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[Spins]

One more shameless bump

 

[lil_squirter]

More then two means you're just playing with it.

 

[juvare]

You know, expectations are the mother of all fuck ups and neurosis.

We expect our life to roll out in a certain way with certain things happening at certain times. We are given career advice and a planner when we are young and fill it out with where we will be in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, etc. It never really occurs to us that these are tentative plans and not set in stone and if we don't do them it doesn't mean we have failed. Life isn't a pass/fail course. It's simply meant to be lived.

Turning 30 does bring about introspection and we focus on what we haven't done yet instead of being proud of what we have done. The thing is - you have a few years left before you turn 30. If it is really important to you, these things, then just fucking do them. No excuses, no holds barred. If, however, you realize that these things really aren't as important as you once thought.. what a great realization that is. Take stock of what is important to you. Not what "they" say or what you dreamed up when you were a teen still but what is important to you right now, this very minute. Then embrace it.

 

[lil_squirter]

You know, expectations are the mother of all fuck ups and neurosis.

Take stock of what is important to you. Not what "they" say or what you dreamed up when you were a teen still but what is important to you right now, this very minute. Then embrace it.

Excellent point! Well said.

It's funny how you honestly think you can see everything when you are 17 or 18 and it isn't until ten years laer you realize how little you ever saw back then. I imagine it will be like this throughout my life, always gaining wisdom and losing youth. Already I have been through a great deal and feel I am the better for it. Most of all I honestly think I am happy and in reflection of my life that's what really seems to matter to me. Maybe I lack ambition or have simple needs, but if I am happy then everything else is negotiable.

 

[Spins]

More then two means you're just playing with it.

They came almost twenty four hours apart. That should count for something

 

[Spins]

You know, expectations are the mother of all fuck ups and neurosis.

We expect our life to roll out in a certain way with certain things happening at certain times. We are given career advice and a planner when we are young and fill it out with where we will be in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, etc. It never really occurs to us that these are tentative plans and not set in stone and if we don't do them it doesn't mean we have failed. Life isn't a pass/fail course. It's simply meant to be lived.

Turning 30 does bring about introspection and we focus on what we haven't done yet instead of being proud of what we have done. The thing is - you have a few years left before you turn 30. If it is really important to you, these things, then just fucking do them. No excuses, no holds barred. If, however, you realize that these things really aren't as important as you once thought.. what a great realization that is. Take stock of what is important to you. Not what "they" say or what you dreamed up when you were a teen still but what is important to you right now, this very minute. Then embrace it.

It's not so much an expectation that things should be done in a certain way or by a certain time, but the fact that those around me are looking for these "milestones"

Now you can say all you want about not caring about what those around you think, but as I get get older I realize just how much those people determine exactly how far i'm going to go.

References. Recomendations Networking. Where I get invited to. What doors will open and which will not

Now I can pound may way through these things and have for most of my life. I'd really like to not have to do that. I'm tired

There are other things I want to do, want to focus on, then continually having to fight to get what I deserve or think I deserve.

Perhaps that is unrealistc and I'm just a whiney bitch ...

 

[Spins]

Excellent point! Well said.

It's funny how you honestly think you can see everything when you are 17 or 18 and it isn't until ten years later you realize how little you ever saw back then. I imagine it will be like this throughout my life, always gaining wisdom and losing youth. Already I have been through a great deal and feel I am the better for it. Most of all I honestly think I am happy and in reflection of my life that's what really seems to matter to me. Maybe I lack ambition or have simple needs, but if I am happy then everything else is negotiable.

Ambition is a funny creature. Sometimes I wonder if I was born without that gene. I'm easily pleased. I'm just as happy watching shiny things as I am owning shiny things.

Gaining wisdom and losing youth is a good line. I think part of my current worries is I've never really felt young.

Now I'm finding that I really am getting older and I wonder about all the things I missed and all the things I have done that may be preventing me from getting some of the things we associate with being thirty.

I'm glad you are happy, though. That is most important

 

[lil_squirter]

Any good New Years plans?

 

[MeHael]

Ambition is a funny creature. Sometimes I wonder if I was born without that gene. I'm easily pleased. I'm just as happy watching shiny things as I am owning shiny things.

Damn straight. I don't have the ambition gene either. At least not the way most other people do. I've found ways to channel my desires towards the world's idea of ambition because you've got to play along to a certain extent. But my idea of a successful life has nothing to do with my career, save for the fact that it will pay the bills, which is required to do pretty much anything you want to in life.

And when the world still wants the man to be the breadwinner, that makes finding someone a bit challenging. I saw my last relationship end because the woman in question is rather career-driven and was worried that my lack of motivation would hold her back.

I'm not going to change for the sake of a person, because I know the pitfalls associated with that sort of behavior. I have to be myself and find someone whom that works for. If I do change, it has to be because I'm the one that wants the change, because the Lord and Lady know that I'm too laid back/lazy to make it stick any other way.

Oh, and since I'm new to this thread, I guess I should mention that I turned 28 last summer.

 

[Spins]

Any good New Years plans?

I plan to pine away for another year lost and probably go to bed early.

I'm getting old ya know

What about you Empress?

 

[Spins]

Damn straight. I don't have the ambition gene either. At least not the way most other people do. I've found ways to channel my desires towards the world's idea of ambition because you've got to play along to a certain extent. But my idea of a successful life has nothing to do with my career, save for the fact that it will pay the bills, which is required to do pretty much anything you want to in life.

And when the world still wants the man to be the breadwinner, that makes finding someone a bit challenging. I saw my last relationship end because the woman in question is rather career-driven and was worried that my lack of motivation would hold her back.

I'm not going to change for the sake of a person, because I know the pitfalls associated with that sort of behavior. I have to be myself and find someone whom that works for. If I do change, it has to be because I'm the one that wants the change, because the Lord and Lady know that I'm too laid back/lazy to make it stick any other way.

Oh, and since I'm new to this thread, I guess I should mention that I turned 28 last summer.

Welcome to the thread! Sorry I'm a bit late in replying...I was out of town doing the whole Christmas thing

I hear you about changing who you are for someone else. Pitfalls galore there. Of course compromise and simply allowing that it's ok if you and your partner do not have everything in perfect synch.

I remember when I was first going to college (I did not go right out of high school) and how my girlfriend was so excited for me. This is what I should do and it'll be great, blah blah blah. Then about two years in it was how I never had time or any money and if I had just stuck to my old job we'd have a house...

Things change and we all have to be ok with that.

The world probably won't end when we turn thirty and if it does... No more worries for real!

 

[lil_squirter]

I plan to pine away for another year lost and probably go to bed early.

I'm getting old ya know

What about you Empress?

Ohh you know me, I'm a party animal.

Probably a few friends will hang out, we're debating throwing a dress up party for kicks. Not exactly black tie but it's always fun to put on something classy and enjoy he evening.

 

[Spins]

Ohh you know me, I'm a party animal.

Probably a few friends will hang out, we're debating throwing a dress up party for kicks. Not exactly black tie but it's always fun to put on something classy and enjoy he evening.

I know you party more than I...

If you are going to throw a dress up party you might as welll make it a school girl party...

The girls will look yummy and the guys will look funny. Best of both worlds!

But I'm a bit biased

 

[lil_squirter]

I know you party more than I...

If you are going to throw a dress up party you might as welll make it a school girl party...

The girls will look yummy and the guys will look funny. Best of both worlds!

But I'm a bit biased

Did that one three months ago. I hate repeting themes that close together. Besides I have a costumed/themed birthday party the very night before.

 

[Spins]

Did that one three months ago. I hate repeting themes that close together. Besides I have a costumed/themed birthday party the very night before.

Dressing up as school girls can never been considered repetitive!

Is your birthday coming up, Empress?

 

[lil_squirter]

Dressing up as school girls can never been considered repetitive!

Is your birthday coming up, Empress?

As a matter of fact it is. In April. Unsure what sort of party I will throw for that though.

 

[Spins]

As a matter of fact it is. In April. Unsure what sort of party I will throw for that though.

I shall have to remember that then

School girl party gets my vote

 

[lil_squirter]

I shall have to remember that then

School girl party gets my vote

I could throw a comic book character party! Let me inner fan girl run wild with that.

 

[Spins]

I'm not going to get my way on this...am I?

 

[lil_squirter]

I'm not going to get my way on this...am I?

Not if it's my party. But feel free to imagine all you want.

 

[Spins]

Not if it's my party. But feel free to imagine all you want.

You are all heart

 

[lil_squirter]

You are all heart

I'm completely the cardiac muscle....hmmm...messy yet...strong. Wonder what that says about me?

And technically no, I'm Aries, head of the Zodiac body, so I can't be all heart.

 

[Spins]

Felt I was entitled to a quick bump and...

As if I am ever lacking?

I'm not one to contradict royality, but there are times when lines don't seem to work even for you

 

[juvare]

Thought I would say hi and give you a bump.

 

[Spins]

Thought I would say hi and give you a bump.

Thanks, Juvare

It's appreciated. I think Appy and I are the only ones who are slighty concerned. Everyone else seems a'ok with it.