Depression. It's a silent killer.

[Wetkitty09]

Just giving this a bump.
Have the best day you can.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[DavidZ_696]

I would like to chat about a big problem that not too many people discuss. Sorry to be a downer. But there are too many people out there who are dying because they are depressed. I suffer from depression (not sure why) but I wouldn't think of killing myself. I've always been told that is a perminant solution to a temporary problem. I think it would do a good service to discuss what has worked for you to overcome your depression or what has helped someone you know.

How about going to church and praying to God? Let him help you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

How about going to church and praying to God? Let him help you.

If that’s what works for you then that’s great. For others church is part of the problem.

 

[DavidZ_696]

If that’s what works for you then that’s great. For others church is part of the problem.

I respectfully agree to disagree.

 

[Wetkitty09]

I respectfully agree to disagree.

As is your right.

 

[sister jenny]

Still really struggling, but better than I was earlier this year. Talk to my therapist very often and eat my meds.
For me long walks and sleep is very important. I’ve just started going to gym, not to get in shape but to help my brain. Not sure it will work, but I hope so.
Having a understanding husband does not help so much as make it a bit easier. Cuddling with my daughter absolutely helps, even if it scares her when mom can’t stop crying.

Please everyone keep fighting and take one day at a time. Be strong for me and I will try and be strong for you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Still really struggling, but better than I was earlier this year. Talk to my therapist very often and eat my meds.
For me long walks and sleep is very important. I’ve just started going to gym, not to get in shape but to help my brain. Not sure it will work, but I hope so.
Having a understanding husband does not help so much as make it a bit easier. Cuddling with my daughter absolutely helps, even if it scares her when mom can’t stop crying.

Please everyone keep fighting and take one day at a time. Be strong for me and I will try and be strong for you.

Thanks for being here. Keep us updated on how your gym experience goes. I hope it helps.
Stay safe out there. Love you.

 

[sister jenny]

Thanks for being here. Keep us updated on how your gym experience goes. I hope it helps.
Stay safe out there. Love you.

Thank you! And same to you, thanks for being here.
I will keep you updated.
Love you.

 

[Wonderer67]

Still really struggling, but better than I was earlier this year. Talk to my therapist very often and eat my meds.
For me long walks and sleep is very important. I’ve just started going to gym, not to get in shape but to help my brain. Not sure it will work, but I hope so.
Having a understanding husband does not help so much as make it a bit easier. Cuddling with my daughter absolutely helps, even if it scares her when mom can’t stop crying.

Please everyone keep fighting and take one day at a time. Be strong for me and I will try and be strong for you.

I find physical exercise and activity to be so helpful. Hope it helps you!!

We’ll all be strong for you and everyone else too.

 

[Deadfreak]

An unexpected pain pill journey has turned what usually is tempered by a couple shots of bourbon or puffs of Doobie and some forced laughs led to bouts of tears and mood chasms.

Thankfully I realized quick enough that the pills and the situation that makes them necessary are causing the extra negative thoughts and need to be consciously fought.

Pictures of nude women help to distract too.

 

[Wetkitty09]

An unexpected pain pill journey has turned what usually is tempered by a couple shots of bourbon or puffs of Doobie and some forced laughs led to bouts of tears and mood chasms.

Thankfully I realized quick enough that the pills and the situation that makes them necessary are causing the extra negative thoughts and need to be consciously fought.

Pictures of nude women help to distract too.

I’m glad you found the culprit and part of the cure.

 

[Bassytian]

It's been a bit since I posted. Went to see the therapist today, he was happy with the progress I have made on my own in the couple of weeks before the appointment but is happy to help me along as well.

I have been practicing mindfulness and challenging my self-depreciating thoughts. It turns out that a lot of my self-hatred is based entirely on how society seems to view men like me, who have had very limited success (barely any at all in my case) with dating/sex, but who the fuck are they to determine my value? Why should people that don't know me decide my value? Why should I let them?

With that said, what is my value? That is up to me and me alone to find out. I hope everyone is having a good day but if you aren't, keep fighting, one day at a time. Don't let that asshole (depression) win!!!

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

How about going to church and praying to God? Let him help you.

That's gonna be a HARD pass from me. I'm still depressed, but free from the mental anguish that is Christianity.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I made some money today and took some old books to a used bookstore. I'm sad, but still doing the adult things. The weather here is beautiful.

I hope everybody is doing OK. If you're not, that's OK, too.

 

[MysteriousStrangerI]

Depression is a war with the dark demons that linger inside. Everything adds up on a daily basis and need something to numb the pain constantly to make it through the day. Unfortunately that does not happen and always give the appearance that everything is like a peach.

Okay, I appreciate the serious post but, when I glanced at this, I thought it said, "Depression is a war with the dark demons that FINGER inside"
I was, "oooh, where's this person going with this...?"

As a lifelong sufferer of depression, added to, as Morrissey put it, 'a shyness that is criminally vulgar', I found myself, late 50s, alone, seeing no prospects and, since life loves to put the boots in when you are already down, just laid off

I am straight but strongly bicurious and have tried tio approach some folks on a Reddit thread for 'encounters' but am terrified of, well, the usual monster: rejection

That would be the ultimate insult: I have nothing going straight, try gay and ... "ew... yer an ugly old queen. And not the good kind"

 

[Tomr2527]

This weeks been a real tough one for me, I can’t quite put my finger on why though. I feel very flat and low on energy and over eating.

Anyone have any ideas on ways to find out the root cause of how you’re feeling?

 

[Bassytian]

Got a somber post to make. About two hours ago, I had to go with my mom and stepdad to an emergency clinic to have one of their elderly cats put to sleep. She had cancer and fluid was building in her lungs faster than they could drain it out. She was gasping for air when we got her up there, the quality of whatever life she would have had left would have been very poor, so we decided that this was the best thing we could do for her.

We’ll be okay, but losing a pet is losing a family member. I’m going to hold my own cat closer tonight, he’ll scratch the hell out of me but he’s going to have to get over it.

 

[Bassytian]

This weeks been a real tough one for me, I can’t quite put my finger on why though. I feel very flat and low on energy and over eating.

Anyone have any ideas on ways to find out the root cause of how you’re feeling?

All I can tell you is to keep asking yourself questions and self-reflect. But yes, I have been down without a clear reason as well. Sometimes I find the answer, sometimes I don’t. But it does always pass regardless.

 

[Wetkitty09]

This weeks been a real tough one for me, I can’t quite put my finger on why though. I feel very flat and low on energy and over eating.

Anyone have any ideas on ways to find out the root cause of how you’re feeling?

I’ve heard that from a few people. That they’re not sick but are lacking energy and interest. I’m chocking mine up to the weather, changing season and the start of the holidays.
I dislike the holidays and have made a point of going somewhere on my own for the duration. This year I’m going to the OR coast.
Have the best day you can.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Got a somber post to make. About two hours ago, I had to go with my mom and stepdad to an emergency clinic to have one of their elderly cats put to sleep. She had cancer and fluid was building in her lungs faster than they could drain it out. She was gasping for air when we got her up there, the quality of whatever life she would have had left would have been very poor, so we decided that this was the best thing we could do for her.

We’ll be okay, but losing a pet is losing a family member. I’m going to hold my own cat closer tonight, he’ll scratch the hell out of me but he’s going to have to get over it.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I know the pain of having to put down a close friend. In the moment it doesn’t seem worth the years of friendship and joy being with them gave us.

 

[Wetkitty09]

It's been a bit since I posted. Went to see the therapist today, he was happy with the progress I have made on my own in the couple of weeks before the appointment but is happy to help me along as well.

I have been practicing mindfulness and challenging my self-depreciating thoughts. It turns out that a lot of my self-hatred is based entirely on how society seems to view men like me, who have had very limited success (barely any at all in my case) with dating/sex, but who the fuck are they to determine my value? Why should people that don't know me decide my value? Why should I let them?

With that said, what is my value? That is up to me and me alone to find out. I hope everyone is having a good day but if you aren't, keep fighting, one day at a time. Don't let that asshole (depression) win!!!

Thoughts about what our value is and who decides has been on my mind as well.
It’s taken me a long time to realize that what others think of me is none of my business. And that the voice in my head that says I’m less than is not my voice.
All of the behaviors I learned that kept me safe in my trauma are not helping me anymore and are actually causing me harm.
I’m rambling but I hope this helps someone know they aren’t alone in this.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Bassytian]

Thoughts about what our value is and who decides has been on my mind as well.
It’s taken me a long time to realize that what others think of me is none of my business. And that the voice in my head that says I’m less than is not my voice.
All of the behaviors I learned that kept me safe in my trauma are not helping me anymore and are actually causing me harm.
I’m rambling but I hope this helps someone know they aren’t alone in this.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

I’m sorry that it seems to be backfiring on you. But sharing this will hopefully let someone in a similar situation know they’re not alone.

 

[Bassytian]

As far as depression and low self-esteem go, I’m doing okay. But losing Squirrely (the cat I mentioned before) has affected me more than I thought it would.

So, I have a rude boss at work, which normally I just let her snide comments pass through one ear and out the other. However, today was a different story. I was waiting for her to pass by so I could go where she was coming from, and she told me to “stop standing around and get to work”. I was already not in the best mood, but her saying that nearly made me lose my cool. I almost told her “Why don’t YOU ‘get to work’ on moving out of my way and going straight to Hell while you’re at it!!” Thankfully I didn’t, but I need to get a grip before I lose my job.

 

[Wetkitty09]

I’m sorry that it seems to be backfiring on you. But sharing this will hopefully let someone in a similar situation know they’re not alone.

No. It’s not backfiring. All those things are a positive sign that I’m the one in charge of my life.
I can see why it was interpreted differently. I was in my own head while I was writing.

 

[Wetkitty09]

As far as depression and low self-esteem go, I’m doing okay. But losing Squirrely (the cat I mentioned before) has affected me more than I thought it would.

So, I have a rude boss at work, which normally I just let her snide comments pass through one ear and out the other. However, today was a different story. I was waiting for her to pass by so I could go where she was coming from, and she told me to “stop standing around and get to work”. I was already not in the best mood, but her saying that nearly made me lose my cool. I almost told her “Why don’t YOU ‘get to work’ on moving out of my way and going straight to Hell while you’re at it!!” Thankfully I didn’t, but I need to get a grip before I lose my job.

How rude of her. Good for you that you were able to maintain your cool. She’s not worth losing your job over.