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DomWharfsBitch said:
Thank you so much hon..Things are going great..Now just have to figure out when finances will allow us the time to get to meet *hugs*
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*giggles* get saving hon!! :catroar:
 
Kitten...i'm so glad you're having a great time.

i dream of the moment when i first get to see him face to face...It truly can't come soon enough.
 
DomWharfsBitch said:
About 2500 miles away from me..we are both here in the states
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Ahh..ok. We're 1700 some odd miles away. The sucky ironic thing is that if i never moved to KS, He would be an hour's drive away.

WHY i ask you....WHY?????????????????????????????????????

That said, He's away till the 4th on a fishing trip. He left this morning and i already miss him. :( Our contact will be limited at best for the next week. His cell doesn't work up there (wilderness area basically) and we're not sure if He'll have internet access at the lodge. :( i'll survive though, right????
 
HottieMama said:
Ahh..ok. We're 1700 some odd miles away. The sucky ironic thing is that if i never moved to KS, He would be an hour's drive away.

WHY i ask you....WHY?????????????????????????????????????

That said, He's away till the 4th on a fishing trip. He left this morning and i already miss him. :( Our contact will be limited at best for the next week. His cell doesn't work up there (wilderness area basically) and we're not sure if He'll have internet access at the lodge. :( i'll survive though, right????
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Yes you are far away too....You will make it through hon..it will be rough but you can do it!
 
I am brand new here, just discovered this site this morning! I have not been able to read all the posts on this thread, have you seen how many there are? Anyway, I am married and also have an online Dom, my husband knows of my Dom. I felt the need to comment on some of the posts made here.

I have only been with my Dom for about 2 1/2 months, we have met in person for drinks. He is able to control me through the internet and phone, yes I've disobeyed a few times but he has built such a desire for me to please him that when I don't, the shame from the thought of him being disappointed is more than I can take.

My Master is not into pain, unless it is in role-playing. He instead withholds pleasure from me. My normal state is one of constant arousal, I am not allowed to touch myself without permission and that is not punishment, that is just how it is. If allowed to touch and cum, then that is a reward from my regular state of arousal. I am allowed to cum and do whatever my husband wishes but the funny thing is, even my hubby allows me to cum and I do, I almost immediately get aroused again, knowing the Sir hasn't allowed me to yet. Very strange. He told me it would be that way with me and I'm not sure if it is because it is, or if it is because he told me it would be -- power of suggestion.

Another way he controls me is by requiring me to drink a certain amount of water during the day and then having to ask to pee in an email, or on the phone if he is at home. if he is not available and doesn't email permission back, I am to call him at his home and leave a vm of just me peeing. That certainly gets me in the right frame of mind. I'm to the point where when I have to pee, I start to submit knowing I'll have to ask soon and so my full bladder is making me horny. imagine that.

So when we started talking online, he knew I was married and we were constantly emailing each other and talking on the phone and I developed a huge dependency on him. I told him that my husband knows of us, my husband is kinky in his own right, just not quite the Dom that I need, but I wasn't sure if he'd ever let us play in person. My Dom was fine with that, said he would assume we'd never be together and if not, that was fine, we would always be friends.

Well, we met about a month ago for drinks and had a great time. He wouldn't let go of me by the train station and I cried the whole way home. I love my husband, but I love my Dom too in such a special way. He cares for me and holds my hand from so far away. Anyway, I finally got the nerve up to talk to my husband and he said he thought my Dom and I already played together when i went to see him, and has no problem with us getting together for sessions. but I had noticed since we were together, my Dom had become a bit distant, he was busy at work but he wasn't talking to me the same way. So we talked this week and he said he cares for me and wants to be with me, but all of a sudden it's hit him that whatever "we" do will affect my marriage and my 2 daughters. I don't picture us having sex, I just want to submit to him in person, have him restrain me, tease me, etc., but he is just uncomfortable with it now and has been since we met, hence the difference in his emails to me.

So that is how it is now. He's trying to decide in his heart if he wants to do this in person and have to live with the ramifications, which I dont' think there would be as hubby knows and to me, it's like therapy. And for me, it's heartbreaking because I was so excited when i got the go ahead from hubby, and now I don't know if we'll ever get to play like we want. I trust him with my heart, my soul, my body -- we live only 1 1/2 hours from each other and my husband trusts him and we have the same erotic notions -- what could be more perfect? It's funny, what I've loved about my Dom was how considerate and thougthful he is, that is the very thing keeping us apart. Can't stand it! Anyone else in a similar situation?

I'm sorry for the lengthy post, I hope I expressed myself correctly. I am only allowed on these sites for a bit on the weekends and so if I don't respond during the week, that is why.
 
Welcome, sirsprincess. :rose:

i can only imagine how it must feel to be in your shoes. i don't know if you're posting to ask for advice or not, but if i were you i would ask myself if the relationship is still worth it if you never take it into in-person meetings?!?! If the answer is No, then perhaps you need to look at someone else to fulfill that void for you. It sounds like you love your Dom a lot, but if the relationship doesn't work for you on ALL levels, then eventually you will get hurt.

i hope things all work out for the best....
 
thank you for your response. I have connected with this person on so many levels and there is no way that I would leave him if he decided he wasn't comfortable being with me. He is just not my Dom, he is my mentor, he helps me keep on task with my home-based business, he encourages me and is helping me with my self-esteem, and besides that we've become close friends and laugh and support each other constantly, I am a much calmer and happier person since he has been in my life and he has told me the positive impact I've had on his life too.

If it never happens, I'll deal with it then but for now, I'm just taking it one day at a time and truly enjoying his friendship. I hope that he'll eventually come around. Hubby has offered to talk to him to ensure that he's ok with it etc., but Dom said HE himself needs to be comfortable. My husband's only problem with me meeting with my Dom without him would be that he wouldn't be there to video it :)

I will add that we spoke this morning and it was a very positive conversation. He's been holding back for the past few weeks, but this morning was good and I felt like we connected. of course he decided today that we'll be adding pussy spankings if I don't listen to him, he was never in to pain I reminded him. He said he's running out of ideas and so had to do that with him on the phone today, did not like that at all, so I guess it's working.

I really don't know why I wrote, maybe to see if anyone else had a similar situation and how it worked out for them? It is very difficult being in 2 intense relationships with 2 different people, but so much of what he's doing with me has had such a positive affect on my home life and being with him in person I think would only increase that.
 
i COMPLETELY understand the whole not just my Dom...but my mentor, friend..etc... That's the type of relationship i have with LC. Of course, we also met when i was going through a "break-up" and he became a wonderful source of support that eventually just evolved into something else. (Although, if you read our early conversations, we were "dancing the dance" the whole time...just took a while for both of us to admit it. **sigh** i miss him right now.)

Anyway...sounds like you have a great relationship with both your Dom and your husband....just give it some time and see how things work out. i'm glad you had a good conversation with him today though. Perhaps you are back on the road to something more intense and fulfilling for the both of you.
 
Welcome to the thread Sirsprincess! :rose:

Just wanted to say a quick hi as i was passing through. Will definitely come back and read your post later.....I just need to eat right now lol.

I'm sure you will find everyone very welcoming not to mention its a great place for support and advice :)
 
HottieMama said:
i COMPLETELY understand the whole not just my Dom...but my mentor, friend..etc... That's the type of relationship i have with LC. Of course, we also met when i was going through a "break-up" and he became a wonderful source of support that eventually just evolved into something else. (Although, if you read our early conversations, we were "dancing the dance" the whole time...just took a while for both of us to admit it. **sigh** i miss him right now.)

Anyway...sounds like you have a great relationship with both your Dom and your husband....just give it some time and see how things work out. i'm glad you had a good conversation with him today though. Perhaps you are back on the road to something more intense and fulfilling for the both of you.
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Hey Hottie,

I hope things are going ok for you whilst LCs away :rose:
 
minx1 said:
Hey Hottie,

I hope things are going ok for you whilst LCs away :rose:
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Things are going ok, minx. Thanks for asking about me. When i signed on to Yahoo earlier tonight, i found 4 messages waiting for me one of which was so sweet it brought tears to my eyes... :heart: **sigh** 6 more days, but at least we know he has internet at the lodge.
 
HottieMama said:
Things are going ok, minx. Thanks for asking about me. When i signed on to Yahoo earlier tonight, i found 4 messages waiting for me one of which was so sweet it brought tears to my eyes... :heart: **sigh** 6 more days, but at least we know he has internet at the lodge.
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My pleasure Hottie. It sucks big time when your PYL is away eh. I am completely crap with it! lol

Glad he got to see he has been able to email you though hon. That should make all the difference! :)
 
Just about a month to go until I get to spend the weekend with Master. The wait is always like this.. every day is bittersweet.. one day closer.. but one more day of missing him so much
 
minx1 said:
My pleasure Hottie. It sucks big time when your PYL is away eh. I am completely crap with it! lol

Glad he got to see he has been able to email you though hon. That should make all the difference! :)
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It makes a HUGE difference...especially because even though he may not be making his own entries this week, i know he's reading the journal we keep and knows what's going on in my daily life.

**Sigh** Still miss Him though...but they say absence makes t6he heart grow fonder right????
 
HottieMama said:
It makes a HUGE difference...especially because even though he may not be making his own entries this week, i know he's reading the journal we keep and knows what's going on in my daily life.

**Sigh** Still miss Him though...but they say absence makes t6he heart grow fonder right????
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*giggles* yup, i'm certainly counting on that!

Thats a really nice idea Hottie....keeping a journal together. Is it a public one or just kept between the two of you?
It is lovely to read/know what your SO is doing in their day to day lives, not to mention conforting when they are away.
 
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