Curious

[SummerStar]

Curious about how being a submissive would work for me. I love to be held down/tied down/controlled, and while I enjoy pain (being bitten, spanked etc...) I have a very low threshold for it. I think I would be overwhelmed.

 

[wicked woman]

Curious about how being a submissive would work for me. I love to be held down/tied down/controlled, and while I enjoy pain (being bitten, spanked etc...) I have a very low threshold for it. I think I would be overwhelmed.

I can only speak from my personal experience. I too have a low pain threshold. I find it helpful to both of us if I don't hide my reactions...don't stifle anything. He's excellent at listening to my breathing and sounds and they're a pretty good indicator of my status. He's not horrendously sadistic so administers pain that's bareable...but pushing it mixed with lighter moments...in a nice mix.

The other thing I'm noticing is that my pain threshold is moving.

Look at it this way...your PYL will get a thrill with less work on their part thanks to your low pain threshold.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Curious about how being a submissive would work for me. I love to be held down/tied down/controlled, and while I enjoy pain (being bitten, spanked etc...) I have a very low threshold for it. I think I would be overwhelmed.

Not every submissive is into pain. Pain play does not have to be part of your D/s relationship. Mine is more mental submission (especially since it is a LDR)

I do enjoy pain and my craving for more intensity has risen over the years. But it's not a major part of the relationship.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Curious about how being a submissive would work for me. I love to be held down/tied down/controlled, and while I enjoy pain (being bitten, spanked etc...) I have a very low threshold for it. I think I would be overwhelmed.

nothing you've mentioned has anything to do with being a submissive. being submissive is not about liking particular erotic activities. it is about the drive to please and serve others, in and outside of the bedroom.

 

[sillygooz]

Curious about how being a submissive would work for me. I love to be held down/tied down/controlled, and while I enjoy pain (being bitten, spanked etc...) I have a very low threshold for it. I think I would be overwhelmed.

I guess my question would be, are you a submissive, or are you into some level of bondage that might include some spanking or biting, etc.? It has always been my interpretation of sub desires to have the need to serve, to please and to do so without question. But, this is something that you derive great pleasure from, sexually and other wise.

For example, if you were my sub you would be told to dress only in lingerie and heels around the house. You would not be my slave or be degraded. But, if the door bell rang, I might ask you to answer it, and it would be as you are dressed, and as apprehensive as that may be, it should also make your you pretty hairy pussy & panties moist. Many Dom's make their sub's shave, I think your pussy is very sexy, and you would keep it trimmed. If it were friends at the door you would invite them in, and not appear uncomfortable about your mode of dress. In fact you would recognize if I so wanted you to spread your legs a bit more, or needed to bend over to pick something up. This of course would be to just please me, but ironically, to please you as well. Your pussy should be hot, wet and excited, You should be anticipating my next desire which might be pleasing me orally in front of our guest(s), maybe them. And this of course may be a man or woman, or....

Now do you want to be tried up and bitten, spanked, or do you want to challenge your body and soul to pleasing others?

I love the tension and conflict in D/s relationships. You are a very pretty girl and I enjoyed posting this for you.

 

[SummerStar]

I guess my question would be, are you a submissive, or are you into some level of bondage that might include some spanking or biting, etc.? It has always been my interpretation of sub desires to have the need to serve, to please and to do so without question. But, this is something that you derive great pleasure from, sexually and other wise.

For example, if you were my sub you would be told to dress only in lingerie and heels around the house. You would not be my slave or be degraded. But, if the door bell rang, I might ask you to answer it, and it would be as you are dressed, and as apprehensive as that may be, it should also make your you pretty hairy pussy & panties moist. Many Dom's make their sub's shave, I think your pussy is very sexy, and you would keep it trimmed. If it were friends at the door you would invite them in, and not appear uncomfortable about your mode of dress. In fact you would recognize if I so wanted you to spread your legs a bit more, or needed to bend over to pick something up. This of course would be to just please me, but ironically, to please you as well. Your pussy should be hot, wet and excited, You should be anticipating my next desire which might be pleasing me orally in front of our guest(s), maybe them. And this of course may be a man or woman, or....

Now do you want to be tried up and bitten, spanked, or do you want to challenge your body and soul to pleasing others?

I love the tension and conflict in D/s relationships. You are a very pretty girl and I enjoyed posting this for you.

Wow...that sounds amazing.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Most people start out with a low threshold for things. Either it gradually rises with trust and experience or they learn where their limits lie and respect them.

If you're looking for a play partner here, be very suspicious and discerning. A bit of flowery erotica does not a safe, sane dominant make.

 

[SummerStar]

Most people start out with a low threshold for things. Either it gradually rises with trust and experience or they learn where their limits lie and respect them.

If you're looking for a play partner here, be very suspicious and discerning. A bit of flowery erotica does not a safe, sane dominant make.

I'm definitely not looking for anything that would be taken offline. As of right now, I am just curious about the idea.

Thanks for the warning and concern though

 

[Setson]

If you're looking for a play partner here, be very suspicious and discerning. A bit of flowery erotica does not a safe, sane dominant make.

As much as I have enjoyed reading about your curiosities, and seeing your loveliness in the picture thread, Velvet here said it best.

Through my years of helping others as a Mentor and taking occasional training collars untill a more suitable or closer Master could be found for the ones I call friends now; I've been on a multitude of websites. Like alt.com and collarme.....and no matter where you go it shall always be the same. You will find posers, fakes, or guys (both young and old with varying degrees of understanding) who are just after one thing...and that's NOT your best interest. If you wished to chat more through PM's I could , if I still have them around, provide you with plenty of material for your own research into various styles of submission as not just one exists. No matter what you do though in all this, use common judgement, dont be a doormat, and forever look out for your best interest and know what you're getting into before you take any farther steps.

I know these warnings probably come as common sense to you and I hope they do not come off as demeaning or anything more then fellow literoticans who are concerned, it's just things like this are not always common sense to everyone.

 

[sillygooz]

Wow...that sounds amazing.

Sounds amazing? I am interested in your thoughts about my post, did it make you wet? What was the amazing part(s) for you?

I am always so intrigued by the conflict and tension in a D/S relationship. The trust that must evolve, the need to submit to behavior beyond your past experiences, but edging closer and possibly exceeding your ultimate fantasy. How does that vision rest with you, mentally and physically? Does it scare you, but yet make you wetter that you have ever been?

I was with a young girl for a while who really was asking herself these questions. She was very intelligent, very pretty, but something was missing. She had never had a orgasm, or a deeply emotional relationship based on trust.

She came and stayed with my wife and I. We gave her a safe home and love, she gave us pleasure. It was our rule that she would wear only heels with garters and stockings around the house. She could also wear a camisole of her choosing. She slept in our bed at night. She was our loving sex toy, and our trusted friend. She was not BI when she moved in, but that came to be a required service to my wife, as she loved to be orally please by her. My wife had a very large clit, and it demanded regular attention. My wife could be very bitchy without the proper "attention" and lack of proper service might demand some gentle spanking, biting of her nipples, or such that would not be painful, but exciting for all.

We had regular dinner parties and she would always be a participant at the table eating with us and our guests, she was like family. But she would be required to wear her "uniform", if it were appropriate for the other guests. There was many times that I or my wife might lean over and whisper in her ear with a luscious tongue lick, that she should slip under the table and find the lady who had the hairiest cunt and lick her to orgasm. This she did with great pleasure, because she had developed quite a taste for pussy.

I was not forgotten by her, as I was her trusted confidant, and she would make any orifice of hers available to me at any time, or any of my friends.

The other rule was she was not allowed to cum without our permission. This was not an issue when she came to us, she had never had that pleasure. Maybe she was never with the right person, maybe, maybe, maybe; one day after the most intense sex with both my wife and I, one that to this day I can still feel the heat of, She came when I whispered in her year that I would allow her to cum. You may PM me if you like. Oh, do not ever shave that cute pussy of yours, it looks absolutely delicious.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'll add my 2 cents worth in terms of how not to get caught out by someone looking for fun more so than what they may try and sell you they are trying to do. If you are on a forum such as this one which is frequented by many people who have a lot of real life experience and have been posting here for months or years (check their history to get an idea of who they are, what experience, and how long they have been around), and you ask for peoples thoughts, experiences, advice on something, be wary of those who encourage you to contact them by PM so they can help you get that advice.

Most here are quite open about their experiences and more than willing to post it here along with other sources of online and book form information...if someone wants to do it only through PM contact, and especially if they have a short history of posts, I would guess they are likely to be looking for something other than giving advice otherwise they would post it publicly like everyone else, and for the benefit of you and anyone else who may have the same questions. The world is full of online sharks, so please be careful as even online only you can get yourself very hurt, if not worse.

Catalina