Daddy's little girl? Not really...

[lady*laura]

I was in a brief but very mind opening relationship with a gentleman who was 19 years my senior. He taught me so much about myself. I have been reading with great interest the threads dealing with age play and such. My Dom friend was a very nurturing man. I was 40 years old and was no way a young girl anymore. You do the math OK? However, what I did enjoy was how he made me feel. He taught me so much about my body and my sexuality. He never ridiculed for questions asked or topics brought up for discussion. He was my sexual mentor. Now I am in a wonderful longterm relationship with a man who is much closer in age to me. He spoils me. He loves me tenderly and he disciplines me when I need it...he makes me feel cherished and loved and yet he can be quite forceful and I just love being with him. I am not a helpless female and he doesn't treat me like I am either. But it does make me feel so very feminine and sexy to have him treat me a like a lady and love me like a woman. Anyone else with similar circumstances? Do you consider yourself in a D/s relationship or what? I want to explore more with him but am not sure how to initiate things.

 

[CutieMouse]

Now I am in a wonderful longterm relationship with a man who is much closer in age to me. He spoils me. He loves me tenderly and he disciplines me when I need it...he makes me feel cherished and loved and yet he can be quite forceful and I just love being with him. I am not a helpless female and he doesn't treat me like I am either.

What you described sounds like it *is* a D/s relationship... are you thinking it isn't, and if so, why?

 

[lady*laura]

Good question. Actually I would like him to be a little bit more on the Dom side but what we have works. Laughing....I guess this sub wants to train her Master to be a Master?

 

[CutieMouse]

Good question. Actually I would like him to be a little bit more on the Dom side but what we have works. Laughing....I guess this sub wants to train her Master to be a Master?

I guess I'm a bit confused... if he cherishes you, disciplines you, is forceful with you, yet apparently treats you with respect (presumed from the statement that he doesn't treat you like some helpless female), how exactly is he not being "Masterful"?

 

[lady*laura]

You are right. I tend to overthink and make things more complicated.

 

[CutieMouse]

BTW - I didn't mean to squash your thread or anything... just trying to figure out is this was an unfiufilled desires thing, or a "dominants behave like XYZ" (it says so right here in the handbook!), or lack of communication, or what. LOL

 

[lady*laura]

Wait a second...there's a hnadbook? No one told me about that!

 

[sam77077]

Lady L

You make perfect sense to me.... I must chuckle a bit, you seem so submissive that when good ladies try to get more information from you, a clarification of your thoughts, you capitulate and confess to the sin of "overthinking"

Relax darling, take a breath. Focus ...what is the fantasy and what is the reality...they may not help you get there...but I will enjoy the thought of you squirming in your panties as you struggle to answer. And your humor is simply delicious.

Be good now....tell me what Sir does not do that you would like. Suppose I were to take him aside and explain things to him?

PM me if you wish

 

[HottieMama]

Wait a second...there's a hnadbook? No one told me about that!

girl..if there is my copy got lost in the mail!!!

 

[catalina_francisco]

You make perfect sense to me.... I must chuckle a bit, you seem so submissive that when good ladies try to get more information from you, a clarification of your thoughts, you capitulate and confess to the sin of "overthinking"

Relax darling, take a breath. Focus ...what is the fantasy and what is the reality...they may not help you get there...but I will enjoy the thought of you squirming in your panties as you struggle to answer. And your humor is simply delicious.

Be good now....tell me what Sir does not do that you would like. Suppose I were to take him aside and explain things to him?

PM me if you wish

LOL, now this post really made me laugh. Perhaps another link to New Sub Haven might be a good idea to post here as reference of how to tell the Doms from the HNG's.

Catalina

 

[Etoile]

LOL, now this post really made me laugh. Perhaps another link to New Sub Haven might be a good idea to post here as reference of how to tell the Doms from the HNG's.

Catalina

Glad I wasn't the only one who chuckled at that post.

What I don't understand is what ageplay and D/g have to do with this though?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

If you want your D/s relationship to develop and become a little more structured you're going to have to communicate. You sound unsure as to whether your bf is ready or potentially willing to become more dominant. Does he only take the lead when you act submissive because he knows you like it?

The bottom line (ahem... no pun intended) is that you need to talk to this guy. He's obviously picked up on your submissive nature and has responded to it so you're unlikely to shock his pants off. Ask him if he would enjoy more of a power exchange and confide your fantasies to him. He may not take the list and set about fulfilling them but at least he knows what's on your mind and can have a think about where you both want to go as a couple.

I would advise against trying to 'train him as a Master' without him even noticing. It's an underhand and manipulative way to go about things. The cowards way out. Once you've explained your feelings to him he may be willing to experiment but if you wheedle and connive dominance out of him then who really is the partner with the control? It's unsatisfying route to take and you'll get frustrated and resentful.

 

[lady*laura]

Glad I wasn't the only one who chuckled at that post.

What I don't understand is what ageplay and D/g have to do with this though?

You're right. I am not sure wht they have to do with each other. Sometimes I just like asking questions you know? If you don't ask how will you ever learn anything?

 

[LunarKitten]

You're right. I am not sure wht they have to do with each other. Sometimes I just like asking questions you know? If you don't ask how will you ever learn anything?

If you're asking if a D/s relationship can also be a D/g relationship, the answer is yes. You can have your cake and eat it too....get beaten and then sit and colour and watch Disney movies as you come down from your subspace

 

[AllWeWant]

You can have your cake and eat it too....get beaten and then sit and colour and watch Disney movies as you come down from your subspace

You! Outta my head!

 

[Chicklet]

Good question. Actually I would like him to be a little bit more on the Dom side but what we have works. Laughing....I guess this sub wants to train her Master to be a Master?

I think the key here, as it is in most places, is communication. If there's something lacking in your relationship that would really help your daily satisfaction, you're going to need to voice it instead of worrying about whether or not it's there.

Velvetdarkness is right, you're not going to be able to change him behind his back. But if you communicate your desires and needs, and what you're wanting from him, it gives him the choice to satisfy. But he's probably not going to just magically change on a whim, either.

I don't think there's anything unusual or abnormal about 'training' your dom. I mean, afterall, there's always going to be a bit of adjustment for new partners.

COMMUNICATE! = ) I think it'll work out for you.

 

[Mo_gradh]

Wait a second...there's a handdbook? No one told me about that!

Hey I didn't get a handbook either. Was I absent that day?

 

[myinnerslut]

If you're asking if a D/s relationship can also be a D/g relationship, the answer is yes. You can have your cake and eat it too....get beaten and then sit and colour and watch Disney movies as you come down from your subspace

i've watched kids movies with a sore bottom before too

and welcome to the forum lady*laura

 

[Mo_gradh]

i've watched kids movies with a sore bottom before too

and welcome to the forum lady*laura

Me too, disney movies and/or colouring after is a good thing

 

[SubNebGuy]

You are right. I tend to overthink and make things more complicated.

totally normal. to me it just sounds like you're trying to cope with the slight differences in 'old master' and 'new lover', and as a part of human nature, making a little bit bigger deal out of it than is probably necessary.

i consider myself an over-analyzer and also get worried about things that shouldn't be worried about...or at least I pre-maturely worry.

 

[His_pita]

If you're asking if a D/s relationship can also be a D/g relationship, the answer is yes. You can have your cake and eat it too....get beaten and then sit and colour and watch Disney movies as you come down from your subspace

You betcha! I wouldn't give up being his little gurl for nothing, nor being his submissive, his slut, his slave, etc. It's so great when you get the best of everything you always wanted.