Defining Love

[DLL]

Originally posted by luvnhim
Thanks GG.
I understand what you are saying but even if it stagnates and you are left with good memories, will the bad memories continue to pop up? Some days I just wish I could erase the past but we all know that doesn't happen. He's the only one I've had a hard time letting go of. I have so many unanswered questions, he refuses to talk to me about it. Is that best or not? Is it cowardly?
I've been taught when you love someone, talk. Be open and honest with each other.

I never understand why two people that were in love have to behave differently after the love affair ends...Why won't he speak to you..Maybe he doesnt realize how much you still love him...Ask him to have a sit down with you and lay the cards on the table....tell him how you feel and why..maybe he is unaware of all of it..but at least you cant say you didnt try...and if he feels the same than do what we do in ny

say oh FUCK IT..He was a total JACKASS and probably a fucken homo...kidding....

 

[GiveawayGirl]

~Cueing up my best Rex Harrison voice~

By George, I think she's got it!

Yank! I finally run into you in "real time"

Welcome home!

btw: perhaps a poll is in order to see how many people know who Rex Harrison is anymore

 

[MT_Pitcher]

I never understand why two people that were in love have to behave differently after the love affair ends...Why won't he speak to you..Maybe he doesnt realize how much you still love him...Ask him to have a sit down with you and lay the cards on the table....tell him how you feel and why..maybe he is unaware of all of it..but at least you cant say you didnt try...and if he feels the same than do what we do in ny

say oh FUCK IT..He was a total JACKASS and probably a fucken homo...kidding....

Ahhh, there's the DLL I know!!

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
~Cueing up my best Rex Harrison voice~

By George, I think she's got it!

whos rex harrison???? George's brother

 

[GiveawayGirl]

whos rex harrison???? George's brother

roflmao DLL......If anyone else had said that I would have cried but you never fail to crack me up!

 

[MT_Pitcher]

whos rex harrison???? George's brother

Yup, the brat's back

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by MT_Pitcher
Ahhh, there's the DLL I know!!

now come on how many mushy sentences can I type
's MT....

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
roflmao DLL......If anyone else had said that I would have cried but you never fail to crack me up!

Hi GG...Glad i can make you laugh..I was even laughing when I typed that....

 

[~Dream~]

For Ammo: >>>DLL'S question>
Dream was it hard having two men that loved you..and what point did you realize that it was one that you loved the most???Can you love two at once..is this possible...this is a subject i would like to dicuss..anyone here involved in 2 "loving" relationships?? or more for that matter?



where do you see that I DIDNT answer it??plz scroll back to MY LAST post and there you will find a long and very de-tailed and yet from the heart response...If ya didnt grasp that ,then its most certainly On YOU and not me...thanks


** Yes It WAS hard ,STILL is

** the point I realized was when JAMES was an ASSHOLE to me..

**yes you can love 2 at once ..just in very different ways..



** is THAT more clear?? geesh ,I'm sorry but some times men just rattle my nerves..for real

 

[luvnhim]

DLL you did make me smile. Thank you. It doesnt happen much nowadays. I have tried for months and he refuses to discuss our past. I don't know why. I know I deserve an explanation but I don't think he has one. He knows he is wrong in the way he treated me. I'm not saying all I did was right or that I'm perfect but I never treated him badly. It's silence on his part.
I can't make him love me. I know he did once, but not now.

 

[~Dream~]

I know that I for one have never stopped loving someone. Love is a living, breathing entity. When it is fed, it grows. When it isn't, it stagnates. Then it fades into loving memories and fondness of the heart that remains forever.

while I agree with that statement I must confess that I no longer love either of my exes and I even have Children by them both,however I do care about what happens tothem and want to see them happy..they lost the privelege of having my love long ago ..

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by ~Dream~
For Ammo: >>>DLL'S question>
Dream was it hard having two men that loved you..and what point did you realize that it was one that you loved the most???Can you love two at once..is this possible...this is a subject i would like to dicuss..anyone here involved in 2 "loving" relationships?? or more for that matter?



where do you see that I DIDNT answer it??plz scroll back to MY LAST post and there you will find a long and very de-tailed and yet from the heart response...If ya didnt grasp that ,then its most certainly On YOU and not me...thanks


** Yes It WAS hard ,STILL is

** the point I realized was when JAMES was an ASSHOLE to me..

**yes you can love 2 at once ..just in very different ways..



** is THAT more clear?? geesh ,I'm sorry but some times men just rattle my nerves..for real

I understood your post Dream...
do you still miss him at all now?

 

[GiveawayGirl]

while I agree with that statement I must confess that I no longer love either of my exes and I even have Children by them both,however I do care about what happens tothem and want to see them happy..they lost the privelege of having my love long ago ..

I can totally understand that Dream. I am just one of those people that does not give my love and affection easily and when I do, it remains always. That is not to say that I still love everyone in the same way. But so far, anyone who has inspired strong enough feelings in me to be defined as love, still remains in my heart in some capacity.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

** is THAT more clear?? geesh ,I'm sorry but some times men just rattle my nerves..for real [/B]

It's a job... Someone has to do it!!!

 

[GiveawayGirl]

It's a job... Someone has to do it!!!

Let's talk about the loss of love for a minute....

MT hasn't even said hello to GG today. She thinks he doesn't love her anymore

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by luvnhim
DLL you did make me smile. Thank you. It doesnt happen much nowadays. I have tried for months and he refuses to discuss our past. I don't know why. I know I deserve an explanation but I don't think he has one. He knows he is wrong in the way he treated me. I'm not saying all I did was right or that I'm perfect but I never treated him badly. It's silence on his part.
I can't make him love me. I know he did once, but not now.

luv...you know what???? who needs the fucken asshole pussy douche bag homo shithead anyway.....last I heard he gained 50 pounds and cant find his dick anymore..... (thats something my friends would tell me if a guy i liked was a jerk) so i am passing it to you....

now the serious DLL....
try calling him..say just listen i need to talk to you and say whats on your mind and in your heart...tell him its your way of closure ..see what he says...if he has a heart and ever cared he will listen..its something I would do...maybe with a guy named vito holding a bat..but hey whatever works for you....

 

[~Dream~]

I understood your post Dream...
do you still miss him at all now?

Thanks DLL ,that made me feel a bit better as I thought I was pretty clear ...LOL


in answer to your last question ,Not a day goes by that I dont think about him ,But I would've missed him alot more If I felt there was something there to miss ,ya know?? we have been friends for almost 3 years now so.....all I know is if he really wanted happiness he shouldnt have fucked me over...But maybe some other 'naive woman will come along....I think he's gotten USED to Others taking care of him and in all fairness he has also been hurt in past relationships,so maybe he's afraid of REAL committment ....God only knows..

 

[GiveawayGirl]

luv...you know what???? who needs the fucken asshole pussy douche bag homo shithead anyway.....last I heard he gained 50 pounds and cant find his dick anymore..... (thats something my friends would tell me if a guy i liked was a jerk) so i am passing it to you....

now the serious DLL....
try calling him..say just listen i need to talk to you and say whats on your mind and in your heart...tell him its your way of closure ..see what he says...if he has a heart and ever cared he will listen..its something I would do...maybe with a guy named vito holding a bat..but hey whatever works for you....

DLL, I think that only actually works if you live in NY. I don't think we have any guys named Vito that carry bats here in the midwest

 

[luvnhim]

DLL
That made me laugh with tears streaming down my face. Thanks...
I have to go for now. Have a good day.

 

[midwestyankee]

Thanks DLL ,that made me feel a bit better as I thought I was pretty clear ...LOL


in answer to your last question ,Not a day goes by that I dont think about him ,But I would've missed him alot more If I felt there was something there to miss ,ya know?? we have been friends for almost 3 years now so.....all I know is if he really wanted happiness he shouldnt have fucked me over...But maybe some other 'naive woman will come along....I think he's gotten USED to Others taking care of him and in all fairness he has also been hurt in past relationships,so maybe he's afraid of REAL committment ....God only knows..

This sounds like a pretty good analysis to me, Dream.

You've got a lot going for you that James (and maybe others) never saw.

 

[~Dream~]

This sounds like a pretty good analysis to me, Dream.

You've got a lot going for you that James (and maybe others) never saw.

Thanks Yankee But I guess all along ,Dracoa has seen it and I had such low self-esteem then ,I didnt believe anyone could...at least he has stayed with me this long ..we also have our ups and downs as any couple does But I'm not in this world or this relationship to please everyone else,I just wanna be me

 

[midwestyankee]

Thanks Yankee But I guess all along ,Dracoa has seen it and I had such low self-esteem then ,I didnt believe anyone could...at least he has stayed with me this long ..we also have our ups and downs as any couple does But I'm not in this world or this relationship to please everyone else,I just wanna be me

Pleasing someone else is never enough. Being respected, liked, and admired by someone whom you respect, like, and admire is something yet again. That's really what I was getting at.

You deserve someone who will respect and admire you for your integrity and your other strengths. You should have someone in your life who likes you because of who you are and not who they want you to be.

 

[~Dream~]

Pleasing someone else is never enough. Being respected, liked, and admired by someone whom you respect, like, and admire is something yet again. That's really what I was getting at.

You deserve someone who will respect and admire you for your integrity and your other strengths. You should have someone in your life who likes you because of who you are and not who they want you to be.

You make a great point sweety ,per usual

 

[midwestyankee]

You make a great point sweety ,per usual

I'm glad it made sense to you.

Reading it again, I'm not sure I made this very clear. I may try again another time.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Love is many things

Right now, love is still feeling that ache when we hang up the phone, even though we've been living together for almost two years.

I find it ironic that we had the same aches of being apart, even before we met!

At least these trips bring him back home to me, and it's such a wonderful feeling to actually SHARE your love with someone.

Some people are just not capable of SHARING, and love becomes a tug-of-war and a painful experience.

I still love the man I felt I was in love with (for 8 years), but it is quite different than the love I discovered when Oman loved me in return!

Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.

Does this make sense?