Did I get cruised?

[lordpenizworth]

This happened:
I had been hiking a trail and had returned to my car to check phone messages, when a car pulled in right next to mine on the passenger's side.
It's a big trailhead lot, but he came up right next to me.
The man appeared well dressed and well groomed, had his window down and said nothing, just drank water from a bottle for a few mins. During those moments I occasionally drank from my bottle suggestively.
Then I put my window down bc it was warm out and he mentioned how warm it was outside (small talk, etc).
He worked his smartphone some but the actions seemed more pantomime than genuine.
The vibe was one of... waiting. The silence was significant.
I asked him a vague question about the trail and he gave me some info about terrain. Again, small talk.
A minute later I got out and walked past his door, and announced I was taking a brief walk.
He did not follow.
When I came back, he was still there. And when I left, he did too.
Is this scenario familiar to anyone?
Thanks
UPDATE: SOLVED! See post #13.

 

[J1biboi]

This happened:
I had been hiking a trail and had returned to my car to check phone messages, when a car pulled in right next to mine on the passenger's side.
It's a big trailhead lot, but he came up right next to me.
The man appeared well dressed and well groomed, had his window down and said nothing, just drank water from a bottle for a few mins. During those moments I occasionally drank from my bottle suggestively.
Then I put my window down bc it was warm out and he mentioned how warm it was outside (small talk, etc).
He worked his smartphone some but the actions seemed more pantomime than genuine.
The vibe was one of... waiting. The silence was significant.
I asked him a vague question about the trail and he gave me some info about terrain. Again, small talk.
A minute later I got out and walked past his door, and announced I was taking a brief walk.
He did not follow.
When I came back, he was still there. And when I left, he did too.
Is this scenario familiar to anyone?
Thanks

Certainly not a familiar situation for me, but it seems like if he wanted to play he would have followed you. Might have been a cop waiting for you to come on to him! Touchy situation!

 

[lordpenizworth]

It was new to me, too. And maybe, as you said, he wasn't into me.
He was older... beyond retirement age...so I'm thinking he was a civilian like me, as far as that goes.
Those public encounters are so mysterious to me.

 

[Britva415]

Did I get cruised?

I occasionally drank from my bottle suggestively.

Sounds like you were cruising, yourself?

 

[klippert]

you made a suggestive way to drinking your water. Question: were you sitting in your car with the door open. That’s a signal from my days in the early 90s that you were open. And it’s still in use today. But people are very cautious these days.

 

[lordpenizworth]

Good question.
Yes, I was in my car, but the door was not open. I wasn't there to cruise. He just pulled up alongside my passenger door.
The drinking I did bc I had sexual vibes about what seemed to be unfolding.
That's all I can think to share...
Thanks for the information about the open door.

 

[Biguy77578]

Did I get cruised? I was at a major hospital in Houston and went into the mens room to pee before driving home. I was washing my hands afterwards tall man entered and stepped up to the first urinal. He was wearing shorts and with me 6 foot away he pushed them down and they dropped to his ankles. He had no underwear on and standing 6 inches away from the urinal began to pee. He was simi hard and I watched until he finished and shook it then pulled up his shorts and turned towards me and smiled. I smiled back and walked out. In a different atmosphere I might have made a move but not in a hospital where I'm sure there are many cameras. I wish now I would have at least made conversation.

 

[ffltstone1]

you made a suggestive way to drinking your water. Question: were you sitting in your car with the door open. That’s a signal from my days in the early 90s that you were open. And it’s still in use today. But people are very cautious these days.

What are some other ways to communicate cruising. Like at highway rest areas. Park in a certain location? Lanes across from the walk to the restrooms/ Park at 90 degrees to the lines? Time of day? Any hints or advice welcomed.

 

[Biguy77578]

I have limited experience at rest areas though I do have some good experiences at them. I parked my car in the area where the truckers park and lay my seat back making myself appear available and also cruise the rest rooms. Stand at urinals visible to those entering. Make eye contact. If others are interested they will return your looks.

 

[Britva415]

Park at 90 degrees to the lines?

Lol, yeah, that won't attract unwanted attention.

In all seriousness - check out Patrick Marano's Youtube channel. It has lots of really good answers to these questions of yours.

After that, get on the Sniffies website to find out where the cruising areas near you are. Yo9u do have to register. If I remember right, the anonymous users can see Sniffies users who are cruising, and can see the sites they're using when they're there, but, it's a lot easier to have a registered account (doesn't cost anything, only asks for an email address) in order to see the cruising spots at times when there might not be a Sniffies user advertising that they're there. The spots typically have notes about where to go and what times of day are good.

 

[xdresssissytoes]

This happened:
I had been hiking a trail and had returned to my car to check phone messages, when a car pulled in right next to mine on the passenger's side.
It's a big trailhead lot, but he came up right next to me.
The man appeared well dressed and well groomed, had his window down and said nothing, just drank water from a bottle for a few mins. During those moments I occasionally drank from my bottle suggestively.
Then I put my window down bc it was warm out and he mentioned how warm it was outside (small talk, etc).
He worked his smartphone some but the actions seemed more pantomime than genuine.
The vibe was one of... waiting. The silence was significant.
I asked him a vague question about the trail and he gave me some info about terrain. Again, small talk.
A minute later I got out and walked past his door, and announced I was taking a brief walk.
He did not follow.
When I came back, he was still there. And when I left, he did too.
Is this scenario familiar to anyone?
Thanks

I frequent a similar lot in the state near nearby. He may have been checking you out for a possible hook-up....came there for that purpose and got cold feet when you gave him the opportunity to join you on your walk. When I go "cruising", the eye contact and small talk progresses to suggestive chat or a very direct offer to suck or be sucked.

 

[lordpenizworth]

This happened:
I had been hiking a trail and had returned to my car to check phone messages, when a car pulled in right next to mine on the passenger's side.
It's a big trailhead lot, but he came up right next to me.
The man appeared well dressed and well groomed, had his window down and said nothing, just drank water from a bottle for a few mins. During those moments I occasionally drank from my bottle suggestively.
Then I put my window down bc it was warm out and he mentioned how warm it was outside (small talk, etc).
He worked his smartphone some but the actions seemed more pantomime than genuine.
The vibe was one of... waiting. The silence was significant.
I asked him a vague question about the trail and he gave me some info about terrain. Again, small talk.
A minute later I got out and walked past his door, and announced I was taking a brief walk.
He did not follow.
When I came back, he was still there. And when I left, he did too.
Is this scenario familiar to anyone?
Thanks

So...
I was there again today and I saw a guy on the trail, clearly loitering about. We made eye contact and I walked towards him. He had binoculars so I was going to ask him if he was birdwatching.
It turns out it was a bottle of iced tea. When I told him how it had appeared from a distance, he said, "It depends on the bird."
We broke the ice and he gave me the run-down on how guys there cruise.
The guy who had parked next to me -- yes -- he WAS cruising. This guy knows him and confirmed.
It was a great education. (We stroked each other for a few mins, but that's all).

 

[Ciceri]

If the lot was mostly empty and he parked next to you I would wonder, too. I was once showering in a pool locker room and a man stood at the shower next to mine. There were ten other shower heads. I was a teenager and naive but I definitely noticed him. When he'd turn away from the water it was always toward me. I'll never forget that semi . Made me nervous

 

[lordpenizworth]

If the lot was mostly empty and he parked next to you I would wonder, too. I was once showering in a pool locker room and a man stood at the shower next to mine. There were ten other shower heads. I was a teenager and naive but I definitely noticed him. When he'd turn away from the water it was always toward me. I'll never forget that semi . Made me nervous

From what I now know, and from seeing the cruising body language 1st hand...he was cruising you in that locker room.

 

[xdresssissytoes]

If he parked next to you in an empty lot and made eye contact....he was cruising for cock or a mouth to suck his!!!!

 

[Ciceri]

From what I now know, and from seeing the cruising body language 1st hand...he was cruising you in that locker room.

He was much bigger - in his 40s or 50s. Everyone seemed old back then so I'm not sure. He soaped up and basically stroked himself less than two feet from me. I remember shutting off the water and getting dressed quickly without drying off. I kept thinking about that tho. He left quite an impression

 

[lordpenizworth]

Wow - he was close! That would be intense.
I remember when a nude man walked up to me in a locker room once...the details of his cock left such an imprint in my memory. )

 

[Ciceri]

Wow - he was close! That would be intense.
I remember when a nude man walked up to me in a locker room once...the details of his cock left such an imprint in my memory. )

I can still picture him after all these years. His balls reminded me of two golf balls in a pouch. I kept my hands over my face as the soap ran off my head but I peeked between my fingers. I couldn't help it. Never made eye contact. I saw him earlier in the pool but never saw him after that evening. My mom picked me up and I didn't say much. I was still feeling weird. I wondered (or maybe fantasized ) later of his intentions. I was aroused by his audacity. I wish he'd spoken to me

 

[lordpenizworth]

I'm re-invigorating this thread because I have what I think is a question worth asking.

I again found myself in a cruise-y parking lot situation and I knew it because of the eye contact being made among those present.
But...how to tell who is up for what?
No one spoke! Instead, one of the men made a show of heading into the woods, but...what was his intent? And what if it didn't jive with the guy who might have followed him?

The look...the crotch grab... But what else is there if no one talks lol.

 

[lordpenizworth]

Update: I asked on another site and was told this:
Guys who want to receive a bj will be touching their crotch (or doing more than that to it).
Guys who want to give a bj will be looking at crotches or taking a submissive posture ex. kneeling outside their car for something, etc.
I'm told it's easy to determine...

 

[TryGuy35]

Update: I asked on another site and was told this:
Guys who want to receive a bj will be touching their crotch (or doing more than that to it).
Guys who want to give a bj will be looking at crotches or taking a submissive posture ex. kneeling outside their car for something, etc.
I'm told it's easy to determine...

Helpful insights, thanks for sharing, your encounters get me so hot to hear about. Sometimes it’s the close calls that really get you flustered and red faced…anticipation can be erotic

 

[2wayroad]

Public cruising is more subtle than ever. A lot of guys will avoid taking a chance to avoid any risk. Sometimes being direct verbally is better than risking exposing one’s self.

I always tell a guy, when cruising is obvious, that I’m looking to suck cock. Sometimes it works, sometimes not, and sometimes they are looking to suck too.