too aware of my body?

Ovulation is a very interesting period (no pub intended) for the body. So you aren't even a little bit alone!!

 

[the captians wench]

Sounds very familiar to me; sometimes I even ended up crying then because I needed to feel him. J always knew when I was ovulating when I started what he called my "egg rant" - I went on and on about how he possibly couldn't understand how much I needed him physically present. How he didn't dump because of the egg rants is beyond me.

Thesedays he knows I'm ovulating because I'm hornier than usual. I rather prefer it this way.

I am very careful not to fully explode my emotional neediness on him at this very sencitive time. *giggles* Infact, when I feel it coming I usually warn him that I'm going to be particularly needy for a few days and then overly moody about a week after that. I'm sure by now he has the timing down better than I do.

Being physically together would make it a whole lot easier since I could use all of this energy and wanting in a more productive fashion.

Ovulation is a very interesting period (no pub intended) for the body. So you aren't even a little bit alone!!

It is really good to know I'm not alone in this. I worry some times that I'm just too emotional. Prolly has something to do with the fact that I've been told by many people (mother, ex husband, friends, and even bosses) that I am exactly that.

 

[Ancilla1968]

It is really good to know I'm not alone in this. I worry some times that I'm just too emotional. Prolly has something to do with the fact that I've been told by many people (mother, ex husband, friends, and even bosses) that I am exactly that.

LOL Nahhhhhhh .. you're fine *looks at the calendar*

 

[AimeeLamis]

Conflicted...

I just got back from spending the week with my old Master. We had a wonderful time. It was cloudy and rainy for the most part so we spent a lot of time indoors - that was OK with me. However, on about the 4th day I would get up early in the morning and email my online Master. Of course my online Master loved it. He even had me write a scenario of how I would imagine us being there together. I have to admit I loved it too.

My old Master knows that I exchange emails with my cyber, I can't lie to him. All he has to do is look at me and I confess everything, it's always been that way. He asked me if I'd sent him pictures. I said yes of my face, which is true. He told me not to send him any pictures that show anything from the neck down.

My cyber has asked that I send pictures of myself wearing different clothes, no nudity. He also doesn't mind exchanging photos with me as well. My question is should I honor my old Master's request? I want to keep my cyber happy, I really like him, but I want to be obedient. My cyber and I have agreed to be restricted to online. I think my old Master thinks that the more pictures exchanged the greater our chances of meeting, but that's not going to happen. What should I do?

 

[ecstaticsub]

I just got back from spending the week with my old Master. We had a wonderful time. It was cloudy and rainy for the most part so we spent a lot of time indoors - that was OK with me. However, on about the 4th day I would get up early in the morning and email my online Master. Of course my online Master loved it. He even had me write a scenario of how I would imagine us being there together. I have to admit I loved it too.

My old Master knows that I exchange emails with my cyber, I can't lie to him. All he has to do is look at me and I confess everything, it's always been that way. He asked me if I'd sent him pictures. I said yes of my face, which is true. He told me not to send him any pictures that show anything from the neck down.

My cyber has asked that I send pictures of myself wearing different clothes, no nudity. He also doesn't mind exchanging photos with me as well. My question is should I honor my old Master's request? I want to keep my cyber happy, I really like him, but I want to be obedient. My cyber and I have agreed to be restricted to online. I think my old Master thinks that the more pictures exchanged the greater our chances of meeting, but that's not going to happen. What should I do?

Just my opinion but unless your two Masters are friends or at least have a understanding between the two you can not serve both. You have to deside who has the higher authority.

I have both a husband and a Dominant. My husband is not a Dominant but he is still my husband which gives him certain rights. At the very beginning of my D/s relationship an understanding was made as to who has the final say over certains areas.

On the rare occasion that there is a conflict I discuss it with both and figure out a way to obey my PYL without violating the trust I have with my husband.

I think you need to make a choice between the two.

 

[the captians wench]

I totally echo ES.

I've been in your spot, only kind of the opposite. Jounar has always been my priority, which a lot of the guys I played with just didn't understand, so they tried to lay laws on my, or get me to do things that they knew would put me in a position where I would have to choose either obey them, or obey Jounar. Once that happened they were given a happy kick on the ass and I never played with them again. I know where my loyalties lie, and I make that perfectly clear in the begining that I won't put up with some one trying to break or weaken that loyalty.

In other words, play nice or hit the road.

I also noticed, as I mentioned some where else, that when Jounar thought a new playmate was an ass he would give me more restrictions prolly to frusterate the guy and get him to back off. If the guy treated me decent and was respectful to both me and my relationship, I had no restrictions.

Sounds like your Master doesn't trust cyber, and I haven't seen you express any reason why he should. They will put you in a position where you have to choose one or the other. It's in the cards.

 

[Ancilla1968]

I have to echo both sentiments here.

You cannot serve two. *shrugs*

OOO 9 days to seeing master ... and so much progress these last few days!!

 

[akuyim]

In 2 days i get to see my baby girl for 2 days while i am on break. We are both looking forward to it.

 

[Scotsman69]

I six days I'll be on the other side of the world, for the first time in my life.

 

[the captians wench]

I six days I'll be on the other side of the world, for the first time in my life.

*giggles* I had a simular experience. It's really neat, and overwhelming, when you combine a lot of firsts.

 

[LearningSub]

thank you

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[Ancilla1968]

Hello everyone! I have been lurking around these boards for a while, but recently, a development in my life has made me decide to register and start participating.
I recently met a new Dom online, and so far, He has been everything I have been looking for. It is an LDR D/s relationship, and will likely stay that way for a long time. I have been reading the posts in this thread a lot since we met, and I want to thank everyone who has posted their experiences with LDRs, they have been encouraging and enlightening.

thank you all so much!

I look forward to reading more.

*just smiles*