Different Degrees of Bisexuality

[sterculius]

Has anyone read this article? What are your thoughts? http://www.cleansheets.com/coverstories/galarza_01.04.06.shtml

 

[yoyome100]

Interesting article.

 

[VmaxLondon]

But would the rest of the world see eye to eye with it , not that it is has to.

 

[gaymm]

Interesting, and no hadn't read it before.

I tried to plug myself into this
Romantic orientation: homoromantic
Sexual orientation: homosexual
Platonic orientation: somewhat biplatonic to heteroplatonic And I really had to think about this, because most of my male friends are gay, and I have had sex with several of them, well many of them, so I had to exclude them and that left me with very, very few straight male friends, and those who are, are friends because I am friendly with their wives too! I don't go shopping with them but I definitely strike up conversations with women much easier than with men, when in a mixed (non-gay oriented) setting. I never really thought about it at that sort of level, so very interesting indeed!

chris

 

[jshawk52]

Interesting reading. I'm not sure where I fit in. There is no emotional attachment and I love women, so I'm certainly not gay. For the most part, I'm not attracted to guys and am not interested in lots of cuddling and kissing, etc. That being aid, I have found myself checking out a good looking guy with a nice body, and getting excited to the point of an erection. And, I have been with partners where it was more than just cock sucking - lots of body rubbing and occasional kissing. So, maybe I'm 'semi bi'?

 

[sunandshadow]

I don't agree with the article's statement that males are 'innately bisexual'. (And it doesn't agree with the numbers in their own chart.) There are guys who are naturally repulsed by the groin scent of other males, and guys who have suck a total lack of interest in male sex that pretty much nothing another man could do would make them get a hard on. Actually it's probably wrong to think of the natural state of a population as being anything, whether bi or straight or what. Instead it's normal for the population to contain people with a variety of traits, because different traits have different evolutionary benefits, and the exact advantages or disadvantages depend on the context of an individual's life.

I was trying to figure out where I fit into these categories too. I guess I'm heteroromantic, slightly bisexual (mostly het), and almost 100% heteroplatonic.

I wonder whether being heteroplatonic correlates strongly with feeling like you ought to be the other gender?

 

[Shywong]

My question is where does the line between heterosexual and bisexual get drawn? I adore androgynous/transsexual males because they look and act like females. Femininity is the definition of sexy to me. Yet I'm instantly turned off by regular men and their signs of masculinity. I'm attracted to people who are feminine in both personality and looks regardless of gender. I don't know if that classifies me as bisexual or straight. One of the few gay friends I had IRL called it straight.

 

[meflash]

interesting I am not gay & kissing & cuddling with men is not what i like. I really like to get oral from a guy, If hes nice looking i will do him aswell. except for an once in awhile bj i only had sex with my wife. I did think about doing her with another guy but she would go for it. If i find a female that i think will be longterm i will give up any bi sex. So am i bi-straight i guess so

 

[Etoile]

First of all, I love this part:

For example, when a straight male says, "I'm not gay. I just like cocks in my mouth," what he means is that he is heteroromantic (straight in the romantic sense).

As for myself - homoromantic, homosexual, and biplatonic. Most of my friends are queer though, does that make me bi-homo-platonic? And what about the fact that I've dated guys in the past? It seems the Klein Orientation Grid is much more appropriate; it considers everything in that article, plus your history, your fantasy life, and your "ideal" situation.

 

[Missouribiguy]

"Me Grimlock don't understand this complicated stuff."
Just kidding, I think I would definately be able to romance a woman or guy, but also, would just like to have a fuck buddy.

 

[Vacheron58]

Just one line . . . .

" . . . men are innately bisexual . . ."
Maybe. I love being pegged by my wife. But I really have not accepted my wife's challenge to do it with a man. No offense to all our LIT buddies here that are gay. I don't see me with another man after almost 60 years of being heterosexual. However, the part that makes us bisexuals is that we do have a prostate and nerve endings at the sphincter that we can not leave them out of our love making. If Mother Nature gave us those two characteristics for pleasure, why waste them. But, I am not having any form of sex where there is another man involved. I guess that an explanation I heard once (or read) about being gay has to do with : my sex is regarding how I have sex, if the how uses a who I have sex with and that who is another man, then I would see where I am bisexual. At the same time because we have the prostate and the sphincter we are naturally bisexuals . . . . WE can not erase this reality. Prostate / sphincter.

 

[Little Bird]

I'm okay with sex with both men and women.
But of course, not all men and women. I'm attracted only to a small number of people with certain characteristics and traits.
I too belive that all people are basically bisexual, but everyday experience tells us that lot's of people are only attracted to people with certain traits, which they apparently find only in either men or women.

And, well... Heterosexuality is a concept that has been invented only very recently in the history of humanity. And as a sociological model, it can't be 100% accurate. As every theoretical model always is.

I adore androgynous/transsexual males because they look and act like females.

No, we don't.

I can't talk for all androgynes, but I think if we identify us that way, it's because we're not feeling as women (and by that being transgenders).