Distance Domination-Support Thread

[lil_slave_rose]

I would not trade the ups and downs, nor the trials and tribulations that we have endured. I believe that what we have now is far stronger for that which we have endured.

Just the other night I sent her a text message whilst I was at work. "You make me smile." Just because I was thinking about her, and it made me smile.

*giggles* and when i got the text message, i texted back...'i'm glad for that!, but what did i do?' to which He texted back, 'just being you' *grins*

and yes i agree that we are much stronger than that which we have endured and BECAUSE of that which we have endured

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Yes I understand that for sure..It has made you a much stronger couple and will continue to make you both stronger in the long run..

And I am sure that text message made rose smile just as much as you MP...

I know I like little surprises such as that from my Master too

*nods* it did make me smile but also made me wonder what i'd done to make Him smile as it came outta the blue LOL

 

[lil_slave_rose]

She often sends me little surprises via our cell phones whilst I am at work as well.

*blushes* what kinds of surprises are You speaking of, Sir?

 

[myinnerslut]

*giggles* and when i got the text message, i texted back...'i'm glad for that!, but what did i do?' to which He texted back, 'just being you' *grins*

and yes i agree that we are much stronger than that which we have endured and BECAUSE of that which we have endured

AWWWW!!!!!

 

[myinnerslut]

*smiles* hugs always help, thank you. and morning to me is way early morning to Him..LOL..there is a 3 hour time difference for us and being that He doesnt go to bed until about 3:00 in the morning i don't normally call Him until about 3:00 or 4:00pm my time which is still only noon or 1:00 His time...*sighs* forever away i tell you

i have a habbit of getting far too little sleep.

last night for example, at 3am, A finally sent me to sleep. i didnt realize he was giving a command not a suggestion so the conversation went something like...

me: i have class at 9 tommorrow morning.. so i have to be up in five hours. i probably shouldnt stay up too much longer. mabye only an hour.

A: go to bed.

me: im not ready yet. i still have stuff to do.

A: did it sound like i was asking to you? go to bed now!

me: ...... oh. yes Sir. (im still working on that no "sir" thing)


**on that note, i need to take a nap before work**

 

[minx1]

i have a habbit of getting far too little sleep.

last night for example, at 3am, A finally sent me to sleep. i didnt realize he was giving a command not a suggestion so the conversation went something like...

me: i have class at 9 tommorrow morning.. so i have to be up in five hours. i probably shouldnt stay up too much longer. mabye only an hour.

A: go to bed.

me: im not ready yet. i still have stuff to do.

A: did it sound like i was asking to you? go to bed now!

me: ...... oh. yes Sir. (im still working on that no "sir" thing)


**on that note, i need to take a nap before work**

Its perverse eh...but I kinda love it when my Master TELLS me to go to bed...even when I want to stay and talk for longer! lol

The best is when He says go to bed and I will call you in a minute to tuck you in....lovely *sigh*

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i have a habbit of getting far too little sleep.

last night for example, at 3am, A finally sent me to sleep. i didnt realize he was giving a command not a suggestion so the conversation went something like...

me: i have class at 9 tommorrow morning.. so i have to be up in five hours. i probably shouldnt stay up too much longer. mabye only an hour.

A: go to bed.

me: im not ready yet. i still have stuff to do.

A: did it sound like i was asking to you? go to bed now!

me: ...... oh. yes Sir. (im still working on that no "sir" thing)


**on that note, i need to take a nap before work**

i too, do not sleep enough. But Master does not 'order' me to bed, because most of the time, He's the reason i'm up..LOL waiting on Him to get home from work

 

[minx1]

Today I think I have been the worst that I have been for a long long time...sometimes I don't know how or why He copes with me.

I think the last few days and finding the distance so difficult has built and built and built until it reached the most awful climax today...that teamed with worries about work.

I really played up because of my frustrations...do you ever do that?! Not purposely trying to be difficult...I just felt so depressed and aggitated.

In a funny way it maked me release just how lucky I am, distance aside.... He is so lovely.
Instead of letting me go tonight and leaving things for next time as I suggested, He insisted that I stayed and talked to Him. He eventually calmed me, making me feel so safe and warm. *smile* I don't know why I'm telling you all this....its like a confessional! I guess it would good to know if others go through theses almighty lows, that make you 'play up' a bit.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Today I think I have been the worst that I have been for a long long time...sometimes I don't know how or why He copes with me.

I think the last few days and finding the distance so difficult has built and built and built until it reached the most awful climax today...that teamed with worries about work.

I really played up because of my frustrations...do you ever do that?! Not purposely trying to be difficult...I just felt so depressed and aggitated.

In a funny way it maked me release just how lucky I am, distance aside.... He is so lovely.
Instead of letting me go tonight and leaving things for next time as I suggested, He insisted that I stayed and talked to Him. He eventually calmed me, making me feel so safe and warm. *smile* I don't know why I'm telling you all this....its like a confessional! I guess it would good to know if others go through theses almighty lows, that make you 'play up' a bit.

Master, for the most part has broke me of it. but i'll tell you a story of the last time He was here. *sighs* though it will be hard because it still hurts to think about the way i 'treated' Him. i was agitated, i was nervous, and i wanted more pain play than He was giving me, i wanted our 'scenes' to last longer. instead of telling Him these things, i started distancing myself from Him. He'd tell me to do something and i'd defy Him trying to get Him to take 'control' of me. i guess i was trying to get Him to MAKE me submit. all it did was frusterate the hell out of Him and confuse Him, he didn't know what to do. we've talked about this since and He said He felt like if he forced anything on me, HE was going to be bordering on that 'blank check of consent'.

instead of asking for what i wanted, which really was for Him to take more control because He just didn't seem like He was, i acted out trying to get His attention, thus making our visit a very tense and uneasy one for both of us. *sighs* communication is the key to everything, without it, things fall apart. when you are feeling this 'low' feeling, it would be best instead of acting out or whatever, to talk to Him and let Him know it's bothering you, that way you can work through it together.....

 

[minx1]

Master, for the most part has broke me of it. but i'll tell you a story of the last time He was here. *sighs* though it will be hard because it still hurts to think about the way i 'treated' Him. i was agitated, i was nervous, and i wanted more pain play than He was giving me, i wanted our 'scenes' to last longer. instead of telling Him these things, i started distancing myself from Him. He'd tell me to do something and i'd defy Him trying to get Him to take 'control' of me. i guess i was trying to get Him to MAKE me submit. all it did was frusterate the hell out of Him and confuse Him, he didn't know what to do. we've talked about this since and He said He felt like if he forced anything on me, HE was going to be bordering on that 'blank check of consent'.

instead of asking for what i wanted, which really was for Him to take more control because He just didn't seem like He was, i acted out trying to get His attention, thus making our visit a very tense and uneasy one for both of us. *sighs* communication is the key to everything, without it, things fall apart. when you are feeling this 'low' feeling, it would be best instead of acting out or whatever, to talk to Him and let Him know it's bothering you, that way you can work through it together.....

Yeah thanks Rose

I haven't really acted up as such...just felt so low I couldn't deal with it really.
In the end we did end up talking about it all and I feel a lot better for it.

The problem is simple,its the one we all share and that brings us to this thread. I miss Him dreadfully, I want to be near Him so I can look into His eyes..touch Him for gods sake.
I told Him I really never expected to feel like this when I started out..I guess its just a sign of how close we have become...
I think our heart to heart certainly did me good...I realise sometimes I take the easy option out of situations and run away, but I wouldn't do that with Him, so I made myself stay and talk. I was flaming sobbing at one point into the screen. I miss Him. But I will be...We will be ok *soft smile*

*hugs* for your support and advice

 

[myinnerslut]

feel better minx!!!

 

[minx1]

feel better minx!!!

*laugh* I do now thanks Mis....got it out of my system...this thread sure is good lol!!

 

[myinnerslut]

*laugh* I do now thanks Mis....got it out of my system...this thread sure is good lol!!

good. feeling better is good.

im starting to get out of the post visit funk. not quite out of it but getting there.

i send A a package earlier this week filled with nerf guns and play dogh and silly putty and an air horn and all sorts of other fun toys for his "inner child". he got it today and as expected has been runing around his apartment shooting things with his nerf gun. its so nice to be able to make him happy

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*nods* it did make me smile but also made me wonder what i'd done to make Him smile as it came outta the blue LOL

I am sure it was something wonderful Rose

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Today I think I have been the worst that I have been for a long long time...sometimes I don't know how or why He copes with me.

I think the last few days and finding the distance so difficult has built and built and built until it reached the most awful climax today...that teamed with worries about work.

I really played up because of my frustrations...do you ever do that?! Not purposely trying to be difficult...I just felt so depressed and aggitated.

In a funny way it maked me release just how lucky I am, distance aside.... He is so lovely.
Instead of letting me go tonight and leaving things for next time as I suggested, He insisted that I stayed and talked to Him. He eventually calmed me, making me feel so safe and warm. *smile* I don't know why I'm telling you all this....its like a confessional! I guess it would good to know if others go through theses almighty lows, that make you 'play up' a bit.

Minx..I have done this before too..I give Master one word answers and when he asks what is wrong I always say nothing til he gets it out of me..I realize that I am making things worse on him when I am doing this...But I just get depressed like you with things and hate to put them on Master but then when I do I feel so much better...

I am glad that your Master stayed with you and calmed you..I hope that you are feeling better now! *Hugs*

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Master, for the most part has broke me of it. but i'll tell you a story of the last time He was here. *sighs* though it will be hard because it still hurts to think about the way i 'treated' Him. i was agitated, i was nervous, and i wanted more pain play than He was giving me, i wanted our 'scenes' to last longer. instead of telling Him these things, i started distancing myself from Him. He'd tell me to do something and i'd defy Him trying to get Him to take 'control' of me. i guess i was trying to get Him to MAKE me submit. all it did was frusterate the hell out of Him and confuse Him, he didn't know what to do. we've talked about this since and He said He felt like if he forced anything on me, HE was going to be bordering on that 'blank check of consent'.

instead of asking for what i wanted, which really was for Him to take more control because He just didn't seem like He was, i acted out trying to get His attention, thus making our visit a very tense and uneasy one for both of us. *sighs* communication is the key to everything, without it, things fall apart. when you are feeling this 'low' feeling, it would be best instead of acting out or whatever, to talk to Him and let Him know it's bothering you, that way you can work through it together.....

Sounds like most of us subs go through this then..As I stated to Minx I just frustrated Master with playing the distancing thing the other night..I was hurt and trying to take it out on him..But he finally got me to confess and we talked it through and all was okay...

 

[minx1]

good. feeling better is good.

im starting to get out of the post visit funk. not quite out of it but getting there.

i send A a package earlier this week filled with nerf guns and play dogh and silly putty and an air horn and all sorts of other fun toys for his "inner child". he got it today and as expected has been runing around his apartment shooting things with his nerf gun. its so nice to be able to make him happy

*giggles* how cool is that!

 

[minx1]

Minx..I have done this before too..I give Master one word answers and when he asks what is wrong I always say nothing til he gets it out of me..I realize that I am making things worse on him when I am doing this...But I just get depressed like you with things and hate to put them on Master but then when I do I feel so much better...

I am glad that your Master stayed with you and calmed you..I hope that you are feeling better now! *Hugs*

Am feeling much better thanks DW and a bit daft to be honest...infact I thought should I delete my initial post, cos god know what He will make of it if He reads it and I don't want to embarrass Him. But then I thought its how I felt and He likes me to be honest about my feelings...good or bad...just not sure how He feels about me airing them so publicly!! *smile*

 

[minx1]

Sounds like most of us subs go through this then..As I stated to Minx I just frustrated Master with playing the distancing thing the other night..I was hurt and trying to take it out on him..But he finally got me to confess and we talked it through and all was okay...

It really does help to know it common to feel / do things like this

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Am feeling much better thanks DW and a bit daft to be honest...infact I thought should I delete my initial post, cos god know what He will make of it if He reads it and I don't want to embarrass Him. But then I thought its how I felt and He likes me to be honest about my feelings...good or bad...just not sure how He feels about me airing them so publicly!! *smile*

So glad that you are feeling much better minx..

I don't think you will embarrass him minx..you were stating your feelings as you needed some support and it helped you to get it off your chest...

Hopefully he won't reprimand you for airing them publicly and that he will see you were just getting it off your chest and saying how you felt and how he got you to talk it out..*hugs*

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

It really does help to know it common to feel / do things like this

I agree so much..I feel bad that I do that sometimes but can't help myself and I have to learn to quit holding things in which is easier said then done

 

[minx1]

So glad that you are feeling much better minx..

I don't think you will embarrass him minx..you were stating your feelings as you needed some support and it helped you to get it off your chest...

Hopefully he won't reprimand you for airing them publicly and that he will see you were just getting it off your chest and saying how you felt and how he got you to talk it out..*hugs*

Yeah you are right DW thanks...I pretty sure He won't reprimand me. I think He realises things have been a bit tough lately.

I do feel much better for talking about it though and hearing that I am not alone!!

 

[FurryFury]

I am so glad to have found this thread. I was pointed here by another fellow literotican and am glad she pointed me in this direction.

I too am in a LDR with my Master like most of you. We have been a D/s couple for almost 2 years now.

I have agreed with so many of your thoughts. I have read through this whole thread before I decided to make my first post. It is good to know that others are going through the same things as I am and that you are here in support of each other.

I'm so glad to meet others in the same situation that I am in... I hope to become active with this thread. Looking forward to reading more thoughts and hopefully being able to step in and give words of encouragement when needed.

That is about all I know to say right now..LOL..Again thanks for this thread

DomWharfsBitch

Welcome to the thread!

Fury

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Yeah you are right DW thanks...I pretty sure He won't reprimand me. I think He realises things have been a bit tough lately.

I do feel much better for talking about it though and hearing that I am not alone!!

Glad that he realizes that

Distance is so hard on the relationships...I hate that we have to go through this but know that we all will hopefully end up happily ever after one day..

So glad that talking about it has made you feel better and glad that you know that you are not alone

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Welcome to the thread!

Fury

Thanks so much Fury..Glad to be here!