Curiousity: looks?

[ammre]

Do looks matter?

If so what do you go for?
want the willowly sub to tie or up do you want the big busty sub that seems like they should be able to wrestle you to surrender?
Want the strong dom that can take control? or the tiny domt hat you have to surrender to?

me: tall, lean, slightly muceled pretty but strong featured face.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm not fixated on looks...too damned lazy, mostly. My needs are not based on the physical alone, although a GREAT set of tits doesn't hurt.

 

[Netzach]

femsubs: femme, cute, girly, delicious. The kinds that make the boys want to cry. Call me a shallow pig.

msubs: diversely attractive, either really butch or really androgynous and pretty.

 

[ammre]

femsubs: femme, cute, girly, delicious. The kinds that make the boys want to cry. Call me a shallow pig.

msubs: diversely attractive, either really butch or really androgynous and pretty.

I'm the same with girls... I want them thin with little cute breasts and soft skin and all that jazz... sorta bondage-bunny-ish, except dominant.

 

[FungiUg]

Looks do matter. But then, so does smell, and taste. Sexual attraction is about mind and body both. In a way I am always sad for those who say "oh, looks don't matter". because to me that's like saying "oh, anyone will do."

Well, I'm picky. I want a combination of personality and sense gratification.

The thing I always think to myself is "is this someone I would be proud to be seen in public with?"

Of course, do keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there is no universal concept of "attractive". Everyone has different criteria.

 

[Netzach]

My favorite incident of late was with the prettiest crossdresser. Tall, lovely, soft spoken, and sweet smelling. Tasteful girl, soft blond hair rather than big blond hair.

Was like having my own personal bondage barbie for a little while. Maybe boys are the new girls.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm in the looks don't care camp, and not because anyone will do, but because life and experience has taught me that apart from the fact without surgical help a person can't be held responsible for their looks, I have also found it more benificial to choose someone on who they are inside, whether they will be there when I need them to be, and whether they share enough similarities to make a relationship pleasant for both of us. Though it is not universal to all, I have personally found, the 'beautiful' people', (as in those who are preoccupied with their looks), I have been involved romantically or otherwise with, have been on the whole relatively consumed by self love and adoration to a point they feel they have no responsibility to add anything to a relationship as their beauty alone should make their partner humble and grateful enough to accept anything from them. That to me is shallow and I am happy to let them continue in their solo love affair. Give me strength and honesty anyday, and if looks and perfect physiques come with the package, sobeit, but will never be the attracting or deciding factor.

As to also being proud to be seen with someone, that is also a non issue for me. I don't personally care if others approve or admire my choice of partner.....it is whether I and my partner are happy that counts. If anything, I would be more proud of someone who I knew had character, intellect, and soul, than one who looks like they just stepped out of the pages of some magazine. I have found to concern myself with the approval/disapproval of others, reduces my partner to an object or adornment which is never where I am at. Each to their own though.

Catalina

 

[James G 5]

I'd be lying if I said certain physical types didn't turn my head (especially Asian girls, yum... ) but I don't pick people based on looks. I pick them based on certain hard to define mental/emotional factors. I've had a few lovers who I would not rate as being at ALL physically attractive but who caught my mind and fired my desrie in other ways, and were not only great lovers but are still good friends. It's just a bonus that my PoutyKitten is a tall gorgeous redhead with DD's; I didn't pick her for that. I am with her 'cause she actually puts up with me

 

[hurtme]

You know, i can't deny that i have one specific type of man that i fanasize about...tall (6'3" or up) and very lean ( I don't like muscles), deathy pale skin, large hands, long dark hair, intense eyes, piercings/tats, deep voice...but that hasn't stopped me from dating ppl other that what I fantasize about...I have dated some guys who would be considered less than picture perfect, but they had the sexiest minds, or way of carrying themselves, that made all the difference, I won't immediately turn away someone I find stimulating just because they don't meet my criteria...
As far as women, well, in all honesty, the skinny ones are occasionally fun to look at, but as far as anyhting else, give me a girl with some meat on her bones, I don't want to feel like I am sleeping with a skeleton (unless its a guy...lol) anyway, I woman with hips, and thighs, and so on is far more attractive to me than a girl that looks like a boy...

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

There are things that are more important than looks to me.

Is He sane? would be at the VERY tip top of my list. I'm looking for someone who is not going to suck the life out of me, who has done some work on himself and his "inner demons", so to speak, who has moved along that inner path, and found some peace, who is not looking to be saved, or to save me. Sanity. That being said, yes, there are some physical attributes that get me off, but that aren't a dead on requirement for a relationship with me.

Bearing. The way a man holds himself. Self-confidence.

Facial hair, buzz cuts, shaved heads. Goatees, and/or beards along with very short hair. Extra style points if it's high & tight *grin*. What can I say, I like what I like. Is a hairstyle/facial hair a deal breaker? Hell no. I just love the way this stuff looks on men. I love running my hands across the close-shorn hair.

As far as women go? The same thing applies. I like them sane.

Other than that? *shrugs* Case by case basis


~anelize

 

[hurtme]

oh, thats a good one, the sanity thing, although I am a little crazy myself, so I guess that can't be at the top of my list. I do have something else though, responsibility is high on my list. I don't mean like pole in the ass kind of responibility, i mean, has a job , doesn't spend his last five dollars on the bar, takes care of his reponsibilities (ie kids) It is such a turn off for me to meet an attractive guy I really get along with who is in his mid 20's, lives with his parents has no job, no car, no education, no plans for the future, and no reason why he shouldn't have all those things...except that he is lazy...such a turn off...if I wanted to date a high schooler, I would find one...

 

[kinky_str8_guy]

I prefer a sub fem with a pretty face and a relatively fit, porportionate, strong, body. Big tits/small tits - I don't care altho I do love big responsive nipples to roll tease and pull. And I love a slightly meaty ass since I do love to spank. I love a great smile and laugh.

I've only been with females that are quite a bit shorter than me to almost my height (I'm average height for a male) but I'd be very interested in an amazon femsub.

Generally I want a lady that I can play with in more ways than just sexually so intelligence is required if she'll be more than simply a plaything.

This anglo saxon man enjoys the exotic (to him) look, and feel, of a lady of another ethnicity.

 

[Quint]

Looks matter to me. I fetishize cute little blondes too...the more innocent and fragile, the more I want to watch them get hurt. Big men do it for me too. They must exude masculinity; it makes my toes curl. But it's mostly if they know how to use what they have...cold blue eyes don't do a damned bit of good if he doesn't know how to turn them on me.

 

[Netzach]

Looks matter.

They certainly don't carry the relationship, but I can't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't do anything for me and the visual is part of that.

Am I totally locked into a rigid set of ideals? Hell no.

A lot of people catch my eye for different reasons. However there are just some people who could be the nicest, best, and sweetest on God's earth and I'm not going to be sexual with them, not if they were the last person in the bomb shelter.

 

[ownedsubgal]

i won't lie and say that looks do not matter to me. but physical appearance is just ONE part of a huge package. i know of many people who i believe are physically perfect, but because they lack the other things i find desirable in a person, i have no attraction for them whatsoever...not even physical. with that said, i love a strong (physically and emotionally) Dominant...i like a clean, well-groomed, professional sort of look. i like muscles that you can see and feel, even in a crisp business suit. nothing extreme or grotesque...i don't go for the steroid-popping look. but above average muscle size and definition, definitely. i love being able to walk down the most dangerous and seedy streets and alleyways of washington d.c.'s southeast, and feel completely safe and secure simply because i am with my Master and i know that he can take care of things. i love being hugged by him and feeling the air forcefully squished out of me. i love him lying on top of me and my much smaller body completely disappearing under his. i get a thrill and a tingle in the nether regions when i see obvious signs of his physical prowess...when i watch him bench press 300 pounds or more, when i watch him help another driver on the road by pushing their failing car up the street, and seeing how effortless it all seems to be for him. even simple everyday things, like watching him trim his beard after he gets out of the shower...when he raises his arms, i see the play of muscles in his back and i am just awed....so yes, i like a big strong Man...call me old-fashioned. but the authorative air, the intelligence, the wisdom, the patience, the maturity, the knowledge and experience, and so so much more...all must come with it, for me to be actually turned on and interested.

 

[ammre]

ownedsubgal, i loved your answer. especially "like watching him trim his beard after he gets out of the shower...when he raises his arms, i see the play of muscles in his back and i am just awed...." i think that's so beautiful on a man. (hell i even like it a litle on girls.)

to keep me from sounding bad about starting this.. i agree iwth the people who siad it's the whole package. There are people out there who i would salivate over but when it comes down to it i wouldn't do anything with them. and there's people that i could find unattractive and jsut something in their personality that sets me afire. (like well practiced musicians.. when they pick up their instrument you can see the passion flowing through them and the instrument and it's like.. if he can have passion like that for an instrument , imagine the pasion he could have for me etc...)
Than there's some people who do not visually please me in a way that makes me sexually attractive to me. no matter how nice or great they are some features, as bad as it sounds, i cna't get over. i'd rather be a friend than a lover because if you don't feel passion or attraction to someone how can you have any romantic love?

 

[Guest]

Yeah - what he said!!!!

Looks do matter. But then, so does smell, and taste. Sexual attraction is about mind and body both. In a way I am always sad for those who say "oh, looks don't matter". because to me that's like saying "oh, anyone will do."

Well, I'm picky. I want a combination of personality and sense gratification.

The thing I always think to myself is "is this someone I would be proud to be seen in public with?"

Of course, do keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there is no universal concept of "attractive". Everyone has different criteria.

Nail on the head there son'

What can I say, I am (at least partially) essentially a visceral throwback at heart....Looks, smell (hmm there's an anecdote there) taste (nothing like a girl that likes to be nibbled, or bit), -

But-

More important (and this will sound like self serving publicity crap) I look for, Intelligence, sense of humor, conversational ability, Love of good food, hmmmm. A reader is a must.

As well as an assortment of shallower things.

Oh yeah - it helps if they like my cooking - a lot.

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Yeah - what he said!!!!

Oh yeah - it helps if they like my cooking - a lot.

I know that one!

 

[James G 5]

Re: Yeah - what he said!!!!

Oh yeah - it helps if they like my cooking - a lot.

Yup....and the wine pairing to go with it

And she has to laugh at my jokes, dammit

 

[WriterDom]

I've had a lot of erotic times with women who weren't beautiful. But come to think of it, I never had a beautiful woman who wasn't a good fuck.

 

[Netzach]

Have to have a guy who can't cook, my ass expands on my own food enough.

As for WD's assertion, I have. She wasn't too bright either. I've never had shitty sex with an intellectual though.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Do looks matter?

If so what do you go for?
want the willowly sub to tie or up do you want the big busty sub that seems like they should be able to wrestle you to surrender?
Want the strong dom that can take control? or the tiny domt hat you have to surrender to?

me: tall, lean, slightly muceled pretty but strong featured face.

Looks matter only slightly to me...i want a person who is proud of themselves, of their accomplishments, of their worthiness. Do i have a particular type? Yes, i love dusky skinned women, tall and well built (no tiny chicks for me). I like thick built women...no make-up..but feminine.

When i am drawn to men (which happens less and less as time goes by) it has absolutely nothing to do with looks and more about their power...whether submissive or Dominant. To have that power at my feet or on my back is beautiful..whether it is attached to a dark skinned adonis or a short, balding dwarf. No matter, as long as he is strong and virile.

pet

 

[dragonlace]

For me its not the looks that matter as much as the passion. If they can make the passion rise in me and make me feel special and loved and sexy and fill my soul thats what i care about. Don't get me wrong if i cannot look at them without getting physically ill i cannot get past that but even so i tend to look more at the person inside than outside because that is what i seek. I want someone to love me for who i am not for how big my tits are or how skinny i am or how i dress or what i wear. I want them to love me for me so tend to look past all that when looking at others. Sometimes when you first meet someone even though you are not immediately turned on in the process of getting to know someone they become more and more attractive and then on the other hand you sometimes find the most beautiful people in the world get uglier and uglier the longer you know them. Beauty is only skin deep so I try to never judge a book by its cover.

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: Curiousity: looks?

When i am drawn to men (which happens less and less as time goes by)

Dammit!
Does this mean I'm missing my window?

 

[BrightFlower]

Looks are important.....

So if you are one of those pretty boys...I'm afraid I have no use for you. Other than that, I need to know what your MIND looks like. That's what I need to be captivated by.