Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Hummingbyrd]

hey Hummingbyrd, you mean you want to go visit him before the arranged meet in six months? How long have you been together?

Just a few weeks, yes, too soon I know, but it works, you know? We're looking for a Domme to join us, that's why you see the ad bumped up. It isn't so much an arranged meet in six months, it's that he's moving here for work, at least temporarilly. I don't want to wait that long to meet. It's Saturday night and we each went out but not together. It's Saturday night, I went out, he went out. Seperately. We could have been out together and made the evening part of our play.

Put it this way, if I'd had to wait longer than six months, I wouldn't be in this. I had doubt on this one but we have so much in common. I'm just really visceral, I guess. I want the real thing and I'm being impatient and whiney.

 

[minx1]

Just a few weeks, yes, too soon I know, but it works, you know? We're looking for a Domme to join us, that's why you see the ad bumped up. It isn't so much an arranged meet in six months, it's that he's moving here for work, at least temporarilly. I don't want to wait that long to meet. It's Saturday night and we each went out but not together. It's Saturday night, I went out, he went out. Seperately. We could have been out together and made the evening part of our play.

Put it this way, if I'd had to wait longer than six months, I wouldn't be in this. I had doubt on this one but we have so much in common. I'm just really visceral, I guess. I want the real thing and I'm being impatient and whiney.

Well my own situation may have been very different to yours, but we certainly have the impatient and whiney factor in common lol.

Its only a word of caution....but as I say my own circumstances may be far removed from yours. I don't know the basis on which you got together in the first place and what both of your expectations were when you set out.

I met my Master last September after I advertised in the personals on Lit. I was exploring my submissiveness for the first time and wanted to find out how far I wanted to take things...into real time or not and to what degree. When we met, the emphasis was very much on online. Things changed and we became emotionally involved quickly and I have to say were pretty damn happy. So it seemed natural that we would want to take it further and get together. I was going out to Oz in September/October for some short term work so that we could spend some time together. So far so good.

But somewhere along the line our focus (mainly on my part I have to say) became completely directed on meeting...when it would be, how it would be. I kinda lost the 'now' part. I demanded more from him and in a way the dynamics of our D/s relationship became somewhat blurred. My god he was so patient with me, but in the end he released me. Its four weeks this Wednesday and I feel every moment of it.

Hindsight is a marvelous thing, remind me to have some before, next time lol

I wish I had focused on what we had and why we were together in the first place rather than on what was going to be, so much.

You have only known him a few weeks and yeah its not surprising that you are excited about being together, but you will be in a few months and really its surprising how quickly that will go. In the meantime enjoy getting to know eachother and building a strong bond. If you feel you really can't go all that time, speak to him, you could suggest visiting him for a weekend or something in a couple of months. Just be careful of becoming so preoccupied with it that it becomes the main emphasis in your relationship.

I did and I lost something very special and someone who is still very important to me.

Good luck HB,

 

[Hummingbyrd]

Well my own situation may have been very different to yours, but we certainly have the impatient and whiney factor in common lol.

Its only a word of caution....but as I say my own circumstances may be far removed from yours. I don't know the basis on which you got together in the first place and what both of your expectations were when you set out.

I met my Master last September after I advertised in the personals on Lit. I was exploring my submissiveness for the first time and wanted to find out how far I wanted to take things...into real time or not and to what degree. When we met, the emphasis was very much on online. Things changed and we became emotionally involved quickly and I have to say were pretty damn happy. So it seemed natural that we would want to take it further and get together. I was going out to Oz in September/October for some short term work so that we could spend some time together. So far so good.

But somewhere along the line our focus (mainly on my part I have to say) became completely directed on meeting...when it would be, how it would be. I kinda lost the 'now' part. I demanded more from him and in a way the dynamics of our D/s relationship became somewhat blurred. My god he was so patient with me, but in the end he released me. Its four weeks this Wednesday and I feel every moment of it.

Hindsight is a marvelous thing, remind me to have some before, next time lol

I wish I had focused on what we had and why we were together in the first place rather than on what was going to be, so much.

You have only known him a few weeks and yeah its not surprising that you are excited about being together, but you will be in a few months and really its surprising how quickly that will go. In the meantime enjoy getting to know eachother and building a strong bond. If you feel you really can't go all that time, speak to him, you could suggest visiting him for a weekend or something in a couple of months. Just be careful of becoming so preoccupied with it that it becomes the main emphasis in your relationship.

I did and I lost something very special and someone who is still very important to me.

Good luck HB,

Oh sweetheart I'm so sorry! ((((((massive hug)))))) I've been in LDR's before and it's just so hard, isn't it? That's why I'm venting about it I guess. I'm trying to focus on the now and it's hard to do sometimes. Part of the reason we're looking for a Domme is to ease that in the interim, I think.

 

[minx1]

Oh sweetheart I'm so sorry! ((((((massive hug)))))) I've been in LDR's before and it's just so hard, isn't it? That's why I'm venting about it I guess. I'm trying to focus on the now and it's hard to do sometimes. Part of the reason we're looking for a Domme is to ease that in the interim, I think.

thanks for the Hugs!

I am doing ok. Actually thats a huge fat lie *laugh*

I miss him soooooo much! You are right LDRs are difficult, but I have learned many important lessons from this one. Mistakes I won't be making again.

Really best of luck hon. I hope it all works out well for you. Hows the Domme search coming on?

 

[Hummingbyrd]

thanks for the Hugs!

I am doing ok. Actually thats a huge fat lie *laugh*

I miss him soooooo much! You are right LDRs are difficult, but I have learned many important lessons from this one. Mistakes I won't be making again.

Really best of luck hon. I hope it all works out well for you. Hows the Domme search coming on?

No it's not been enough time to be ok yet sweetie (((hug))) but it will get better. You have a sense of humor so that's a good start. Well he saw a Domme in my town that blogs on Yahoo -- he chatted with her about me and she said to have me contact her. Hopefully we'll talk soon and see if it's a good fit

 

[minx1]

No it's not been enough time to be ok yet sweetie (((hug))) but it will get better. You have a sense of humor so that's a good start. Well he saw a Domme in my town that blogs on Yahoo -- he chatted with her about me and she said to have me contact her. Hopefully we'll talk soon and see if it's a good fit

oh thats good....well fingers crossed for you hon!

and yeah, me and my sense of humour are together for the duration lol

To be honest it keeps me sane. If I didn't laugh I would cry and I prefer to laugh!

 

[the captians wench]

Hi there wenchie..Hope you are doing good

I've been worse....just busy busy busy. *sigh*

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I've been worse....just busy busy busy. *sigh*

*Hugs* to you..I hope that you are getting to spend some time with your Master

 

[Pseudonomic]

Just got into one

Hey, I just got into an online relationship. It's a lot of fun when we do talk, but she's a rebellious one Enjoys what little punishment I dole out almost more >.< Hope everyone is doing well and making the most of what they have!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

those words mean more to me than You could ever possibly know. *sighs* i love You so much, and i'm sorry for the hurt i've put You through, and for not being honest with You sooner, i just didn't know how or have the words i needed to say. i was confused myself and didn't know what i wanted, i still don't really. but i do know together we'll find our way and that's what matters. thank You for being understanding. wherever this new journey takes us, i know You'll always have my heart. *smiles* i love You /ends the back and forth banter/

and you have my heart... and you have had it for a long time...

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Hi MP..hope you and Rose are doing good!

 

[UK_Strawberry]

*laugh* cleaning works for me too. My house has never looked as clean as it has these last few weeks

Looks like I'm joining you cleaning. I feel totally lost.

 

[minx1]

Looks like I'm joining you cleaning. I feel totally lost.

Hey are you ok hon?

 

[UK_Strawberry]

It's over between Cream and I. The worst thing about it is I'm not even sure why. There's no closure. I feel completely lost.

Just want to say thanks and bye to you guys. I won't be arount lit anymore. I can't see me having a D/s relationship with anyone else. Hell I can't even see me having a relationship with anyone.

I was alone before we met and had been for a long time. I held back at the beginning but then I let go completely and gave him my heart. I don't want it back. We may not be together any more but he still owns me. He always will. He was the one, he is the one.

 

[minx1]

It's over between Cream and I. The worst thing about it is I'm not even sure why. There's no closure. I feel completely lost.

Just want to say thanks and bye to you guys. I won't be arount lit anymore. I can't see me having a D/s relationship with anyone else. Hell I can't even see me having a relationship with anyone.

I was alone before we met and had been for a long time. I held back at the beginning but then I let go completely and gave him my heart. I don't want it back. We may not be together any more but he still owns me. He always will. He was the one, he is the one.

Oh hon *hugs* I am really sorry to hear that! I can completely empathise with how you must be feeling right now. If you need an ear, feel free to pm me chick

 

[myinnerslut]

hi wench! long time no see. and MP. nice to see you also and i hope everything is going ell ith you and rose. and hello hummingbyrd. i know that bing LDR is a pain in the ass, but i hope that you find it worth it. {{hug}}

as for me, things are ok. one week down and one to go with my punishment. its a lot harder then i thought it would be, since he treats me no differently then if i werent punished. he still touches me, plays with me and fucks me just as much as he did before, which is driving me insane. at least its halfway over.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Welcome to the newbies of the thread..Hope you find a great place here for yourselves

UK Strawberry so sorry to hear about you and Cream not being together anymore...

Minx..how are you my friend?? I hope you are doing good!

Hey Mis..good to hear from you...Man that has to be so rough and to have A fucking you and you still can't cum that would drive me insane..

Things here on my end are wonderful.Master and I had a wonderful time earlier today

 

[kayte]

It's over between Cream and I. The worst thing about it is I'm not even sure why. There's no closure. I feel completely lost.

Just want to say thanks and bye to you guys. I won't be arount lit anymore. I can't see me having a D/s relationship with anyone else. Hell I can't even see me having a relationship with anyone.

I was alone before we met and had been for a long time. I held back at the beginning but then I let go completely and gave him my heart. I don't want it back. We may not be together any more but he still owns me. He always will. He was the one, he is the one.

Strawberry ~ I had that happen to me a few years ago with someone. He ended it and I never knew why. I had support from friends of mine in R/L who knew about it and believe me that helped me get my head back on straight. I took a hiatus from Lit for about 4-5 months. I did return as I have many friends here. And I am in a different relationship, have been for quite some time. You are in my thoughts hon.

 

[littleone77]

Strawberry I think you will be in all of our thoughts.

Please try to remember that it isn't meant to be and take comfort in what is in store for you.

About Lit...perhaps you could return, but as someone else? Create a new id apart from this one so it would be easier to move on.

 

[PrimalGirl]

Ohhh..Strawberry..I feel for you.. Im sooo sorry ((HUGS)) if you wanna chat- PM me...

 

[myinnerslut]

Hey Mis..good to hear from you...Man that has to be so rough and to have A fucking you and you still can't cum that would drive me insane..

i cant decide which is worse... that he IS still fucking me or if he stopped

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

i cant decide which is worse... that he IS still fucking me or if he stopped

Yes that is a tough call

 

[minx1]

Minx..how are you my friend?? I hope you are doing good!

Hey Mis..good to hear from you...Man that has to be so rough and to have A fucking you and you still can't cum that would drive me insane..

Things here on my end are wonderful.Master and I had a wonderful time earlier today

Hi hon! Yeah I'm fine thanks. Glad things are going so great for you and your M

Mis....yup that must be really tough! Hope your last few days go quickly enough..

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Hi hon! Yeah I'm fine thanks. Glad things are going so great for you and your M

Mis....yup that must be really tough! Hope your last few days go quickly enough..

Hey Hon..Glad that you are doing fine..I hope you are...

 

[myinnerslut]

Mis....yup that must be really tough! Hope your last few days go quickly enough..

thanks, so do i. i took a nice set of pictures yesturday of me in a corset, matching thong, high heels, and black collor with the O ring in celebration of it being half over yesturday.