desperate

[Norma_Stits]

my wife & I have been separated for 8 months and I am desperate for a loving touch

my sex drive is over the top and my fist just doesnt cut it any more

I have never paid for sex before but I am now on the brink of doing so

I am just scared of what it will do to my head or getting a STI

am I being silly or unrealistic?

I value your opinions

thanks

 

[MR.GGG]

Have you

spoken to the (almost) EX? Is it irreconcilable? Maybe SHE'S feeling the same way and you could use that to get back together and work on the rest of the relationship.

You don't provide a lot of info other than you're horny so based on that alone it may be worth a shot at renewing the relationship. "You rarely know what you've got 'till it's gone" and all that.

 

[human_male]

I don't think there's anything wrong with visiting a prostitute. Just be polite and respectful and wear your rain coat.

 

[SweetErika]

Have you looked into ways to change up your masturbation routine with different toys, lubes, techniques, etc.?

Perhaps there's a solution in the middle of sticking with your own hand and exposing yourself to physical and emotional harm with a hooker? How about seeing a sex worker for a handjob or going to a massage parlor for the same?

If there's no contact with the mouth, genital area, bodily fluids or penetration, there's almost no risk of getting an STI (especially if she washes her hands well before touching you). And while you might not feel comfortable with oral or penetration, perhaps you'd feel alright about a massage with "manual release" or something.

I'm also wondering if you're likely to get back together with your wife. If there's a fair chance, perhaps it'd be best to wait on having sex with anyone (especially a prostitute). If it's unlikely, you might want to consider the handjob thing and/or dating some. What you probably don't want to do is get an STI now, and risk giving it to your wife (if you two are intimate again) or another partner before you know you have it, or have to deal with an STI on top of your relationship issues.

Whatever you decide, make sure you know what's risky (e.g. a lot of people don't know unprotected oral and skin to skin contact are risky) and practice safer sex every time. It'd probably be smart for both you and your wife to be tested if you two are going to be intimate again, just so you both know you're starting over with a clean slate in the health department. It's possible she's been intimate with others during your separation, even if you stick with your hand the whole time.

 

[littlebitshe]

my fist just doesnt cut it any more

First Reaction --->
Maybe Rosy Palm and her 5 daughters would have been a better description... hehehehe!
When I hear "fist" I guess I just don't think of jacking off.

Anyhow.... You don't want to go boink some prostitute! You never know where those girls have been and you definately know they've been to MANY MANY places!! You don't want any of that!

 

[tryptamine]

Um have you tried, you know, dating?

 

[coastal-boy]

there is a difference between "desperate for touch" and sex. I would take a date home and I would sleep w/ them when in reality, all I wanted was to be held...but I didn't know how to ask for what I needed. If you start dating w/ solely sex in mind...chances are it won't last long. Is that what you want? Or are you looking for a long term replacement? Understanding your wants and needs will help you move along.

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

I agree with Coastal-boy on this one.

To the Original Poster:

If you're just looking for a cum-dump then go get a hooker and get it over with. If you are looking to be touched, then that's a different scenario altogether. You're not going to get it from a hooker.

You don't say anything about dating. Is there some reason why this isn't an option? Can't you find a nice girl to date that can accomplish both of those objectives for you (the need for vajayjay and the need to be held)?

Just out of a morbid curiousity, what caused you to split with your ex? Maybe this is all related?

 

[bytor2112]

how gay are you??

 

[bytor2112]

Um have you tried, you know, dating?

you.are.so.gay

 

[subwannabe]

I also wonder why you just don't start dating again. My advice though would be to masturbate before dates just so you don't come accross as being desperate for sex. When you find the right person you will have it all.