Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Toa_lin]

thanks DWB and sexy.

 

[myinnerslut]

*sings excitedly* one week, one week, one week......

 

[Toa_lin]

*sings excitedly* one week, one week, one week......

Congrats mis, I'd be excited too. Have fun in one week

 

[myinnerslut]

Congrats mis, I'd be excited too. Have fun in one week

thanks... i need to pack.. lets see

clothes

toys... everythign becuase i cant predict what hell want to use

my camera for some ropepictures... black sheets, fair skinned me, purple rope... im hoping for some really hot pictures

lingerie (though im not allowed to wear anything in his bed anyway so i dont know why i bother)

shower stuff... conditioner, bodywash, etc (hes a boy. enough said.)

i hope i have enough room in my suitcase

 

[HottieMama]

mis...i hope you have a GREAT time!!!!!!!!!







i miss him so much right now it hurts. i'm happy for him that he's off having fun with his friends but i miss the contact and i miss his voice....

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

thanks DWB and sexy.

You are most welcome!

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*sings excitedly* one week, one week, one week......

Great to hear MIS..have a most wonderful time

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*sings excitedly* one week, one week, one week......

heh heh I know that feeling...

 

[Dominoc]

Distance Domination

I liked the topic and wanted to redirect, as I see a page of digression.

When you're talking distance domination, are we talking about D/s relationships where there is real contact, but distance is involved, or are we talking about online only?

I have tried online (and surely it has some excitement to it), and I suppose it can work under the right circumstances. I could chat all day about this, but I don't want to waste time. I don't know if any of you have seen the B.E.S.T Slave training method, and I don't know if any one agrees or disagrees with it, but there is an element of exchange that is impossible to have in an online only relationship. Mind you there are degrees of success and failure, and this depends on how solid the relationship is and the commitment between the parties to make it work. Maybe pointing out the obvious. Punishing someone online or over the phone is not the same thing as a hand spanking flesh. Your sub may have a flogger at home, but is it really going to fly.

I like that some have mentioned that they never consider lying about their obedience, because obviously it is impossible to verify other than by intuition.

I'd be interested to hear how some of you have done it successfully, what rules are set forth, what sorts of activities work and which ones don't?

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

well dominoc some of us can only have ONLINE right now..Please do not come here and say that it is not possible to have such a relationship..I am in such a relationship that will lead to RL one day but he has commitments on his end that have to be taken care of..So do not question my commitment to him by saying it does not work because my relationship with master has been going on for 2 years now and still going strong!!!

 

[EmpressFi]

I've been with Master now for a year, and we're in an LDR. What makes it successful? It's what's been said now so many times, it's impossible to count.. communication.. communication and communication..and trust..

 

[myinnerslut]

two days! i am so excited.

i have to start packing... an adventure in and of itself, as my duffle bag is far too small to fit everything

 

[ecstaticsub]

two days! i am so excited.

i have to start packing... an adventure in and of itself, as my duffle bag is far too small to fit everything

I just repacked. I have 6 pairs of shoes, my latex spanking skirt and the hood I made. Those are the most improtant things. The rest of the big suitcase is full of lingerie, toys and other "stuff".

Have fun, I know I will

 

[Toa_lin]

well dominoc some of us can only have ONLINE right now..Please do not come here and say that it is not possible to have such a relationship..I am in such a relationship that will lead to RL one day but he has commitments on his end that have to be taken care of..So do not question my commitment to him by saying it does not work because my relationship with master has been going on for 2 years now and still going strong!!!

I agree 100%.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

two days! i am so excited.

i have to start packing... an adventure in and of itself, as my duffle bag is far too small to fit everything

Congrats MIS..Have a great time with A

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I just repacked. I have 6 pairs of shoes, my latex spanking skirt and the hood I made. Those are the most improtant things. The rest of the big suitcase is full of lingerie, toys and other "stuff".

Have fun, I know I will

Have a great time too Estaticsub...

 

[rida]

I liked the topic and wanted to redirect, as I see a page of digression.

When you're talking distance domination, are we talking about D/s relationships where there is real contact, but distance is involved, or are we talking about online only?

I have tried online (and surely it has some excitement to it), and I suppose it can work under the right circumstances. I could chat all day about this, but I don't want to waste time. I don't know if any of you have seen the B.E.S.T Slave training method, and I don't know if any one agrees or disagrees with it, but there is an element of exchange that is impossible to have in an online only relationship. Mind you there are degrees of success and failure, and this depends on how solid the relationship is and the commitment between the parties to make it work. Maybe pointing out the obvious. Punishing someone online or over the phone is not the same thing as a hand spanking flesh. Your sub may have a flogger at home, but is it really going to fly.

I like that some have mentioned that they never consider lying about their obedience, because obviously it is impossible to verify other than by intuition.

I'd be interested to hear how some of you have done it successfully, what rules are set forth, what sorts of activities work and which ones don't?

Personally I think it makes a big difference if the LDR is on-line only or is a lead up to a r/l meeting, however sporadic they might be. And I think the second scenario more likely to be successful.
I believe that very strong bonds can be made even with a purely on-line relationships, as was the case in the old days with purely s-mail correspondeces.

That being said, if the people involved in the on-line LDR relationship are only looking for a mental/emotional type of connection, it could be a very succesfull one. But if either of the party involved want/need the physical experience and the circumstances are such that it cannot be done, it can lead to the end.

As I am just dipping my toes into the whole on-line territory, my experiece is somewhat limited, so I am sure I have not covered many important point.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I agree 100%.

Thank you Toa...

 

[rida]

well dominoc some of us can only have ONLINE right now..Please do not come here and say that it is not possible to have such a relationship..I am in such a relationship that will lead to RL one day but he has commitments on his end that have to be taken care of..So do not question my commitment to him by saying it does not work because my relationship with master has been going on for 2 years now and still going strong!!!

I am very happy it is working for you!
I imagine that it is also very hard at times but knowing that one day you'll be together in R/L gives you a lot of strength.


and I didn't read it as Dominic post was questioning the possibility of a true commitment in a o/l LDR relationship ...

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I am very happy it is working for you!
I imagine that it is also very hard at times but knowing that one day you'll be together in R/L gives you a lot of strength.


and I didn't read it as Dominic post was questioning the possibility of a true commitment in a o/l LDR relationship ...

Thank you rida....It is very hard at times....

 

[myinnerslut]

i have been packing an unpacking and packing and unpacking etc etc for over two hours.

i think im at the point where i cant go any further without packing something im going to need in the next day and a half.


AND i think it will all fit in my small/medium sized duffle (yes, half the bag is filled with toys) with only some minor forcing

 

[rida]

i have been packing an unpacking and packing and unpacking etc etc for over two hours.

i think im at the point where i cant go any further without packing something im going to need in the next day and a half.


AND i think it will all fit in my small/medium sized duffle (yes, half the bag is filled with toys) with only some minor forcing

Haven't had the pleasure to have to pack for such an exciting trip ... but I do understand the trying to fit everything in! LOL!

Do you like jigsaw puzzles? That how I approach the whole packing affair ... and yes I pack and unpack and repack... and at the end it is always amazing how much stuff gets out of my bags!

Have fun!

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[myinnerslut]

Haven't had the pleasure to have to pack for such an exciting trip ... but I do understand the trying to fit everything in! LOL!

Do you like jigsaw puzzles? That how I approach the whole packing affair ... and yes I pack and unpack and repack... and at the end it is always amazing how much stuff gets out of my bags!

Have fun!

i find that rolling up all of my clothes leaves me with more room. its a trick my aunt taught me. she also said to lay out everything you want to pack then put away 2/3 of it since people tend to overpack. in this case though im safer overpacking since the weather by him is being unpredictable.

 

[Dominoc]

Just for clarification

well dominoc some of us can only have ONLINE right now..Please do not come here and say that it is not possible to have such a relationship..I am in such a relationship that will lead to RL one day but he has commitments on his end that have to be taken care of..So do not question my commitment to him by saying it does not work because my relationship with master has been going on for 2 years now and still going strong!!!

Yes, I wish to clarify. I saw this was a thread about support for online/distance domination. I certainly didn't come here to join the chorus of naysayers. I am quite sure it can work and work well. I have been involved with it myself, and experienced the pitfalls and pleasures, as I am sure All/all of us have. I actually suggested a query about what was working and what wasn't for those involved in it, from specific things people have found to work well, and work not so well. I have personal experiences, and I certainly am not here to say that anyone should or shouldn't attempt this at home (online/distance domination).

I did wonder whether we were talking about people who do see each other but have to be apart, or if we were talking about solely online. I do not pass judgment, and I must stress that I am a participant as well.

Regarding the B.E.S.T slave training method, it is not necessarily something I have experience with other than the bits and pieces I have used for online / long distance relationships (and btw, I am currently not involved in one, but would certainly not rule it out ever), but it is a method for slave training, not sub training; not necessarily something I totally take as personal gospel. Perhaps I might start a thread if there was interest. For anyone interested meanwhile, it is searchable on google, and a good read. There is mention of reactance and resistance, which I think from the author's POV require personal contact. Again, I do not wish to step on toes at all. Apologies for having caused a row. I would be very interested to hear from people who do this and hear what works.