Distance Domination-Support Thread

[intothewoods]

Hey everyone, and thank you for the hugs, DWB.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Hey everyone, and thank you for the hugs, DWB.

You are most welcome..are you feeling any better tonight?

 

[intothewoods]

You are most welcome..are you feeling any better tonight?

Eh, a little. I'm just drained. And trying to accept the whole submissive thing. You know, it's one thing to say I like kinky sex. Not such a big deal. I mean, at the end of the day, I'm pretty open-minded about sex. I was raised to be pretty liberal and open-minded, and most of my friends are the same. But it's another thing to say I want the power exchange outside of the bedroom as well. And it's not as though I need to wear it on a tshirt. But I feel so much shame. I'm a feminist. I present myself as a very strong individual - I'm a professional, and I'm confident, I speak my mind, yada yada. And I know my Master doesn't want to change that, and loves me for it.

I'm just struggling with the shame. What can I say? I am struggling to accept myself.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Eh, a little. I'm just drained. And trying to accept the whole submissive thing. You know, it's one thing to say I like kinky sex. Not such a big deal. I mean, at the end of the day, I'm pretty open-minded about sex. I was raised to be pretty liberal and open-minded, and most of my friends are the same. But it's another thing to say I want the power exchange outside of the bedroom as well. And it's not as though I need to wear it on a tshirt. But I feel so much shame. I'm a feminist. I present myself as a very strong individual - I'm a professional, and I'm confident, I speak my mind, yada yada. And I know my Master doesn't want to change that, and loves me for it.

I'm just struggling with the shame. What can I say? I am struggling to accept myself.

Sorry you are so drained..It is hard to accept the submissiveness...Do you feel you have lost some of your individuality by being a submissive? I hope you can accept yourself itw...I am here if you need a shoulder to lean on

 

[intothewoods]

Sorry you are so drained..It is hard to accept the submissiveness...Do you feel you have lost some of your individuality by being a submissive? I hope you can accept yourself itw...I am here if you need a shoulder to lean on

No, I don't feel like I've lost my individuality at all. It's just so totally antithetical to the way I was raised and everything I've always thought I believed about relationships.

 

[Bandit58]

Eh, a little. I'm just drained. And trying to accept the whole submissive thing. You know, it's one thing to say I like kinky sex. Not such a big deal. I mean, at the end of the day, I'm pretty open-minded about sex. I was raised to be pretty liberal and open-minded, and most of my friends are the same. But it's another thing to say I want the power exchange outside of the bedroom as well. And it's not as though I need to wear it on a tshirt. But I feel so much shame. I'm a feminist. I present myself as a very strong individual - I'm a professional, and I'm confident, I speak my mind, yada yada. And I know my Master doesn't want to change that, and loves me for it.

I'm just struggling with the shame. What can I say? I am struggling to accept myself.

Read this post by catalina, it's in the discussion about the "surrendered wives" item I started it's called "For the Aussies on here".

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=22895087&postcount=17

FWIW in our circle of (vanilla) friends our relationship seems to be the one working the best Many of the guys are complaining they don't get any, and the wives don't seem happy either. Mind you I've had some strange looks when I start doing things for Him, and when we kiss and cuddle or hold hands.

I will admit to feeling some shame and confusion at the start. Mostly because I had discovered I was a bit of a masochist and really thought I was strange to be "enjoying that type of thing". Master explained it to me as "It's something that's wired in you. You can't fight it so you might as well enjoy it and go with the flow".

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

No, I don't feel like I've lost my individuality at all. It's just so totally antithetical to the way I was raised and everything I've always thought I believed about relationships.

I can understand that totally..I know what you are saying...

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Read this post by catalina, it's in the discussion about the "surrendered wives" item I started it's called "For the Aussies on here".

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=22895087&postcount=17

FWIW in our circle of (vanilla) friends our relationship seems to be the one working the best Many of the guys are complaining they don't get any, and the wives don't seem happy either. Mind you I've had some strange looks when I start doing things for Him, and when we kiss and cuddle or hold hands.

I will admit to feeling some shame and confusion at the start. Mostly because I had discovered I was a bit of a masochist and really thought I was strange to be "enjoying that type of thing". Master explained it to me as "It's something that's wired in you. You can't fight it so you might as well enjoy it and go with the flow".

It was weird for me too at first..I didn't know how to act or think but then it is just natural to me now..Everything is done for Master which reinforces my submissiveness nature I already had before I met master but didn't realize..

 

[intothewoods]

Read this post by catalina, it's in the discussion about the "surrendered wives" item I started it's called "For the Aussies on here".

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=22895087&postcount=17

FWIW in our circle of (vanilla) friends our relationship seems to be the one working the best Many of the guys are complaining they don't get any, and the wives don't seem happy either. Mind you I've had some strange looks when I start doing things for Him, and when we kiss and cuddle or hold hands.

I will admit to feeling some shame and confusion at the start. Mostly because I had discovered I was a bit of a masochist and really thought I was strange to be "enjoying that type of thing". Master explained it to me as "It's something that's wired in you. You can't fight it so you might as well enjoy it and go with the flow".

Thank you, Bandit. I do believe in freedom of choice. I really do. I don't think henpecked husbands and overbearing wives are somehow better. A therapist would look at the Daddy Dom dynamic (one aspect of our relationship) and think it's emotionally unhealthy. Am I emotionally unhealthy if this brings me happiness?

 

[Bandit58]

Thank you, Bandit. I do believe in freedom of choice. I really do. I don't think henpecked husbands and overbearing wives are somehow better. A therapist would look at the Daddy Dom dynamic (one aspect of our relationship) and think it's emotionally unhealthy. Am I emotionally unhealthy if this brings me happiness?

LOL if that was the case then all of us would be considered "emotionally unhealthy" for being in the relationships we have.

My first marriage was vanilla, and emotionally abusive. In that case my submission was misplaced in that I married someone who took advantage of my submissive nature in order to assert his domineering one. I would say that first marriage was much more "emotionally unhealthy" than the one I'm in now, where I'm loved and appreciated and shown it every day

 

[intothewoods]

LOL if that was the case then all of us would be considered "emotionally unhealthy" for being in the relationships we have.

My first marriage was vanilla, and emotionally abusive. In that case my submission was misplaced in that I married someone who took advantage of my submissive nature in order to assert his domineering one. I would say that first marriage was much more "emotionally unhealthy" than the one I'm in now, where I'm loved and appreciated and shown it every day

I know. Some people would consider us all emotionally unhealthy. My soon to be ending marriage is vanilla, and not emotionally abusive. But I am not happy. And neither is he.

ETA: But the fact that so many people would be confused by what I am working towards, people I do respect, is just hard.

 

[intothewoods]

Sorry for being a downer. And thanks all for your comments. I know I will come to accept myself in time.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Sorry for being a downer. And thanks all for your comments. I know I will come to accept myself in time.

Despite how hard things are now, I know eventually I'll be with my Master, and the journey will have been worth it. We're getting closer every day, and I'm so looking forward to the day we meet.

I remember that feeling... and then how wonderous the first time together was....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Wow, I'm floored that this thread is still going so strong! It's awesome to see. Just thought I'd drop in and wish all of you good luck, best wishes.

Good to see you CC

 

[littleone77]

*small nods*

Eh, a little. I'm just drained. And trying to accept the whole submissive thing. You know, it's one thing to say I like kinky sex. Not such a big deal. I mean, at the end of the day, I'm pretty open-minded about sex. I was raised to be pretty liberal and open-minded, and most of my friends are the same. But it's another thing to say I want the power exchange outside of the bedroom as well. And it's not as though I need to wear it on a tshirt. But I feel so much shame. I'm a feminist. I present myself as a very strong individual - I'm a professional, and I'm confident, I speak my mind, yada yada. And I know my Master doesn't want to change that, and loves me for it.

I'm just struggling with the shame. What can I say? I am struggling to accept myself.

I think I've been there, where you are now...My parents raised me to have respect for all living things and to be true to myself. And I use to be a feminist...or as El_C would probably say "a recovering feminist", lol. (He did not 'force' me to change my thinking, I did it because it felt right for me. My belief system has changed a bit since I first started that road when I was much younger.) For a while there I felt like a hypocrite. I loudly voiced my opinion for equal opportunity in relationships and career wise but in my private life I willing to defer to a man. I want, need to 'give up that power' and let someone else make the choices etc.

There is nothing wrong with that or you for what you are doing.

The shame is natural as bad as that may sound. Its part of our upbringing and the society in which we live. I don't think it ever goes completly away, if you are lucky though it becomes less and less of a factor in your life.

I get bits of it every now and then. If it lasts longer than a few minutes, lol, then I tell El_C. That is what he is there for after all *small smiles* I've always found that when you ask for help about those sorts of things, it brings you closer together.

You are who you are. You are that way for a reason.
Make the most of it and do what you know is right.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

starting to balance out, I think....

I was plummeting in some kind of horrid Dom drop... it felt like a free fall...

And my little one has been busy with her friend...

been a very rough few days...

 

[intothewoods]

I think I've been there, where you are now...My parents raised me to have respect for all living things and to be true to myself. And I use to be a feminist...or as El_C would probably say "a recovering feminist", lol. (He did not 'force' me to change my thinking, I did it because it felt right for me. My belief system has changed a bit since I first started that road when I was much younger.) For a while there I felt like a hypocrite. I loudly voiced my opinion for equal opportunity in relationships and career wise but in my private life I willing to defer to a man. I want, need to 'give up that power' and let someone else make the choices etc.

There is nothing wrong with that or you for what you are doing.

The shame is natural as bad as that may sound. Its part of our upbringing and the society in which we live. I don't think it ever goes completly away, if you are lucky though it becomes less and less of a factor in your life.

I get bits of it every now and then. If it lasts longer than a few minutes, lol, then I tell El_C. That is what he is there for after all *small smiles* I've always found that when you ask for help about those sorts of things, it brings you closer together.

You are who you are. You are that way for a reason.
Make the most of it and do what you know is right.

Thanks, littleone. I appreciate it. I know I'll get there.

 

[intothewoods]

starting to balance out, I think....

I was plummeting in some kind of horrid Dom drop... it felt like a free fall...

And my little one has been busy with her friend...

been a very rough few days...

Glad to hear things are looking up, MP. Sorry it's been so tough. I do seem to recall people talking about Top drop around here.

 

[minx1]

Thanks, littleone. I appreciate it. I know I'll get there.

Hey itw,

Just wanted to say that I hope you are ok

 

[intothewoods]

Hey itw,

Just wanted to say that I hope you are ok

Thanks, minx. Right back at ya.

 

[UK_Strawberry]

Eh, a little. I'm just drained. And trying to accept the whole submissive thing. You know, it's one thing to say I like kinky sex. Not such a big deal. I mean, at the end of the day, I'm pretty open-minded about sex. I was raised to be pretty liberal and open-minded, and most of my friends are the same. But it's another thing to say I want the power exchange outside of the bedroom as well. And it's not as though I need to wear it on a tshirt. But I feel so much shame. I'm a feminist. I present myself as a very strong individual - I'm a professional, and I'm confident, I speak my mind, yada yada. And I know my Master doesn't want to change that, and loves me for it.

I'm just struggling with the shame. What can I say? I am struggling to accept myself.

I think I understand some of what you are feeling.

I'm extremely happy to be submissive to Cream. However, when it comes to other people I find it difficult, part of me wants to tell the whole world but I know that everyone will say that it is totally against my personality, which it is. I wouldn't describe myself as a feminist but I am strong minded and independent.

I think to be honest I'm acting a little ostrich like over the issue. Probably not the healthiest attitude to it.

 

[minx1]

Hi all

Yeah I think there are many of us on here, who would consider ourselves strong women and find accepting their submissive side, somewhat of a 'struggle'. I know I certainly did. Though I embrace it now.

Hope you are all good (in a bad kinda way obviously )

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

Eh, a little. I'm just drained. And trying to accept the whole submissive thing. You know, it's one thing to say I like kinky sex. Not such a big deal. I mean, at the end of the day, I'm pretty open-minded about sex. I was raised to be pretty liberal and open-minded, and most of my friends are the same. But it's another thing to say I want the power exchange outside of the bedroom as well. And it's not as though I need to wear it on a tshirt. But I feel so much shame. I'm a feminist. I present myself as a very strong individual - I'm a professional, and I'm confident, I speak my mind, yada yada. And I know my Master doesn't want to change that, and loves me for it.

I'm just struggling with the shame. What can I say? I am struggling to accept myself.

I completely understand this although I am not usually thought of an outspoken woman but strong. I have friends who would think I was out of my friggin' mind if they knew this about me, and there is no way I could share it with family. I'm just opening up to this part of myself and accepting that I am not weak just finally coming to terms with who I am.

Ivy

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Glad to hear things are looking up, MP. Sorry it's been so tough. I do seem to recall people talking about Top drop around here.

I am not OK....

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Just stopping by to say hello to all