goddaluvme
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Help!! Girl wants me to talk really dirty to her. Im not sure what to say? She likes the way they talk in porn. Help!
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Ok.. By "really" dirty, do you mean like REAL BAD? Like "YEAH SLUT!! I'M FUCKING YOUR HOLE!!" ??? I don't know if that's your cup of tea, it sure isn't mine.
My girlfriend and I also watch porn together, and it has sparked a yearning in both of us to communicate a lot more during sex. We try to stay away from the hardcore stuff I mentioned above, and concentrate more on describing what we're doing to each other, how it feels, how good it tastes, etc.
I'd say watch some more porn with her (twisting your arm).. Find some with the hardcore vocals and the more softer core. See what she really meant. In the meantime, you might want to just start off with the softer stuff. If you initiate (and she's already given you the green light), then you determine what it starts off like. If she wants it dirtier, she can make it dirtier, and you can follow after that. That's what I would do anyway.
Good luck with it.
My girlfriend and I also watch porn together, and it has sparked a yearning in both of us to communicate a lot more during sex. We try to stay away from the hardcore stuff I mentioned above, and concentrate more on describing what we're doing to each other, how it feels, how good it tastes, etc.
I'd say watch some more porn with her (twisting your arm).. Find some with the hardcore vocals and the more softer core. See what she really meant. In the meantime, you might want to just start off with the softer stuff. If you initiate (and she's already given you the green light), then you determine what it starts off like. If she wants it dirtier, she can make it dirtier, and you can follow after that. That's what I would do anyway.
Good luck with it.
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I have a book titled "The Fine Art of Erotic Talk" by
Bonnie Gabriel..........you can find it in Borders or
Barnes and Noble....even check on www.bn.com for it
It really is a very good book......I suggest that you check
it out........good luck!
tigerjen
Bonnie Gabriel..........you can find it in Borders or
Barnes and Noble....even check on www.bn.com for it
It really is a very good book......I suggest that you check
it out........good luck!
tigerjen
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I've always liked to talk. I write a lot of porn and my characters all talk too. But like everything else in sex, everyone has their own preferences in what they say and what they want to hear so there's no formula. However, here are some ideas.
First of all, it's got to be natural and not forced. The way you do this is by practicing. I know, it sounds goofy, but try talking yourself tyhrough your next beat-off session. What do you say? Well what are you thinking about when you're having sex?
"God, you feel so fucking good!"
"I love fucking you. I love having my cock in you. I could fuck you forever, you are just so good."
"God I love you so much. You drive me crazy. I just think about doing this to you all the time. I want to leave my prick in you all night long. Just shove it in you and leave it there."
"You look so beautiful like this. I feel like I own you, like you're mine completely."
Tell her how you feel, how she makes you feel. How you love her, how special she is to you, how excited she makes you.
You can also tell her what you're going to do:
"Let me just leave it in you. Don't move. Just let me feel you around me. Make it last."
"I've got to fuck you now. I can't stand it anymore. I've got to come."
"I want to get deeper. Deeper. Faster, harder (whatever)"
Just stay away from anything contrived or insincere.
Some women like to be called slut and whore when they make love. Some women just hate it. If she's naturally shy or embarrassed during sex, I'd stay away from those kind of things. She's already afraid that you'llkhave a bad oipinion of her and she could take it the wrong way.
When you get really excited you can let some of your male animal out though.
"Take my cock, baby! Take it! Do you feel it? Is it good?"
"Fuck me, love! Squeeze me! Fuck me hard!"
And it's always good to tell her where you are with respect to your orgasm, when you're close, on the edge, a little more, etc.
I think men are more likeluy to talk than women are. Finding a woman who'll tell you what she feels is rare, but it's wonderful.
Another thing that can be fun is talking to her during forwplay. A lot of women like to hear what you're going to do to them, how you can't keep your hand off them, how you're going to fuck them silly, how you're going to slide your cock into them and screw them nice and slow for hours.
Once you get comfortable talking, I'm sure you'll find your own things to say and eventually get to the point where you're saying what you mean and meaning what you say, and then you're home.
I know it sounds silly when it's all spelled out flat like I've done here, but still I hope this helps. I've never had a woman tell me to shut up yet.
---dr.M.
First of all, it's got to be natural and not forced. The way you do this is by practicing. I know, it sounds goofy, but try talking yourself tyhrough your next beat-off session. What do you say? Well what are you thinking about when you're having sex?
"God, you feel so fucking good!"
"I love fucking you. I love having my cock in you. I could fuck you forever, you are just so good."
"God I love you so much. You drive me crazy. I just think about doing this to you all the time. I want to leave my prick in you all night long. Just shove it in you and leave it there."
"You look so beautiful like this. I feel like I own you, like you're mine completely."
Tell her how you feel, how she makes you feel. How you love her, how special she is to you, how excited she makes you.
You can also tell her what you're going to do:
"Let me just leave it in you. Don't move. Just let me feel you around me. Make it last."
"I've got to fuck you now. I can't stand it anymore. I've got to come."
"I want to get deeper. Deeper. Faster, harder (whatever)"
Just stay away from anything contrived or insincere.
Some women like to be called slut and whore when they make love. Some women just hate it. If she's naturally shy or embarrassed during sex, I'd stay away from those kind of things. She's already afraid that you'llkhave a bad oipinion of her and she could take it the wrong way.
When you get really excited you can let some of your male animal out though.
"Take my cock, baby! Take it! Do you feel it? Is it good?"
"Fuck me, love! Squeeze me! Fuck me hard!"
And it's always good to tell her where you are with respect to your orgasm, when you're close, on the edge, a little more, etc.
I think men are more likeluy to talk than women are. Finding a woman who'll tell you what she feels is rare, but it's wonderful.
Another thing that can be fun is talking to her during forwplay. A lot of women like to hear what you're going to do to them, how you can't keep your hand off them, how you're going to fuck them silly, how you're going to slide your cock into them and screw them nice and slow for hours.
Once you get comfortable talking, I'm sure you'll find your own things to say and eventually get to the point where you're saying what you mean and meaning what you say, and then you're home.
I know it sounds silly when it's all spelled out flat like I've done here, but still I hope this helps. I've never had a woman tell me to shut up yet.
---dr.M.
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PinkOrchid said:
Fanning Orchid a tad.
Admittedly a little verbalization helps out the ENTIRE scenario. The trick is to discover what words each person wants used. While some might want just grunting, groaning & moaning, some others might prefer softer words and others might prefer the very graphic. I'd even talk about it afterwards to see if it excited your partner. It's not an easy thing to get over initially because we generally don't use those words in everyday conversation but if it excites your lover, then it's worthwhile figuring out what makes them hotter.
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Ah yes, m'dear Orchid... the almost forgotten art of whispering! A little variety to the mix here never hurt either! Wonderful suggestion!!
And damn it would've been a vicarious joy to have been your neighbor for awhile! There ARE advantages to cheap drywall!
And damn it would've been a vicarious joy to have been your neighbor for awhile! There ARE advantages to cheap drywall!
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It is possible for a woman (or a man) to make too much noise, sure. On the other hand it is pretty sexy if you have to put your hand over her mouth to keep the neighbors from hearing. But it gets old pretty fast.
What's most irritating is someone who says the same thing every time you make love. It's like anything else, you never want to repeat sex or it feels mechanical. I went with a girl who said the same thing every time we made love, and finally it got so I was gritting my teeth just waiting for it.
Yeah, I'll tell you what it was. It was, "Fuck me with your big cock!" Which is not bad to hear, even if you know you're not especially enormous. But every time, just when I'd get into her, the same thing.
I really wanted to tell her, "Hey. Every time we make love you say the same thing. Do you think you could maybe say something else once in a while?" But I never had the nerve, or maybe the lack of tact.
---dr.M.
What's most irritating is someone who says the same thing every time you make love. It's like anything else, you never want to repeat sex or it feels mechanical. I went with a girl who said the same thing every time we made love, and finally it got so I was gritting my teeth just waiting for it.
Yeah, I'll tell you what it was. It was, "Fuck me with your big cock!" Which is not bad to hear, even if you know you're not especially enormous. But every time, just when I'd get into her, the same thing.
I really wanted to tell her, "Hey. Every time we make love you say the same thing. Do you think you could maybe say something else once in a while?" But I never had the nerve, or maybe the lack of tact.
---dr.M.
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Re: The Fine Art of Erotic Talk
I think the best thing to do is to look for the book
in a bookstore, and even if you don't buy the book,
at least look thru it......check it out.........there's too
much to explain from the book here......
acer144 said:plz tell us some from the book
I think the best thing to do is to look for the book
in a bookstore, and even if you don't buy the book,
at least look thru it......check it out.........there's too
much to explain from the book here......
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I would just like to reply and say that 2 some people during the art of lovemaking with a partner(or whom ever they may be) dirrty talk comes naturally or may even come threw the height of the moment during orgasm..Iknow threw personal experience that it has come naturally, but all you need to do is sit down with you're girlfriend and ask her what would turn her on during the dirrty what she would find most erotic whilst you are making love....the best way i aways find is threw the art of conversation!!
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Re: Re: The Fine Art of Erotic Talk
Yeah c'mon guys...quit being cheap! Go out & buy the book to get the entire effect! No need to have Tigerjen read you the whole thing now...
Of course that would be a nice bedtime story!
tigerjen said:
Yeah c'mon guys...quit being cheap! Go out & buy the book to get the entire effect! No need to have Tigerjen read you the whole thing now...
Of course that would be a nice bedtime story!
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Oh I don't know might be nice having her sit on my lap and read it too me and explain the big words .
My wife will actually talk very dirty to me when we are out shopping or in a social situation where sex is impossible just to tease me and it works
Lust Engine said:Yeah c'mon guys...quit being cheap! Go out & buy the book to get the entire effect! No need to have Tigerjen read you the whole thing now...
Of course that would be a nice bedtime story!
Oh I don't know might be nice having her sit on my lap and read it too me and explain the big words .
My wife will actually talk very dirty to me when we are out shopping or in a social situation where sex is impossible just to tease me and it works
Dirty talk with rough sex really gets me hot, and it turns my lover on too. There nothing lik ehaving a hsrd cock in my ass while he pulls on my hair and calls me his little slut or whore.
It has also helped me in the past to use dirty talk to get a timid lover more physical by attacking his manhood while having sex.
It has also helped me in the past to use dirty talk to get a timid lover more physical by attacking his manhood while having sex.
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sinnndy said:
*drools* very hot now... Nothing gets me so hot as when he calls me a slut or a whore while he's fucking me...
WOW! Hot thread with excellent contibutions...
from everybody. Captures the range and nuances of the art...I there more that needs saying, except what needs be said in private?
From a reader review of "The Fine Art of Erotic Talk"
"This book offers suggestions, "entry-level" phrases, and special exercises that seem like they would be especially helpful if you are interested in talking erotically to your partner, but are shy. Some phrases seemed silly to me, but everyone has differnt tastes. The real-life accounts of other people's experiences in different situations was interesting and helpful. This book also offers new ideas for situations to create and erotic things to say even before adjourning to the bedroom."
A "new thread" suggestion I haven't seen (tho there may well be old ones): who has the sexiest voice?
--Orson
from everybody. Captures the range and nuances of the art...I there more that needs saying, except what needs be said in private?
From a reader review of "The Fine Art of Erotic Talk"
"This book offers suggestions, "entry-level" phrases, and special exercises that seem like they would be especially helpful if you are interested in talking erotically to your partner, but are shy. Some phrases seemed silly to me, but everyone has differnt tastes. The real-life accounts of other people's experiences in different situations was interesting and helpful. This book also offers new ideas for situations to create and erotic things to say even before adjourning to the bedroom."
A "new thread" suggestion I haven't seen (tho there may well be old ones): who has the sexiest voice?
--Orson
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Re: WOW! Hot thread with excellent contibutions...
i feel the need to comment on something but i have nothing to say...except yay for dirty talk...heehee..i need a life don't i? *giggles* anyway...dirty talk is always good...i don't care if it's in the middle of the kitchen utensil isle of the grocery store
i feel the need to comment on something but i have nothing to say...except yay for dirty talk...heehee..i need a life don't i? *giggles* anyway...dirty talk is always good...i don't care if it's in the middle of the kitchen utensil isle of the grocery store
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jacana33 said:All this talk of dirty talk, and I can't help but share!
Sometimes, if my boyfriend is just too tired, I'll tell him a bedtime story, usually of what I plan to do to him when he's all rested and ready. Believe me, he's usually not tired after 'story time.'
~Natalie
*giggles* hey...that's a nice idea...can't ever being tired after sexy stories!!!
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About the whore/slut thing: I always heard of that, heard guys say it through the walls... heard both sexes say they love it... but I was always a little timid. I thought that as soon as the sex was over it would dawn on her what I had called her and she'd chase me naked down the hall with a ball bat screaming, "What the FUCK did you call me?!?!" (though, I'm sure that scenario just turned at least one of you perverts on). So I was reluctant.
Then I put my toe in the water: "You like feeling like a slut?" Always an immeidate "Yes." Ok... I was on to something.
"Do you want to be my slut? My whore?" And a resounding "Yes!"
"Fuck me like a slut, then. You're my whore and you act like it. Fuck me like a slut." And goddamn if the girls don't love that.
I am a fan of talk. And yes, women do NOT talk enough. It turns me on when they state the obvious: "Your cock is filling me up." Or something as simple as, "I feel you inside me." And they need to tell us what they like more! Girls, if you aren't getting enough attention on something, say so. Your nerve endings are not connected to our brains! So say, "Suck my nipples!" or "Put your tongue inside me" or "Bite my elbow!" if that's what you want. It's a turn-on to get directions because it's a constant reassurance "I want you to be the one touching me."
Also, the movies make being sexy VERY easy for women. Men write most movies that turn men on, believe it or not. All those hot, sexy lines that to movie girls say? All written by men. All the sultry, seductive things they do? Men's ideas. So women, if you wanna be a sex goddess, pay attention to Lara Croft; she is a product of mens' fantasies.
Something I hate, though: I hate, like, having a cold and being all snotty during sex. "Ohn baynbee... thnuck it, you fide focktee mommba!! Ohn yea!! Feeld by ballds!" while you drip snot on her. Or like when you have to cough. I hate that. Once I sneezed during sex and I sneezed so hard I farted and damn... nevermind.
Then I put my toe in the water: "You like feeling like a slut?" Always an immeidate "Yes." Ok... I was on to something.
"Do you want to be my slut? My whore?" And a resounding "Yes!"
"Fuck me like a slut, then. You're my whore and you act like it. Fuck me like a slut." And goddamn if the girls don't love that.
I am a fan of talk. And yes, women do NOT talk enough. It turns me on when they state the obvious: "Your cock is filling me up." Or something as simple as, "I feel you inside me." And they need to tell us what they like more! Girls, if you aren't getting enough attention on something, say so. Your nerve endings are not connected to our brains! So say, "Suck my nipples!" or "Put your tongue inside me" or "Bite my elbow!" if that's what you want. It's a turn-on to get directions because it's a constant reassurance "I want you to be the one touching me."
Also, the movies make being sexy VERY easy for women. Men write most movies that turn men on, believe it or not. All those hot, sexy lines that to movie girls say? All written by men. All the sultry, seductive things they do? Men's ideas. So women, if you wanna be a sex goddess, pay attention to Lara Croft; she is a product of mens' fantasies.
Something I hate, though: I hate, like, having a cold and being all snotty during sex. "Ohn baynbee... thnuck it, you fide focktee mommba!! Ohn yea!! Feeld by ballds!" while you drip snot on her. Or like when you have to cough. I hate that. Once I sneezed during sex and I sneezed so hard I farted and damn... nevermind.
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Rocket88 said:
*more nuzzly things* i love you! *pokes* you're so cute...
yes, that's all i have to say ^_^ *Grins*
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OKay then what about dirrty talk for the shyer people like me~giggles~ I'm often very shy when it comes to dirrty talk even though once i get comfortable with a guy i know excatly how to get him wanting me ~L~
So i want some tips for the shyer people ~Giggles~~Blush~
So i want some tips for the shyer people ~Giggles~~Blush~
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I was one of the shy ones.....until a year ago when I started doing cybersex Hell at first I couldn't even type the word "fuck" let alone say it! I had a couple of really nice guys lead me into it gradually........and then I met my lover online and we started doing phone sex (distance keeps us apart for now and we do it quite often ) I love to tell him what I want to do to him, but I don't think I could do it with someone I didn't know well.
When we're in bed together we whisper naughty things to each other.....not too explicit, just sexy things like what we are going to do to each other next, or how something the other is doing feels. "Oh God" comes into it quite often......
Hell at first I couldn't even type the word "fuck" let alone say it! I had a couple of really nice guys lead me into it gradually........and then I met my lover online and we started doing phone sex (distance keeps us apart for now and we do it quite often ) I love to tell him what I want to do to him, but I don't think I could do it with someone I didn't know well. When we're in bed together we whisper naughty things to each other.....not too explicit, just sexy things like what we are going to do to each other next, or how something the other is doing feels. "Oh God" comes into it quite often......
