custody battles

[Guest]

they're a total pain in the arse. not to mention costs a shitload of money.

why does it have to be such a painful process?? and why does it take so fucking long??

tell me your story please. and make it a happy ending? pretty please?

 

[jennifer0121]

lol lol

 

[Zeb_Carter]

So far two states, 6 1/2 years, tons of money, 5 different agencies (Illinois Department Child and Family Services farms their work out to a bunch of different organizations) and still not finished.

Sorry, no happy ending here yet.

 

[Guest]

So far two states, 6 1/2 years, tons of money, 5 different agencies (Illinois Department Child and Family Services farms their work out to a bunch of different organizations) and still not finished.

Sorry, no happy ending here yet.

 

[rgraham666]

No kids, thank God.

Otherwise we would have been fighting over kids with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. We were wise enough to be careful.

 

[Guest]

No kids, thank God.

Otherwise we would have been fighting over kids with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. We were wise enough to be careful.

 

[kiten69]

So far I am the primary residential parent...but my ex is showing his ass majorly and I don't really see an end to it anytime soon.

I hope this whole ugly mess will have a happy ending...but only time will tell.

If not for my current SO I would've lost my mind a few times...he's been going through the "custody thing" for about 6 years now and he still has problems...I honestly don't think it EVER gets any less painful or any less of a "pain in the arse"...and sadly the kids are the ones who get hurt the most.

to you lovely lady!

 

[Guest]

So far I am the primary residential parent...but my ex is showing his ass majorly and I don't really see an end to it anytime soon.

I hope this whole ugly mess will have a happy ending...but only time will tell.

If not for my current SO I would've lost my mind a few times...he's been going through the "custody thing" for about 6 years now and he still has problems...I honestly don't think it EVER gets any less painful or any less of a "pain in the arse"...and sadly the kids are the ones who get hurt the most.

to you lovely lady!

 

[glynndah]

In my case, I can only talk about it from the view point of the child. My mother took me (and a puppy) away from the house in the middle of the night, leaving four younger children behind. I was 8. I didn't see any of the other chldren for about 10 years. The youngest child was "sold" to a couple in a bar and the others were kicked out when they turned 16. I guess there was no actual custody battle because you have to care about what happens to fight. When we all finally got together, that was one of the first things we said. That was NEVER going to happen to our kids. And so far it hasn't. None of the siblings who had children divorced and the one who did divorce never had children.

 

[Guest]

In my case, I can only talk about it from the view point of the child. My mother took me (and a puppy) away from the house in the middle of the night, leaving four younger children behind. I was 8. I didn't see any of the other chldren for about 10 years. The youngest child was "sold" to a couple in a bar and the others were kicked out when they turned 16. I guess there was no actual custody battle because you have to care about what happens to fight. When we all finally got together, that was one of the first things we said. That was NEVER going to happen to our kids. And so far it hasn't. None of the siblings who had children divorced and the one who did divorce never had children.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

The ex fabricated LOTS of horrible and creative stuff in order not to have to pay child support, and now Mr. and Mrs. Pothead are raising my 16 and 13 year old, and using all that extra cash for Mary Jane, apparently... I haven't seen my oldest in 3 years, up until this week, when she contacted me. Long story. No happy ending.

yet.

 

[Guest]

The ex fabricated LOTS of horrible and creative stuff in order not to have to pay child support, and now Mr. and Mrs. Pothead are raising my 16 and 13 year old, and using all that extra cash for Mary Jane, apparently... I haven't seen my oldest in 3 years, up until this week, when she contacted me. Long story. No happy ending.

yet.

 

[cloudy]

I'm facing a long and difficult custody battle. I don't look forward to it in the least (of course, leaving the country complicates things immensely).

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Unless both parties are reasonable and are able to negotiate a mutually acceptable arrangement on their own, there are no happy endings. By definition, that is not the case in a "child custody dispute." The courts have been given by default a task that no bureaucracy is capable of accomplishing no matter how it is organized, what its rules are, or how richly it is endowed with funding and personnel. Since every case is unique, and the athorities cannot know where the truth lies, the result it a set of "one size fits none" protocols that guarantee no happy endings.

It is frankly a total fucking disaster for our society. Realistically, the only solution is to attack it at the root by returning to older social institutions or adopting new ones that make people take the committment to sire or conceive babies much more seriously than they do in the present era, when moral relativism reigns, and immaturity and lack of seriousness are considered "cool." (Example: MTV "Real World; 90 percent of all the other "reality" shows on TV; basically most popular culture.)

I don't mean to condemn anyone here. I think we are all victims of some very bad ideas that have rotted our society. There has got to be a better way.

 

[rgraham666]

So, we should go back to the time when women and children were property, Roxanne?

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Yep. Divorce sucks. I won't do it again.

 

[mismused]

delete

 

[rgraham666]

Yep. Divorce sucks. I won't do it again.

Me either. No kids, but still no fun.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

So, we should go back to the time when women and children were property, Roxanne?

Yes, Rob. We should reestablish chattel slavery and trial by ordeal also.

Aside from it's implicit insult, there are two major problems with your post. First, you saw what you wanted to see in my post, not what was there. Specifically the bolded words in "returning to older social institutions or adopting new ones that make people take the committment to sire or conceive babies much more seriously."

The other problem with your post is to make an extremely common mistake. This is to fail to consider the monstrous costs to the status quo, when this very thread is proof of of costs that are vitually bottomless. Yet with absolute intolerance you cast any alternative to the social and moral status quo - even unspecified ones - in terms that are pure insult. Actually, that's a third problem with your post.

 

[MaeveoSliabh]

No happy ending with my 'battle' either... but there wasn't really one to begin with. It's a little impossible to have a legal battle when the one who would (and should) fight for the poor little buggers doesn't have the financial means, and has no way to get them.

End of my story - or at least where it's gotten so far - i lost them all, after being a stay at home mother for six years, and busting my ass to try and make a 5 person family get my on $20k a year.

 

[Guest]

No happy ending with my 'battle' either... but there wasn't really one to begin with. It's a little impossible to have a legal battle when the one who would (and should) fight for the poor little buggers doesn't have the financial means, and has no way to get them.

End of my story - or at least where it's gotten so far - i lost them all, after being a stay at home mother for six years, and busting my ass to try and make a 5 person family get my on $20k a year.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

No happy ending with my 'battle' either... but there wasn't really one to begin with. It's a little impossible to have a legal battle when the one who would (and should) fight for the poor little buggers doesn't have the financial means, and has no way to get them.

End of my story - or at least where it's gotten so far - i lost them all, after being a stay at home mother for six years, and busting my ass to try and make a 5 person family get my on $20k a year.

And this is a perfect example of why I'm still married.

 

[MaeveoSliabh]

And this is a perfect example of why I'm still married.

If it ever gets abusive enough, and if you find somebody who can truly love you for being YOU... it could change.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

If it ever gets abusive enough, and if you find somebody who can truly love you for being YOU... it could change.

Maybe... but the chances of that happening are slim. I did good to find the one I have.

 

[MaeveoSliabh]

Maybe... but the chances of that happening are slim. I did good to find the one I have.

Only time will tell, lovey.