Distance Domination-Support Thread

[UK_Cream]

I think I was very lucky. Our relationship started out ‘vanilla’. He didn’t push me as such, nudged me might be a better term. He was very good at judging the right time to make the next nudge. The relationship (sex) developed into a more ‘forceful’ one and I felt that I could open up to him and tell him about my fantasies. It then developed into the D/s relationship we have now. The love definitely came first.

Replying to my Kitten's post might seem an odd thing to do but here goes nothing...

Looking back now at how we started our relationship in it's current form I can certainly see UK_Strawberry's point of view....but at the time that I was "nudging" her in the right direction it felt to me like I was "pushing" rather than "nudging" her....

...now of course I realise that we have so much in common that I wasn't really "pushing" at all....I was merely walking alongside her (perhaps slightly ahead at times) on the same journey....

...and I don't see our relationship as a product of "luck" but as (and don't slate me for this please!) a product of Fate/Destiny....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Really bad fucking day....

And once again... I can't get ahold of the one I need to lean on...

 

[littleone77]

Really bad fucking day....

And once again... I can't get ahold of the one I need to lean on...

{{{{MP}}}}

You sound as if you need it.

Things will work out, one way or the other.

 

[minx1]

Really bad fucking day....

And once again... I can't get ahold of the one I need to lean on...

MP...realy sorry to hear you are having a bad time *hug*

Hope everything seems better soon

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Thanks... I just had all hell breaking lose around me...

I vented to my little one and all is OK....

(((hugs back))))

My brother and sister had a huge argument, and my mom got caught in the middle... and my mom is not in th best of health, so I get worried... I am not ashamed to say that I am a momma's boy... LOL My mom and I are quite close, and I do shudder to think about how I will react if something were to happen to her...

And a brief but funny aside, mom would KILL me if she knew I was in this lifestyle... I would get a huge "I taught you to treat women better than that lecture"

I fly out in a few days, and am nevrous as hell... just got almost all my clothes packed.. got the toys packed... (did some brushing up on my knots tonight...)

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

MP sorry things were bad but glad that after talking to Rose you feel better..

LOL about what your mom would say.. about the lifestyle...

That is great that you and Rose will be back together in a few days..I know you can't wait

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Giving us a bump..I hope everyone is okay!

 

[UK_Cream]

Just a question really - no need for support - not just yet anyway
I was wondering about misunderstandings through instant messaging... myself and UK_Strawberry had a "misunderstanding" tonight... we were having a great deal of fun and then things changed subtely to something else ....we both missed the point of each other's IM's....though it was my fault....

...I'm just glad she wasn't on or near her period!!!!....

This seems to happen to us on occasion and wondered if any other distance couples suffered from the same thing - "Misunderstandings in Instant Messaging"....

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Just a question really - no need for support - not just yet anyway
I was wondering about misunderstandings through instant messaging... myself and UK_Strawberry had a "misunderstanding" tonight... we were having a great deal of fun and then things changed subtely to something else ....we both missed the point of each other's IM's....though it was my fault....

...I'm just glad she wasn't on or near her period!!!!....

This seems to happen to us on occasion and wondered if any other distance couples suffered from the same thing - "Misunderstandings in Instant Messaging"....

Yes it has happened with me and Master UK Cream...It is easy to confuse what one is saying on a Instant Messenger..They can be misinterupted very easily....

Now now about that about her not being on or near her period..That is something that WE can not control our emotions then.....

 

[littleone77]

Just a question really - no need for support - not just yet anyway
I was wondering about misunderstandings through instant messaging... myself and UK_Strawberry had a "misunderstanding" tonight... we were having a great deal of fun and then things changed subtely to something else ....we both missed the point of each other's IM's....though it was my fault....

...I'm just glad she wasn't on or near her period!!!!....

This seems to happen to us on occasion and wondered if any other distance couples suffered from the same thing - "Misunderstandings in Instant Messaging"....

*nods* That happens with me and El_C quite a bit. As he has reminded me on numerous occasions its an accepted problem with using the medium of online communications. Thankfully he is usually able to cut the misunderstanding off before it goes too far. Somehow he knows when I take things wrong. If not, we have a standing rule that I need to speak up on it. Part of our, if-I-hurt-you-say-so Rule.

Period? *giggles* I think that montly area comes with the territory, like being in heat, lol. For whatever reason I am more sensitive then and I found in the mornings.

After all we need to keep you men guessing~

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Just a question really - no need for support - not just yet anyway
I was wondering about misunderstandings through instant messaging... myself and UK_Strawberry had a "misunderstanding" tonight... we were having a great deal of fun and then things changed subtely to something else ....we both missed the point of each other's IM's....though it was my fault....

...I'm just glad she wasn't on or near her period!!!!....

This seems to happen to us on occasion and wondered if any other distance couples suffered from the same thing - "Misunderstandings in Instant Messaging"....

That is why most of rose & I's communication is on the phone... when words are typed, they have no vocal context to go with them.... Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy too easy for misunderstandings.

 

[intothewoods]

That is why most of rose & I's communication is on the phone... when words are typed, they have no vocal context to go with them.... Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy too easy for misunderstandings.

Aren't you supposed to be headed to rose by now?

 

[UK_Cream]

Thanks to everyone who responded to my query....makes it a little easier knowing that we're not alone....

Totally agree that written words can be misinterpreted....I've made that observation a couple of times before with UK_Strawberry.... we both realise it's a small issue....having said that ...we are communicating with each other extremely well .... we've been texting all day today and we'll be online together later tonight...

Anyway, just wanted to say thanks to everyone who replied.... and, incidentally, the "quip" about UK_Strawberry's period was to merely to illustrate that things could have been far worse due to that misunderstanding... if/when UK_Strawberry reads this she'll understand what I mean by that....

 

[ecstaticsub]

I personally prefer the written word when a disagreement comes up. IMing is difficult because sometimes when one person is typing the other is also and it is easy to get thoughts half-said or out of order. However, I find that on the phone when I am angry or frustrated I just agree with anything he says and I end up just stewing in my thoughts.

My answer to this is email. He prefers that we talk things out on the phone but in email I can proofread and get my thoughts in order. I also can reread and make sure everything was said respectfully as possible.

 

[UK_Strawberry]

Now now about that about her not being on or near her period..That is something that WE can not control our emotions then.....

Thanks for the support DWB in that regard - it's a bloody nightmare. Before Cream and I started our relationship I never made a note of when my period was due - now he tells me - LOL !!

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Thanks for the support DWB in that regard - it's a bloody nightmare. Before Cream and I started our relationship I never made a note of when my period was due - now he tells me - LOL !!

You are welcome for the support...

I sometimes pre warn my master when it is coming other times he knows by my demeanor

 

[UK_Strawberry]

You are welcome for the support...

I sometimes pre warn my master when it is coming other times he knows by my demeanor

I know what you mean but what about the times when it's too late to warn them, i.e. PMT has hit hard and you wouldn't warn them even if you could !! LOL - men don't stand a chance really do they !!

 

[UK_Cream]

The first period we went through "together" wasn't so bad - it was all quite "pleasant" - the second period we went through together was a completely different story - misunderstanding? near enough WWIII... it was pretty bad but we "talked" things through pretty quickly and were back to normal in no time at all....

I think we both learned a valuable lesson during that time so when the third period came along we were better prepared and didn't have a single bad moment during that time....

Forewarned is forearmed....

 

[UK_Strawberry]

The first period we went through "together" wasn't so bad - it was all quite "pleasant" - the second period we went through together was a completely different story - misunderstanding? near enough WWIII... it was pretty bad but we "talked" things through pretty quickly and were back to normal in no time at all....

I think we both learned a valuable lesson during that time so when the third period came along we were better prepared and didn't have a single bad moment during that time....

Forewarned is forearmed....

LOL - Cream I do love you so very much !! Period or no period !!

 

[UK_Cream]

LOL - Cream I do love you so very much !! Period or no period !!

And I love you Kitten....

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I know what you mean but what about the times when it's too late to warn them, i.e. PMT has hit hard and you wouldn't warn them even if you could !! LOL - men don't stand a chance really do they !!

Well luckily I am very regular so it never sneaks up on us...

And no they really don't have a chance when it comes to that...lol

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Aren't you supposed to be headed to rose by now?

I fly out day after tomorrow.

 

[myinnerslut]

im back (and so is A!!!)

i saw him yesturday and he left me feeling a bit sore this morning, but in such a good way

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

im back (and so is A!!!)

i saw him yesturday and he left me feeling a bit sore this morning, but in such a good way

Welcome back Mis....

So glad that the two of you had a good time!

 

[myinnerslut]

thanks.. i got through my week of no relief, no thanks to him. i swear, A tried as hard as he could to make me mess up. he would tease me at every chance, have me tell him fantasies and recall scenes, even waking me up at three in the morning to listen to him masturbate. i am amazed i kept my hands off off myself. one misplaced touch and i would have had to start all over again.