Dealing with sexuality

[ctfa]

Hi all, I'm not sure if there is a thread related to this or not, if yes, I apologize in advance.

I'm married to a wonderful woman for 13 years. However, the last 11 years or so, I started developing the desire for man. Over the years, I think I'm more bisexual than just hetero or gay. I've tried to hook up with man but something stops me before getting there. I think part of the reason is the hurt I'll bring to the wife and family. However, I don't think I want to die without ever diving into a male-male experience, yet, I can't do it since I'm married.

I think partially there is disease which I don't want to bring home. But there is also the emotional side that is hard to deal with. I don't want to ruin the marriage but yet I want more that just hetero sex.

ANyone in the same boat? or advices?

thanks

 

[bluesky496]

Hi all, I'm not sure if there is a thread related to this or not, if yes, I apologize in advance.

I'm married to a wonderful woman for 13 years. However, the last 11 years or so, I started developing the desire for man. Over the years, I think I'm more bisexual than just hetero or gay. I've tried to hook up with man but something stops me before getting there. I think part of the reason is the hurt I'll bring to the wife and family. However, I don't think I want to die without ever diving into a male-male experience, yet, I can't do it since I'm married.

I think partially there is disease which I don't want to bring home. But there is also the emotional side that is hard to deal with. I don't want to ruin the marriage but yet I want more that just hetero sex.

ANyone in the same boat? or advices?

thanks

you are in a difficult situation but if i was in a loving relationship for that length of time then i think it would probably be more of a fantasy than anything else and you say you have tried to hook up but stopped which suggests that either as you say you dont wish to hurt the family or you dont really want to do it ,it is something only you can decide and all the advice in the world wont help you reach that decision and the only way you will know for sure is if you actually meet up with someone but i guess that isnt much help , sorry,

 

[ctfa]

bluesky: ya, it all makes sense. It's really on me to decide to go for it or not. Some parts of it is a fantasy, but I guess I should let it remain a fantasy so to not ruin the family or anyone including myself. Some stuff we just need to take with us and not let anyone think anything else of us but as a loving and supporting husband.

 

[emap]

You could always tell your wife. Seriously most women want to watch two men fuck each other. Twice the viewing pleasure.

Doesn't mean there is any pressure placed on you to perform, she may say no I don't want to get involved in that. Just put it forth as a fantasy and you aren't sure if you want to or not. Your wife may help you live it out, there are strap ons to pick up most anywhere, for sucking on or fucking of you.

 

[nudeguy76]

You could always tell your wife. Seriously most women want to watch two men fuck each other. Twice the viewing pleasure.

Doesn't mean there is any pressure placed on you to perform, she may say no I don't want to get involved in that. Just put it forth as a fantasy and you aren't sure if you want to or not. Your wife may help you live it out, there are strap ons to pick up most anywhere, for sucking on or fucking of you.

Maybe eat her pussy after you cum inside her. See how she feels about that. It will be a topic of conversation!

 

[AlterMoose]

Hi all, I'm not sure if there is a thread related to this or not, if yes, I apologize in advance.

I'm married to a wonderful woman for 13 years. However, the last 11 years or so, I started developing the desire for man. Over the years, I think I'm more bisexual than just hetero or gay. I've tried to hook up with man but something stops me before getting there. I think part of the reason is the hurt I'll bring to the wife and family. However, I don't think I want to die without ever diving into a male-male experience, yet, I can't do it since I'm married.

I think partially there is disease which I don't want to bring home. But there is also the emotional side that is hard to deal with. I don't want to ruin the marriage but yet I want more that just hetero sex.

ANyone in the same boat? or advices?

thanks

Dude. You might as well be....me. Married 13 years. She knows I'm bi (and I know she's at least curious). She's the only person I've ever been with. I've told her straight out that if she ever wanted to find a girlfriend or any kind of lover, I'd support that. But I have no intention of sneaking around on her. At least for now, I have the fantasy. And from time to time I get to play it out, well, here. Sorry I don't have any advice for you, but I hope it at least counts that you're not the only one.