Desperate sub

[temp256]

I'm just discovering my tendencies as a sub, and it's driving me crazy. I get incredibly intense feelings just thinking about it, powerful enough to make me gasp and shudder. Constant waves of near orgasmic sensation.

This may sound wonderful, but there's a problem. There's nothing I can do to calm these feelings or achieve some sort of release. It's like a perpetual tease, strong enough to be maddening. I've never had a partner, and I don't think I'll find one anytime soon.

What's a poor sub to do? I can't concentrate on anything, and just thinking about these feelings is enough to torment me mercilessly. I'm so desperate just to have someone take me. What can I do to release the frustration?

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I'm just discovering my tendencies as a sub, and it's driving me crazy. I get incredibly intense feelings just thinking about it, powerful enough to make me gasp and shudder. Constant waves of near orgasmic sensation.

This may sound wonderful, but there's a problem. There's nothing I can do to calm these feelings or achieve some sort of release. It's like a perpetual tease, strong enough to be maddening. I've never had a partner, and I don't think I'll find one anytime soon.

What's a poor sub to do? I can't concentrate on anything, and just thinking about these feelings is enough to torment me mercilessly. I'm so desperate just to have someone take me. What can I do to release the frustration?

Just make a personal addy about you looking for a Dominant, real life one or online, depends whats better for you. He will surely know what to do with the desperate frusty you *smiles*.

I went thro this feelings, so i understand you very well. You wont get ride of this frustration without being dominated by a Dom. I found mine and i feel much better now.

Just don't rush into arms of the first wannabe Dom who will PM you! Talk to them, get to know them first. Talk alot about what you expect from it and what he does, thats very important. Best you can do is to fulfill a checklist for him and then disccus your and his likes and dislikes to know if you and him mesh well.

Don't submit to someone just cuz you feel you need it SO bad as you prolly do atm, its not worth it. Wait for someone who will take a good care of you as a submisive. Dont go just for cheap cyber and swaping nude pics, real D/s relationship is about so much more thank this!! Just be patient and talk/try some Dom's and see who mesh with you well.

Feel free to PM me anytime

Good luck!!

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Just make a personal addy about you looking for a Dominant, real life one or online, depends whats better for you. He will surely know what to do with the desperate frusty you *smiles*.

I went thro this feelings, so i understand you very well. You wont get ride of this frustration without being dominated by a Dom. I found mine and i feel much better now.

Just don't rush into arms of the first wannabe Dom who will PM you! Talk to them, get to know them first. Talk alot about what you expect from itandwhat he does, thats very important. Best you can do is to fulfill a checklist for him and the disccus your and his likes and dislikes to know if you and him mesh well.

Don't submit to someone just cuz you feel you need it SO bad as you prolly do atm, its not worth it. Wait for someone who will take a good care of you as a submisive. Dont go just for cheap cyber and swaping nude pics, real D/s relationship is about so much more thank this!! Just be patient and talk/try some Dom's and see who mesh with you well.

Feel free to PM me anytime

Good luck!!

couldn't have said it better myself..

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

couldn't have said it better myself..

I feel flattered , thank you Luna. *smiles*

Lil subbies needs a bit of advice if possible, to be saved from wrong treating. I am still newbie myself, but i can give advice about this cuz it's behind me. *smiles*.

I had few of wannabe Dom's, she don't need to go thro that if possible. I hope some nice Sir on this board will take a good care of her.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm just discovering my tendencies as a sub, and it's driving me crazy. I get incredibly intense feelings just thinking about it, powerful enough to make me gasp and shudder. Constant waves of near orgasmic sensation.

This may sound wonderful, but there's a problem. There's nothing I can do to calm these feelings or achieve some sort of release. It's like a perpetual tease, strong enough to be maddening. I've never had a partner, and I don't think I'll find one anytime soon.

What's a poor sub to do? I can't concentrate on anything, and just thinking about these feelings is enough to torment me mercilessly. I'm so desperate just to have someone take me. What can I do to release the frustration?

I can't help but notice how much this sounds like some of your other posts on the way your body and mind are reacting as you continue to work through the transition.

Do you think this is related to the feelings you've expressed here in the recent past, maybe just another permutation of them? Or that because you're not feeling like you're getting relief from the usual stuff, your mind is trying to find a new path? Perhaps it's a facet of your personality that you didn't feel comfortable with before, or you view submissiveness as a more feminine trait, and maybe acquiring those help you through the transition? I don't know how pertinent the psychology of it is, but it might be interesting for you to [continue to] explore.

Have you read up on sub frenzy? If not, it might be helpful to do so and see if you identify with others' experiences. There's also some very valuable advice here and elsewhere on how to deal with it.

I'm curious as to why you don't think you'll find a partner anytime soon. If it's a matter of location, perhaps you could do some exploring online and/or on the phone. If it's because you don't think MtF subs are desired, I'd say there are partners out there for everyone (there are MANY transgender [general term] people in my community who actively date, play and have great relationships, for instance), and advise you to keep your eyes, mind and heart open. If it's that you're not comfortable or ready to meet partners yet, I think it's great that you know yourself and are going at your own pace, rather than rushing into something.

 

[Boudreaux1111]

Becoming a Submissive

I started out same as you. Thinking that I needed something and not knowing what. I've only been doing m2m sex for about 5 years and started with the personals. I talked to men that I though I'de like to be with. Well I was living in Dallas at the tine and started talking to a man in the Houston area and we really wanted to get together but we were to far apart.
The more we talked the more he brough things out in me. He latter told me he know I was submissive from the start.
He was able to make me understand what I needed and what I wanted. I now am a somewhat submissive bottom and like for my partner to be aggressive and run things. I'm not in to S/M or B/D but love to be told what to do during sex.
Boudreaux

 

[temp256]

These feelings are strongest when thinking about being submissive, so I know they're related. Several people, including my own mother, have commented on my naturally submissive personality, so I don't think it's just because of being trans.

Nevertheless, I'm extremely wary of it. I realize how easy it is to slip into something like this because of intense emotional stress, and am constantly watching out for it. My T-friend is a collared sub herself, so I've been able to get some insight into what these feelings are like. As best as I can tell, it's sub frenzy.

Dating is another complication entirely. It's mostly lack of opportunity. I was fortunate enough to find a friend through online dating sites, but romance has so far been elusive. I don't really want men right now, and the few women who respond are scared off my me being trans. My thoughts are to find a regular partner first, then discuss BDSM someday. I want a relationship more than a dom, so I don't even mention it.

I guess there's not much I can do to help myself alone. Even my doctor basically told me to get laid, so I'll have to work harder at finding someone.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I think that if you've only recently become a T - girl you have a lot going on right now. It's a shame that your hormone drugs are making you horny.

I must confess to knowing very little about transexuals so I apologise if anything I say is worded clumsily.

I'm sure you're only too aware of how delicate it might be to start a meaningful relationship with a heterosexual male dom. I assume you are having post-transition counselling? This is when you most need to focus on yourself. I am sure you are very frustrated right now and eager to get out there and see what new oppotunities are there for you but don't rush and waste your first post-transition experiences on anything you might later regret.

The personals section here is somewhere to start, at least to make contacts and start chatting and flirting. There is also alt.com collarme.com and mydungeonspace.com if you want to put more profiles up and open up the playingfield.

If a meaningful, kinky relationship is what you're looking for then, like everyone, you'll need patience. I really hope that you find happiness in whatever you choose to do.

 

[justwantmore]

I never thought I'd become submissive but over the years I have. Usually my Wife will tie me up , put a leash on me and have me ream out her ass with my tongue. She likes to squat over my face , ordering me to open my mouth so she can pee.

I really enjoy it !

Those fantasies are part of life now. There's a couple others which involve me and another man. Not sure if I'll do that or not, but I still fantasize.