Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Bandit58]

Thanks Catalina

I am in a position I have never been in before, where I have no ties accept my mum and am no working here at the moment and strangely enough would be able to get a job quite easily in Oz.

My mum is the main concern, only in that we are very close and I would miss her like hell. She has actually encouraged me to go...out of all my options she thinks this is the best.

I too am leaning towards a longer stay....so thankyou for that!

When I left NZ in 2004, I left my children (aged 20 and almost 16), my parents and brother and his family. However my parents and brother were living hundreds of kms away, my son was happily settled in a new job and my daughter was living with her father. I had no job and nothing else really tying me to the district I had spent most of my life in.

It is a very weird sensation when you realise that there really is nothing holding you to a place you have lived in for 38 years, and that you have found a love that will take you way out of your comfort zone......to living in a city with the entire population of NZ in it! It has been a huge culture shock but I am now happily settled here (albeit still with a confidence problem when it comes to driving ) and I doubt that I will ever return to NZ.

I am seriously thinking of applying for permanent residency (if I can cut through the amount of red tape that has to be got through )

 

[myinnerslut]

*hugs* I just read your dear x letter Mis...sorry you and A had an argument. It alway seems so much worse when you are meant to be celebrating eh. I hope you have made it up by now and are tucking in to your cookies

thanks... things are much better now, i was just having a rough moment

and he LOVES the cookies... even allowed me to have one while i was with him so i know he was pleased with them

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I leave for the airport in about 10 hours...

I had to leave up to three hours to get to the airport in case of traffic... if I get into Oakland early, I'm going to have my uncle (who is giving me the ride) run through a fast food drive through... (Ever notice that the exact same fast food franchise charges TWICE as much at the airport?)

I am aiming to be at the airport three hours in advance of my flight... Can't be too careful with time in this post 9-11 police state of security... Plus I am flying Southwest, which doesn't assign seats and I really really really want a window seat... Great photos can be taken through airplane windows....

At 2.55pm I am flying into my destiny... Hoping for the love we know... fearing all is not right...

I will pass on your well wishes, Cat and Minx (I think it was)... and I am grateful for them...

I'm tired... and need to sleep... but that will be nearly impossible... as excitement has me in its grip...

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I leave for the airport in about 10 hours...

I had to leave up to three hours to get to the airport in case of traffic... if I get into Oakland early, I'm going to have my uncle (who is giving me the ride) run through a fast food drive through... (Ever notice that the exact same fast food franchise charges TWICE as much at the airport?)

I am aiming to be at the airport three hours in advance of my flight... Can't be too careful with time in this post 9-11 police state of security... Plus I am flying Southwest, which doesn't assign seats and I really really really want a window seat... Great photos can be taken through airplane windows....

At 2.55pm I am flying into my destiny... Hoping for the love we know... fearing all is not right...

I will pass on your well wishes, Cat and Minx (I think it was)... and I am grateful for them...

I'm tired... and need to sleep... but that will be nearly impossible... as excitement has me in its grip...

Be careful MP and have a wonderful time with Rose..WE miss her here!

 

[intothewoods]

I leave for the airport in about 10 hours...

I had to leave up to three hours to get to the airport in case of traffic... if I get into Oakland early, I'm going to have my uncle (who is giving me the ride) run through a fast food drive through... (Ever notice that the exact same fast food franchise charges TWICE as much at the airport?)

I am aiming to be at the airport three hours in advance of my flight... Can't be too careful with time in this post 9-11 police state of security... Plus I am flying Southwest, which doesn't assign seats and I really really really want a window seat... Great photos can be taken through airplane windows....

At 2.55pm I am flying into my destiny... Hoping for the love we know... fearing all is not right...

I will pass on your well wishes, Cat and Minx (I think it was)... and I am grateful for them...

I'm tired... and need to sleep... but that will be nearly impossible... as excitement has me in its grip...

Wow, you are nervous! Ppor thing. Relax, try and have fun. Take a chill pill. Literally, got any ambien? If you're nervous, you might want to skip the fast food. Just a thought...

 

[myinnerslut]

I leave for the airport in about 10 hours...

I had to leave up to three hours to get to the airport in case of traffic... if I get into Oakland early, I'm going to have my uncle (who is giving me the ride) run through a fast food drive through... (Ever notice that the exact same fast food franchise charges TWICE as much at the airport?)

I am aiming to be at the airport three hours in advance of my flight... Can't be too careful with time in this post 9-11 police state of security... Plus I am flying Southwest, which doesn't assign seats and I really really really want a window seat... Great photos can be taken through airplane windows....

At 2.55pm I am flying into my destiny... Hoping for the love we know... fearing all is not right...

I will pass on your well wishes, Cat and Minx (I think it was)... and I am grateful for them...

I'm tired... and need to sleep... but that will be nearly impossible... as excitement has me in its grip...

i am sure you will have a great time! i fly southwest as well when i vist A, and your riht, it does pay to get there warly. im sure youll have a great time.

 

[shy slave]

When I left NZ in 2004, I left my children (aged 20 and almost 16), my parents and brother and his family. However my parents and brother were living hundreds of kms away, my son was happily settled in a new job and my daughter was living with her father. I had no job and nothing else really tying me to the district I had spent most of my life in.

It is a very weird sensation when you realise that there really is nothing holding you to a place you have lived in for 38 years, and that you have found a love that will take you way out of your comfort zone......to living in a city with the entire population of NZ in it! It has been a huge culture shock but I am now happily settled here (albeit still with a confidence problem when it comes to driving ) and I doubt that I will ever return to NZ.

I am seriously thinking of applying for permanent residency (if I can cut through the amount of red tape that has to be got through )

Bandit the part in bold jumped out at me.

I have an understanding of when you mean in these few words.

Just before Christmas it came crashing down in my mind that I no longer feel a part of the UK community, yet I don't feel a part of Denmark either.

For the past few months I have been very unhappy, lacking a sense of belonging in either place. I have felt unable to move in either direction. It is a feeling of paralysis and aloneness which is hard to verbalise without sounding over dramatic.


I want to be there, yet I want to be here in the UK with my youngest son as well.
My son has always said he won't come with me, yet following a conversation with him over the weekend I discovered he too dislikes the way the UK is at present. As yet, he is of a the same mind about moving with me. However, I now have a spark of hope that he may travel and see more of the world than this tiny corner.

Finally I have taken my own mind in hand (so to speak), I start a new job with a company I used to work for and have started to realise I need a life in both places, not one or the other.
It isn't easy, I don't want to be in the UK any longer. But I cannot get a job in Denmark doing what I do in the UK.

Being unhappy and feeling isolated in both countries has put a huge strain on our relationship. We have been in an LDR for two years, we have come through every possible emotion and difficult situation at least twice over in that time.

I am trying to put my life in the UK back together and get some savings so that when it is the right time to move I can have some work options. On th negative side of that I sometimes feel we are no further forward in our plans to live together.


Part of my difficulties are to do with minor cultural issues
I know America is a huge country, but when you move from one side to the other you are not coping with a new language, a new culture and a new set of 'social rules.'
You are coping with all the other things such as a new job, making new friends, living with the person whom you want to be with; all of that is such a big decision.

Moving from Oz to Europe or Oz to NZ or Europe to US or one European country to another brings up cultural issues which take a while to get your head around.

LDR is hard work, phones calls emails and every other possible form of communication does not make up for actually seeing that person when they speak to you. It is a bit like mis-reading things on the board because of the mood you are in when you read it. MP, I see you fear 'all is not well' I hope you are wrong, it is so easy to worry about such things when you cannot physically see your SO. Your mind starts turning in circles as you wonder what they meant or the about how they are. I do it all the time, drives both of us crazy.
At those times I can be very needy for his attention and yet dislike myself for always wanting to be on the phone to him.

I can be impulsive at times, I can easily see that what will happen is my son will move on his life and one day I will jump on the plane and end up being in Denmark without doing all the planning and arranging first. It would not be the first time I have moved house on a whim lol

MP, I hope you and Rose have a good time together; not seen her on the boards recently and been wondering how here new job is doing.

 

[minx1]

Bandit the part in bold jumped out at me.

I have an understanding of when you mean in these few words.

Just before Christmas it came crashing down in my mind that I no longer feel a part of the UK community, yet I don't feel a part of Denmark either.

For the past few months I have been very unhappy, lacking a sense of belonging in either place. I have felt unable to move in either direction. It is a feeling of paralysis and aloneness which is hard to verbalise without sounding over dramatic.


I want to be there, yet I want to be here in the UK with my youngest son as well.
My son has always said he won't come with me, yet following a conversation with him over the weekend I discovered he too dislikes the way the UK is at present. As yet, he is of a the same mind about moving with me. However, I now have a spark of hope that he may travel and see more of the world than this tiny corner.

Finally I have taken my own mind in hand (so to speak), I start a new job with a company I used to work for and have started to realise I need a life in both places, not one or the other.
It isn't easy, I don't want to be in the UK any longer. But I cannot get a job in Denmark doing what I do in the UK.

Being unhappy and feeling isolated in both countries has put a huge strain on our relationship. We have been in an LDR for two years, we have come through every possible emotion and difficult situation at least twice over in that time.

I am trying to put my life in the UK back together and get some savings so that when it is the right time to move I can have some work options. On th negative side of that I sometimes feel we are no further forward in our plans to live together.


Part of my difficulties are to do with minor cultural issues
I know America is a huge country, but when you move from one side to the other you are not coping with a new language, a new culture and a new set of 'social rules.'
You are coping with all the other things such as a new job, making new friends, living with the person whom you want to be with; all of that is such a big decision.

Moving from Oz to Europe or Oz to NZ or Europe to US or one European country to another brings up cultural issues which take a while to get your head around.

LDR is hard work, phones calls emails and every other possible form of communication does not make up for actually seeing that person when they speak to you. It is a bit like mis-reading things on the board because of the mood you are in when you read it. MP, I see you fear 'all is not well' I hope you are wrong, it is so easy to worry about such things when you cannot physically see your SO. Your mind starts turning in circles as you wonder what they meant or the about how they are. I do it all the time, drives both of us crazy.
At those times I can be very needy for his attention and yet dislike myself for always wanting to be on the phone to him.

I can be impulsive at times, I can easily see that what will happen is my son will move on his life and one day I will jump on the plane and end up being in Denmark without doing all the planning and arranging first. It would not be the first time I have moved house on a whim lol

MP, I hope you and Rose have a good time together; not seen her on the boards recently and been wondering how here new job is doing.

Shy, Bandit thanks for your posts.... I read them with great interest and will respond more in time.

Your words hit me quite hard. Because right now, I do not feel like I belong anywhere and the sense of sadness that realisation brings, is overwhelming.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Minx..leaving you a *hug* as you sound if you may need one..I hope that you are okay!!!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I have been loathe to post here because I have been having a really hard time lately.

As my rose said above I was feeling a bit left out. Actually, it was more than a bit. I have been struggling like hell, becuase it just feels like there is a huge void there.

I will be flying back there a week from Tuesday, and I have been nervous about it, becuase of the void I have been feeling. There have been times where I have wondered if we were going to make it, and if she still wanted us, and if I was just going to go back there to get my heart broken.

I just can't wait until I can hold her again... feel her close to me... know that all is good... Until our lips once again meet...

*looks up at You* umm...hmmm...i understand Your fear, but do You really really think i would let You come back just to get Your heart broken?? i know i'm Your bitch and all, but sheesh, i'm not really THAT much of one am i *grins* nothing has changed between us, just in my life, that's all. things got crazy, they still are, but we're still here, and will be, so umm..how do i say this without it sounding like an order..ah hell, i'll just say it.. STOP WORRYING so much, and STOP THINKING so much!!! *giggles* i love You *kiss*

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

So good to hear from you Rose..I hope that you and MP have a marvelous time together..We miss you here!

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Well master started a new job today..He is working right now..I am missing him tonight.I did the task he had me to do but I am just missing him...We got to spend time together at lunch today which was wonderful...

 

[myinnerslut]

i got my piercing today!! more details in the thread i started, but i wanted to say something here since here was where i first mentioned the posibility of it.

 

[minx1]

Minx..leaving you a *hug* as you sound if you may need one..I hope that you are okay!!!

*hugs* back hon

......I will be fine, i'm sure. I think all the uncertainty isn't helping me at all

I am sorry to hear you are missing your Master, and I hope being able to spend lunchtimes with him is helping you cope with the change. I find any change to my routine unsettles me a little, so I can really empathise hon.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*hugs* back hon

......I will be fine, i'm sure. I think all the uncertainty isn't helping me at all

I am sorry to hear you are missing your Master, and I hope being able to spend lunchtimes with him is helping you cope with the change. I find any change to my routine unsettles me a little, so I can really empathise hon.

Thanks for the hugs hon...

I am sure the uncertainty is rough..I hope you can get through it..

Yes lunches are all we are going to have right now so I will have to enjoy those and cherish the time we have together..

 

[minx1]

Thanks for the hugs hon...

I am sure the uncertainty is rough..I hope you can get through it..

Yes lunches are all we are going to have right now so I will have to enjoy those and cherish the time we have together..

*hugs* I know you'll get through it even if it sucks big time, sometimes.

If you ever feel low and want a friendly ear to blurt to...my pm box is always open to you hon

 

[minx1]

Mis, your piercing sounds lovely!

 

[minx1]

*looks up at You* umm...hmmm...i understand Your fear, but do You really really think i would let You come back just to get Your heart broken?? i know i'm Your bitch and all, but sheesh, i'm not really THAT much of one am i *grins* nothing has changed between us, just in my life, that's all. things got crazy, they still are, but we're still here, and will be, so umm..how do i say this without it sounding like an order..ah hell, i'll just say it.. STOP WORRYING so much, and STOP THINKING so much!!! *giggles* i love You *kiss*

*giggles* thats right Rose....you tell him!

Hope things are a little less fraught for you Rose and that you are both having a wonderful time together

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*hugs* I know you'll get through it even if it sucks big time, sometimes.

If you ever feel low and want a friendly ear to blurt to...my pm box is always open to you hon

Yes that is right..we got to spend lunch together and will again tomorrow....

Thank you for the offer..I will probably be taking you up on that..the same goes for you too hon.. Hugs

 

[minx1]

Yes that is right..we got to spend lunch together and will again tomorrow....

Thank you for the offer..I will probably be taking you up on that..the same goes for you too hon.. Hugs

thanks hon! I hope you know what you're letting yourself in for!! *laugh*

We had a lovely time together today. It was wonderful after all the stress I've felt lately. I have a tendency to analyse everything and far too much lol

When sometimes you've just got to roll with it a bit and see what happens

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

thanks hon! I hope you know what you're letting yourself in for!! *laugh*

We had a lovely time together today. It was wonderful after all the stress I've felt lately. I have a tendency to analyse everything and far too much lol

When sometimes you've just got to roll with it a bit and see what happens

LOL Minx...Well I will gladly listen to you in anything you would have to send me a PM about

SO glad that you and your Master had a good time together today...I know exactly what you mean about the analyzing things to much..I do the same thing...Gets me in trouble sometimes..LOL..

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Happy Friday everyone..I hope that your day has been a wonderful one!

 

[minx1]

Happy Friday everyone..I hope that your day has been a wonderful one!

Hi Hon! *hugs*

got anything nice planned for the weekend?

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Hi Hon! *hugs*

got anything nice planned for the weekend?

Hey Hon!

No plans right now...How about you?

 

[minx1]

Hey Hon!

No plans right now...How about you?

Well I have a task to complete for my Master tomorrow, which involves me going shopping..... so that will be fun.

May try and catch up with some friends, though I had one stay all last weekend so am quite happy to have a quiet one and just potter around the house and garden (depending on the weather!)

How was lunch today?