Defining Love

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[DLL]

Originally posted by ~Dream~
oh well ,real life isnt just all Fun and games ..Most ppl cant handle serious crap anyways ..thats kinda sad ,really...always have to have an escape route ....

i handle more serious crap than I want to...and i agree everyone needs a diversion of sorts...mine is that i ride...oh and that i am a total perv..but lit solves that
I read what you posted Dream ..you have alot of nice thoughts..my head has been so filled with other things at the moment but as soon as i collect my thoughts i will comment on all the posts..this thread keeps my mind working I love it and love to see all the diiferent kind of replies...

and I think when you drop the L bomb for the first time its an amazing feeling.But as sweet as that magic sentence sounds, the potency starts to wane when you hear it frequently. Its so important that you find fresh special ways to show someone you love them.

Fact is, words don't mean much unless they're back up by some action

 

[GiveawayGirl]

You are kind GG...perhaps you forget that I'm divorced. hehe clearly not a 'perfect' judge of character there.

Interesting....less trusting of those you care about deeply than of others. Yes it makes sense of course...those we care about the most can also hurt us the most...just never put the two together I guess.

Yes I hear...it's that expectation gap.

btw

I didn't say perfect, my friend; I said discerning. Everyone is entitled to one lapse in judgement

btw: back at ya

 

[GiveawayGirl]

hmmm agree and disagree with you GG. I agree with you that the right person with a LOT of work and patience can help tear down the walls IF the person with the walls up is at a point where they are receptive to having help tear down the walls. I don't think it's automatic by any means though.


I also beg to differ on your last statement. I know personally I did a lot of work on myself bringing to my conscious that I'd even built up the walls, working at knowing I wanted them torn down, purposely opening myself up to opportunities and in the end taking a huge risk in letting my walls down. I had to convince myself that the benefit was worth more than the cost/risk...that I was strong enough to survive if when I let down my walls, the world came crashing in and I got hurt again....which I eventually did...but the timing was right... the person was right...and we both survived in tact and as friends and as lovers...just with a different definition now.

You are so much more "put together" than I, WW. I hate pain. I hate needles, I hate blisters, I hate sore muscles, and above all else I hate a broken heart. I survived it once and I am none too anxious to do it again. I simply meant to say that until I find that person who is worth tearing my walls down for, I intend to keep them well fortified to guard against that pesky trojan horse that keeps knocking at my door.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

I'm with Wicked on this one.
The walls don't come down by themselves or even when you think you've met the right person. The only one who can bring them down is YOU! And the longer they stay up, the more comfortable they are, and ever so much harder to bring down.
I think I'd rather be open to having my heart broken, then to have a stone heart that can't be broken. I'd rather be able to feel...

This outlook takes a great deal of courage MT. I just don't think I have it in me to survive heartbreak again. I am an all or nothing person...if I love you, I love you freely and wholeheartedly, I put too much of myself on the line and when that gift isn't treasured and it is abused then it's too hard for me to recover. I don't know how to love any other way, and I'm not sure I would want to.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

All of us are born with the need to share
our lives with someone. During the years
the fulfillment of this need can be the cause
of constant concern and occasional pain.
For it can’t be fulfilled by one person
reaching, but only when two are willing
to meet halfway
DLL

Even Yankee couldn't have said it better DLL

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Love happens only when the person you are with accepts you for WHO YOU REALLY ARE ..heart ,mind,body and soul...and doesnt try to change or conform you into an image of some unattainable person that they admire..

I feel we have to be more accepting and less judgemental in order to have REAL love...and while ppl may say or do things we dont like or agree with and we say we forgive them but not forget ,well that's a big cop-out also ...I say TRUE love heals all wounds with time.....we are human but we need o use our brain as well as our heart...alot of stimulation even that we feel comes from the brain 1st ...our heart ,emotionally speaking can get us in trouble but still knows what's best for us

I absolutely agree with you Dream. The trick is to be able to show your true self to somone while wrestling with having the faith and trust in that person to do so.

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
This outlook takes a great deal of courage MT. I just don't think I have it in me to survive heartbreak again. I am an all or nothing person...if I love you, I love you freely and wholeheartedly, I put too much of myself on the line and when that gift isn't treasured and it is abused then it's too hard for me to recover. I don't know how to love any other way, and I'm not sure I would want to.

than thats sad GG..why not let yourself love another..everyone is different and life is for new experiences..and love is a roller coaster but the ride is always exciting and has its ups and downs..dont close yourself to that feeling...Your too good of a person for that!!! DLL

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
Even Yankee couldn't have said it better DLL

shush i dont want my cover as a babbling baseball whore blown here..move on ...nothing to see here..step awayyyy from this post........

 

[GiveawayGirl]

than thats sad GG..why not let yourself love another..everyone is different and life is for new experiences..and love is a roller coaster but the ride is always exciting and has its ups and downs..dont close yourself to that feeling...Your too good of a person for that!!! DLL

Thank you for the compliment DLL.

Logically, I know you are right. Perhaps with a lot of time and reflection I can get over it and work my courage back up. I'm just not feeling like much of a risk taker. I am comfy in my little bubble of safety.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

shush i dont want my cover as a babbling baseball whore blown here..move on ...nothing to see here..step awayyyy from this post........

Yank can't match on the baseball front either, DLL. He's got no ground to stand on now that his beloved BoSox have given away their ace pouter to the Cubbies

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Whew - I am glad to see I am not the only one who is scared by this thread... I really have to think harder than I want to when I come here. LOL

LOL Hooch. I get addicted to that thinking thing

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
Yank can't match on the baseball front either, DLL. He's got no ground to stand on now that his beloved BoSox have given away their ace pouter to the Cubbies

no comment.... (smiling as i type that)

 

[MT_Pitcher]

shush i dont want my cover as a babbling baseball whore blown here..move on ...nothing to see here..step awayyyy from this post........

Cover blown!!

 

[GiveawayGirl]

no comment.... (smiling as i type that)

Once again you show how very wise you are, DLL

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by MT_Pitcher
Cover blown!!

damn to the bat cave at once!!!!!!!!

 

[MT_Pitcher]

damn to the bat cave at once!!!!!!!!

Too late.
I've been hanging around long enough to see through the bluff and bluster of quite a few people, and had a chance to figure out who the good ones were.
This thread is filled with them.
WW, GG, Cate, and DLL are all dolls in my book!

And Yank and Hooch are the two best guys I've met here.

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by MT_Pitcher
Too late.
I've been hanging around long enough to see through the bluff and bluster of quite a few people, and had a chance to figure out who the good ones were.
This thread is filled with them.
WW, GG, Cate, and DLL are all dolls in my book!

And Yank and Hooch are the two best guys I've met here.

ty for the kind words MT and i feel the same about all the above mentioned people myself.... to you all...xoxox

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Too late.
I've been hanging around long enough to see through the bluff and bluster of quite a few people, and had a chance to figure out who the good ones were.
This thread is filled with them.
WW, GG, Cate, and DLL are all dolls in my book!

And Yank and Hooch are the two best guys I've met here.

Wow, thank you MT. What a very nice thing to say.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

ty for the kind words MT and i feel the same about all the above mentioned people myself.... to you all...xoxox

Right back at ya DLL.....and to everyone.

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
Right back at ya DLL.....and to everyone.

polishes my horns...HA!!! nice i'll show 'em nice.....
storms out with my tail in my hand
see you all later....
I am off to "play nice" with others

 

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[~Dream~]

i handle more serious crap than I want to...and i agree everyone needs a diversion of sorts...mine is that i ride...oh and that i am a total perv..but lit solves that
I read what you posted Dream ..you have alot of nice thoughts..my head has been so filled with other things at the moment but as soon as i collect my thoughts i will comment on all the posts..this thread keeps my mind working I love it and love to see all the diiferent kind of replies...

and I think when you drop the L bomb for the first time its an amazing feeling.But as sweet as that magic sentence sounds, the potency starts to wane when you hear it frequently. Its so important that you find fresh special ways to show someone you love them.

Fact is, words don't mean much unless they're back up by some action

amen to that!! a little ACTION never hurt anyone

 

[~Dream~]

i handle more serious crap than I want to...and i agree everyone needs a diversion of sorts...mine is that i ride...oh and that i am a total perv..but lit solves that
I read what you posted Dream ..you have alot of nice thoughts..my head has been so filled with other things at the moment but as soon as i collect my thoughts i will comment on all the posts..this thread keeps my mind working I love it and love to see all the diiferent kind of replies...

and I think when you drop the L bomb for the first time its an amazing feeling.But as sweet as that magic sentence sounds, the potency starts to wane when you hear it frequently. Its so important that you find fresh special ways to show someone you love them.

Fact is, words don't mean much unless they're back up by some action

amen to that!! a little ACTION never hurt anyone

 

[GiveawayGirl]

If I were a gal, I'd say "snif", and hand you a rose, but since I am not, I'll just scratch, spit, hitch up my britches, open a beer and say "backatcha, pal"

Oh baby, I'm telling ya Hooch...I read this and now am immediately going to have to make a visit to the YKYSFW thread....LOL

Morning friend