Deal breaker in a potential relationship?

[Leslie22]

So you've met someone and you're hitting it off well. He/she looks good, seems nice and seems like a good potential partner for you. What would be a person's hobby, habit, or anything else that would be a complete deal breaker for you?

For me, if the man isn't making at least 80K per year, it's over. I'm not that materialistic of a person, and once I graduate, I'll be in a good financial position, but I don't need someone to try and mooch money off of me and need me to be the person bringing in the money. You have to do your financial part too.

What about you guys?

 

[eyer]

You smell like tuna fish...

 

[Sean Renaud]

If she can't speak fluent elfin, Klingon and name at least six Sith Lords she's out. Unless she's KRC who is in fact a Sith Lord.

 

[run_silent]

Your only need you have is how much money he makes? You haven't finished college so you have no idea what you might make. I suspect any man using your standards would consider you a fail.

 

[Leslie22]

Your only need you have is how much money he makes? You haven't finished college so you have no idea what you might make. I suspect any man using your standards would consider you a fail.

I reckon I'll make somewhere in the ballpark of where most people in my profession make.

 

[Sean Renaud]

Your only need you have is how much money he makes? You haven't finished college so you have no idea what you might make. I suspect any man using your standards would consider you a fail.

Not if she's hot, hell her being dependent on my cock for food is a good thing.

 

[warrior queen]

There are a few dealbreakers for me, but money is definitely NOT one of them.
Hygiene - must have good hygiene practices.
Mental illness - been there, done that, never EVER going there again.
Homophobic - because I have a lot of gay friends, male and female.

Money is not on the list, because I had it in my first marriage.... I had a man who earned what you might term 'a fucking HUGE income'.
Didn't make me happy, and I had no hesitation walking away with zero $ from the marriage.
Yes, that's right, I took nothing.
(Funny though, we are now good friends, and he's like a second father to my kids.)

 

[bashfullyshameless]

Drugs. I cannot tolerate drugs.

I can tolerate alcohol to some extent, though it's difficult to establish an actual firm guideline there. I will hold a gal's hair out of the toilet while she pukes and make sure she makes it to bed ONCE. Anyone can accidentally drink too much once in awhile. But if it's a pattern, it's not cute.

 

[ReKio]

>He has to have a job, I dont care how much money he makes as long as he can support himself. I dont want to be the 'man' in the relationship.

>I cannot stand spitting. It is just gross and NEVER needed. Do it in the bathroom, not in public.

>I get headaches from hearing either rap or country. I dont like it and Im assuming at some point in a relationship they would want to hear their musik playing. Its just easier if we like the same genre.

(edit)
>No drugs, and yes I count marijuana as drugs. I just find them disgusting and immature--drugs are for teenagers, grow up.
...I dont however count alcohol as a drug as long as its social drinking. Cigarette's although not my cup of tea- dont bug me, I have dated guys who smoke and its alright as long as they brush their teeth and dont smell of it.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Never say never. Everyone comes from the factory with a deal-breaker of some kind. And your criteria changes with time. What you gotta have at 20, makes you sick at 60.

 

[warrior queen]

Never say never. Everyone comes from the factory with a deal-breaker of some kind. And your criteria changes with time. What you gotta have at 20, makes you sick at 60.

I will say never, add an ever, and reiterate that under no circumstances will I be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness again.
And I'll go one step further - if my current partner were to develop a mental illness along the same lines (bipolar ll) then I will leave him.

 

[Byron In Exile]

I will say never, add an ever, and reiterate that under no circumstances will I be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness again.
And I'll go one step further - if my current partner were to develop a mental illness along the same lines (bipolar ll) then I will leave him.

What if the guy was sane, except for being weird by choice, and lived in America.

Also, the guy you're with turned out to be an awful person.

What, then?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I will say never, add an ever, and reiterate that under no circumstances will I be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness again.
And I'll go one step further - if my current partner were to develop a mental illness along the same lines (bipolar ll) then I will leave him.

I know what you mean AND I say that sooner or later life comes knocking on your door, gifting you with plenty of challenges to your convictions and principles...then you compromise and settle for less.

 

[warrior queen]

What if the guy was sane, except for being weird by choice, and lived in America.

Also, the guy you're with turned out to be an awful person.

What, then?

Weird is good - I tend to go for left-of-centre types now that I'm older and wiser.
The America thing might be a problem.

Oh, and you need to have a decent butt and thighs..... That's important

 

[warrior queen]

I know what you mean AND I say that sooner or later life comes knocking on your door, gifting you with plenty of challenges to your convictions and principles...then you compromise and settle for less.

Nope. I settled/compromised once.
Never EVER again.

He could lose a leg, that I could deal with.
I could even stay if he became impotent.
But NOT if he developed bipolar or similar.

 

[Byron In Exile]

Weird is good - I tend to go for left-of-centre types now that I'm older and wiser.

I've learned that that spectrum is a farce. We can talk more about that later.

The America thing might be a problem.

Honestly, you would be a hit here. At least in the west. East of the Mississippi, maybe not so much. But out here, you'd be in your element.

Oh, and you need to have a decent butt and thighs..... That's important

I never understood that. I mean, "nice butt" from the gf... of what use is a man's butt to a woman?

 

[warrior queen]

I've learned that that spectrum is a farce. We can talk more about that later.

Honestly, you would be a hit here. At least in the west. East of the Mississippi, maybe not so much. But out here, you'd be in your element.

I never understood that. I mean, "nice butt" from the gf... of what use is a man's butt to a woman?

The butt'n'thighs thing is purely visual.
Why should men be the only ones who get a thrill from looking at a nicely-proportioned woman?
I want and need to have my little bit of ovary-grabbing eye-candy.

 

[Byron In Exile]

The butt'n'thighs thing is purely visual.
Why should men be the only ones who get a thrill from looking at a nicely-proportioned woman?
I want and need to have my little bit of ovary-grabbing eye-candy.

Okay.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

"Political correctness is a doctrine, fostered by a delusional, illogical minority, and rabidly promoted by an unscrupulous mainstream media, which holds forth the proposition that it is entirely possible to pick up a piece of shit by the clean end."
- unknown

No other proposition is so false as the above quote.

Political correctness is the invention of the middle-class, and their creed. I use Paul Fussell's criteria for Middle Class: Anyone with a farm, ranch, fishing boat, or shop on Main Street. Any controversy is torture to them.

 

[warrior queen]

"Political correctness is a doctrine, fostered by a delusional, illogical minority, and rabidly promoted by an unscrupulous mainstream media, which holds forth the proposition that it is entirely possible to pick up a piece of shit by the clean end."
- unknown

No other proposition is so false as the above quote.

Political correctness is the invention of the middle-class, and their creed. I use Paul Fussell's criteria for Middle Class: Anyone with a farm, ranch, fishing boat, or shop on Main Street. Any controversy is torture to them.

I live on a farm, have owned a prawn trawler and a tuna long-liner, and used to have a shop on the main shopping strip.
So I am.....?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I live on a farm, have owned a prawn trawler and a tuna long-liner, and used to have a shop on the main shopping strip.
So I am.....?

Youre middle class according to Fussell's criteria. His standard is how you make your money. Proletariats get wages, middle class pay themselves, and elites collect dividends, interest, and rent.

 

[warrior queen]

Youre middle class according to Fussell's criteria. His standard is how you make your money. Proletariats get wages, middle class pay themselves, and elites collect dividends, interest, and rent.

I'm supremely happy in my middle-classishness (is that a word?)
I have zero need for any more than I have right now - been there, done that, and this is a lot less complicated.
Life is good.

 

[dolf]

anyone rude & dismissive towards waitresses, bar tenders, etc. just because a person earns less than you, does not mean they are worth any less than you.

people who go out of their way to be cruel. if they'll squash a bug on the footpath for fun then i'm not interested.

if they're not intelligent in at least one direction. book smarts, street wise, business wizz, artist, whatever. not everyone is smart at everything but if you're smart at nothing then i'll get bored.

if they wear crocs. nuff said.

 

[fair_warning]

Deal breakers..?

Smokes
Drinks to excess (like 'falling over drunk' excess)
Has to be as smart, preferably smarter than me
Needs to appreciate the importance of treating this planet with respect

 

[Soulen]

drugs are for teenagers

don't tell the teenagers, man.

I will say never, add an ever, and reiterate that under no circumstances will I be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness again.
And I'll go one step further - if my current partner were to develop a mental illness along the same lines (bipolar ll) then I will leave him.

i bet i can just quote this post, and then laugh (laughlolhaha) and the majority will know just what i'm laughing about.