Dirty talk

[kinky shy girl]

This probably seems like a silly question, but here goes...
How do I get my man to talk dirty while we're having sex? I get really turned on by verbal commands...the nastier, the better. My man does talk about kinky things on occasion, but I would like him to take it up a notch.

I know the easy thing would be to just come out and ask. But I don't know how to say "Hey, honey, I'd really like it if you would call me your cum slut while we're doing it." How do I introduce him to what I like w/o shocking the hell out of him?

 

[Ugod]

Start small, thats what my girl did. Start with "I like it when you're fucking me from behind, because it makes me feel dirty"



Later change the word dirty to "it makes me feel LIKE a LITTLE slut."

I strongly recommend you use the word LIKE, that way he wont be too nervous about disrespecting you. Then you can get nastier and nastier

 

[white_mage_goddess]

He's a man...he'll dig it. I just told my guy I wanted it. I found out he wanted to do it,but was afraid I'd get mad if he called me his dirty little anal whore or some such...sometimes, the guy is just waiting for your permission.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

I agree. From my experience I have found that most men have a barrage of dirty things that they would like to say, they are just waiting for the green light from us dirty lil' cum sluts.

 

[ecstacey]

dirty little cum sluts. what is the world coming to?!?

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

dirty little cum sluts. what is the world coming to?!?

oh, c'mon ya know you like it!

 

[Phoenix Stone]

This probably seems like a silly question, but here goes...
How do I get my man to talk dirty while we're having sex? I get really turned on by verbal commands...the nastier, the better. My man does talk about kinky things on occasion, but I would like him to take it up a notch.

I know the easy thing would be to just come out and ask.

Hi, me Too!! Only problem is, I Have asked and slavegirl is about as far as he'll go. One thing he liked, and that we'll try again, is when I play voice-activated sextoy (or slavegirl or whatever.) he says it, I do it. He stops talking, I stop moving. (Only with my guy we this is more a foreplay and masturbation thing because he doesn't care if I move at all once he gets his hands on me. He loves to watch though, so I'm playing on this.)

 

[midwestyankee]

Re: Re: Dirty talk

Hi, me Too!! Only problem is, I Have asked and slavegirl is about as far as he'll go. One thing he liked, and that we'll try again, is when I play voice-activated sextoy (or slavegirl or whatever.) he says it, I do it. He stops talking, I stop moving. (Only with my guy we this is more a foreplay and masturbation thing because he doesn't care if I move at all once he gets his hands on me. He loves to watch though, so I'm playing on this.)

Do you say, "Beep" when it's time to act on a command?

Sorry, that was just too good to pass up.

 

[ninja squirrel]

Yeah, I just needed the green light from Angel Diva before I started talking dirty to her. I don't do it every time, and I still feel a bit nervous, but it works out nicely

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Re: Re: Dirty talk

Hi, me Too!! Only problem is, I Have asked and slavegirl is about as far as he'll go. One thing he liked, and that we'll try again, is when I play voice-activated sextoy (or slavegirl or whatever.) he says it, I do it. He stops talking, I stop moving. (Only with my guy we this is more a foreplay and masturbation thing because he doesn't care if I move at all once he gets his hands on me. He loves to watch though, so I'm playing on this.)

Hmm...I'm taking notes on this idea!

 

[kinky shy girl]

Awesome. This is good stuff. I think using the word "like" is a great idea.

Thanks for the great words, guys and gals.

 

[y=mx+b]

A good start is talking dirty yourself... to so much to him, but to yourself as in...

"my cunt is so wet... oooh how I want to feel your fuckstick deep inside me... fucking me harder and harder... feeling you balls lap against my ass..."

from there you could then change the direction and do a little prompting...

"would you like to stick your rod deep in to me? Please... tell me... I want to know what you want to do to me... "

or whatever.

Personally it is difficult for me to talk dirty, it is the same with being physically forceful. It is almost as if there is a wall. But with a little reassurance from my wife the wall is quick to crumble.

best of luck!

 

[kinky shy girl]

Personally it is difficult for me to talk dirty, it is the same with being physically forceful. It is almost as if there is a wall. But with a little reassurance from my wife the wall is quick to crumble.

best of luck!

thanks for the advice. I'm not very good at it either. I try, but I get embarassed easily. Well, practice makes perfect, I guess.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by y=mx+b
A good start is talking dirty yourself... to so much to him, but to yourself as in...

"my cunt is so wet... oooh how I want to feel your fuckstick deep inside me... fucking me harder and harder... feeling you balls lap against my ass..."

from there you could then change the direction and do a little prompting...

"would you like to stick your rod deep in to me? Please... tell me... I want to know what you want to do to me... "

or whatever.

Personally it is difficult for me to talk dirty, it is the same with being physically forceful. It is almost as if there is a wall. But with a little reassurance from my wife the wall is quick to crumble.

best of luck!

yup I agree with this...a mix of encouraging him whenever he talks dirty and using it yourself.

 

[lil missy]

Absolutely hands down my favorite author in the story section of lit......he has written the best How To articles and one being How to Talk Dirty to your lover by Bats and Glamour http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=72904

Be sure to check out his other How To articles......he writes with a great sense of humor and experience, without being a know it all. Good luck!

 

[BlueSugar]

setting free the beast started by PinkOrchid

poke around in the Manual, there are a few on dirty talk that are quite helpful

 

[ReadyOne]

Trick is separating pillow/sex talk from real life. Some guys can't call a partner anything bad and then face her in the morning without great embarrassment.

Plus they fear what might come out of their mouth if they started free-associating during the "hard cock disconnects brain" moments.

 

[Pimptress J]

Ahhh, ok then. How about a guy that doesn't say a word?
The most I have ever gotten out of him is "oh god baby, that feels good", when I was sucking his dick. And in response to me telling/asking him to talk to me "I want to hear every little moan you make". That's it. No "oh god, I'm cumming". NOT A DAMN THING!!!!

*not that I am in for the dirty cumslut thing.... yet

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Re: Re: Re: Dirty talk

Do you say, "Beep" when it's time to act on a command?

Sorry, that was just too good to pass up.

Hey, Buddy, if it worked I would! lol hell, I'd stand on my head!

Mine's really a non-talker, like Pimptress' guy. Doesnt like to hear it either. When I tried saying things, he says 'shhh' or kisses me to shut me up.

Gonna check out the thread suggested by lil missy.

 

[herecomestherain]

Batsandglamour, recommended by lil missy is top reading, all his articles are terrific. They were the first pieces I read a Lit and got me inspired to write.


The article below is great reading too.
http://www.sexuality.org/talk.html

As is this one from Violet Blue.
http://www.tinynibbles.com/dirtytalk.html

Cheers 'rain

 

[krustyalice]

Sometimes talking dirty just doesn't come easy to people.
My partner and I have good comunications in our relationship and feel comfortable expressing feelings.
I know he wouldn't talk dirty to me in bed but we both love to read sex stories.
Now we read sex stories to each other and I find it a huge turn on.
I can't have the dirty talk but I do get the chance to share the experiance of stories together.

 

[kinky shy girl]

Thanks for the article links, ladies. I really liked the one by Bats and I'll check out the other ones later.

pimptress ~ my man was like that in the beginning. when he realized how much it turned me on to hear him, he started to be more verbal. i guess you just have to let him know how much you like it. if you're turned on, it's better sex for him...win/win situation for everyone.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Batsandglamour, recommended by lil missy is top reading, all his articles are terrific. They were the first pieces I read a Lit and got me inspired to write.


The article below is great reading too.
http://www.sexuality.org/talk.html

As is this one from Violet Blue.
http://www.tinynibbles.com/dirtytalk.html

Cheers 'rain

Oh g-d, I forget this first link! And i have it bookmarked from months ago! Thanks for the reminder.
And from reading lil misses amusing link, we Are doing it, I just didn't have ideas on how to turn it up a notch. Lots of help here! Thanks!
And kinky shy girl I hope you don't feel like I hijacked your thread by asking, too.

If anyone's just looking for a hot read, see in rain's first link: advice on sex for phone talkers, sweet talkers by kathleen k

 

[ecstacey]

oh, c'mon ya know you like it!

its true *cries*

 

[WickedEyes]

Man, I'm really dirty when I fuck... I love to call her pussy names and I hope she gets turned on by it too, and wants to tell me to fuck her that much harder.