TheDarkAngel13
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Hi guys. I'm sorry if I'm putting this in the wrong thread, but I think I'm in the right place.
I'm looking for a little dating and self esteem advice from people around my age (over 21, under 30), but anyone who knows what they're talking about is welcome.
I am a 24 year old virgin. I dated one man for over two years. We were very happy, but circumstances prevented any advanced sexual experiences for both of us; that frustration led to the downfall of the relationship. I dated another man for four months who manipulated me, held sex over me to control me, and made me feel like garbage.
I also, on top of all of this, have bipolar disorder. Obviously, dating me is a challenge. But 2-year bf could tell you, it's worth it.
I finally forgave manipulating-bf and am ready to move on. I'm very lonely, I have low self-esteem, and I'm INCREDIBLY SHY!!!
I can chat 'til the cows come home, but talking in person or on the phone makes me nervous and I lose any eloquence I posess.
I'm NOT ugly. I *think* I am from the depression, but I am in fact quite pretty. The biggest problem isn't my looks. It's my body. I am overweight. I'm mature enough to admit that I broke the 200 lb mark this year (it should be noted, I have changed my eating habbits and am working on being healthy again.)
I do not have large breasts or curvy hips. I got stiffed on this gene. When fit, my ribs, waist and hips are perfectly straight.
I KNOW that looks aren't the key to a successful long-term relationship, but being attracted to a person STARTS with looks. I turn my head when a cute guy walks by. It's human nature.
But people don't give me a second look. I'm not that kind of girl. I'm the girl who plans parties, who stands by herself at the bar because her friend saw someone hot, who asks a guy out and is shot down.
I know a considerable portion of the problem is my low self-esteem: I get way more attention when I'm on a "high" and act confident. But confident isn't who I am. My best friend's advice is to CHANGE MY NATURE because guys like flirty, outgoing, "omg, gimme your number now 'cause I callin' you later hotcakes" kind of girls.
That. Ain't. Me. (And yes, that was really my best friend telling me that. T_T )
I was homeschooled, completely denied interaction with kids my age. I started college last Spring, so I'm plunged into a social world I know nothing about. People only talk to me when they want my answers.
I'm trying to be more outgoing, but it's hard to do. When a guy talks to me I freeze up. I can't think of anything witty to say. I don't know how to be... I guess "magnetic" is a good word.
I'm sorry if it seems like I'm rambling. It's just very hard to make people understand my situation. It's frustrating feeling like I'm the only person who feels like this.
I'm looking for people who are 1; in my position and can share their own experiences and 2; people who are more confident than me who could offer tips.
I tried "hooking up" here on Lit, but honestly, that doesn't compare to a warm human being TOUCHING you. A chatbox is not a relationship.
And I know, relationships aren't everything. But when I was with 2-year-bf, my world was RIGHT. I felt like everything was going to be ok. It really made a difference and I'd like to meet someone new who can make me feel that young, that whole, that LOVELY.
You know what I mean?
Thanks for your time and advice.
Lots of love, Dark Angel. <3
I'm looking for a little dating and self esteem advice from people around my age (over 21, under 30), but anyone who knows what they're talking about is welcome.
I am a 24 year old virgin. I dated one man for over two years. We were very happy, but circumstances prevented any advanced sexual experiences for both of us; that frustration led to the downfall of the relationship. I dated another man for four months who manipulated me, held sex over me to control me, and made me feel like garbage.
I also, on top of all of this, have bipolar disorder. Obviously, dating me is a challenge. But 2-year bf could tell you, it's worth it.
I finally forgave manipulating-bf and am ready to move on. I'm very lonely, I have low self-esteem, and I'm INCREDIBLY SHY!!!
I can chat 'til the cows come home, but talking in person or on the phone makes me nervous and I lose any eloquence I posess.
I'm NOT ugly. I *think* I am from the depression, but I am in fact quite pretty. The biggest problem isn't my looks. It's my body. I am overweight. I'm mature enough to admit that I broke the 200 lb mark this year (it should be noted, I have changed my eating habbits and am working on being healthy again.)
I do not have large breasts or curvy hips. I got stiffed on this gene. When fit, my ribs, waist and hips are perfectly straight.
I KNOW that looks aren't the key to a successful long-term relationship, but being attracted to a person STARTS with looks. I turn my head when a cute guy walks by. It's human nature.
But people don't give me a second look. I'm not that kind of girl. I'm the girl who plans parties, who stands by herself at the bar because her friend saw someone hot, who asks a guy out and is shot down.
I know a considerable portion of the problem is my low self-esteem: I get way more attention when I'm on a "high" and act confident. But confident isn't who I am. My best friend's advice is to CHANGE MY NATURE because guys like flirty, outgoing, "omg, gimme your number now 'cause I callin' you later hotcakes" kind of girls.
That. Ain't. Me. (And yes, that was really my best friend telling me that. T_T )
I was homeschooled, completely denied interaction with kids my age. I started college last Spring, so I'm plunged into a social world I know nothing about. People only talk to me when they want my answers.
I'm trying to be more outgoing, but it's hard to do. When a guy talks to me I freeze up. I can't think of anything witty to say. I don't know how to be... I guess "magnetic" is a good word.
I'm sorry if it seems like I'm rambling. It's just very hard to make people understand my situation. It's frustrating feeling like I'm the only person who feels like this.
I'm looking for people who are 1; in my position and can share their own experiences and 2; people who are more confident than me who could offer tips.
I tried "hooking up" here on Lit, but honestly, that doesn't compare to a warm human being TOUCHING you. A chatbox is not a relationship.
And I know, relationships aren't everything. But when I was with 2-year-bf, my world was RIGHT. I felt like everything was going to be ok. It really made a difference and I'd like to meet someone new who can make me feel that young, that whole, that LOVELY.
You know what I mean?
Thanks for your time and advice.
Lots of love, Dark Angel. <3
