Dirty Talk

[Rocket88]

...So i want some tips for the shyer people ~Giggles~~Blush~

As above... state the obvious. It's a good segue. "I feel the heat from your body" seems innocuous enough, but it builds desire. It's pretty sexy when you whisper it to someone. "Touch me here..." followed by a leading gesture is good. "More... deeper... harder.. faser... slower... I never knew i had that muscle..." these are all good ones.

And throw in "daddy" occasionally just to see his reaction.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

If you're shy, you might try starting out by just encouraging your lover. "Yes" is a good place to start. When he touches you in a way you like just tell him,"that feels good". Even "Ohhh." is 1000% better than making no sound at all.

And not all women enjoy the "slut" thing. I've known women who get offended by it

I was thinking about vocalizations and the idea of being "good in bed". What makes a guy think a girl is "good in bed"? A woman doesn't have to stay hard, doesn't have to know slick moves, doesn't have to do much of anything.
When you get right down to it there are really only two things that matter:
(1) she enjoys it
(2) she tells you she enjoys it.

Really, that's about all there is to it. It's that simple.

---dr.M.

 

[Bondagebunni]

I love hearing dirty talk...but i just have the worst trouble doing it myself...most of it's because after awhile i get to the point where actual speech is muddled and comes out as moans and half-words. "yes sir" tends to come out as "yesssssssssiiii ooooooh god!mmm" heehee... *grins* I'm noisy though...does that count?

 

[k_girl23]

I had to laugh when I read PinkOrchid's post
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Once I discovered my verbal nature, I kind of went overboard, and I think all the neighbors know when I'm being fucked and exactly what I like, lol.



I've actually had my neighbours (below me in the condo building) bang on their ceiling with something in the middle of having sex. I've quieted down a bit since then

 

[Lust Engine]

I had to laugh when I read PinkOrchid's post
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Once I discovered my verbal nature, I kind of went overboard, and I think all the neighbors know when I'm being fucked and exactly what I like, lol.

I've actually had my neighbours (below me in the condo building) bang on their ceiling with something in the middle of having sex. I've quieted down a bit since then

Omigod! That was you??

Actually I've never been the above tenant. I've always been the tenant below in all of my apartment experiences. It's always been pretty embarrassing the day after to make eye contact with the neighbors.

"Uh... damn! That was it? You guys had the stamina of a flea!"

Being a bottom tenant I still made sure that my headboard was just far enough away from the walls as not to rattle the walls above. I've never been shy about my exploits but I've never been a blatant broadcaster of those lurid moments of pleasure.

 

[Artina Heartflash]

Re: slut

And not all women enjoy the "slut" thing. I've known women who get offended by it

--dr.M.

I've always hated the word "slut". Sounds like a combo of the words "slug" and "slit", so I get this visual of a female, slimy slug with a full-length slit... <shudder>. BLEH!

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Bondagebunni,

Yes, non-verbal vocalizations (also known as screaming, panting, crying, moaning, whining, gasping, shrieking, etc. etc.) all count in my book. As long as you don't laugh or snort.

The important thing is to let your lover know that you're aware of what he's doing to you and that it has an effect on you. The worst thing is a woman who you have to look at every so often to make sure she's still awake and that she hasn't picked up a magazine.

---dr.M.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Orchid,

You misunderstand me. There's being good in bed, then there's being great in bed. Then there's being fantastic. Fantastics are rare, but you might just qualify. (Of course, I'd have to do a personal evaluation to kjnow for sure. Or maybe two.)

---dr.M.

 

[ShyMinx69er]

~laughs~ i was blushing reading some of the posts!!!! I dont know where u people get you're confidence from in the bedroom!!!It takes me a few drinks to even get me into a horny mood to want to be with a man like that as have a confidence of a mouse~laughs~,i feel alot more sexier aswell and know excatly where i want it n how n not afraid 2 get it n get it rite!!!!

+ i think it deoends on the person you r with n if they make it comfortable for you then you just go with the flow i suppose ~shrugs~....Even though i do get very turned on when a guy kisses me and that's when i get in a horny mood then i just kinda i guess guide his hands 2 where i want them 2 go, i dont think dirrty talk is for everyone, actions speak louder than words you see,,,,but @ the heat opf the moemnt i do tend to have a dirrty mouth when it comes to wanting to drive my man wild, ive been known to do that!!! ~giggles~ but honestly i am shy!!!!! and i do tend to make some noise 2 so he knows i enjoy myself

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[dr_mabeuse]

There's a real problem with the words "whore" and "slut", and that is their moral connotation of looseless. What's really needed is a female equivalent of the word "stud", but there isn't. (just as there isn't a male equivalent for "slut" or "whore") So those are the words we're forced to use.

When, in the throes of passion, I call a lover a "whore" I certainly don't mean that she trades sex for money. I mean that she's terribly sexually exciting and wonderfully adventurously naughty. But saying "You're so terribly sexually exciting and wondserfully adventurously naughty!" just doesn't pack the erotic punch of "whore".

Same thing with "slut", which doesn't really mean that she'll go to bed with anyone. It means that she's very highly erotically charged.

Of course, if you really are with a whore or a slut, you'd hardly call her these things, and she probably woudn't find it very exciting if you did. And if I were in some sort of casual pick-up relationship, I don't think I'd use these words either. Yoiu only use them with someone whom you know they don't really apply to.

In other words, if it's not true you can say it, but if it is true, don't.

By the way, I understand that in Spain, a terrific male lover is called a "fireman".

---dr.M.

 

[Tallfella]

I love hearing dirty talk...but i just have the worst trouble doing it myself...most of it's because after awhile i get to the point where actual speech is muddled and comes out as moans and half-words. "yes sir" tends to come out as "yesssssssssiiii ooooooh god!mmm" heehee... *grins* I'm noisy though...does that count?

Noisy is good as long as its really dirty noisy

 

[Bondagebunni]

Bondagebunni,

Yes, non-verbal vocalizations (also known as screaming, panting, crying, moaning, whining, gasping, shrieking, etc. etc.) all count in my book. As long as you don't laugh or snort.

The important thing is to let your lover know that you're aware of what he's doing to you and that it has an effect on you. The worst thing is a woman who you have to look at every so often to make sure she's still awake and that she hasn't picked up a magazine.

---dr.M.

am i allowed to laugh if he falls asleep while he's jacking off....? *evil grin*

 

[Bondagebunni]

There's a real problem with the words "whore" and "slut", and that is their moral connotation of looseless. What's really needed is a female equivalent of the word "stud", but there isn't. (just as there isn't a male equivalent for "slut" or "whore") So those are the words we're forced to use.

When, in the throes of passion, I call a lover a "whore" I certainly don't mean that she trades sex for money. I mean that she's terribly sexually exciting and wonderfully adventurously naughty. But saying "You're so terribly sexually exciting and wondserfully adventurously naughty!" just doesn't pack the erotic punch of "whore".

Same thing with "slut", which doesn't really mean that she'll go to bed with anyone. It means that she's very highly erotically charged.



---dr.M.

i think i just like the idea of being a sex slave..and whore and slut have that connotation in my mind...I don't want to be "sexually exciting and wonderfully adventurously naughty", i wanna be his cock whore!!! oh great...now i've gotten myself worked up...and i can't fix it cause i have a friend over...shit...*growls at self*

 

[SnowMedic]

bondage bunni

u kinda got me worked up too! lol...i like the dirty talk and the idea of it...its kinda hard sometimes to go through and say some certian stuff...but it's sure exciting when it gets going though

i like the dirty talk when my partner is really into it...i love it when the woman gets loud...and just asks for more and can get enough...telling me how she likes it and where she likes it...how it feels, everything about it...hmmmm, now i'm thinking about it more...yummmy

-SnowMedic

 

[Jaded1]

Pink Orchid......


Earlier you posed a question which brings a smile to my face. Pretaining to guys if they truly enjoy very vocal woman or do they enjoy women less expessive?

I have nieghbors living next to me that are extremely nosey (especially the he). He is a very thin frail pretty boy while his girl friend is a very attractive sensual woman. In the ten years we have been nieghbors I don't think he has work more than a year. She has supported him completely all this time. It seemed that I could not make a move without being watched.

Purely by accident I brought home a young lady that was extremely vocal. Being caught up in the moment I managed to get her screaming like a bashee on crystal meth. The next morning she left after a full night of howling at the moon. After a couple of days I noticed that the pretty boy seemed to be less aggressive in my presents. Each time I chance passing his lady friend I get the biggest warmest smile and loads of small talk.

The answer to your question - one very vocal woman please.....

Jaded1, CT

PS. Besides I don't know a male in the world that doesn't enjoy having his ego stroked. Amonst other thing.....

 

[Bondagebunni]

Re: Pink Orchid......

Purely by accident I brought home a young lady that was extremely vocal. Being caught up in the moment I managed to get her screaming like a bashee on crystal meth. The next morning she left after a full night of howling at the moon. After a couple of days I noticed that the pretty boy seemed to be less aggressive in my presents. Each time I chance passing his lady friend I get the biggest warmest smile and loads of small talk.

mrow....question: how DOES a banshee on crystal meth scream? and have you been in the presence of one while it was on crystal meth and screaming? ... And you spelled presence wrong. ^_^ just so you know.

edit for missing word thing...heehee

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I like to whisper....

This question is for everyone, but especially for the guys.

Does it ever get to be too much, I mean is there a point where you think, ok just shut up and fuck me?

Once I discovered my verbal nature, I kind of went overboard, and I think all the neighbors know when I'm being fucked and exactly what I like, lol.

And as someone mentioned in an earlier post, there's nothing as titillating as having a man whisper in your ear all the nasty things he's going to do to you.

whispering is a great thing PRIOR to starting...and can be extremely fun if the woman is face down and having her wrists held tightly while I am laying on her and nibbling on her neck, shoulders and ear lobes.....

but when facing a woman, I LOVE to just describe what I THINK she is feeling.....asking if she can feel the head of my cock rubbing along the roof of her pussy....telling her I am about to flex my cock fully and asking her to both tighten up and feel it as it happens...that sort of thing....talking is a fun way to keep the mind engaged .....

 

[Mstrskey]

Forgive my butting in

hope nobody minds my 2 cents worth.

My advice begins with an already stated tip...practice before the debut of your dirty talk in bed.
I have a lover who upon finding out that I like things a little more agressive then most women he has been with tried to please me with spontaneous dirty talk. Not a vocalizer by nature it ran along the lines of...
yeah that's right...you like it when I stick it up there don't you in the most flat mechanical voice I had ever heard. I hated myself for it later, but I laughed so hard he got soft and we ended up calling the whole thing off. My husband on the other hand, can really turn me on w/o even touching me by talking " dirty"
Ex: we were at a friends and as I was leaning against him on the couch he got a clear shot down my blouse at my breasts. He spent a good 5 minutes whispering in my ear what he planned to do to them later on.
MMMM...there's one of my favorite views.----- I love your tits baby, no, don't cover them up let everyone see.----I wish they could see those pretty pink nipples too baby and how hard they get with my cock between them... he never touched me but i was incredibly aroused just the same.

Also it isn't just about words. The same lover I mentioned earlier, has given up trying to talk " dirty" per say to me, but when we're making love he will moan, and pant, or whisper to me how he's feeling. It's by no mean porno-style but hot just the same.

My friend- and sometimes fuck buddy- is really good at talking " dirty" in the traditional sense...
spread your pussy for me....that's right baby ride my cock, feel it fuck you deep, feels good doesn't it. You're such a cock-whore and the ilk. I asked him once how he could do it with a straight face and he told me it was just the way he would vocalize when he masturbated so it was natural for him to do it during sex.

As for women, I'm a firm believer that it's important to vocalize during foreplay, lovemaking, masturbation, or any other venture sexual. It isn't easy to please a woman and unless we help the men out we're doomed to a life of either egocentric or mediocre lovers. No matter how reserved you and your lover might be, I will promise you that a few well applied instructions in bed will work wonders.

 

[Bondagebunni]

Re: Forgive my butting in

You're such a cock-whore

heehee...that's my favorite one to hear....ok, well anything along those lines are my favorites...^_^