Dear Madam...

cloudy

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Dear Madam,

When I called you, five nights ago, I asked if your two boys could come play with mine, and spend the night.

Three days later, you finally came by the house. I mistakenly thought you might be concerned with your children, since you hadn't called, nor had you been home when I called you. But, I was mistaken.

No, you weren't concerned about the boys, you were wanting to question me about your ex, since you had seen him in the neighborhood, and figured he'd come by here. He had, since he has a truck that belongs to me, and was making arrangements to pay for the damn thing.

He left you six months ago....deal with it. He is not coming back. And, no, I will not answer any of your questions about what he said while he was here, since it had absolutely nothing to do with you. While I'm sympathetic to your situation, I'm more concerned about these children that, by that time, had been here three days with no word from you.

Thank you, by the way, for taking one of them with you when you left, since he was plainly asking to go home, however, you seem to have forgotten one of them. He's been here five days now, with only one change of clothes. He's a good child, but here's a news flash: I didn't take him to raise.

Since you see fit to leave your children with me for this length of time, I will be sending you an itemized bill for their upkeep. So far, it will include:

5 gallons of milk
3 family-sized bottles of chocolate syrup
3 boxes of poptarts
4 pkgs of hotdogs
2 loaves of bread
4 lbs of bacon
2 dozen eggs
6 bags of chips
10 liters of pop (I'm drinking koolaid, since there's none left for me)
2 bottles of excedrin

Thank you for your prompt attention to this matter.
 
I think the old expression is, "A handful of gimmie and a mouthful of "Much obliged." Only thing is, you didn't mention her doing the latter.

I'll let everyone else tell you the obvious solution to your problem.

Rumple Foreskin :cool:
 
Obvious answer, yes. I suppose we should all say it together: "Child services?" as I'm presuming that daddy isn't interested in these kids either....

I'm having this awful premonition of that mother who dumped her kids in the lake because her boyfriend didn't like kids.

Painfully sad. Why do such people have kids?
 
At the risk of offending anyone, I think that I KNOW why that woman's ex left her. I can't blame him, if she was so clearly disturbed and neglected important matters like her CHILDREN.

I agree with the poster who suggested CPS. They can be wrong-headed, meddling assholes at times, but they are useful when you need them.

It's the attitude that children only matter in the context of marriage or a relationship that really bothers me. So, your ex left you: your children STILL NEED TO COME FIRST. Just because you stopped being a wife doesn't mean that you stopped being a mother. Get over yourself already and start raising your own damn kids.

I frankly consider that Cloudy showed a lot more patience than I would have. I applaud her for showing that much. She has kids of her own to think of, after all. Good for you, Cloudy! :cool:
 
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Cloudy, I don't envy your situation in the slightest. I can't believe she didn't even call to check on her children! That poor little boy . . . :(

Best of luck to you in this tough situation. I'm with everyone about calling social services. She's basically abandoned the poor child. :( :rose:
 
Cloudy... I'm so sorry for you, lol. :)

As the child in this case, when I was in 6th grade, my best friend and I became inseparable. She started spending the night a couple times a week...
By the time we were sophmores in high school, she 'lived' at my house at least 4, sometimes 5 nights a week.
Wow, did her mom have an easy few years!
My mom didn't mind that she came over.. but her mom never sent money with her, didn't call to check on her, etc.
Of course, it never occured to me why my mom got so frustrated sometimes.
She could have easily said no, she cant come over.. but obviously there was a reason my friend would rather be at our house. So my mom always kind of felt bad for my friend, and that's why for those few years she raised two kids, lol.
My mom openly says she raised her.
In fact, last year at the local parade my friend and I ran into eachother, and my mom proceeded to say, "You'll have to come around more often... remember your mommy- I raised you!" in front of her real mom, LOL.
Funny thing is, she's absolutely right.

I don't get parents that would rather shove their kids off on someone else.
Course, I don't have kids, and that opinion might only be there because my dad doesn't have time for me because he'd rather spend time with Heroin, but that's another story. :)

I feel for ya Cloudy. Best of luck with the situation.
I'm sure you'll figure something out. :heart:
 
I feel sorry for the kid, what kind of mother would just leave him there? However, he is lucky to be with you and not have to be around the mother, since she obviously doesn't care.

I agree with the children's services idea, they can definitely be a help, even if they just scare the mother and she realizes she can't just leave her kids to be raised by someone else.
 
Dranoel said:
Maybe you should pin that letter to the boy's shirt when you leave him on her doorstep.

Or nail it to the womans forehead. Good luck cloudy! :rose:
 
It must be nice to have the free services of a full-time skilled babysitter. :rolleyes: Jeez, I don't even drop my kid off at my mom's house without taking her a bag of groceries or a couple of pizzas!

This reminds me of my boyfriend's niece, who has called over here at 9 or 10 pm, wanting to know if she could drop off her two sleeping children so she could go out to bars. My answer remains the same. "NO!".
 
She took *ONE* of the children? How in hell did she manage to finesse just taking one of them?

The Earl
 
Earl: She came over here, not to find out about her kids, as I said, but to moan, cry, and generally throw a pity party over her ex. On her way out the door, A. told her he wanted to go home.

I was sitting there with my mouth open, just sort of in shock at the whole situation, and then she said, "I don't worry about them when they're over here, and I know they're having a good time. I'm taking A. with me, but T. wants to stay. Call me if you need me," and out the door she went.

Update: I just went to the grocery store, taking mine and T. with me. Let's see if we can stretch this $130 trip out to maybe, oh.....three days this time.

*sigh*

just an fyi: I love this child. He's much better behaved than mine, very polite, and I wouldn't even really know he was here if it wasn't for groceries disappearing at the speed of light. However, the fact remains that he isn't mine.
 
cloudy said:
just an fyi: I love this child. He's much better behaved than mine, very polite, and I wouldn't even really know he was here if it wasn't for groceries disappearing at the speed of light. However, the fact remains that he isn't mine.
Maybe you could foster him? That way you'd get paid to feed and care for him.

Either way, it's time to call mom and tell her that if she wants the kid to stay with you, she'd going to have to start paying X-amount of dollars an hour (babysitting fee) plus grocery money. You'll be sending her a bill.
 
3113 said:
Maybe you could foster him? That way you'd get paid to feed and care for him.

Either way, it's time to call mom and tell her that if she wants the kid to stay with you, she'd going to have to start paying X-amount of dollars an hour (babysitting fee) plus grocery money. You'll be sending her a bill.

Actually, I wouldn't really mind fostering him, he's that well-behaved. However, my own situation is so unsettled at the moment, that it would likely be worse on him, not better - I have one foot out the door, myself.

eta: thanks, cant. :kiss:
 
rgraham666 said:
*HUGS* cloudy. You're such a good person.

thanks, but wishing him gone makes me feel like a shit. I know he's taken care of here, at least.
 
Hi Cloudy,
I'd give you a hug, but we don't know each other.

Otherwise, being a new member of the group, I think I'm probably going to piss off a few of you. Certainly the easy answer is to call child services. But I think that there may be other answers as well. But at the very least, I'll probably convince a few that my moniker is accurate.

I feel for this other woman. She is obviously very hurt. She isn't thinking very clearly, choosing to foist her kids on to you so that she can wallow in her self pity. She's not right in the head right now and does need to get it scewed on straight. But right now, it's not. She needs time to heal.

It is your unfortunate situation that you are having to bear the brunt of her messed up life. For that, I commend you. You stated that she had taken A. when he asked her to take him home. Perhaps the simple answer is to suggest to T. that he call his mother and ask her to take him home. Or at the very least, you call her and tell her that you realize she is having difficulty, but that you really need her to pick up her kid by <insert day here>.

All I'm saying is that this other woman's situation also needs to be considered. If Cloudy were in her situation, everybody on this board would be behind her, supportive. Does not this other woman deserve that as well?

But then, I'm just a jerk.
 
JustaJerk said:
All I'm saying is that this other woman's situation also needs to be considered. If Cloudy were in her situation, everybody on this board would be behind her, supportive. Does not this other woman deserve that as well?
Well, I think we see our job is to lend emotional support to our long-time friend Cloudy- who is scrabbling to keep her own family together, and finding the pennies to feed them with. Obviously, Cloudy herself is acting with great compassion towards the kid. We don't have to remind her to do that.
But then, I'm just a jerk.
I hope not- and I hope your handle isn't going to be your excuse.
 
3113 said:
I'm having this awful premonition of that mother who dumped her kids in the lake because her boyfriend didn't like kids.

Painfully sad. Why do such people have kids?

Because the last boyfriend wanted kids?

*sigh*

Yeah, the world's pretty much doomed.

Q_C
 
Stella_Omega said:
Well, I think we see our job is to lend emotional support to our long-time friend Cloudy- who is scrabbling to keep her own family together, and finding the pennies to feed them with. Obviously, Cloudy herself is acting with great compassion towards the kid. We don't have to remind her to do that.
You are correct, Stella. Cloudy is acting with great compassion and sacrifice. And her friends need to offer their support for her, otherwise they wouldn't be much in the way of friends. (IMHO)

Right now, I'm friends of neither. I have commended Cloudy for her compassate dealings with the child. The suggestions I made were in the hopes of supporting both Cloudy and the other woman. Probably not very effective, but that is the vain in which they were made.
I hope not- and I hope your handle isn't going to be your excuse.
Actually, I was going to use JustaJerkOff, based on what many of the stories here have impelled me to do. But I didn't want to have to type all those letters. Its kinda like Mickey Mouse only having three fingers instead of four. And I didn't want to call myself JerkOff/JackOff/etc.
 
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