Dealing with rude comments

[sr71plt]

You know, it really is kind of funny that calling someone a "wanker" on a website for erotic material is considered an insult. I wonder if that particular reader realizes how hypocritical he looks.

Which raises the possibility that it was meant as a compliment.

 

[mikoli5763]

I don't

delete any comments; good, rude, too personal, or whatever. I do look at the comment and if it gets too abusive; I skip to the next one.
IMO deleting the bad ones only encourages them.

 

[sr71plt]

Of course posting about them on the forum encourages them too--and indicates that the comments get to you.

 

[NoJo]

Hello, I am new and would like to know how other writers deal with rude anonymous comments. I don't mind constructive criticism of course, but just calling me a "wanker?" (Is it proper to call a woman a wanker?)

I think it's highly improper to call a woman a "wanker". "Gusset typist" or "Clitflicker" would be more appropriate IMHO

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I've deleted a handful of comments that were: illiterate, hateful, ignorant. I have left up plenty of critical comments and tried to learn from them, especially when the commenter left a name and turned out to be another writer. Those comments I respect . . . unless the fool has eleven stories posted all scoring lower than three. There are a few such. However, I also am inclined to nod benignly to myself at fulsome praise from a non-writer and mutter, "Well thanks, but your opinion isn't worth a whole heck of a lot." The opinions of fellow writers are to be taken seriously.

 

[robertreams]

Anyone who is anonymass is in my opinion a coward.. If their comment had merit, they would own it. I guess maybe a woman can wank. Can I watch? in one of my first stories on Lit. I was told by anonymass that i was stupid because I claimed that anal sex hurt the first time. I was always told. write from your own experience.

 

[sr71plt]

Whether a comment has merit doesn't really totally depend on it being attached to an account name, does it? Someone could not put their name to a totally correct comment because they didn't want to get taken up in a range war with the author. I wouldn't mind it if posters could only vote and comment through an activated account myself, but just because the commenter posts as anonymous on a story doesn't automatically negate the relevance and correctness of their comment.

That said, unless an author has asked for critical comment, I think slapping criticism on a story is more the poster's need to feel superior than it is a wish to be helpful. Helpful critical comments could be either given directly to the author or just kept to one's self. There's no burning need here for anyone to impose their view of how to write on another author--especially not in public.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Whether a comment has merit doesn't really totally depend on it being attached to an account name, does it? Someone could not put their name to a totally correct comment because they didn't want to get taken up in a range war with the author. I wouldn't mind it if posters could only vote and comment through an activated account myself, but just because the commenter posts as anonymous on a story doesn't automatically negate the relevance and correctness of their comment.

That said, unless an author has asked for critical comment, I think slapping criticism on a story is more the poster's need to feel superior than it is a wish to be helpful. Helpful critical comments could be either given directly to the author or just kept to one's self. There's no burning need here for anyone to impose their view of how to write on another author--especially not in public.

I agree.

And if you ask for it don't whine.

 

[oggbashan]

I have been impressed with the quality of the comments on my Winter Holiday story Christmas Truce.

It helps that most liked it, but the critical comments were fair, reasonable and well put.

Some of the comments on my other entry, Cleaner Christmas, picked up my anachronism - now corrected - about a DVD in the 1960s, but all were acceptable statements.

PCs like those are worth receiving.

If only the Loving Wives cliques could be as constructive...