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BiBunny said:I've never done a contract with anyone I've been involved with. I'm B.'s slave, but there's nothing like that between us. We're a really laid-back couple, though.
Toa_lin said:Well, I consider any conversation about one's limits etc. as a D/s contract making session, since you're making an oral contract to at least try the life together, so i kinda say it's hard to have a good D/s relationship without one.
Main Entry: contract
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: agreement
Synonyms: arrangement, bargain, bond, commission, commitment, compact, concordat, convention, covenant, deposition, dicker*, engagement, evidence, gentleman's agreement, guarantee, handshake*, indenture, liability, mise, obligation, pact, paper, pledge, promise, proof, record, settlement, stipulation, treaty, understanding
shy slave said:I agree with FF, if there is a need for a formal written contract then it seems as if it is by 'BDSM by Numbers.'
There are not legal or enforceable, and could easily give a false sense of security.
Marriage is a contract and look how complicated that can be when it goes wrong![]()
Conversations about limits, ideas and fantasies all seem a much more honest and open way of looking at things. Particularly as things develop and change in every relationship.
When I think of written contracts I have this picture in my head of a slave bound, tied and about to be ass fucked. The slave has the contract in her hand, screaming their safe word and saying 'but, but, but.....you wrote oral before anal, and signed it !'
Etoile said:Never had a contract, never had negotiations, never had a safeword. Not dead yet. Your mileage, of course, may vary.
Netzach said:Ugh, I never thought of these as a way to make things rote and boring. For all the posting people here do, am I the only one who thinks that writing something helps people's thoughts on a subject becomes cohesive?
But I actually write down 5 year plans for my life and mission statements for my businesses.
catalina_francisco said:I think writing things down can work for some, though I find talking out my thoughts a tad better for sorting my head these days....I just get concerned with the message put out at times that to have a contract protects you. The only protection it offers is if the people involved want to hold to it...if they choose not to at some point, there is little you can do to make them and who would want to anyway? LOL, if I am not wanted, I am not about to try and make someone want or keep me...my prideful downfall.
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