Depression and Bipolar Support

BlackWolf65

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Well then...

Several days ago, I sent out a PM to quite a few people here - actually, in two versions: One for those whom I consider to be "acquaintances - with a just a bit of an explanation as to where DF and I have been, why we haven't been here much lately, and the other to a few *very* close friends with much, much more detail.

I received a *great* number of responses from people to those PM's. I was quite surprised at the number of people who told me that they have had direct experience in dealing with people who live with bipolar disorder, either with a friend or with a family member. This PM was the first time, really, that I've ever "gone public" with being bipolar; not that I hide the fact from people, but I also don't run around in my day-to-day activities announcing to everyone that I'm bipolar.

As I thought about these responses, I decided that perhaps a thread that deals with the issues that face people who are bipolar, as well as the people around them, might be something that could be useful here. I was told of one person who posts here who lives with this disorder, and I would imagine that there are probably more. From the responses, I *know* that there are quite a few who deal with a friend or family member who is bipolar.

So, I decided to give this thread a try. Ideally, this will be a thread where people can come to discuss the daily problems that often face bipolar people and their friends and family, to get help and suggestions from others, and most importantly, to get support and understanding from people who have experience with this condition.

I decided to name the thread "Depression and Bipolar Support" because I don't want to limit this discussion just to manic-depression. Depression is a huge part of being bipolar, even when the bipolar person doesn't recognize that s/he is depressed. This was the case with my recent problems - I was completely focused on the manic part of this, and not even recognizing the depression that was going on at the same time.

So, with that, I'd like to invite those who suffer from bipolar disorder or chronic depression, as well as those who are dealing with a friend or family member with this problem, to come here and talk about what's going on for you. Just a place to vent, talk, and hopefully get some constructive advice and support from others.

Hopefully, this thread will prove to be of some use to people. If it dies, well... This *is* a site that devoted to fun, after all. I understand that often people use this site to escape from daily problems, unwind, relax, and just have a good time...
 
(((((BW)))))....

I have suffered with chronic depression too...

All we can do is support each other thru this!

Great thread idea :kiss:
 
cheekygirl said:
(((((BW)))))....

I have suffered with chronic depression too...

All we can do is support each other thru this!

Great thread idea :kiss:
Heya, Cheeky!

Let's hope it can help someone...
 
I've been severely depressed since losing my dog. I know some will think that's silly. Then the loss of my Master in June. I feel like shredded pieces of my former self. And I don't know how to recover. Today was depressing. My brother married his high school sweetheart. Yes, I'm super happy for them. But I was depressed during the ceremony. Especially when my brother said something about being complete. That's exactly how my Master and I felt when we were together :(
 
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ima6uldv8 said:
I've been severely depressed since losing my dog. I know some will think that's silly. Then the loss of my Master in June. I feel like shredded pieces of my former self. And I don't know how to recover. Today was depressing. My brother married his high school sweetheart. Yes, I'm super happy for them. But I was depressed during the ceremony. Especially when my brother said something about being complete. That's exactly how my Master and I felt when we were together :(


{{{{{{{Ima}}}}}}}}
 
I suffer from this illness as well, it is a very hard thing to live with and accept at times......it took a very long time for me to become diagnosed, I thought for most of my life I was loosing my mind.
 
ima6uldv8 said:
I've been severely depressed since losing my dog. I know some will think that's silly. Then the loss of my Master in June. I feel like shredded pieces of my former self. And I don't know how to recover. Today was depressing. My brother married his high school sweetheart. Yes, I'm super happy for them. But I was depressed during the ceremony. Especially when my brother said something about being complete. That's exactly how my Master and I felt when we were together :(
Ima, being a person who shares his life with cats, I want to tell you that being depressed about losing an animal companion is absolutely *NOT* silly. I lost a cat a while back - a cat who had been with me for many, many years. She honestly was my *friend*. It nearly killed me when she died. I've come to know that she lived a good life, that she was loved, and most importantly that she died peacefully in her sleep. That didn't make the grief any easier, but it helps in coping. I still think about her often...

As for losing your Master, I don't know the circumstances, so I really can't comment, other than to say that I hope you can learn to cope with this, as well. Know that there are always people - especially here in Lit, I've found - who are willing to offer you support and concern...
 
gypziedoll said:
I suffer from this illness as well, it is a very hard thing to live with and accept at times......it took a very long time for me to become diagnosed, I thought for most of my life I was loosing my mind.
I can relate to that one! Took me forever to find out what was wrong with me... Strange, how this disorder can be so difficult to diagnose...
 
BlackWolf65 said:
I can relate to that one! Took me forever to find out what was wrong with me... Strange, how this disorder can be so difficult to diagnose...


I know, I was not diagnosed until I was 34 yrs old, but had to deal with extreme bouts of depression since childhood. After my diagnosis I found out that it is something that ran seriously and deep on my Mothers side of the family. It really made me feel like I was loosing a grip on reality at times, especially when going to Dr's and they could not figure out what was wrong with me.
 
ima6uldv8 said:
I've been severely depressed since losing my dog. I know some will think that's silly. Then the loss of my Master in June. I feel like shredded pieces of my former self. And I don't know how to recover. Today was depressing. My brother married his high school sweetheart. Yes, I'm super happy for them. But I was depressed during the ceremony. Especially when my brother said something about being complete. That's exactly how my Master and I felt when we were together :(


Sending you love and *HUGS* on both matters Love, I know how much hurt you have gone thru this year and it tears my heart out to see your pain. :kiss: :rose:
 
gypziedoll said:
Sending you love and *HUGS* on both matters Love, I know how much hurt you have gone thru this year and it tears my heart out to see your pain. :kiss: :rose:
Ah, but you know, I have DF... And since I have DF, I can face just about anything... :)
 
BlackWolf65 said:
Ah, but you know, I have DF... And since I have DF, I can face just about anything... :)


I know Sweetie, and you are right when you have a love as the two of you have, it makes everything easier to handle :rose:
 
BlackWolf65 said:
Ah, but you know, I have DF... And since I have DF, I can face just about anything... :)

There you go again.. making me all teary eyed ((((BW)))) :kiss:
 
cheekygirl said:
There you go again.. making me all teary eyed ((((BW)))) :kiss:
:rolleyes:

Please... *you* have your own version of my DF... :)

And that is a *very* good thing...
 
*hugs* to all the people who have any form of depression. My best friend has been struggling with it for years and although I dont know how difficult it is personally, I do have an idea of how it can affect everyday life.
 
Well... I'm getting an idea of how very deep depression can go... And while I know that it's probably not going to last forever, it doesn't seem like that right now. It feels like it will never end...

I hate feeling like this, but there's nothing I can do but go with it, and hope that it will ease up...

But I can't think of anything that will help it ease up, really...
 
BlackWolf65 said:
Well... I'm getting an idea of how very deep depression can go... And while I know that it's probably not going to last forever, it doesn't seem like that right now. It feels like it will never end...

I hate feeling like this, but there's nothing I can do but go with it, and hope that it will ease up...

But I can't think of anything that will help it ease up, really...


{{{{{{{{{BW}}}}}}}}}

*wraps arms around you and gives you a shoulder to lean on*
 
Wow, a very timely thread - or maybe instead of timely, timeless. Depression has been a constant demon for almost my entire life - I am SURE I had somewhat of a happy childhood - and actually earlier today it reared it's head again.

Don't think I am bipolar, I would have had that diagnosed by now I am sure? But during my late teens there were a few shredding my life suicidal episodes. Too Much Info?

Anyways, I am never sure lately whether I can possibly commit to much of anything, relationship wise, and wouldn't it be better to push those away that love me to avoid them getting hurt (apart from perhaps my family, who have to put up with me whatever) than hurting them. Oh, and of course the self evident self esteem issues.

Well, there just went all my lit cred, and me being a newbie and all LOL - I can still flirt well enough, don't worry about that :devil:
 
chunu said:
Wow, a very timely thread - or maybe instead of timely, timeless. Depression has been a constant demon for almost my entire life - I am SURE I had somewhat of a happy childhood - and actually earlier today it reared it's head again.

Don't think I am bipolar, I would have had that diagnosed by now I am sure? But during my late teens there were a few shredding my life suicidal episodes. Too Much Info?

Anyways, I am never sure lately whether I can possibly commit to much of anything, relationship wise, and wouldn't it be better to push those away that love me to avoid them getting hurt (apart from perhaps my family, who have to put up with me whatever) than hurting them. Oh, and of course the self evident self esteem issues.

Well, there just went all my lit cred, and me being a newbie and all LOL - I can still flirt well enough, don't worry about that :devil:
Welcome to Lit chunu, and to the thread...

And no - not too much info. The thread is meant to be a place where you *can* talk about this topic, and share as much or as little info as you want to. I've been down the suicidal road myself, so I know what it's like...

As for this: "...wouldn't it be better to push those away that love me to avoid them getting hurt..." I've been learning lately that it's never a good idea to push people away, *especially* those who love you... And that love can come in any form - romantic, friendship, brother/sister, etc. I'm finding that I have some very, very good friends here in Lit - people who are reaching out to me for no other reason than the fact that they recognize that I'm hurting right now...

And let's not even go *near* the self-esteem topic right now... My own is in the sewer at the moment...

As for Lit credibility... As you spend some time here, you'll find that being honest with people only serves to increase your credibility. There are quite a few "old-timers" here - you'll get to know them as you post more - who seem to be the "base," as it were, of Litizens. Other people come and go - usually the game players, liars, etc. But the old-timers... You'll not find a better group of people anywhere. They've been my salvation of late... By old-timers, I mean those people who have racked up a *seemingly* unbelievable number of posts. I recommend that you check out the thread "Playgrounders And Proud Of It"... A lot of really good people there...

Again, welcome... Feel free to post here anytime you feel the urge...

BW
 
chunu said:
Heh...

It's a new thread, chunu, and it hasn't seen much activity. I really didn't expect to see a lot happening here, but I wanted to put a thread out there for people to use if they felt the need...

Right now, it looks like you and I are the only ones posting here... :rolleyes:
 
Good morning.......

I think more people (than are willing to admit) most likely suffer from some sort of depression, most feel it's taboo and don't wish to discuss it. My father and sister both suffer from bi-polar disorder. My sister is one who lets it go untreated, feels it will just go away.....she literally becomes violent. Something I had to suffer through as a child, younger than her...growing up.

My father on the other hand does handle it with treatment and lives a very happy, successful life. He has the loving support of his wife and family.

I, myself.....have suffered mild depression in my life from time to time....but was most affected after the birth of my daughter....suffering sever post pardum depression. I was put on an antidepressent and still take it to this day. A very mild dosage, however I feel it takes that "edge" off in this rat race we call life!!

I wish you much luck and success......and hope you know there ARE others out there...even if people don't want to admit it. You're not alone!! :rose:
 
I've suffered with Depression since my son was 3 months old............he's now 9 yrs old (and bipolar w/ODD)....I'm glad to see a place for support
 
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