Distance Domination-Support Thread

[minx1]

Hi Minx,

Thanks for the well wishes. I'm a bit off kilter right now. Actually, my heart hurts almost literally. I think I need to step back from online crap but it's so hard to resist when it is your only outlet.

I hope you are good too. I know you've had a hard time of it the last few weeks.

{{hugs}}

Ivy

*smile* yeah really hard. lol big time.

Its starting to get easier for lots of reasons, though I still have my off days

I was the same as you...here was pretty much my only outlet and I needed it, so for me staying away too long wasn't an option at the moment. Though I had days where I lurked rather than posted.

I hope you start to feel a bit better and your heart begins to hurt a little less.

I really empathise with what you are feeling hon and I'm wishing good things for you

 

[catalina_francisco]

*smile* yeah really hard. lol big time.

Its starting to get easier for lots of reasons, though I still have my off days

I was the same as you...here was pretty much my only outlet and I needed it, so for me staying away too long wasn't an option at the moment. Though I had days where I lurked rather than posted.

I hope you start to feel a bit better and your heart begins to hurt a little less.

I really empathise with what you are feeling hon and I'm wishing good things for you

It is good to hear you are starting to feel better some times...it is never easy. My thoughts are also with you Ivy. If I had my way we would all have our perfect one and storm clouds would never darken our journey.

Catalina

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

Thank you Minx and Cat. You're both so sweet. Minx, I'm glad you are doing better. I'm coming up on the crossroads I think with my marriage and so that is a big part of what's going on. I'm just trying to step back and do things wisely and not rush right in like I have in the past and leave myself hanging out to dry.

{{hugs}}

Ivy

 

[Pseudonomic]

Good thinking Ivy, you never want to make rash decisions. Decisions born of haste and desperation rarely serve their intended purpose. Think long and hard about your problems and usually you'll find the answers you need. Or consult one of these excellent people on Lit forums about it, they could definitely give you perspective, not me Psych student biases me ) Best of luck to you hun!!

 

[minx1]

It is good to hear you are starting to feel better some times...it is never easy. My thoughts are also with you Ivy. If I had my way we would all have our perfect one and storm clouds would never darken our journey.

Catalina

Thankyou Cat, I am definitely starting to feeling better

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Stopping in to say hi to all..

Hope everyone is doing good...

 

[minx1]

Thank you Minx and Cat. You're both so sweet. Minx, I'm glad you are doing better. I'm coming up on the crossroads I think with my marriage and so that is a big part of what's going on. I'm just trying to step back and do things wisely and not rush right in like I have in the past and leave myself hanging out to dry.

{{hugs}}

Ivy

You sound like you have your head screwed on Ivy. Reaching that point in your marriage is never an easy one....I have been there myself. As the saying goes fools rush in...so take the time, as you have said, when reaching your conclusions. Whatever the outcome, I hope it works out well for you.

*hugs*

 

[UK_Strawberry]

I have finally accepted that Cream and I are over. Now I have to move on. I only hope I can be as strong as Minx and Ivy. I guess only time will tell. Right now? I feel as if my life is over. Don't know what else to say.

 

[minx1]

I have finally accepted that Cream and I are over. Now I have to move on. I only hope I can be as strong as Minx and Ivy. I guess only time will tell. Right now? I feel as if my life is over. Don't know what else to say.

Hell hon......really, I have hardly been strong. Honestly I completely went to pieces. Ask everyone lol....I think most shared in the breakup (and not through choice)!

*huge hugs* You know, its horrible....I know, and there is nothing that anyone can say that will stop you hurting, unfortunately. I felt exactly the same as you. I was gutted, devastated and felt that my life as a subbie had been ripped from me. And on top of that.....there was him. I loved him, wanted him as my Master...to be his. I felt completely and utterly lost.

I do know how you are feeling hon and its fucking awful. I feel for you, I really do. Its good you are here though, thats whats important. To be around people, at least when you feel like it, who understand and can offer you some support...whether its a shoulder to cry on, an open pm box..whatever.

Take each day at a time and its true bit by bit you will start to feel a bit better. It won't happen overnight for sure...its been over 4 weeks for me and its still hurts. But it will start to hurt you less. just hang in there hon and if you need to chat PM ok?

 

[Toa_lin]

I have finally accepted that Cream and I are over. Now I have to move on. I only hope I can be as strong as Minx and Ivy. I guess only time will tell. Right now? I feel as if my life is over. Don't know what else to say.

I'm sooo sorry to hear you two broke up. But it IS good to see you here, if onlyfor a short time. We're all here for you, cus that's what this thread is about. Congratulations on the good-news... and an understanding shoulder to cry on during the bad.

 

[myinnerslut]

I have finally accepted that Cream and I are over. Now I have to move on. I only hope I can be as strong as Minx and Ivy. I guess only time will tell. Right now? I feel as if my life is over. Don't know what else to say.

{{Hug}} x 1,000,000

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

I have finally accepted that Cream and I are over. Now I have to move on. I only hope I can be as strong as Minx and Ivy. I guess only time will tell. Right now? I feel as if my life is over. Don't know what else to say.

Strawberry, I think someone mentioned this but have you considered changing your name? Not sure it would help much but might be like a new start kind of thing. Don't let a bad experience discourage you from finding what you need.

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

I have finally accepted that Cream and I are over. Now I have to move on. I only hope I can be as strong as Minx and Ivy. I guess only time will tell. Right now? I feel as if my life is over. Don't know what else to say.

I'm glad that you have accepted this sweetie. I'm not that strong as I have only accepted this in my mind and haven't confronted the person I need to. So, don't sell yourself short. You are very strong.

Ivy

 

[UK_Strawberry]

You know, its horrible....I know, and there is nothing that anyone can say that will stop you hurting, unfortunately. I felt exactly the same as you. I was gutted, devastated and felt that my life as a subbie had been ripped from me. And on top of that.....there was him. I loved him, wanted him as my Master...to be his. I felt completely and utterly lost.

Firstly thanks to everyone for the support. It is much appreciated.

Your words above Minx describe how I feel very well. It's not just about the loss of my D/s relationship, in fact it's not that at all. I'm 40, I've never been in love, ever! Until I met him. Now I can't see that I will ever stop loving him. I know things will get better over time, but that doesn't help the pain of here and now - and I know I'm preaching to the choir here !!

I had to take a couple of days off work this week - couldn't speak to anyone without crying - but I was back in the remainder of the week and it helped a lot to be busy (the company must be over the moon with the amount of work I got through !!). So I guess now I've accepted it the only thing I can do is keep busy - so house cleaning it is !!!

Regarding chaging my login id. Not sure about that. I'll keep it in mind, I can certainly see the logic behind it.

Thanks again all.

 

[minx1]

Firstly thanks to everyone for the support. It is much appreciated.

Your words above Minx describe how I feel very well. It's not just about the loss of my D/s relationship, in fact it's not that at all. I'm 40, I've never been in love, ever! Until I met him. Now I can't see that I will ever stop loving him. I know things will get better over time, but that doesn't help the pain of here and now - and I know I'm preaching to the choir here !!

I had to take a couple of days off work this week - couldn't speak to anyone without crying - but I was back in the remainder of the week and it helped a lot to be busy (the company must be over the moon with the amount of work I got through !!). So I guess now I've accepted it the only thing I can do is keep busy - so house cleaning it is !!!

Regarding chaging my login id. Not sure about that. I'll keep it in mind, I can certainly see the logic behind it.

Thanks again all.

*huge hugs* no worries Strawberry, remember If you do want to chat PM me eh.

What have you been up to today?

 

[CutieMouse]

Strawberry, you never have to *stop* loving him... Love is an emotion and we should respect our emotions. Give yourself time, and the emotions you've wrapped up in him will mellow;you'll probably still love him, but that unrequited Love will stop running your life. Then you take the good and the bad, and use it as a tool to evaluate the next relationship; to see Love in unexpected places, because now you know how it feels.

 

[UK_Strawberry]

Strawberry, you never have to *stop* loving him... Love is an emotion and we should respect our emotions. Give yourself time, and the emotions you've wrapped up in him will mellow;you'll probably still love him, but that unrequited Love will stop running your life. Then you take the good and the bad, and use it as a tool to evaluate the next relationship; to see Love in unexpected places, because now you know how it feels.

CM I bow to you wise words. I may not feel what you are saying at the moment but I understand completely. You are right. Each experience we have in our lives helps us to understand and evaluate the next. Wise words indeed - thank you.

Minx - not much hun. Pay day yesterday so did a bit of shopping. House shopping - stuff I wasn't going to do because I had planned to move to London. I'm a girl, what can I say, spending money is always good !! LOL

As for Sunday - house cleaning - big time !! LOL

Missing him a lot right now.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Strawberry I am so sorry about Cream..My heart goes out to you...I am here if you want someone to talk to!

Hi everyone hope all are doing as good as they can!

CutieMouse so glad to see you stop by on this thread..I read your stuff on threads and I hope things continue to go well for you!

 

[CutieMouse]

They aren't really *my* words, Strawberry... when I was trying to reassure the gentleman I'm going to see in a couple weeks, that I was over the non-relationship LDR I'd been in for the last 2 years, he pointed out it isn't really necessary to cut yourself off from Loving someone, even if things change and it doesn't work out. Feelings are feelings, and if you don't respect them, they'll eat you alive.

Is it odd that I spent 2 years in a different non-relationship (wry humor there), with the idea of "maybe" seeing each other floated past my mind every few months (only to have a reason why it couldn't happen appear), and that didn't make me nearly as impatient as I've felt over the last few days, meeting someone amazing, knowing I'll be flying out to see him soon?

(only 11 more days...)

 

[myinnerslut]

They aren't really *my* words, Strawberry... when I was trying to reassure the gentleman I'm going to see in a couple weeks, that I was over the non-relationship LDR I'd been in for the last 2 years, he pointed out it isn't really necessary to cut yourself off from Loving someone, even if things change and it doesn't work out. Feelings are feelings, and if you don't respect them, they'll eat you alive.

Is it odd that I spent 2 years in a different non-relationship (wry humor there), with the idea of "maybe" seeing each other floated past my mind every few months (only to have a reason why it couldn't happen appear), and that didn't make me nearly as impatient as I've felt over the last few days, meeting someone amazing, knowing I'll be flying out to see him soon?

(only 11 more days...)

nope, not at all

while im away during the school year i miss A terribly, but when i have a set date to get to see him again, especially when its within a week or two, i get horribly impatient

 

[littleone77]

nope, not at all

while im away during the school year i miss A terribly, but when i have a set date to get to see him again, especially when its within a week or two, i get horribly impatient

LOL.

I am impatient now and I have 4 more months to go.

 

[Pseudonomic]

8 Months waiting here...

 

[myinnerslut]

stupid punishment *gruble grumble grumble*

i fell asleep with my collar on last night. against the rules so he chain doesnt snap in my sleep. i didnt mean to, i was just so tired i crashed. and now the punishment that doesnt end till tuesday will almost certianly be extended another few days. i want to cum

i almost (not quite, but almost) wish i was temporarily away from A again just so i could get through this!

 

[CutieMouse]

stupid punishment *gruble grumble grumble*

i fell asleep with my collar on last night. against the rules so he chain doesnt snap in my sleep. i didnt mean to, i was just so tired i crashed. and now the punishment that doesnt end till tuesday will almost certianly be extended another few days. i want to cum

i almost (not quite, but almost) wish i was temporarily away from A again just so i could get through this!

No disrespect, but does the boy have more than one tool in his "discipline" box? The only punishment I ever hear you mention is not being allowed to climax... which (IMO) is a rather lazy way to order out a punishment- especially if it's the one you use all the freaking time. Odd analogy, but the mom in me is also sitting here thinking what happens when you punish kids in the exact same way over and over and over... the punishment gets old, annoying, and loses it's effectiveness- which renders the "teaching" aspect of said punishment useless.

Of course my perspective also comes from a "wouldn't work here" standpoint, given that if I don't climax regularly, I lose all interest in sex- which means a Lover would be left with a cardboard stiff Barbie doll lying underneath him, mentally ticking through her grocery list, as a result of his "punishment"- which means (in the end) he'd be suffering.

 

[myinnerslut]

No disrespect, but does the boy have more than one tool in his "discipline" box? The only punishment I ever hear you mention is not being allowed to climax... which (IMO) is a rather lazy way to order out a punishment- especially if it's the one you use all the freaking time. Odd analogy, but the mom in me is also sitting here thinking what happens when you punish kids in the exact same way over and over and over... the punishment gets old, annoying, and loses it's effectiveness- which renders the "teaching" aspect of said punishment useless.

Of course my perspective also comes from a "wouldn't work here" standpoint, given that if I don't climax regularly, I lose all interest in sex- which means a Lover would be left with a cardboard stiff Barbie doll lying underneath him, mentally ticking through her grocery list, as a result of his "punishment"- which means (in the end) he'd be suffering.

yes, he does. he's just found that if he needs to punish me while im already being punished in this way, its very effective for him to just extend the already existing punishment. other punishments arnt often things that last days at a time, so i dont often mention them on lit unless they are aplicible to the situation. when i mention this one, its usually cuase im frustrated.