Defining Love

[midwestyankee]

shell ..shell ,ever the optomist ..keep it up sweety

Optimism is a good thing - your glass of wine is always half full, for example.

And a good man is right around the corner - either you've already discovered him and he is nearby, or you haven't discovered him yet but in one way or another, he's right around the corner.

I know a good woman is right around the corner. If it works for me, why can't it work for you?

 

[~Dream~]

Optimism is a good thing - your glass of wine is always half full, for example.

And a good man is right around the corner - either you've already discovered him and he is nearby, or you haven't discovered him yet but in one way or another, he's right around the corner.

I know a good woman is right around the corner. If it works for me, why can't it work for you?

If I have ALREADY discovered him,
them maybe its about damn time that HE discovered me ??..ya think?? I will never be too optimistic ever again yankee sorry..More than twice burned= more than twice LEARNED

 

[midwestyankee]

If I have ALREADY discovered him,
them maybe its about damn time that HE discovered me ??..ya think?? I will never be too optimistic ever again yankee sorry..More than twice burned= more than twice LEARNED

Sometimes we men can be a little too dense. I'm sure if you could ask some of the women in my life they'd agree. It seems to come with that Y chromosome.

 

[~Dream~]

Sometimes we men can be a little too dense. I'm sure if you could ask some of the women in my life they'd agree. It seems to come with that Y chromosome.

LOL ..like women arent as well?? I figure I will give it time and see who comes crawling back to whom ..LOL

 

[midwestyankee]

LOL ..like women arent as well?? I figure I will give it time and see who comes crawling back to whom ..LOL

Crawling has its advantages...after all it does put one in a particularly enticing position.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Sometimes we men can be a little too dense. I'm sure if you could ask some of the women in my life they'd agree. It seems to come with that Y chromosome.

"Some of the women" Yank? Do you have a collection? A bevy?

What a guy......I didn't think you had it in you

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Crawling has its advantages...after all it does put one in a particularly enticing position.

not sure it has anything to do with defining love but mmmmmm I do like that image

 

[midwestyankee]

"Some of the women" Yank? Do you have a collection? A bevy?

What a guy......I didn't think you had it in you

Alas, I was speaking of women in the past tense. The collection exists solely in my memory - and for some of them that's the safest place for them to be - for my safety, that is.

I am living proof that it is possible to learn from one's mistakes - and with enough mistakes under one's belt, the learning can be quite an achievement.

 

[~Dream~]

Crawling has its advantages...after all it does put one in a particularly enticing position.

and yes I kinda LIKE that position also Yankee...and when you are WRONG ..it has everything to do with LOVE WW ....admittance of being wrong and a bonehead is a good way to earn my love back

 

[shell seeker2]

and yes I kinda LIKE that position also Yankee...and when you are WRONG ..it has everything to do with LOVE WW ....admittance of being wrong and a bonehead is a good way to earn my love back

so how are things going? has there been an apology or explaination yet?

 

[shell seeker2]

sorry..More than twice burned= more than twice LEARNED [/B

I agree, but now that twice is learned you will be able to be happy because you now know what you DON'T want or deserve. I'm still sticking with the fact that you will find someone who cherishes you. You may not trust it at first, but in time, you may be able to slowly and cautiously open yourself up.

 

[midwestyankee]

sorry..More than twice burned= more than twice LEARNED [/B

I agree, but now that twice is learned you will be able to be happy because you now know what you DON'T want or deserve. I'm still sticking with the fact that you will find someone who cherishes you. You may not trust it at first, but in time, you may be able to slowly and cautiously open yourself up.

To love deeply is to take a huge risk.

You risk hurting your beloved and feeling the excruciating pain of know you have done so. You risk being hurt by your beloved. You risk the possibility that through your love you will grow into a new person. And while that new person may be an improvement over the old one, we all have some fear of the unknown.

But without the risk, there is no love.

 

[Nikkitta]

i agree Yankee and only can add that to love also is to be scared ,scared to loose what you found ,scared to not be loved back the same way you love the other .Scared that someday those feelings will change and with it everything around you ,and scared to loose yourself completly .

 

[midwestyankee]

i agree Yankee and only can add that to love also is to be scared ,scared to loose what you found ,scared to not be loved back the same way you love the other .Scared that someday those feelings will change and with it everything around you ,and scared to loose yourself completly .

Yes, the risk can be quite frightening at times. But if you then take the time to picture yourself reaping the benefits of taking the risk, of receiving the love and having the pleasure of giving love, then the risk seems less daunting, less forbidding.

 

[shell seeker2]

Yes, the risk can be quite frightening at times. But if you then take the time to picture yourself reaping the benefits of taking the risk, of receiving the love and having the pleasure of giving love, then the risk seems less daunting, less forbidding.

You are absolutely right, but there are times when you question the risk of putting yourself out there. It's been a year and half for me and I still am afraid of getting hurt or worse hurting someone else because I'm not ready (although deep down I know I am ready). If that makes any sense. I guess I have come to question my judgement skills.

 

[midwestyankee]

You are absolutely right, but there are times when you question the risk of putting yourself out there. It's been a year and half for me and I still am afraid of getting hurt or worse hurting someone else because I'm not ready (although deep down I know I am ready). If that makes any sense. I guess I have come to question my judgement skills.

If you know on some level that you're ready to face the risks of love again, then when you get the chance to walk out on the limb, you will have the courage to do so. What seems like fearfulness right now is just the uncertainty that comes from not having any recent practice on which to build your confidence.

 

[shell seeker2]

If you know on some level that you're ready to face the risks of love again, then when you get the chance to walk out on the limb, you will have the courage to do so. What seems like fearfulness right now is just the uncertainty that comes from not having any recent practice on which to build your confidence.

My courage is building everyday it seems. I start to tiptoe forward, but then question my self with 2 smaller steps backwards. I have been given a lot of confidence lately, I think I'm just over analyzing every little thing. I am so happy with every aspect in my life, and I haven't felt this good in a long time.

 

[midwestyankee]

My courage is building everyday it seems. I start to tiptoe forward, but then question my self with 2 smaller steps backwards. I have been given a lot of confidence lately, I think I'm just over analyzing every little thing. I am so happy with every aspect in my life, and I haven't felt this good in a long time.

On the whole, it sounds like you're doing just fine.

I've been told by a wise friend that over-analysis does me more harm than good. I suspect she's right.

 

[DLL]

Love in our Society
Does not work so well
Because so many people
Fall in love with the physical
Then try to accept
What’s inside

When you fall in love
With what’s inside a person
Accepting the physical
Becomes easy
DLL


(my tequilla thoughts for tonight)

 

[DLL]

Love in our Society
Does not work so well
Because so many people
Fall in love with the physical
Then try to accept
What’s inside

When you fall in love
With what’s inside a person
Accepting the physical
Becomes easy
DLL


(my tequilla thoughts for tonight)

 

[midwestyankee]

Love in our Society
Does not work so well
Because so many people
Fall in love with the physical
Then try to accept
What’s inside

When you fall in love
With what’s inside a person
Accepting the physical
Becomes easy
DLL


(my tequilla thoughts for tonight)

DLL, those must have been double shots, eh?

Good thoughts, nonetheless.

 

[~Dream~]

If you know on some level that you're ready to face the risks of love again, then when you get the chance to walk out on the limb, you will have the courage to do so. What seems like fearfulness right now is just the uncertainty that comes from not having any recent practice on which to build your confidence.

sometimes uncertainty occurs cause the Risk of being rejected once again is just too great and too much of a chance to take...better safe than sorry

 

[shell seeker2]

Love in our Society
Does not work so well
Because so many people
Fall in love with the physical
Then try to accept
What’s inside

When you fall in love
With what’s inside a person
Accepting the physical
Becomes easy
DLL


(my tequilla thoughts for tonight)

Wow! that is so true, and beautiful! Hope the tequilla was good!

 

[midwestyankee]

sometimes uncertainty occurs cause the Risk of being rejected once again is just too great and too much of a chance to take...better safe than sorry

I suspect that most of us have an internal monitor for the level of risk we can handle. What's important is to learn how to read that monitor accurately - the signals don't always get the surface in clear pictures. Notice what shell seeker2 said earlier that she didn't feel ready yet - except that deep down she knew she was. I think that's the inner monitor working and she is starting to get the signals more clearly.

 

[shell seeker2]

I suspect that most of us have an internal monitor for the level of risk we can handle. What's important is to learn how to read that monitor accurately - the signals don't always get the surface in clear pictures. Notice what shell seeker2 said earlier that she didn't feel ready yet - except that deep down she knew she was. I think that's the inner monitor working and she is starting to get the signals more clearly.

I know that I over analyze things. Like I said, I want to be sure that I don't hurt someone. I'm getting better each day. I just wish I had a crystal ball that says, this is it, or run like hell! I've decided to let whatever happens, happen. Life is too short not to enjoy it. As much as being hurt sucks, I'd rather be able to say I had good times with someone and loved, than to close myself off and be lonely. I'm just taking things as they come and will just have to see what's in store. Gosh, I wish I was Queen of the World! (well, that probably wouldn't be a good thing)