Distance Domination-Support Thread

[lil_slave_rose]

You are most likely right about it not fully sinking in as yet,,,it will not be something he will get over ever I imagine.

I was not mother blaming btw as I think in these situations not only is it tragic, but it is often the case a lot of people played a part hence I mentioned the others in the household at the moment. What I do look at though given I have had to deal with abuse professionally is the whole picture, the signs perhaps not all was ideal (such as others being in the house and yet it still being possible the child was murdered without anyone being aware), patterns of relationships of those involved and those around them including the mother who it seems was the primary carer, and how those involved on a daily/weekly level played a part in the whole picture of what was before and after.

Abuse is never easy to confront, and child murder is horrible to even acknowledge as a reality, but rarely (when family or those involved with the family are involved) does it happen in a home where everything is perfect and in the best interests of the child but more often where dysfunctionality exists, though is not always visible or dealt with when brought to attention. It would be wonderful to be able to turn back the clock but we can't, but perhaps by looking at how it could happen instead of trying to be PC and not look to any cause except from blaming the one who did it, another child can be saved from going through the same experience. Too often people say after the event that they saw signs, or they were concerned, or reports had been made to government agencies, and yet no-one did a thing until it was too late...on the surface it seems one person is to blame and responsible, but the reality is more often than not many people played a part in allowing the situation to progress to that level where the child was/is harmed or killed. Do you understand what I mean? And yes, I understand you don't know the answers because you didn't know anyone but the father.

Catalina

yes i understand completely what you're saying. and it's the same thing i said...why, in a house that small with 2 other people in the house did no one else help put that child to sleep that night when i KNOW they had to have heard Emil having a hard time...it's just hard for me to blame anyone but him right now. and honestly in my heart, i honestly dont' think he "meant" to kill Kieran, i think he was frustrated and went to far by holding him down with a pillow on his chest...i think it was a split second decision, that he was just at his breaking point and handled the stress in the wrong way....

of course, that's just my feeling, i could be wrong, but i don't think it was intentional though that doesn't make it any less wrong. but right now, i'm just not ready to truly feel that he didn't mean it..you know? he cried during court, so hard that he couldn't answer the judges questions when the judge was speaking to him. do i think it was remorse? in my heart of hearts...?...yes i do...in my mind? no..i think he was crying for himself....this is just how i'm feeling right now, and i'm sorry if i'm rambling...it's just all still so fresh and i have so many thoughts and feelings and i have nowhere else to release them.....

 

[littleone77]

Those stories are so sad and seem to be happening more and more often. In my area recently a man threw frozen meat at a female toddler. She had to be induced into a coma. Another sent his young son out to feed a pit bull and was killed by it. Another smashed his gf's son into the tv. And let us not forget about the woman who put her baby in the microwave. Someone also put one in the freezer.

In an tragic accident to baby girls burned to death in a car fire. The mother couldn't undo the car seats before it exploded.

We will never ever know why those things happen. But they do and for whatever twisted purpose, they happened for a reason. If you would, they are with God. I am of the reincarnation belief so to me they will return.

I truly am sorry.

 

[minx1]

Rose, thats dreadful....I am so sorry hon.

My thoughts are with you and the family

 

[PrincessLeia]

Hi Minx and DWB and my new friends,

Just a note to all, am going on vacation and will be gone a couple of weeks. Hope you all stay well and enjoy your time.

I had an email from D, I think he no longer upset............but gosh I MISS HIM!!

It will be a long 2 weeks without him.

Anyway, a good 2 weeks to all, will check in when I get back.

*hugs*
Leia

 

[catalina_francisco]

yes i understand completely what you're saying. and it's the same thing i said...why, in a house that small with 2 other people in the house did no one else help put that child to sleep that night when i KNOW they had to have heard Emil having a hard time...it's just hard for me to blame anyone but him right now. and honestly in my heart, i honestly dont' think he "meant" to kill Kieran, i think he was frustrated and went to far by holding him down with a pillow on his chest...i think it was a split second decision, that he was just at his breaking point and handled the stress in the wrong way....

of course, that's just my feeling, i could be wrong, but i don't think it was intentional though that doesn't make it any less wrong. but right now, i'm just not ready to truly feel that he didn't mean it..you know? he cried during court, so hard that he couldn't answer the judges questions when the judge was speaking to him. do i think it was remorse? in my heart of hearts...?...yes i do...in my mind? no..i think he was crying for himself....this is just how i'm feeling right now, and i'm sorry if i'm rambling...it's just all still so fresh and i have so many thoughts and feelings and i have nowhere else to release them.....

I can imagine. I don´t think you are far wrong on why he cried in court, and even if it were remorse which I doubt, bottom line is he was capable of killing an innocent child and his lies to try and cover it up just seems to verify he was more concerned with himself than feeling remorse for what he did. I hope your friend gets through this with the minimum of future problems possible.

Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

A left for school today. i leave tommorrow at 6 am. i already cried when he left, and again when i packed the "i miss you cards" i bought at the store for use in the future. back to this LDR hell. my hope is to take a 13 hour bus trip to see him in the end of october. but for now, i feel so lonely. i miss him already.

 

[catalina_francisco]

A left for school today. i leave tommorrow at 6 am. i already cried when he left, and again when i packed the "i miss you cards" i bought at the store for use in the future. back to this LDR hell. my hope is to take a 13 hour bus trip to see him in the end of october. but for now, i feel so lonely. i miss him already.

Nothing else I can do to ease your pain...hope you get your trip to see each other in October.

Catalina

 

[HottieMama]

A left for school today. i leave tommorrow at 6 am. i already cried when he left, and again when i packed the "i miss you cards" i bought at the store for use in the future. back to this LDR hell. my hope is to take a 13 hour bus trip to see him in the end of october. but for now, i feel so lonely. i miss him already.

i'm so sorry sweetie. i'm here if you need to talk.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Sending hugs and support your way mis

 

[myinnerslut]

i'm so sorry sweetie. i'm here if you need to talk.

thank you. right now im curled up on my bed listening to songs that remind me off him/us, and once again, crying. what i should be doing is sleeping since i have to be awake in five hours. god, i miss him so much already it hurts.

 

[HottieMama]

thank you. right now im curled up on my bed listening to songs that remind me off him/us, and once again, crying. what i should be doing is sleeping since i have to be awake in five hours. god, i miss him so much already it hurts.

Try to get some sleep, mis and have a safe trip back to school.

 

[myinnerslut]

Try to get some sleep, mis and have a safe trip back to school.

as physically exhuasted as i am right now, my mind is racing, i wouldnt be able to sleep at this point if i tried. so instead im doing some semi-usefull things, like checking my e-mail and trying not to cry on my laptop.

 

[HottieMama]

as physically exhuasted as i am right now, my mind is racing, i wouldnt be able to sleep at this point if i tried. so instead im doing some semi-usefull things, like checking my e-mail and trying not to cry on my laptop.

Are you all packed and ready to go? You'll still be around during the semester right?

i think my hormones are in overdrive because i just keep getting hit with waves of sadness tonight. i'm trying not to dwell...but it's hard.

 

[myinnerslut]

Are you all packed and ready to go? You'll still be around during the semester right?

i think my hormones are in overdrive because i just keep getting hit with waves of sadness tonight. i'm trying not to dwell...but it's hard.

except for my computer im all packed up. and do you mean will i still be around lit? of course

 

[HottieMama]

except for my computer im all packed up. and do you mean will i still be around lit? of course

Yes, i meant Lit. i couldn't remember if you posted when you were at school in the Spring.

 

[myinnerslut]

lol. ive been posting fairly consistantly for the past year and change, both at school and home.

 

[HottieMama]

lol. ive been posting fairly consistantly for the past year and change, both at school and home.

And i am apparantly brain-dead.

 

[myinnerslut]

well then get some sleep

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[MasterPhoenix]

well then get some sleep

A just im-ed me to let me know he got to school safely (what i was waiting for before i could let myself relax a bit) so im going to do the same

((a hug for you, mis)))

I know how bad it is to have to say good bye. 5 Oct 06, 30 Jan 07, and 30 May 07 were completely horrid days, as I had to walk away from my baby and get on an airplane to come back here. I hurt and cried so bad....

My thoughts go out to you and A, MIS....

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

A left for school today. i leave tommorrow at 6 am. i already cried when he left, and again when i packed the "i miss you cards" i bought at the store for use in the future. back to this LDR hell. my hope is to take a 13 hour bus trip to see him in the end of october. but for now, i feel so lonely. i miss him already.

Leaving you lots of hugs Mis....

 

[sexycaz22]

well then get some sleep

A just im-ed me to let me know he got to school safely (what i was waiting for before i could let myself relax a bit) so im going to do the same

{{{{HUGS}}}} The time will fly by quickly until the next time you see him.

 

[minx1]

A left for school today. i leave tommorrow at 6 am. i already cried when he left, and again when i packed the "i miss you cards" i bought at the store for use in the future. back to this LDR hell. my hope is to take a 13 hour bus trip to see him in the end of october. but for now, i feel so lonely. i miss him already.

*huge hugs* Mis,

Hope you manage to get some rest hon and that you manage your visit in October

 

[minx1]

Hi Minx and DWB and my new friends,

Just a note to all, am going on vacation and will be gone a couple of weeks. Hope you all stay well and enjoy your time.

I had an email from D, I think he no longer upset............but gosh I MISS HIM!!

It will be a long 2 weeks without him.

Anyway, a good 2 weeks to all, will check in when I get back.

*hugs*
Leia

*hugs* Leia

So glad you heard from your Master...glad that things are going well. Though I know you must miss him hon.

have a great vacation, see you soon chick

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Hi Minx and DWB and my new friends,

Just a note to all, am going on vacation and will be gone a couple of weeks. Hope you all stay well and enjoy your time.

I had an email from D, I think he no longer upset............but gosh I MISS HIM!!

It will be a long 2 weeks without him.

Anyway, a good 2 weeks to all, will check in when I get back.

*hugs*
Leia

Hey Leia...Have a wonderful time on your vacation..

I am glad that you heard from D.....

Be safe and see you when you get back

 

[myinnerslut]

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