Debating a 3 some

[jenni7]

After reading some posts here on lit, my husband and I have recently started discussing the possibility of bringing another man into our bedroom or even possibly another couple. While this is still in complete fantasy stage we are starting to talk about it more and more. I find this whole concept really arousing. I would love to be with another man while my husband watches, and possibly participates. I have to admit, I am quite selfish in this fantasy in that i don't want to share my husband too much with others. I think I would be willing to watch him go down on someone but I'm not at all comfortable with him fucking them. Totally hypocritical but it's how I feel.

So my question is... for those of you who have participated in threesomes, or brought another person into your bedroom would you care to enlighten me to this experience. The good, the bad, the possible repercussions.


My husband and I are younger (29, 30), we've been together for 11 years . Both are happy in our relationship as well as being open to flirting/ chatting etc. Were open about our sexual wants/ desires. I'm more shy in intimate situations but usually pretty willing to try new things.

So any feedback you can give my would be greatly appreciated. I would kind of like to know the score before we decide if this is the right thing for us.

Thanks!!!!

 

[Nguyen_returns]

After reading some posts here on lit, my husband and I have recently started discussing the possibility of bringing another man into our bedroom or even possibly another couple. While this is still in complete fantasy stage we are starting to talk about it more and more. I find this whole concept really arousing. I would love to be with another man while my husband watches, and possibly participates. I have to admit, I am quite selfish in this fantasy in that i don't want to share my husband too much with others. I think I would be willing to watch him go down on someone but I'm not at all comfortable with him fucking them. Totally hypocritical but it's how I feel.

So my question is... for those of you who have participated in threesomes, or brought another person into your bedroom would you care to enlighten me to this experience. The good, the bad, the possible repercussions.


My husband and I are younger (29, 30), we've been together for 11 years . Both are happy in our relationship as well as being open to flirting/ chatting etc. Were open about our sexual wants/ desires. I'm more shy in intimate situations but usually pretty willing to try new things.

So any feedback you can give my would be greatly appreciated. I would kind of like to know the score before we decide if this is the right thing for us.

Thanks!!!!

Sadly I've never been involved, but the one thing I've heard from anybody that's had them is that you have to set the ground rules ahead of time and stick to them. Hypocritical or not, how you feel is how you feel, and if you get pushed into agreeing to something you're not 100% comfortable with, then there are going to be repercussions later.

For me personally, it would be fine to be allowed to go down on another woman and not fuck her. I'd also be fine just watching my wife with another woman. But then, I've always been easy to please.

 

[cowslinger64]

I've been in 6 threesomes, all with the same women. However, there was no emotional connection to them, other than one of us had been together before. I've often heard that when doing it with someone you love, it can be very tough. Most women are not much for sharing, which is part of it. You do need to set strict boundaries to start...and go with the flow. I'd make sure my rl was very very strong to start with too.


I know one thing...I'd NEVER let another man touch my woman.

 

[koalabear]

pm Morrigu she knows everything about sex.
and if you want your husband abused pm B. J. Gobblecock.

 

[cowslinger64]

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and if you want your husband abused pm B. J. Gobblecock. [/QUOTE]



LMAO

 

[Kitty_Schrödinger]

pm Morrigu she knows everything about sex.
and if you want your husband abused pm B. J. Gobblecock.

FUZZY!!!!!

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[Kitty_Schrödinger]

and if you want your husband abused pm B. J. Gobblecock.

LMAO

*shakes head*

 

[gatorgirl7]

My hubby and I got together with one couple. We started as friends first and decided we were attracted to each other. Hubby and I had talked first - and apparently they had too. The woman and I went for a drink one day and we brought it up and discovered both of us had already liked the idea. We got together on and off for a couple years and remained very good friends for upwards of 15 yrs till they moved out of the area.

The sex part was amazing and we all had fun. There really wasn't any jealousy. If you find the right person or couple I recommend it. jenni7, you can PM me if you want more details

 

[koalabear]

*shakes head*

You can't lie out of it I saw you posting on the GB.....

 

[Kitty_Schrödinger]

You can't lie out of it I saw you posting on the GB.....

Damn, my reputation is gone

 

[koalabear]

Damn, my reputation is gone

 

[jenni7]

Sadly I've never been involved, but the one thing I've heard from anybody that's had them is that you have to set the ground rules ahead of time and stick to them. Hypocritical or not, how you feel is how you feel, and if you get pushed into agreeing to something you're not 100% comfortable with, then there are going to be repercussions later.

For me personally, it would be fine to be allowed to go down on another woman and not fuck her. I'd also be fine just watching my wife with another woman. But then, I've always been easy to please.

So you personally would be fine with just going down on someone but your wife not allowing you to go all the way? Would you allow your wife to be with another man in front of you.

Im worried about the repercussions of it all but it also seems like a deal too tempting to give up. Hate not knowing the outcome.

 

[RR71]

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[Liplovinman]

Has never happened, though the discussion came up several years ago and as was mentioned, the ground rules - well we could not agree. I was not ok with another guy in the bedroom if there was another lady. She would have no part of any other females in her bed, but she did bring the guy she wanted home and told me later that since I wasn't ok with being there, she's done it on her own.
Ground rules and trust are important, be careful about placing restrictions that you would not be comfortable in following yourself.

 

[jenni7]

Has never happened, though the discussion came up several years ago and as was mentioned, the ground rules - well we could not agree. I was not ok with another guy in the bedroom if there was another lady. She would have no part of any other females in her bed, but she did bring the guy she wanted home and told me later that since I wasn't ok with being there, she's done it on her own.
Ground rules and trust are important, be careful about placing restrictions that you would not be comfortable in following yourself.

Oh wow, that's not good. I think/ hope neither my husband or I would ever go and do that on our own. I guess I could do was hope.

The ground rules thing I can tell is very important and you make a great point about not placing restrictions on what i wouldn't be wanting to follow myself. That's why i feel like it may not work out. I wouldn't want him to do anything but oral and here im willing to do more... not exactly "fair".

 

[Nguyen_returns]

So you personally would be fine with just going down on someone but your wife not allowing you to go all the way? Would you allow your wife to be with another man in front of you.

I would, yes, but simply because I love going down on women. My ideal would be to have my wife ride me while the other woman sits on my face.

I think I'd be okay with my wife with another man - for me sex is less about emotion and more about, well, fucking. As long as she's not falling in love with the guy that's fucking her, I think I'd enjoy watching. Bear in mind, this is all just theory at this point.

Im worried about the repercussions of it all but it also seems like a deal too tempting to give up. Hate not knowing the outcome.

I have a feeling that even it's well thought out, this sort of thing can still backfire. It's a risk, but it's also a reward, right?

 

[jenni7]

I would, yes, but simply because I love going down on women. My ideal would be to have my wife ride me while the other woman sits on my face.

I think I'd be okay with my wife with another man - for me sex is less about emotion and more about, well, fucking. As long as she's not falling in love with the guy that's fucking her, I think I'd enjoy watching. Bear in mind, this is all just theory at this point.



I have a feeling that even it's well thought out, this sort of thing can still backfire. It's a risk, but it's also a reward, right?

That is true!!!

 

[allpleasure4her]

Similar situation...

My wife and I have been talking about bringing another couple or select singles into our bed for a couple years now. We didn't know how to deal with it at first, so we tested the waters on a female exotic dancer in our room one night, all my wife's idea so I was fine with it.

Other then the dancer talking to much and not ravishing my wife then and there it was a fun experience, I'd suggest that route. We are in the looking phase now, trying to find like minded couples we can hangout with or meet up somewhere eventually. That is why we are on here.

As a few of the other LIT comments suggest boundaries are set and that is the approach we are attempting. Anyways my wife still gets excited when we talk about playing with others and the one time playing with the dancer for a few hours.

Check out our profile and other post if your interested or PM us. Good luck.

 

[trell]

Any updates to report? Enquiring minds wanna know

 

[Anthony9876]

3 somes

would love to know more jenni
anthony

 

[allpleasure4her]

Hum when do i get my taste????

So when you gonna let me hit that? lol Just dropping a line saying hey.

 

[Wings27]

I also wonder if Jenni has gone through with it?

if you're still around here, Jenni, I'd be happy to pm you with my previous experiences of what has worked and what has not.

~W

 

[Miles Long]

My hubby and I got together with one couple. We started as friends first and decided we were attracted to each other. Hubby and I had talked first - and apparently they had too. The woman and I went for a drink one day and we brought it up and discovered both of us had already liked the idea. We got together on and off for a couple years and remained very good friends for upwards of 15 yrs till they moved out of the area.

The sex part was amazing and we all had fun. There really wasn't any jealousy. If you find the right person or couple I recommend it. jenni7, you can PM me if you want more details

Lol, only jenni7 gets details?

 

[jenni7]

3some vs. swap

Hi guys, sorry to leave you hanging. After much debate and lots of thinking, we decided to skip the 3some and just move straight into a full swap.... awesome experiences so far. We've met some amazing people in the lifestyle and have enjoyed every bit of it. In the meantime I'm enjoying coming out of my shell a bit and I'm loving it. I appreciate all the advice and those who have Pm'd me with advice and sharing their experiences as well. Believe me in that i have gotten some great advice and tips. Thanks bunches for all of your input.


xoxoxo

 

[jenni7]

I also wonder if Jenni has gone through with it?

if you're still around here, Jenni, I'd be happy to pm you with my previous experiences of what has worked and what has not.

~W

Would love to hear you thoughts and input!