Delia Day

[Etoile]

Has anybody ever heard of Delia Day? Apparently she is/was a renowned sex slave with a big website and even bigger fan following. She has/had a LiveJournal too. According to a thread at the BDSMLibrary forum, she may have killed her owner/husband sometime in the last few months. I don't really know anything about her or about what happened, but I'm wondering if anybody else is aware of her.
More info/discussion here and here

 

[Etoile]

I'm still looking through the public area of her site. I guess the members area is permanently unavailable...I don't know. I did find this gem in a page about her branding:

One man commented “It's so wonderful to be a slave, isn't it?” and I had to tell him if you think it's so wonderful to be a slave why don't you go volunteer your services to be one and stop trying to rationalize your sexual fantasy. It's about as wonderful as working the night shift at the 7-11. There are pros and cons not mystical, magical revelations of fantasies come true. Sure the sex is great, but not always for me.

 

[Etoile]

I am still reading her site. I think it's been a couple of hours now. I just came across this:

Over the years my captivity and my ultimate dependency on my owner for everything has increased more and more. I suspect eventually it will be absolute, which is a goal my owner does express and works patiently and methodically to overcome the practical challenges to facilitate it.

I find that really, really unhealthy. What if her owner had a heart attack and died? What if he was in a car accident and hospitalized, possibly needing her care in the future? How could she possibly be so dependent on a single mortal person?

I wish the members stuff were available.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Etoile,

I just had a very interesting thought. This woman has all but vanished since her trial, this much we know. But.... This paysite of hers is still up. Someone has to pay for the paysite to keep it online. Someone has to pay the server, I don't know much about server services or how often you have to pay and such. But the last update from what I have read was in November, it's now almost April. Unless the site is paid for, for a year how is it staying up and online?

 

[Telafio]

never heard of her.

Not wishing to seem rude, but do you know your nic. re-arranged spells toilet.

Is this a deliberate joke

 

[Telafio]

Oops no it does'nt my apoligies

 

[Telafio]

very sorry for the mistake.

My dad always said
"If your eyes are bad...get them out"

Looks like it's time.

 

[sunfox]

Etoile-

I hadn't heard of her... I went through some of the site, read some of her pages, then went through the additional discussion links.

What a terrible thing to happen. Unfortunately, there is unlikely to be much in the way of information beyond speculation now that Delia Day has vanished after the trial.

I have to agree with some of the posters that she sounds very unhappy, and sometimes simply angry about her life, while at other times she seems to have felt content. She states that she rarely leaves the house and yard, and that it is unlikely she ever will again, and I have to wonder if she couldn't love the 'cage', as she called it, anymore.

A sad ending.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Mmmmm, do we know for sure this is a real person? I have had a quick look and she has posted pics in December before going off on a 'much needed vacation' as she puts it. Maybe it is all cleverly orchestrated PR or a new way of getting attention she may have a need for.....if it is real it could also once again be a case of a slave changing her mind for whatever purpose and using that in the vanilla world to her own advantage. Sounds harsh, but if her site is based on fact and her words true, she has entered into an agreement, a lifestyle, under certain conditions she consented to...if it then became something she changed her mind about, is it acceptable to find a way out and use the system to support her choice whilecosting another's life? Where does he get to present his side......was there even discussion of discord or did she decide to kill him in an act of passion and use her consensual slavery lifestyle to present a case which got her off taking the rap for murder?

Catalina

 

[sunfox]

Mmmmm, do we know for sure this is a real person? I have had a quick look and she has posted pics in December before going off on a 'much needed vacation' as she puts it. Maybe it is all cleverly orchestrated PR or a new way of getting attention she may have a need for.....if it is real it could also once again be a case of a slave changing her mind for whatever purpose and using that in the vanilla world to her own advantage. Sounds harsh, but if her site is based on fact and her words true, she has entered into an agreement, a lifestyle, under certain conditions she consented to...if it then became something she changed her mind about, is it acceptable to find a way out and use the system to support her choice whilecosting another's life? Where does he get to present his side......was there even discussion of discord or did she decide to kill him in an act of passion and use her consensual slavery lifestyle to present a case which got her off taking the rap for murder?

Catalina

There are news story links on one of the links Etoile posted, with evidence for her real name and her husband/owner's real name. The news story posts explain the crime and why she got exonerated, though nothing about the trial itself and whether or not she used the consensual BDSM as a self-defense issue.

I don't know that she ever says on her site that she necessarily entered into an agreement such as most of us might think of it... it seems more like it was a slow alteration of their relationship into a Master/slave one. (And yes, I realize that doesn't mean she didn't have a choice, I'm just saying what I see on the site. )

The problem is, no one really knows what happened. Maybe it was an act of passion.. maybe he went too far and nearly killed her, and she retaliated in defense of her life... it's all speculation beyond the facts of the case posted.

 

[wolf2002]

I find that really, really unhealthy. What if her owner had a heart attack and died? What if he was in a car accident and hospitalized, possibly needing her care in the future? How could she possibly be so dependent on a single mortal person?

I always get this same, nausea kind of feeling, when I learn about this kind of slavery... it makes me sick to think of it, cause I would never want to be in an utterly helpless position like this, but it excites me on the other hand, which even makes it more sickening to me... just like reading 'Story of O'...

It probably proves I don't have the stomach for the really hard stuff...

I just hope she is allright, somewhere I feel sorry for her, even though it is her choice of lifestyle...

Wolf

 

[sigsauerprinces]

that site really depressed me for some reason. i didnt stay there for long.

 

[Netzach]

Fact:

in soc. and social studies classrooms across the US. schoolkids are routinely taught this fact about our judicial system:

"a grand jury will indict a ham sandwich"

meaning, if there's ANY whiff of criminal intent, they'll usually go for the gusto. It's just an indictment, it doesn't mean more than we think we need to evaluate this via trial.

My hunch is that she may be a depressive and melodramatic blogger (who isn't?) and that it was a fucked up accident. Maybe she was drunk. Who knows. But the failure to indict makes me think this probably wasn't murder 1.

 

[trodas]

Etoile - don't got so scared from what someone write on web People write many weird things, you might be surprised how different they in reality are. So i think, that this is just another paysite for some amateur BDSM crowd.
All.
Nothing great (i don't like shaved heads and such excessive piercings), and also IMHO nothing to worry about it.

After all, the whole thing ended

 

[DustyWolfe]

I can't help but wonder what has happened to this woman. I've tried to find further information on both her and him to no avail. I found lots of information on him in the business world but that's all.
We do know... or are assuming that she was being taught how to use a gun, it was in her live journal. Doesn't mean it's true though. I'd like to believe it though. Since she was being taught to use a gun she could have very easily accidentally shot him, especially if neither of them checked to see if the shotgun was loaded.

I am a bit jaded at times when it comes to the online community, I never know what to believe so I find myself taking most things with a grain of salt and try not to let myself worry.

What I'm wondering is what has happened to her. Did she make herself disappear to escape the lifestyle, did something happen to her, what? With the last things that were done to her with the padlocks she could have easily gotten a blood infection and died from it. I'm hoping she is hiding somewhere.

 

[DustyWolfe]

I found something interesting! Without her husband she is very helpless. She had to give up driving because she has narcolepsy.

At four o'clock Thursday March 6, 2003 on my way to get a prescription refilled and run assorted other errands I fell asleep driving, waking up abruptly while the vehicle slid and tumbled sideways to land upside down in a ravine. I fucked up bad, something I have been afraid of for years. I'm narcoleptic. Narcoleptics really shouldn't drive. I fall asleep, only for moments at a time, at the blink of an eye at the most inappropriate of times. These seconds out of consciousness often annoy those around me, but they had never caused more serious peril before, until now. Miraculously, I'm OK, after a strapped down to the gurney ride in the back of an ambulance to the hospital to make sure. I was—still am as I write—bruised, sore, stiff, scraped, but OK. The vehicle was not so lucky. It was totaled.
I used to take Ritalin (Methylphenidate), the same central nervous system stimulant over-prescribed to countless children for ADD and ADHD, for my narcolepsy, but the side effects were worse than the condition, with which it helped little.
Ritalin, besides making “you feel like you just swallowed some bad Peyote buttons,” a description I borrow from a friend who is more well versed in recreational drug use than myself, is a powerful blood thinner. Blood thinners and my sex life don't mix. The pictures in the members section from the time that I was taking Ritalin are bloody, more bloody than I have ever seen in photographs of the most authentic and extreme sadomasochistic play. Cutting myself shaving my legs was also just as bloody then. I would bleed all day from the tinniest of cuts and scraps, which was most disturbing. I had to stop taking it after only two months, and give up hope for any help with my narcolepsy.
Now I'm giving up driving, too—a choice I would have made myself if it weren't made for me by my owner in this case—so I don't need a new car. I still need to replace the one I wrecked, though. It was borrowed, and I am now indentured to $4450.00 in debt for the financial loss caused that wasn't covered by insurance.

 

[alabamagirl]

delia day

For those of you who signed up to her site



You can not join. Her website is no longer active. The DNS should die tonight.

If anyone did sign up, as you found out, your money would be refunded.

 

[Etoile]

Mmmmm, do we know for sure this is a real person? I have had a quick look and she has posted pics in December before going off on a 'much needed vacation' as she puts it. Maybe it is all cleverly orchestrated PR or a new way of getting attention she may have a need for.....if it is real it could also once again be a case of a slave changing her mind for whatever purpose and using that in the vanilla world to her own advantage. Sounds harsh, but if her site is based on fact and her words true, she has entered into an agreement, a lifestyle, under certain conditions she consented to...if it then became something she changed her mind about, is it acceptable to find a way out and use the system to support her choice whilecosting another's life? Where does he get to present his side......was there even discussion of discord or did she decide to kill him in an act of passion and use her consensual slavery lifestyle to present a case which got her off taking the rap for murder?

I do think this was real. I spent more than three hours reading her site alone last night (not to mention the discussion sites), and I'm convinced. I cannot see the pay section, of course, but from what I've heard it was legitimate.

It was definitely a passion killing, that's pretty easy to establish. As for why...it's possible she went insane. Given how truly content she appeared to be in her slavery, and how utterly dependent on him she surely was, I suspect something must have snapped. (Then again, one can argue that sane people don't kill people. That's where temporary insanity comes in.)

As for whether or not the slavery became a convenient excuse for the killing, I don't know. There has been talk elsewhere of putting in FOIA requests to get details from the court system. (The U.S.'s Freedom of Information Act allows citizens to request copies of information that is on the public record.)

 

[Etoile]

Etoile - don't got so scared from what someone write on web People write many weird things, you might be surprised how different they in reality are. So i think, that this is just another paysite for some amateur BDSM crowd.
All.
Nothing great (i don't like shaved heads and such excessive piercings), and also IMHO nothing to worry about it.

After all, the whole thing ended

Hi trodas,

I know you're pretty new here, and we don't know each other well. Nice to meet you though.

I was not scared by what she wrote. I was fascinated, impressed, and a little surprised, but not scared. While I am aware that there are "characters" or personas made up by individuals, I don't think Delia Day was fictional. She expressed not only physical events but also a mindset that could not have been written if she didn't believe it. (Trust me, I've read pretty much the whole site!) Yes, it was a paysite, but that's for two reasons: 1. to finance the site itself. 2. to keep out underage visitors.

I don't like excessive piercings, either! I think a woman's pussy is beautiful by itself. A small clit piercing can be attractive, but what she had was overkill. That's my personal opinion, of course. I don't have a problem with it if she wants to do it, but I don't like it myself. As for the shaved hair, I think it can be very attractive on the right woman. There were some pics of her where it looked good, but a number where I didn't like it. There was a purpose to her baldness, though - it kept her totally naked for her owner. She writes about being bald here.

I'm not worried, because I didn't know her. I'm curious. I'm intrigued. I'm fascinated. But there's no need to tell me "there's nothing to worry about" - I can make my own decisions about what I want to believe.

Best,
Etoile

 

[Etoile]

Re: delia day

For those of you who signed up to her site



You can not join. Her website is no longer active. The DNS should die tonight.

If anyone did sign up, as you found out, your money would be refunded.

First of all, welcome to Lit!

Please re-read my first post, and visit some of the links. You will see that the link I gave for her site is not deliaday.com - it is a mirror somebody made.

The DNS for deliaday seems to already have expired, as going to www.deliaday.com gets me nothing. The whois information confirms that the site was registered to a Travis Anton. The registration does not expire until November 2004.

If you read the discussion links I gave , you will see that you are incorrect about the money being refunded. There are people still being billed for their membership.

 

[Etoile]

I just had a very interesting thought. This woman has all but vanished since her trial, this much we know. But.... This paysite of hers is still up. Someone has to pay for the paysite to keep it online. Someone has to pay the server, I don't know much about server services or how often you have to pay and such. But the last update from what I have read was in November, it's now almost April. Unless the site is paid for, for a year how is it staying up and online?

It's not...we were looking at a mirror last night. It is entirely possible that she - well, rather, her owner - had paid for a year in advance.

 

[InnerDarkness]

Okay, I will crawl out here and tell you that earlier last year (around June or so) I was a pay member to her site. I had been reading it for a while and paid because I was so thoroughly obsessed with her and everything she committed herself to through her slavery.

I DO think she was real and her life was very real. I read TONS of her journaling and her writing on her pictures. If you spent as much time on the site as I did at the time, you could get a VERY clear picture that she was somewhat disturbed mentally. I know that sounds crude of me to say it that way, but after that accident she had where she crashed the car (pictures and everything were on the site), she totally confined herself to their house in a remote location. She took an awful lot of meds (before and after the accident), dealt with panic and anxiety among many other things.

When I stopped reading at the end of last year, she was beginning to have her first lesbian encounters. I had not heard of any murder or anything and now I am completely intrigued and cant wait to go and read more and see for myself.

I admit it...I was obsessed with this woman's life. From how it appeared though, they (her and her husband/master) may have had someone living with them full time to photo-document their life...you can tell most of the pictures had a photographer.

I could go on and on and on...I was and am a HUGE Delia Day fan..and am so curious to see what really happened now!!!

 

[DustyWolfe]

It's not...we were looking at a mirror last night. It is entirely possible that she - well, rather, her owner - had paid for a year in advance.

LOL okay, I didn't realize that this was a mirror that we were looking at, but I was able to get into Deliaday.com. I have a friend that made a mirror of this site as well.

 

[InnerDarkness]

how she met him...

http://207.44.237.195/dday_art_1992_02.html

 

[lark sparrow]

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