damn these confounded confusing women

[godspeedless]

yes ive posted about this before (sad isnt it ) and its the same girl.....anyway new questions:

ok this girl has a boyfreind but hes away at college across the country(hes cheated on her before but not like sex..wouldnt put it past him to do it again) and ive been talkin to her alot, and i called her but she wont pick up she says "shes scared" what am i doing wrong? or does she like me? i asked her out to and she said "i dunno" im slightly confused at this we all call "women" haha thanks for the help btw

 

[Tantanah]

She's probably trying to keep things on the level with you so she doesn't cheat on her boyfriend.

 

[PumpkinSmasher]

tell her u want to go out with her to have a fun night out cause she might need one (shows your caring). Tell her its not a date, just two friends hanging out. If she dont go, go without her.

 

[medjay]

I remember you!

I told you to give that woman her walking papers! Trust me on this. It's the best advice you're going to get.

 

[godspeedless]

<--- doesnt follow the walking papers bit

 

[floridaguy64]

<--- doesnt follow the walking papers bit

How about JUST TRYING TO BE A FRIEND TO HER???????????????

Who knows?... you may actually hit it off in the process.

The worst that could happen is that you gain another friend in life. All of us could use another friend. Couldn't you?

 

[godspeedless]

i am being her freind....... but still that doesnt answer my question of why she wont talk on the phone why shes scared to ....

 

[JerseyBoy]

she's probably the faithful gf who can't lie...and he's the jealous SOB who would smack her if she talks to another guy. And since she won't lie to him...

..you lose

 

[Tantanah]

i am being her freind....... but still that doesnt answer my question of why she wont talk on the phone why shes scared to ....

She's probably afraid of where it might lead. Wanting to be loyal to her boyfriend. Or maybe afraid that you want more than friendship.

What's anyway?

 

[bluemuse]

Yeah.....what's an ??? And where can I get one?

 

[godspeedless]

a is a cockeyed look

o is a little eye
_ is the mouth
O is the big eye

see it ? its a face......but literotica doesnt have one nor does AIM or anything like that so i made one up

 

[bluemuse]

a is a cockeyed look

o is a little eye
_ is the mouth
O is the big eye

see it ? its a face......but literotica doesnt have one nor does AIM or anything like that so i made one up

Ah......I see. Clever of you.

 

[floridaguy64]

She's probably afraid of where it might lead. Wanting to be loyal to her boyfriend. Or maybe afraid that you want more than friendship.

What's anyway?

What's an ?.... anyone remember Sam Kinnison?

Ohhhhhhhh.......... OHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


The kid has a point though... if he's trying to be a friend, and just a friend, what's the deal? And yes, I agree with some of you, maybe, just maybe she is involved with a sicko fuck that would hurt her for even contemplating having friends. People like that surround us in daily life.

Life is full of injustices... it is up to us all to decide when enough is "ENOUGH"!

 

[PumpkinSmasher]

pull her hair..... a 1st grade thread will get 1st grade advice

 

[bluemuse]

pull her hair..... a 1st grade thread will get 1st grade advice

Hey! That one always worked on me!

 

[godspeedless]

sorry pumpkin if i would rather worry about my real life problems then giving virtual hugs......

 

[PumpkinSmasher]

sorry pumpkin if i would rather worry about my real life problems then giving virtual hugs......

Its not that. You know what you need to do. Instead your going to keep posting threads about this till you lose your shot. BTW: shes only one girl.

 

[medjay]

It seems to me that this girl has had your wheels spinning for God knows how long. Don't let her use you. You're going to be miserable as long as you continue to pine for her. Stick your chest out and go find a woman who actually likes you. Believe me, it's not that hard. There's someone out there for everybody.

I know my replies toward you have sounded harsh but, man, you need to start speaking up. The reason she won't give you any straight answers is probably because she doesn't respect you. It's ultimatum time for this girl. She's been stringing you along long enough. Either she's interested in you or she's not. Either she wants a friend or she doesn't.

She's got to see that you're hurting. Don't continue to allow her to affect your mood or your aura. It upsets me when I see people trapped in self-doubt. My personal opinion is this is probably someone you don't need in your life right now. She's bringing out the worst in you.

 

[godspeedless]

actually i dont know what i need to do .......

 

[floridaguy64]

Its not that. You know what you need to do. Instead your going to keep posting threads about this till you lose your shot. BTW: shes only one girl.

How do you know that she is not "THE GIRL?"....

The casual attitude that 'she is only one girl' reminds me of when someone once said "they are only a few million, no-one will ever miss them!"

No-one is ever just one......... we are all part of a great thing called humanity. And untill everyone understands this, we will continue to hurt eachother with un-warranted passion.

 

[medjay]

How do you know that she is not "THE GIRL?"....

Because we've all been in a situation similar to this in our lives, and what did we discover when the smoke cleared? THE ONE really wasn't who we though he/she was.

This guy is obviously young and suffering from horribly low self-esteem. The last thing he needs is a woman who's going to keep him in that frame of mind.

Maybe when he's older he'll be able to recognize THE ONE when he meets her but right now he has to concentrate on learning to love who he is so he can attract the right kind of woman.

 

[godspeedless]

i see where your coming from (low self esteem is true) but she doesnt make me feel worse either that or your saying she is and i dont know it wiiieeeerrrrddddd explain if this is the situation

 

[floridaguy64]

Because we've all been in a situation similar to this in our lives, and what did we discover when the smoke cleared? THE ONE really wasn't who we though he/she was.

This guy is obviously young and suffering from horribly low self-esteem. The last thing he needs is a woman who's going to keep him in that frame of mind.

Maybe when he's older he'll be able to recognize THE ONE when he meets her but right now he has to concentrate on learning to love who he is so he can attract the right kind of woman.

A point well spoken... sorry for leading you there, but you proved what I initially wanted to say.... even still.... can we afford to circumspect the laws of nature? We are all creatures that are led by the nose ring by some higher consciousness..... whatever that may be...........

 

[HighSchoolJock]

I remember you!

I told you to give that woman her walking papers! Trust me on this. It's the best advice you're going to get.

scotty would have to agree with this wise mofo in his hizouse a biotch should respect a mans dick and worship it and caress it if she aint doing that shes a lesbo or youre a pussy my advice is whip it out if she drops to her knees and start polsihing your knob she aint worth your time

 

[medjay]

i see where your coming from (low self esteem is true) but she doesnt make me feel worse either that or your saying she is and i dont know it wiiieeeerrrrddddd explain if this is the situation

She may not be doing it intentionally but as long as she strings you along without giving you a clear reason why, she allows you to think that the problem is you. In your mind you're not worthy of her. You wonder what you're doing wrong.

She's just immature and doesn't know what she wants. I'm sure she likes the attention you give her but it's selfish and cruel for her not to return some attention to you. What she should do is be honest with you about what she really wants but since she can't it's up to you to take charge and let her know what you will and will not tolerate. You won't earn her respect by always being the shoulder to cry on, especially if you really want her. And believe me, she knows how you feel whether you've told her or not. But as long as you don't believe you're the type of person who deserves her, she won't believe it either and she'll continue to be flakey. It's all about what you project.