Dirty Talk, how do I do it?

[JKayle]

It’s something that I’ve often struggled with, and I’m a guy. As others have said, it’s one of those things that are better coming out naturally. I love my wife talking dirty, but I too lose focus when she does, not because I don’t like it, but because I’m trying to think up a suitable response.

Practice, I believe will make better, and if nothing else, should quiet that internal censor that screams “You can’t say that to your wife!!” when you’re in the middle of having fun.

 

[subwannabe]

I can see this as a hard issue. I wish my wife talked sexier and dirtier but I think it is kind of a talent (which maybe can be learned). I would actually like quality rather than someone spewing out a bunch of dirty words with no purpose other than to be talking dirty. I would like kind of a plot and purpose to the talking as opposed to just throwing out a bunch of random dirty words. To me it's kind of like listening to some kind of paid phone sex where the girl is talking dirty and grunting and groaning with no real purpose. It sounds fake.

 

[lili_fromtx]

And when you're taking dirty COMPLIMENT him or her.

God I love your big cock
You feel so good in me.
I love how you lick my pussy
Fuck you're making my pussy sore you bastard
Fuck me hard and you can come anywhere you fucking want.

 

[Squabbles]

I know what my fellow would like me to say and what I should say, but I'm so awful at saying it!

Sometimes attempting to talk dirty talk makes me feel like I'm in some bad 80's porno, and it makes me want to never talk again!

I, personally, find whimpering and such makes me much more desirous anyway. But my fellow like dirty talk, so. I'm trying.

Good luck to you, curiouslittlesu! We'll find a way to drive 'em crazy!

 

[wooodyme]

Oh, I don't know about that ....

Squabbles (above) you want to find a way to make us crazy? Huh? I'd say, "Let's you and me dance, dear." <grins>

 

[goesallnight]

It depends on your relationship with the person. But I think if you can just exagurate things, like moaning for example. Or say things you might be thinking. Don't be afraid to say very nasty words. Look and feel like you want it, like you want it bad, like you need it. And then talk about that.

 

[Rifraff123]

Be natural

I love sex, I love all elements of it. Im uninhibited when it comes to sex except for one thing. When it comes to dirty talk, I just cant seem to get my feet. I make alot of noise, especially when I come, but words.... I just cant figure it out.

Does anyone have any advice on what to say? How to get past this "hump" in my sexual freedom? Its frustrating, especially because dirty talk turns me on so much. Is this a submissive trait, whereas, I like to be talked to, but cant figure out what to say?

Help!

Don't try and sound like a porn star, be blunt and honest. Start with saying that something feels good, then work up to saying what feels good, your nipples, tits, pussy etc. Avoid trying to sound seductive, it never works.

 

[subwannabe]

I just realized that we really don't know the dynamics of your relationship, which could be of great help. You say your are a sub so I'm wondering that if you are the sub and he is the Dom, is that the context in which you want to talk dirty? I also realized that you never actually said that it is him that wants you to do this. Does he actually want you to talk dirty or is this just something you want to do to make the experience better? The context of your situation could have a big bearing on what to say, when to say it, and how to talk dirty. If you are wanting to talk dirty as a sub it may be completely different than just a "normal" couple wanting to talk dirty to each other.

 

[TouchAndGo]

Hi Su. I feel your pain.

Great advice from everyone. Especially from those that this topic comes naturally to. However let me tell you about my experience attempting to get a little dirty talk from my wife one night.

Image the romantic ambiance of a candle lit bedroom. Inside, two people swelling and pressing against each other in the early throws of passion. The man (me) began with hot deep passionate kisses. During the impassioned kiss, he slowly removed the woman’s (her) top. As his lips left hers, he kissed ever so softly down her neck, across her shoulders then down to her chest. His hands gently cupped each of her breasts as his mouth licked and fervently sucked on and around each nipple. He felt her body heaving and heard her breathing deeply as her passion grew. After enjoying his time spent there, he began licking and slowly kissing his way downward across her stomach, past her hips the between her thighs. His hands followed just barely touching her skin. As he moved and manipulated her body, she impatiently awaited the touch of his tongue upon her tender nether regions. He however was not about to rush the experience, and was enjoying the feel of her writhing to his touch and the feel of her body involuntarily trembling with anticipation.

As he moved his lips, tongue and hands softly upward between her thighs, he knew she was wet with excitement. The unmistakable aroma of her desire permeated the air wile her wetness oozed freely from between her legs and downward across her skin. He pressed his tongue to her just in time to lick the sweet wetness from her skin and into his mouth. Upon tasting her, he softly moaned to her ‘Mmmmm, You taste delicious.’ He then whispered to her ‘Tell me you want to feel my tongue in your pussy?’ ‘Tell me you want me to suck and lick your clit?’

He felt her body immediately stop shuddering and he opened his eyes just in time to see fear in her reaction and felt her once hot skin now growing cool. She looked down at him, regained her composure and asked him ‘WHAT? What did you say?’ Looking up at her, not wanting to ruin the moment or kill the mood, he smiled…looked her in the eye and quietly whispered ‘Talk dirty to me!’

He didn’t expect her to sound like a porn queen as he knew this would certainly be out of character for her. But he thought it would be a fun first experience for them both. However he was completely unprepared for what happened next.

She took a deep breath and in a very robust voice said ‘OK YOU DIRTY NO GOOD SON OF A BITCH….HOW’S THIS FOR TALKING DIRTY?’ She smiled at him with a look of reproach on her face.

The mood was gone. The moment went immediately from passion to emptiness. Then during the following flash of silence, moved onto awkwardness.

He took a deep breath. Knelt from between her legs, looked her in the eye with an ashen look on his face and said ‘Never mind. I don’t think you’ve quite got the hang of it.’

 

[LadyVer]

Great advice from everyone. Especially from those that this topic comes naturally to. However let me tell you about my experience attempting to get a little dirty talk from my wife one night.

Image the romantic ambiance of a candle lit bedroom. Inside, two people swelling and pressing against each other in the early throws of passion. The man (me) began with hot deep passionate kisses. During the impassioned kiss, he slowly removed the woman’s (her) top. As his lips left hers, he kissed ever so softly down her neck, across her shoulders then down to her chest. His hands gently cupped each of her breasts as his mouth licked and fervently sucked on and around each nipple. He felt her body heaving and heard her breathing deeply as her passion grew. After enjoying his time spent there, he began licking and slowly kissing his way downward across her stomach, past her hips the between her thighs. His hands followed just barely touching her skin. As he moved and manipulated her body, she impatiently awaited the touch of his tongue upon her tender nether regions. He however was not about to rush the experience, and was enjoying the feel of her writhing to his touch and the feel of her body involuntarily trembling with anticipation.

As he moved his lips, tongue and hands softly upward between her thighs, he knew she was wet with excitement. The unmistakable aroma of her desire permeated the air wile her wetness oozed freely from between her legs and downward across her skin. He pressed his tongue to her just in time to lick the sweet wetness from her skin and into his mouth. Upon tasting her, he softly moaned to her ‘Mmmmm, You taste delicious.’ He then whispered to her ‘Tell me you want to feel my tongue in your pussy?’ ‘Tell me you want me to suck and lick your clit?’

He felt her body immediately stop shuddering and he opened his eyes just in time to see fear in her reaction and felt her once hot skin now growing cool. She looked down at him, regained her composure and asked him ‘WHAT? What did you say?’ Looking up at her, not wanting to ruin the moment or kill the mood, he smiled…looked her in the eye and quietly whispered ‘Talk dirty to me!’

He didn’t expect her to sound like a porn queen as he knew this would certainly be out of character for her. But he thought it would be a fun first experience for them both. However he was completely unprepared for what happened next.

She took a deep breath and in a very robust voice said ‘OK YOU DIRTY NO GOOD SON OF A BITCH….HOW’S THIS FOR TALKING DIRTY?’ She smiled at him with a look of reproach on her face.

The mood was gone. The moment went immediately from passion to emptiness. Then during the following flash of silence, moved onto awkwardness.

He took a deep breath. Knelt from between her legs, looked her in the eye with an ashen look on his face and said ‘Never mind. I don’t think you’ve quite got the hang of it.’

Wow. geeze.

 

[subwannabe]

TouchandGo:

You should really write some stories. You're quite good at it. You might want to reword that last part though. Sorry it didn't work out.