candyredlips
Really Experienced
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- Mar 9, 2013
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Offers you a hug for yourself, and offers you my best wishes for your mother
I appreciate both very much. *hugs* back.
I went through that with my mother last May. First diagnosis was stage 4 with metastasis. I'm happy to talk about it if you think it will help you.
I'm so very sorry to hear/read that Tappy.
"We all have stress all the time Candy - there is good stress, like getting a new job or a new relationship. And there is the other kind, like you are currently experiencing. I've found that, for me - it's not so much the stress of the events themselves, it is worrying about them, trying to 'fix' things or change them. His Holiness the Dalai Lama said something on the order of, "If you can change it - why worry? If you CAN'T change it - why worry? So why worry?" I have to remind myself of that regularly. Doing something productive and physically demanding can help - re-arranging furniture or scrubbing the floor (really scrubbing it - on hands and knees) or something similar. Or doing something that takes your mind completely off your own troubles by putting your attention on helping someone else. I think once you stop having to wait and get to go to your brother's and help with your mother that you may feel a little less stressed in that way - but you'll probably still feel quite emotional, of course. You can always come here and vent to any of us, or send a PM if you need a shoulder to cry on. Keep us posted on how things are going - for you and for your family." (((HUGS)))
So much good advice there Peaches, thank you for all of it.
She lived with us for a year and only went home 2 weeks ago. Not being there now is maddening. A very dear friend is driving me down on Wed. no idea how long i'll be gone. Just found out she's officially done with chemo and on hospice. She has barely been able to breathe for the last week so they're putting her on oxygen. i just want her not to hurt anymore. Thank you so much for your care and compassion.i look forward to being here on brighter days.

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