Distance Domination-Support Thread

[NALA CAYENNE]

*hugs* Sometimes a little seperation does wonders. It lets us take a step back and see if things really are how we want them, how they should be, and if they are what we think they are.

I hope things work out in a way that both of you are satisfied with.

I second this thought, kitten, and give a reminder that we are here for you when you need a shoulder

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I now want to whine about not having him around on-line for a whole 10 days! But I won't bc I have absolutely nothing to whine about. Tiz only a tiny speck in comparison.

Taking a moment to whine myself because I have to: Master's orders.

I am feeling super needy for Master and feeling very ashamed for it. Because I am so ashamed, Master wanted me to share how I am feeling here so that hopefully I will see that others can relate and I won't feel so bad about how I feel.

So here's the issue:

I have NEVER felt like this before. This needy, clingy, whiny state where all I want to do is be near Master or garner some sort of attention from him even if it's just to have him say "I know cunt" because he knows that I am needy for him.

This is just not me. Not a minute goes by where I don't send Master a text about curling around his legs and snuggling him, or kneeling by him with my head on his lap, or even sending him my infamous 'needy pet alert' which basically tells him that I need his attention.

He loves that I am like this and tells me that every time I whine about hating being so needy (in between whining about needing to be near him of course ). I feel like I need Needy Pet's Anonymous- "Hi my name is Nala and I'm a needy pet." Grrrrr.

So yeah, I'm whining about whining and being needy and my dear friend Unca Hommy will probably tell me that this is another sign of emotional committment Yep I'm emotional and I need to be committed.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Taking a moment to whine myself because I have to: Master's orders.

I am feeling super needy for Master and feeling very ashamed for it. Because I am so ashamed, Master wanted me to share how I am feeling here so that hopefully I will see that others can relate and I won't feel so bad about how I feel.

So here's the issue:

I have NEVER felt like this before. This needy, clingy, whiny state where all I want to do is be near Master or garner some sort of attention from him even if it's just to have him say "I know cunt" because he knows that I am needy for him.

This is just not me. Not a minute goes by where I don't send Master a text about curling around his legs and snuggling him, or kneeling by him with my head on his lap, or even sending him my infamous 'needy pet alert' which basically tells him that I need his attention.

He loves that I am like this and tells me that every time I whine about hating being so needy (in between whining about needing to be near him of course ). I feel like I need Needy Pet's Anonymous- "Hi my name is Nala and I'm a needy pet." Grrrrr.

So yeah, I'm whining about whining and being needy and my dear friend Unca Hommy will probably tell me that this is another sign of emotional committment Yep I'm emotional and I need to be committed.

My slave is the same way.

I actually kind of like it. It makes Me feel important and needed. It's like I know My slave needs Me and thinks about Me all the time but when you're in a LDR I like a visual reminder of that fact every now and then.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Taking a moment to whine myself because I have to: Master's orders.

I am feeling super needy for Master and feeling very ashamed for it. Because I am so ashamed, Master wanted me to share how I am feeling here so that hopefully I will see that others can relate and I won't feel so bad about how I feel.

So here's the issue:

I have NEVER felt like this before. This needy, clingy, whiny state where all I want to do is be near Master or garner some sort of attention from him even if it's just to have him say "I know cunt" because he knows that I am needy for him.

This is just not me. Not a minute goes by where I don't send Master a text about curling around his legs and snuggling him, or kneeling by him with my head on his lap, or even sending him my infamous 'needy pet alert' which basically tells him that I need his attention.

He loves that I am like this and tells me that every time I whine about hating being so needy (in between whining about needing to be near him of course ). I feel like I need Needy Pet's Anonymous- "Hi my name is Nala and I'm a needy pet." Grrrrr.

So yeah, I'm whining about whining and being needy and my dear friend Unca Hommy will probably tell me that this is another sign of emotional committment Yep I'm emotional and I need to be committed.

Yes, I can relate. Especially to the part about hating feeling needy. I think the reason I hate it so much is it makes me unfocused and sometimes even bratty. It's not good. When I get in a really needy mood Daddy tends to reassure me and then gets firm with me. It helps for me. I don't think he really minds me being needy except for the results of that neediness.

Don't feel bad about being needy, I would assume it happens to most of us especially those of us in LDRs.

 

[kittenartist]

Well kitten, you made an important life decision that seems to me to be the most sensible for you. Instead of jumping in headfirst on emotional impulse, you are using your common sense and brain matter to keep your life on track. That is the kind of wisdom and inner strength that far too many women do not possess. Your new relationship with your family is so valuable. I am sorry you had to hit a brick wall in the relationship, but in my opinion you are doing the right thing. There is no reason you can't resume the relationship when he gets back to the states. If you both are still willing.

I appreciate that a lot. I tend to be ruled my emotions. I am not sure that I am acting on wisdom or foolishness, honestly. I just try and do what feels right. And right now this feels like the best thing... Even if it hurts.

 

[the captians wench]

While I can totally relate to the feeling needy, I don't so much relate to it being something unusual.

I've always been needy, since about the age of 5. It's just part of how I developed. I'm very needy, and clingy and that's part of why my ex husband and I split. My own mother some times will look at me and say "hunny, I love you, but you need to go sit some where else". So I do worry that I will push him away with my neediness.

There are very, very few people in this world that haven't pushed me away after having enough of me clinging onto them. He just happens to be one who didn't mind me laying, or touching him in some form at all times. He got used to it rather quickly actually. Altho the death grip on his hand as we strolled thru city center may have had something to do with that.

 

[myinnerslut]

add me to the needy club.

it helps to be physically marked. to have some reminder on my person. not that i need to be reminded, im not about to forget, but the reminder is beneficial all the same. trailing my fingers over the scar, or the burn, fingering the metal in my flesh, they all help with the needy.

temporary marks can be even better, as they can be personalized. taking a sharpie to my skin, where is it covered by my work clothes of course, leaves me with marks that fit whatever need Master recognizes in me. "property of R", "one week til Master's arrival", "slave", "owned", "Master's hungry c- well you get the idea . i cant say that one in person without blushing like mad either.

having the touchstone helps me with my needy cravings.

 

[KayKat]

WOOHOO see my ticker!

So happy, excited, nervous and scared shitless..LOL

 

[MasterPhoenix]

WOOHOO see my ticker!

So happy, excited, nervous and scared shitless..LOL

Sounds so long.... but will be here before we know it....

Just relax... it will be great...

 

[KayKat]

Sounds so long.... but will be here before we know it....

Just relax... it will be great...

Yes it does sound like a long time but it will get here before we know it..

It will be wonderful Master!

 

[kittenartist]

I realy hope things work out for you. My husband and I dated for over five years before we got married because we were both in college at the time and didn't think it was the best timing to get married. At around the 3rd yr the presssure of studies etc were too much for our relationship and we ended up breaking up. We got back together after about two months, got maaried 2 years later and have been very happily marred for 22 years.

Be patient with each other. Sorry if this sounds cliche but I really believe that if you were meant to be together you will be.

Hugs

I missed this earlier somehow...

What you said about if it is meant to be helps a lot... in a couple different ways. I appreciate it. I am feeling very "go with the flow" right now. Whatever will be will be...

 

[Adakgirl]

I can imagine you are KayKat. You are going to be scared shittless , until you are finally there and I bet then you will find that your scared shittlessness was unwarranted. I wish you all the best! Good luck!

I have NEVER felt like this before. This needy, clingy, whiny state where all I want to do is be near Master or garner some sort of attention from him even if it's just to have him say "I know cunt" because he knows that I am needy for him.

This is just not me. Not a minute goes by where I don't send Master a text about

I am not ashamed of my neediness, nor do I hate it, but I am quite surprised at myself for having these new feelings popping up out of the blue.. Almost shocked, because it is not me either.... not at all. I find myself searching for relieif. Since I am not allowed to orgasm without asking his permission.

This morning I got on my hands and knees, turned on my cam, clicked record and spanked my ass hard, counting the swats out with my long wooden suit brush. I reddened my ass good and ya know what? It really helped me today.

You are lucky he likes you being that way enough to allow you to text every moment. I was politely told that I had been leaving way too many messages all over for him and he liked that I leave him messages...but he wished I didn't leave him quite so many. LOL

 

[KayKat]

I can imagine you are KayKat. You are going to be scared shittless , until you are finally there and I bet then you will find that your scared shittlessness was unwarranted. I wish you all the best! Good luck!

Thanks Adakgirl...Oh I am sure it will be unwarrented...Thanks for the wishes and the good luck!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

just poppin in to say hello to everyone and letting everyone know i'm still breathing if anyone still cares. lots going on in my life these days and don't really feel like fighting my daughter for the computer so i'm not on much. i lurk on Lit more than anything anymore. hope everyone is doing well........

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

My slave is the same way.

I actually kind of like it. It makes Me feel important and needed. It's like I know My slave needs Me and thinks about Me all the time but when you're in a LDR I like a visual reminder of that fact every now and then.

Thanks for this Daddy2mylilgirl. Master tells me this all the time and I still can't quite grasp my head around it being a good thing. As for a visual reminder, we do that often also

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Yes, I can relate. Especially to the part about hating feeling needy. I think the reason I hate it so much is it makes me unfocused and sometimes even bratty. It's not good. When I get in a really needy mood Daddy tends to reassure me and then gets firm with me. It helps for me. I don't think he really minds me being needy except for the results of that neediness.

Don't feel bad about being needy, I would assume it happens to most of us especially those of us in LDRs.[/QUOTE]

I feel this way too, ecstaticsub. VERY unfocused, especially at work where I have a really mindless job. I don't think I'm so bratty as much insecure during these moments, like when Master doesn't answer a text fast enough even though I know he's working. The text usually asks him if I upset him though he is never remiss in telling me if I did and I should know better

Thanks for the encouragement. This is exactly what Master was hoping for when he had me make the post.

*hugs*

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Thanks for this 'sis.' I know you feel the way I do and I love your sharpie marker idea- can't wait to ask about this

Master is getting me a tattoo in April when I go back home- we'll have almost two weeks then to get more stuff done and that's on the agenda- I can imagine that will help me lots.

add me to the needy club.

it helps to be physically marked. to have some reminder on my person. not that i need to be reminded, im not about to forget, but the reminder is beneficial all the same. trailing my fingers over the scar, or the burn, fingering the metal in my flesh, they all help with the needy.

temporary marks can be even better, as they can be personalized. taking a sharpie to my skin, where is it covered by my work clothes of course, leaves me with marks that fit whatever need Master recognizes in me. "property of R", "one week til Master's arrival", "slave", "owned", "Master's hungry c- well you get the idea . i cant say that one in person without blushing like mad either.

having the touchstone helps me with my needy cravings.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I guess this is my worry too, wenchie, which I know is another reason why it bothers me so much that I'm this way.

*hugs*

While I can totally relate to the feeling needy, I don't so much relate to it being something unusual.

I've always been needy, since about the age of 5. It's just part of how I developed. I'm very needy, and clingy and that's part of why my ex husband and I split. My own mother some times will look at me and say "hunny, I love you, but you need to go sit some where else". So I do worry that I will push him away with my neediness.

There are very, very few people in this world that haven't pushed me away after having enough of me clinging onto them. He just happens to be one who didn't mind me laying, or touching him in some form at all times. He got used to it rather quickly actually. Altho the death grip on his hand as we strolled thru city center may have had something to do with that.

 

[myinnerslut]

Master is getting me a tattoo in April when I go back home- we'll have almost two weeks then to get more stuff done and that's on the agenda- I can imagine that will help me lots.

what of? ive been planning mine for months. i think we have finally decided on something.

 

[the captians wench]

just poppin in to say hello to everyone and letting everyone know i'm still breathing if anyone still cares. lots going on in my life these days and don't really feel like fighting my daughter for the computer so i'm not on much. i lurk on Lit more than anything anymore. hope everyone is doing well........

*waves*

I'm starting to loose track of when I've talked to him, how long it's been between chats like. I miss him like crazy! nextweek and the week after will be a bit better for us. I'm opening most of that week, and then I'm on vacation, so I'll be home when he is. Just enough time to spoil me before another long stretch and then I'll be there. *sigh*

 

[Adakgirl]

I really do feel for you wench. I don't think I would have the fortitude to handle only once a week contact. In fact I have broken off relationships in the 1st stages more than once because I need some kind of communication at least 3/4 times a week. Any less than that and I just don't "feel it". I know it it quite different with you two. You have my sympathy, I don''t know how you do it.

 

[the captians wench]

I really do feel for you wench. I don't think I would have the fortitude to handle only once a week contact. In fact I have broken off relationships in the 1st stages more than once because I need some kind of communication at least 3/4 times a week. Any less than that and I just don't "feel it". I know it it quite different with you two. You have my sympathy, I don''t know how you do it.

Practice.

In the begining our only arguments were over the time I wanted from him, and we did break up (for very short periods) a few times over the matter. Either me initiating it because of his lack of attention to me, or more often by his choice because he wanted me to have what I want, need, and what he fells I deserve. In the end though, we both realized it was pointless to split up. The pain of not having the contact he would like (let alone the amount that I would like) was no match for the pain of just the thought of not having the other in our life.

Some how it's easier now that I have confirmed dates when I'll actually be with him. It makes induring these times of little contact seem almost like a payment plan. I suffer through times of little contact in order to recieve time (this time 15days) with him in person.

The limited contact does make that time go slower though. It's like spending the night wide awake watching the stars, waiting for the brightness of the sun. But no sunrise will ever compair to his lips on mine when he collects me from the airport.

We did cheat a bit when we first decided that this was more than two adults having some kinky fun online. We dated/played with other people. I think it was a huge distraction for me, but I realized that I had a tendancy to displace affection. It was a bandaid really. An attempt to mask the pain of not having enough of his time, by filling it with attention from other people. It eased things, but it was all shallow, and eventually we ended that.

I do apreciate your kind regards. It helps some times to just get my frustration out into the world and out of my head.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

what of? ive been planning mine for months. i think we have finally decided on something.

As much as I would love to share, MIS, you'll have to wait until it's done

 

[MysteriousGirl]

A good item you can use for long distance dom for men and I guess women is to use a chasity lock, and send the key to your keymaster/mistress.

 

[myinnerslut]

As much as I would love to share, MIS, you'll have to wait until it's done

fair enough.