Dear X

[Tallulah82]

Dear older stranger,

I love that you went to the cinema with your wife because she wanted to watch The Devil Wears Prada 2, but if my husband started snoring like that, he'd have had a sharp elbow in your ribs once or twice. Try to stay awake next time, or arrange for her to go with a friend or two and maybe you doze in the car instead.

Sincerely,

One who tried not to laugh.

 

[Mrtenant]

Dear Brad,

Cheers motherfucker, on your birthday. Wish you were here. There's far too much bullshit we could be getting into.

Signed,

Your friend and brother

 

[JohnSmith51]

Dear, clear blue skies. Golden sun. Perfect summer breeze.

You are welcome here. Invited even.
Your arrival was delayed. And I pray that your departure is delayed also.

Today is a perfect day. As creation was meant to be.
We will enjoy your visit. And let our weary, winter spirits soar.

 

[CuriousCat89]

dear ex
You ruined a place I love.
It’s tainted with your promises that you broke like a knife through my fragile heart.
When I go back, I can smell your lies.
You ruined so much - music I loved. Cities I love. My fragile health.
Yet you continue on like I never existed. Because you’re not man enough to admit what you did, using your fondness for sadism as a cover for who and what you are.
Trash.
And you are the company you keep. Trash.

 

[beachbaby179]

Dear mom,
I know it was your time to go. And you deserve your rest. But I really wish you could have held on a little bit longer.
I have to hire a landscaper and he's talking about plants I've never even heard of. You'd know exactly what to do.

 

[Dribble]

Dear mom,
I know it was your time to go. And you deserve your rest. But I really wish you could have held on a little bit longer.
I have to hire a landscaper and he's talking about plants I've never even heard of. You'd know exactly what to do.

Trust the process girl. She IS talking through him.

 

[Apisto42]

Dear mom,
I know it was your time to go. And you deserve your rest. But I really wish you could have held on a little bit longer.
I have to hire a landscaper and he's talking about plants I've never even heard of. You'd know exactly what to do.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Dear husband,
On days like today I wish I had never met you.
Sick of your crap,
me

 

[Apisto42]

Dear husband,
On days like today I wish I had never met you.
Sick of your crap,
me

 

[lilmissdarling]

Dear X,

No.

K, Bye.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Dear husband,
On days like today I wish I had never met you.
Sick of your crap,
me

 

[MissSNG]

Dear man of mine who has so many good qualities but also, a lot of shit ones..

When do I get a break?
Why aren’t you picking up the slack when you’ve heard me say all that needs to be done?
Yes the baby is fussy, no it’s not easy, but you have to just keep trying to find things to keep him distracted, and sometimes he just wants to be held and cooed over.
It sucks I can’t step away from constantly doing something or caring for someone else.
My “break” today was spending an hour and a half trying to clean the kitchen and dining room before we have people over tomorrow.. a break in which I had to step in and take the baby back twice and eventually just gave up on cleaning.

Did you think to finish up the work that needed to be done? Or even offer? Nope.
You acted like the 1.5 hours you spent as the primary person with our son was just so draining for you.

And now you’re off playing video games while I sit here rocking him to sleep and trying to do the math in my head of how long I’ll have tomorrow after church and getting naps out of the way to finish cleaning and make the cobbler I said I’d make.
Oh and I have to prep all the baby’s food to try for the week too because, of course, I’m the only one who does any and all meal prep and cooking here.


just .. ugh



With all the love in my heart,
Tired of the bare minimum

 

[barefootgirl69]

Dear x,

Do you know how nice it was to hear you say you missed me and talking to me before I even said it to you?

You won't see this because you're no longer on Lit, but I can't wait to talk to you again later tonight!

 

[Tallulah82]

Dear women,

I hope you know that you are capable and brave. You are significant even when it feels like you're not. You deserve to be seen and to be respected. Never lose yourself for anyone else. You are the only you in this entire world and that means everything.



Dear men,

By the time she's detached, she's already screamed, whispered, begged, and bled for you to get it, to step up. You didn't. So she's out.
And given that nowadays more and more women would choose to be single than in a relationship, that means that all you have to do is be better than the empty space beside her.

 

[Olderwiserstillhorny]

Dear women,

I hope you know that you are capable and brave. You are significant even when it feels like you're not. You deserve to be seen and to be respected. Never lose yourself for anyone else. You are the only you in this entire world and that means everything.



Dear men,

By the time she's detached, she's already screamed, whispered, begged, and bled for you to get it, to step up. You didn't. So she's out.
And given that nowadays more and more women would choose to be single than in a relationship, that means that all you have to do is be better than the empty space beside her.

Some pretty straight forward comments.

 

[EyesOnHers]

Dear self,

If something ended for reasons you know will not change, however much you wish they could, you have to trust that call.

And when things end, you are allowed to move on.
Not living your life because you hoped something would have been different is not healthy.

Be kind but protect yourself. Nobody else will do it for you.

And if people are determined not to listen that is not on you... fuck 'em.

In the words of David Guetta...
"One foot in front of the other, babe".

 

[lilmissdarling]

Dear Newbies,

No response is a response. Quit it.

 

[Cwtchseeker]

Dear Playgrounders

Please be mindful of the effects of your behaviour on others here.

Whilst this might not be ‘real’ life, the actions we take, or the words we use, or the interactions we have, can mean a lot more than we think.

Some come here to shut out the outside. Some come here to fill gaps in their lives, try to get lucky, or find themselves someone who understands them well.
Some simply come to pass time.

But behind all of that is a person. They could be in a dark place, feeling low, lonely, sad. They could be happy. They could want to explore their authoring skills, share their wildest fantasies, explore their sexuality.

And all of those are just fine. It’s what the Playground is here for.

When we chose to go beyond playful, step
across another’s boundaries, throw a tantrum because another spurns an advance or outright treat this place with no rules, then we simply become the worst of the worst.

Turn the tables… how would you feel if you didn’t want that advance, had your boundaries pushed beyond comfortable or just been treated awfully..

The answer will always be, yes be playful, yes tease but always, always be respectful, and be kind. For you really don’t know what some go through, even just to be here for an hour or two to have some normality in their world.

Thank you.

Signed
All those who do care

 

[Olderwiserstillhorny]

Dear Playgrounders

Please be mindful of the effects of your behaviour on others here.

Whilst this might not be ‘real’ life, the actions we take, or the words we use, or the interactions we have, can mean a lot more than we think.

Some come here to shut out the outside. Some come here to fill gaps in their lives, try to get lucky, or find themselves someone who understands them well.
Some simply come to pass time.

But behind all of that is a person. They could be in a dark place, feeling low, lonely, sad. They could be happy. They could want to explore their authoring skills, share their wildest fantasies, explore their sexuality.

And all of those are just fine. It’s what the Playground is here for.

When we chose to go beyond playful, step
across another’s boundaries, throw a tantrum because another spurns an advance or outright treat this place with no rules, then we simply become the worst of the worst.

Turn the tables… how would you feel if you didn’t want that advance, had your boundaries pushed beyond comfortable or just been treated awfully..

The answer will always be, yes be playful, yes tease but always, always be respectful, and be kind. For you really don’t know what some go through, even just to be here for an hour or two to have some normality in their world.

Thank you.

Signed
All those who do care

Very well stated. This is my escape from the real world I deal with every depressing day of her cancerous world.

 

[gisade]

Dear Playgrounders

Please be mindful of the effects of your behaviour on others here.

Whilst this might not be ‘real’ life, the actions we take, or the words we use, or the interactions we have, can mean a lot more than we think.

Some come here to shut out the outside. Some come here to fill gaps in their lives, try to get lucky, or find themselves someone who understands them well.
Some simply come to pass time.

But behind all of that is a person. They could be in a dark place, feeling low, lonely, sad. They could be happy. They could want to explore their authoring skills, share their wildest fantasies, explore their sexuality.

And all of those are just fine. It’s what the Playground is here for.

When we chose to go beyond playful, step
across another’s boundaries, throw a tantrum because another spurns an advance or outright treat this place with no rules, then we simply become the worst of the worst.

Turn the tables… how would you feel if you didn’t want that advance, had your boundaries pushed beyond comfortable or just been treated awfully..

The answer will always be, yes be playful, yes tease but always, always be respectful, and be kind. For you really don’t know what some go through, even just to be here for an hour or two to have some normality in their world.

Thank you.

Signed
All those who do care

 

[Dribble]

I have been here in one form or another since the late 90s. What makes that nice is you get to see certain people repeating their same mistakes over and over....and in the process...blaming men over and over.

Let me clue people in....you choose who you attract. You. Not them. You. So keep on blaming. Keep on hating. Keep on being angry. Again...all choices.

I know these words will fall on deaf ears on those that need to hear it. They have each time I bring it up. But I get sick of the blanket posts "to men". We are not the problem as much as you want to think we are. Certain humans...act poorly. Men. Women. Furries. And for each example of where one does act poorly and distasteful...there is another example of the other sex acting similarly.

 

[EyesOnHers]

I have been here in one form or another since the late 90s. What makes that nice is you get to see certain people repeating their same mistakes over and over....and in the process...blaming men over and over.

Let me clue people in....you choose who you attract. You. Not them. You. So keep on blaming. Keep on hating. Keep on being angry. Again...all choices.

I know these words will fall on deaf ears on those that need to hear it. They have each time I bring it up. But I get sick of the blanket posts "to men". We are not the problem as much as you want to think we are. Certain humans...act poorly. Men. Women. Furries. And for each example of where one does act poorly and distasteful...there is another example of the other sex acting similarly.

Dear valid pointer outer,

I like this post... a lot.
Everything you say is spot on.
There will be bad apples on both sides (plus furries).

But from my perspective, as a newbie, I'd like to put a spin on it.
Also, I love data so can't help it.

Women here seem to be outnumbered.
Don't know the ratios but for my hypothetical, let's say 3 to 1.

So in a room of 160 people... 40 are women and 120 are men.
Half of each sex do not even clock you.

This leaves 20 women and 60 men who engage

My hypothetical assumes women reach out equally via PM to strangers as men, which I'm not sure is true, but let's go with it.

Let's assume again 50% are wronguns.

My maths ends up that a woman will have had to deal with 30 shitty men, whereas, a man will have dealt with 10 shitty women.

So I do get your point. Percentages count but so does volume.

And when you are new and you don't know how to close down your profile or PMs, the nefarious behavior can seem a bit relentless.
Especially as the good players will be respectful and not bring it to your door.

I am absolutely not dismissing shitty behaviour on either side. And I have not been perfect.
But when you look at the metrics, volume can count.

Maybe women are more vocal in their bad experiences here?
It is good that you speak up that men are treated like crap too.

Also, my posts were about my r/l ex and when I mentioned kindness... I meant to all people, not just Litsters and regardless of sex

 

[Dribble]

Dear valid pointer outer,

I like this post... a lot.
Everything you say is spot on.
There will be bad apples on both sides (plus furries).

But from my perspective, as a newbie, I'd like to put a spin on it.
Also, I love data so can't help it.

Women here seem to be outnumbered.
Don't know the ratios but for my hypothetical, let's say 3 to 1.

So in a room of 160 people... 40 are women and 120 are men.
Half of each sex do not even clock you.

This leaves 20 women and 60 men who engage

My hypothetical assumes women reach out equally via PM to strangers as men, which I'm not sure is true, but let's go with it.

Let's assume again 50% are wronguns.

My maths ends up that a woman will have had to deal with 30 shitty men, whereas, a man will have dealt with 10 shitty women.

So I do get your point. Percentages count but so does volume.

And when you are new and you don't know how to close down your profile or PMs, the nefarious behavior can seem a bit relentless.
Especially as the good players will be respectful and not bring it to your door.

I am absolutely not dismissing shitty behaviour on either side. And I have not been perfect.
But when you look at the metrics, volume can count.

Maybe women are more vocal in their bad experiences here?
It is good that you speak up that men are treated like crap too.

Also, my posts were about my r/l ex and when I mentioned kindness... I meant to all people, not just Litsters and regardless of sex

I have a PhD in a hard science. I totally understand how numbers work. Likewise....the real number of males to females is probably closer to 10 to 1...maybe even 20 to 1. This info was available before the site changed format....at least what was reported. You know the reality of living in an internet wold. And if you don't...you don't belong here. You will end up hurt.

My suggestion for newbs...from the peanut gallery not having any chips in the bowl...trust slowly. Those that are willing to wait....are the ones you want to build relationships with.

And no....I didn't read your post....or if I did i don't remember it...and my comment was not directed to you. There is a group...that have hated men for decades here...all men...and my comment was directed toward them. They are no different from what they are preaching about

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I have a PhD in a hard science. I totally understand how numbers work. Likewise....the real number of males to females is probably closer to 10 to 1...maybe even 20 to 1. This info was available before the site changed format....at least what was reported. You know the reality of living in an internet wold. And if you don't...you don't belong here. You will end up hurt.

My suggestion for newbs...from the peanut gallery not having any chips in the bowl...trust slowly. Those that are willing to wait....are the ones you want to build relationships with.

And no....I didn't read your post....or if I did i don't remember it...and my comment was not directed to you. There is a group...that have hated men for decades here...all men...and my comment was directed toward them. They are no different from what they are preaching about

I have only recently began to hate men. Not all men. Just the ones who played the long game and I finally trusted them. Too bad we can't put literal red flags on heads. lol

 

[Tallulah82]

Also, my posts were about my r/l ex and when I mentioned kindness... I meant to all people, not just Litsters and regardless of sex

Dear Observant,

I think this is an extremely valid point that is missed by those who see only what they want to see on Lit.

I believe that a LOT of posts are borne from real life experience as much, if not more, than from Lit experience. But geez, it would be tiring if we had to spend time caveating all our posts to say "NOT ALL MEN, NOT ALL ON LIT" blah blah blah.

I tend to assume that people have an ounce of common sense and enough self-awareness that a they have the ability to read my shit and think "that's not about me but crack on, buttercup".

So as far as I can see, you don't need to be defending your posts. Write your thoughts, your beliefs, your feelings and keep yourself authentic to them alone.