Distance Domination-Support Thread

[intothewoods]

I dare not. In his post he made it quite clear i needed to 'get use' to him not being online so that is what i intend to do

the phrase going 'cold turkey' now makes sense

Sorry little one. Sounds like we all could use some cheering up!

 

[intothewoods]

Here, to cheer us up, and keep us company:

http://faustasblog.com/uploaded_images/clive_owen_06-742702.jpg

 

[lil_slave_rose]

:::Huge hugs::: to all those who are not feeling well, or going through tough times. it sucks i know, but i also know it will get better, it always does *smiles* so keep your heads up and know there are people that care and are here to listen if you need to vent or just need a hug X's 12 for everyone

 

[minx1]

Here, to cheer us up, and keep us company:

http://faustasblog.com/uploaded_images/clive_owen_06-742702.jpg

yum! kinda makes things slightly better. Now if he were to remove his shirt.....

 

[minx1]

I dare not. In his post he made it quite clear i needed to 'get use' to him not being online so that is what i intend to do

the phrase going 'cold turkey' now makes sense

Oh I meant had you maybe written him an email to try and clear the air. Sometimes its a good way of trying to explain you feelings, that might otherwise be difficult.

I wish you luck anyway Littleone

 

[myinnerslut]

I wish you luck anyway Littleone

as do i... my thoughts are with you

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Thanks DW

I hope it will be. I just got to sort things out in my own mind.

I'm hoping that the fact I am pre menstrual might have had something to do with the severe reaction to His answer to my question! lol

You are welcome Minx

I hope that you can get those things sorted out..

Yes pre menstrual has a way of playing tricks on us and how they answer or ask things..or so seems to be with me anyway....I do hope that all will be okay!

 

[minx1]

You are welcome Minx

I hope that you can get those things sorted out..

Yes pre menstrual has a way of playing tricks on us and how they answer or ask things..or so seems to be with me anyway....I do hope that all will be okay!

Yes its certainly making me ask some difficult questions. I just don't think I'm up to the answers yet *soft smile*

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Yes its certainly making me ask some difficult questions. I just don't think I'm up to the answers yet *soft smile*

Oh hon I hope that things will be okay...Lots of tight hugs for you

 

[the captians wench]

oooooh!!!! sounds like fun!!!!

i get so jelouse of all of you and your assignments sometimes... then i remember all the rules i have to follow and things i have to do and e-mails i write and pictures i send daily... and i dont feel so left out anymore

I know what you mean. I don't get many assignments, and I've even given him ideas before and asked for them to be an assignment, to which he usually says "sounds interesting" and then does not go thru with them. *sigh* Then some times I wish I had more rules as well, then I start ovulating and get extreamly horny and can't do a damn thing about it and realize, maybe that's enough for now.

 

[the captians wench]

I feel horrible right now, really horrible.

never ask a question unless you are realy sure you want to hear the answer *sad smile*

Hope everyone else is good and having an enjoyable weekend

*hugs*

I know exactly what you mean, as you well know.

feel free to vent on me darlin if you feel the need to.

 

[the captians wench]

I just sent you a PM. Things are .... ok. No, not really! FM picked a fine week to leave! No, it's not his fault. I'm only kidding <sad smile>

I don't want to post details here, but the rest of my life is just a mess right now. Let's just say, I'm trying to come to terms with my kinky self, and forge ahead, and it's hard. Just very, very hard.

*hugs*

I think we've all experienced this at some point. When I discovered this nature and my likes I was living with my mom after I had seperated from my husband. She once said to me "you were the perfect teen, but I don't like how (your) twenty's going". My pm box is open if you need another ear.

 

[the captians wench]

I dare not. In his post he made it quite clear i needed to 'get use' to him not being online so that is what i intend to do

the phrase going 'cold turkey' now makes sense

*hugs*

Master disapears on me from time to time, tho admitedly it's always been on good terms, still it was very hard to get used to. I hope things work out for you.

 

[minx1]

*hugs*

I know exactly what you mean, as you well know.

feel free to vent on me darlin if you feel the need to.

of course wenchie....I should have learnt from your experience!

thanks for the offer too hon, I may well take you up on it

 

[catalina_francisco]

I dare not. In his post he made it quite clear i needed to 'get use' to him not being online so that is what i intend to do

the phrase going 'cold turkey' now makes sense

I don't know either of you, but from my experience it is better to talk than to sit and wonder and imagine. From the post I saw of his yesterday in which he said he was missing you I did not get the impression he expected you to not speak to him or have contact, but then maybe there is more behind scenes than we know. Regardless, for any relationship, but most especially LDR's, if there is a restriction in contact and communication, it is not a good sign for a happy future. Imaging what might be in someone's head is usually worse than the reality.

In terms of not being able to be contacted or going missing, that was something which never flew in LDR for me. I had one who pulled it on me and later regretted it as I just wasn't interested in being played with in that way, and certainly didn't believe his excuses which disputed the evidence in so many ways I would have needed to be a twit to overlook the black and white proof. Maybe I was spoiled in that I had a mentor/online Master in the US who was available always, especially if there was something upsetting me on any level, even when nothing to do with our relationship...through that nurturing guidance, I learned that real committment meant being there, not opting out and dropping back in when it suited. Everyone is different, but being submissive does not mean you have to accept being shut out and ignored when you are in need or there are problems.


As nice as it is that others offer support and open PM boxes etc., for me if you can't go to your PYL first and foremost with any issues or difficulties you are experiencing, especially if it means you turn to someone else instead, a pyl needs to look at why they would choose to turn to someone else and not their PYL. For us it would be thought to be a sign there was a serious problem with us if I chose to turn to someone else before him.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

It seems like there is far too much distance for many on this thread lately.

*hugs and hugs*

Fury

 

[minx1]

You are right there Fury.

Its so good to have a place that I can come and just express my frustrations and the support on offer here is invaluable.

and Catalina....I agree with some of your comments re littleones situation and also in general..I just didn't express them as concisely as I was in the middle of my own mini crisis! lol

Littleone I hope you do bite the bullet and make contact with him..it seems like you were hurting really badly and that he was frustrated. I'm sure talking about it will help hon

For me, I will wait to speak with my Master tomorrow and hope that the morning brings some clarity to the situation. Sometimes a good nights sleep is all you need eh

 

[littleone77]

Oh I meant had you maybe written him an email to try and clear the air. Sometimes its a good way of trying to explain you feelings, that might otherwise be difficult.

I wish you luck anyway Littleone

i wrote him a pm yesterday (i prefer email but he seems to be active on lit lately) expressing my deepest regrets for my behavior but have received nothing from him since not even a confirmation of having received it (i had also wrote him an email, hw, on friday)

and the post in question is when he discovered my childish behavior on another thread...self punishment is more than enough on that.


And thank you Rose, very much

 

[lil_slave_rose]

And thank you Rose, very much

you are more than welcome. sometimes these situations are out of our control, but if we've done everything we can to make ammends for our wrongs, then we are no longer in the wrong...does that make sense? basically i guess what i'm saying is, the ball is in His court..bombarding Him with Emails, PM's or whatever are not going to change HIs feelings if He feels He just can't deal with you right now. i wouldn't be able to stand being ignored and it would probably end my relationship as i'm too emotionally weak as it is without Master ignoring me because i did something 'childish' to get His attention, but you best believe i'd be punished. *shrugs* that's why this thread is a great one. everyone is so supportive and you dont' have to worry about being judged because we've all been there at one time or another.....:::::Hugs:::: and a for you....

 

[intothewoods]

yum! kinda makes things slightly better. Now if he were to remove his shirt.....

Actually, I was thinking his pants...

 

[intothewoods]

*hugs*

I think we've all experienced this at some point. When I discovered this nature and my likes I was living with my mom after I had seperated from my husband. She once said to me "you were the perfect teen, but I don't like how (your) twenty's going". My pm box is open if you need another ear.

Wow, moms can really put it to you sometimes, eh?

Thanks for your thoughts, wenchie. I'm okay at the moment. Just treading water, I guess.

I can relate to the comment "you were a perfect teen," in that no one would ever guess in a million years my deep dark secrets.

I definitely miss FM. He's my rock. But it's also good for me to know I can find strength within, too.

 

[myinnerslut]

i was an idiot and managed to get my punishment extended by a few hours which means no release tonight since im not going to stay up untill four in the morning so i can cum

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i was an idiot and managed to get my punishment extended by a few hours which means no release tonight since im not going to stay up untill four in the morning so i can cum

i'm sorry to hear that mis, but please please please don't call yourself an idiot. that is one of those things with me that just drives me bonkers. my daughter does it all of the time, and like her, you are NOT an idiot, you're human, and you made a mistake.....::::hugs:::::

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I am sorry to hear that mis

I am with Rose..you are not an idiot!

 

[the captians wench]

of course wenchie....I should have learnt from your experience!

thanks for the offer too hon, I may well take you up on it

any time dear.