Distance Domination-Support Thread

[noangel1]

Help me. i don't know where to turn.


Sir has told me that because i have put the craziness of my rl ahead of Him, i have broken the Tenant of Obedience. i am in tears here. i don't know how to please Him anymore and i am so ready to give up and just die.

Goodbye everyone.

*hug* Homborg is right sexualinnocent.

I need to take the advice myself as I find myself in the same situation that you are in right now.

I thought things were going well too.

I wasn't the best sub in the world, but it is all new to me and I was trying my best

I hope you will be alright.

 

[myinnerslut]

life happens.

if i had put Master ahead of real life by not going to the hospital when i first started passing out because we had plans to chat later that day, or not coming back up to new york for the doctors appointment where they unexpectedly decided to put in a pacemaker becuase i was already in va and nobody really wanted me to leave, then i might have been dead.

the fact that Master was completely supportive of me notwithstanding, it was something that HAD to be taken care of. real life.

life happens.

 

[the captians wench]

You know what's funny, when I had this happen to me, it was done to me by a playmate who was here and who I spent a good deal of time with coordenating around his family life and school.

This is the man I not so fondly refur to as "master asshole". He really fucked with my head. He wanted me to believe that he was the most important person in my life, the most important thing. My money was to be spent how he wished it, my apt was to be open to any other subs he chose, and nothing was as important as him. This was very unrealistic, on many levels, and very unfair to put on me.

If I were to call off work, or leave early, or what ever on his whim, then I wouldn't have gotten the promotion I had been working so hard for. If I spent all of my money the way he wished it, it would have mostly gone to him and I wouldn't have even been able to pay my rent. And fuck if I was letting strange women room up with me.

It's not fair, in any situation, to expect the other person to revolve around you 24/7. You have to work, pay bill, eat, sleep, bathe, and that's not even inculding socializing. It's human nessisity to socialize. Me, I'm not all that social but I still go out with friends at least once a week. When my mom lived closer, I went out with her several times a week. Jounar makes plans with his mates, not to mention taking care of his parents. That's just life.

Think of it this way, if you slack off on your job in order to put him first, then you may very well loose said job. If you loose your job, you may well loose your home and with that goes your internet and possibly your phone, and then it would be even harder for him to know you are putting him first.

Calm yourself. Look at the situation, and the consiquences of following what he wishes exactly, then aproach him with your well thought out solutions. If he says that something doesn't matter that directly effects your well being, then you may want to think about if he's following the #1 domly rule: Don't break your toys.

*huggles*

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Thank you all for the advice. When i wrote my last post, i was definitely down in the dumps. i tend to see criticism as it's the end of the world, and that the person criticizing me is gonna throw me away. i know where it stems from, and i have spent most of my life working on it.

W/we (forgive the slashspeak but i am required to use it) have talked. Most of it was a MAJOR failure to communicate, and the rest was a task that i had put off because 1) i am overwhelmed in my personal/career/home life right now (and did i ask for help from Him? not enough) and 2) because i got to a "stuck point" in the task and do not know how to proceed.

It will take some time, me finishing this task, and learning to communicate better for it to heal. The talk today helped much, but i'm not 100% yet. Part of me becoming 100% is in the hope that my personal life will settle down, and the end of the punishment.

Thank you for accepting me here, even in drama queen mode. All of Y/your advice is great.

 

[Homburg]

A primadonna and requires slashspeak too?

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Good luck to you.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Good luck to you luvvie.








And Homburg my apologies for spelling your name wrong

 

[Homburg]

And Homburg my apologies for spelling your name wrong

It's okay. It's a common mistake, so I don't sweat it.

 

[the captians wench]

As I've mentioned elsewhere I've been really stressing about my safety audit, which was today, all week and well since I got to this store. Jounar and I even talked about it last night as I worked on getting some final touches done.

This morning he text me wishing me luck and a good day.

I ended up scoring a 91, 12 points higher than the last one, and a passing grade. But I knew I was getting home a bit late and was fretting all the way home that I wouldn't catch him online to share my good news with him. That's when it hit me, I can just call him!

It still seems a bit unreal to me to be able to just pick up the phone and call him like that. I know I've mentioned this a couple of times here about being excited about the vontage, but I really am blown away by this. It's something so little, but it's been such a luxury for so long. I really love being able to just ring him when I need or even just want him.

 

[myinnerslut]

its moving day.


for real, this time

 

[Lady_Fiona]

its moving day.


for real, this time

Hope it all goes smoothly luvvie, how wonderful for you all

 

[myinnerslut]

Hope it all goes smoothly luvvie, how wonderful for you all

thank you

i'm bouncing-off-the-walls-excited

 

[rida]

its moving day.


for real, this time

So happy for all of you!

 

[Sexualinnocent]

i'm very happy for you too!

 

[Homburg]

Friday
8am - drag my folded ass outta bed
1030am - Finally able to hit the road for work, after fielding calls, doing paperwork, etc
515pm - Get home from fieldwork, quickly hit the email, calls, etc
610pm - Leave to go to Cub Scout thing (eldest son bridged up into the next rank)
830pm - leave cub scout thing with my parents to go over work issues with my dad
950pm - Mom drives me to the store to handle a return, then to the bus stop (My folks have been really cool lately)
1150pm - hit the road on the bus

Saturday
2am - Get about 25-30 minutes sleep, maybe. I don't sleep when traveling.
4am - Get about 10 minutes sleep, maybe
7am - arrive in NYC, Chinatown. Hit a chinese bakery, and have a coupla Pork Buns (on MIS' suggestion), and a cup of iced coffee. Best $3 breakfast I've had in a long, long time.
710-830am - a combination of walking, subways and metro trains to get to MIS' hometown
835am - Find my girl waiting on me at the train station
930am or so - breakfast with her family, went surprisingly well.
1030am - back on the road, driving MIS and her car back to VA. Shopping first though.
1015pm - after torrential rains, regular rain, absurd traffic, and a lot of stops because she couldn't stay cooped up due to the chest/shoulder issues, we finally pull into home. What should have taken 7.5-8 hours to drive took almost 12. Ugh.

I don't think I made it another hour before passing out, and didn't really wake up until about 9am this morning. That is a LOT of sleep for me.

A bit of a rough day, well, two days, but worth it. She's home. That's what matters.

 

[minx1]

A bit of a rough day, well, two days, but worth it. She's home. That's what matters.

I just want to wish you all much happiness

Glad to see you on the road to recovery MIS

 

[Lady_Fiona]

The dream that one day I will have what you have now got is what keeps me going. Without that dream I don't think I could carry on.

 

[CutieMouse]

She's home. That's what matters.

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[the captians wench]

The dream that one day I will have what you have now got is what keeps me going. Without that dream I don't think I could carry on.

I know what you mean.

a little under 4 years now, and the idea of moving there still seems like just a dream. but there's hope that either Irish imgration laws will tame towards americans or he'll deside it's time to take the plunge....soon *giggles*

 

[the captians wench]

We spent the whole weekend on the phone again. I'm really enjoying that but it's making me miss him more at moments.

It's still nice to be able to call him when ever I need to.

 

[pisslave]

Force me

beg you to train me. I'm a hopeless slut, who desperately needs a strong master.

I am very rebellious and cheeky, and really be made to do what i talk on and on about.

candy

I am a 33 year old male. I live in asia, and want an online master, or mistress to instruct me to do things and report back.

I am cute, and most say pretty good-looking. I'm bi, but extremely gay. i have a very dirty filthy aching cock and asshole. I love imagining myself as the girly slut in a porn i'm watching. I need to be forced to go get what I want and you need to know how to achieve it . I need heavy persuasion, because I'm shy. I'm really into piss and cum drinking, gay gangbangs, being fisted (although I have never been, being sissyfied, rented out and filmed being banged by many, many ladyboys. i need help, im hopeless dont know what to do.

I want to be instructed regularly and forcefully. Maybe via skype or mobile



candy

 

[Homburg]

im hopeless dont know what to do.

candy

Go to BDSM Personals. That is where this belongs. This thread is not a trolling spot where you look for a relationship. It is intended as a support thread for those in a distance domination relationship.

 

[myinnerslut]

Go to BDSM Personals. That is where this belongs. This thread is not a trolling spot where you look for a relationship. It is intended as a support thread for those in a distance domination relationship.

actually, it was intended as a strictly online relationship thread, but we changed that

 

[Homburg]

actually, it was intended as a strictly online relationship thread, but we changed that

See, you go from distance to live-in, and they get all cheeky and start contradicting you in public.

 

[the captians wench]

See, you go from distance to live-in, and they get all cheeky and start contradicting you in public.

Or you just pay attention to it more now.

 

[minx1]

Or you just pay attention to it more now.

*sniggers*